I’ve never poached an egg before 🫣 please give me your best poached egg methods so I can show my husband I’m better than him at doing them for tea!
I followed this video the first time I managed to actually make poached eggs successfully
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I followed this video the first time I managed to actually make poached eggs successfully
It's cheating but invest in some poach pods - game changer. I'm crap at poaching eggs normally!.I’ve never poached an egg before 🫣 please give me your best poached egg methods so I can show my husband I’m better than him at doing them for tea!
I like mine done in an egg poacher with butter. too much fuss in water for me. I'm lazy
My UPS issue is still not resolved.
As UPS drivers are not allowed to call recipients during delivery, and my complex has no intercom or reception, I asked for the package to be delivered at a UPS pick-up point instead. I am unable to travel 1.5h to collect the package at their distribution center.
UPS rang me saying that because signature is required, they cannot deliver my package to a UPS pick-up point. I’m now stuck - they won’t deliver to a UPS pick-up point and they also won’t make contact if delivery is at my apartment.
What am I supposed to do here? What kind of nonsense is this? To say I paid another €10 of delivery fee to be dealing with this level of absurdity is beyond me.
As UPS drivers are not allowed to call recipients during delivery, and my complex has no intercom or reception, I asked for the package to be delivered at a UPS pick-up point instead. I am unable to travel 1.5h to collect the package at their distribution center.
UPS rang me saying that because signature is required, they cannot deliver my package to a UPS pick-up point. I’m now stuck - they won’t deliver to a UPS pick-up point and they also won’t make contact if delivery is at my apartment.
What am I supposed to do here? What kind of nonsense is this? To say I paid another €10 of delivery fee to be dealing with this level of absurdity is beyond me.
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My own way of handling this is to have it delivered to my workplace. If this isn't applicable to you, have it addressed and delivered to a friend or relative's workplace instead. There's always someone to sign for it at reception. I've not had any issues yet !
Unfortunately, these are not options for me. I don’t have any relatives over here nor do I have any friend who can help (any friend I have live halfway across the country or continent). My workplace does not allow personal packages to be delivered.
I wouldn’t be this stuck if I had alternatives.
I'm sure that there is a more appropriate place to post this - but we have just had the dreaded Universal Credit migration letter. Does anyone know if you still receive the "child element" of UC if one parent is working? Currently my partner works full time, I don't / can't work - we receive child tax credits and are entitled to working tax credits, but receive £0 due to earnings (a little over minimum wage but not much). Am panicing a bit! 
No you won’t get child elements if you’re deemed as earning over the minimum wage and get 0 living allowance. As your partner works it’s classed as a joint claim unfortunatelyI'm sure that there is a more appropriate place to post this - but we have just had the dreaded Universal Credit migration letter. Does anyone know if you still receive the "child element" of UC if one parent is working? Currently my partner works full time, I don't / can't work - we receive child tax credits and are entitled to working tax credits, but receive £0 due to earnings (a little over minimum wage but not much). Am panicing a bit!
Thanks, we've always teetered on the point of just about scraping by - earning too much to receive any support but not enough to really live on!
My sisters in the same position it’s horrible when you get some people doing nothing but getting all the benefits. Then those genuinely working hard trying their best get nothing
My sister will be £600 pcm worse off she reckonsI'm sure that there is a more appropriate place to post this - but we have just had the dreaded Universal Credit migration letter. Does anyone know if you still receive the "child element" of UC if one parent is working? Currently my partner works full time, I don't / can't work - we receive child tax credits and are entitled to working tax credits, but receive £0 due to earnings (a little over minimum wage but not much). Am panicing a bit!
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I'm not sure how to approach it but I do feel if i was you I'd want to talk about it as that's a substantial amount of money.
Juat deleted my post because I asked him and it was something I knew about to do with our carMy sister will be £600 pcm worse off she reckons
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I'm not sure how to approach it but I do feel if i was you I'd want to talk about it as that's a substantial amount of money.
what’s a good rate for full days and nursery morning sessions (5 hrs)
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Thank you
My bro is £50 a day for his kid for the full day (9 to 5) he's private though as private are open all year round
Massively depends on you location. Where I am it starts at about £4.75/hr for a basic (not bad though) not for profit one attached to a school.
Also depends if they feed them vs packed lunch.
Private ones in fancy settings are £50ish+ a full day.
I pay £89 a day 8-6
I'm 2 yrs into divorcing someone who was controlling and coercive. I'm nearly there thankfully but he will do anything to get at me. His latest stunt is to refuse to take out child to an activity that is part of a school award, that he has to do for a period of three months.
Apparently it would 'interfere with his other commitments'.
He lives in a bedsit (earns 50k) so is 'unable' to share childcare. He does see them but one at a time for two hours here and there. For comparison, the last night out I had was in Aug 22.
Said child has now started asking questions because they can obviously see that their dad has no other commitments.
Over the last couple of years I've ended up having to say that whilst I have an issue with their dad, they shouldn't. The relationships are separate etc. They're starting to see there is a problem though. I've had a slightly more honest conversation tonight but have stressed the importance that they don't worry about the extra issues and just concentrate on enjoying a relationship with him.
Where do I go from here?
Apparently it would 'interfere with his other commitments'.
He lives in a bedsit (earns 50k) so is 'unable' to share childcare. He does see them but one at a time for two hours here and there. For comparison, the last night out I had was in Aug 22.
Said child has now started asking questions because they can obviously see that their dad has no other commitments.
Over the last couple of years I've ended up having to say that whilst I have an issue with their dad, they shouldn't. The relationships are separate etc. They're starting to see there is a problem though. I've had a slightly more honest conversation tonight but have stressed the importance that they don't worry about the extra issues and just concentrate on enjoying a relationship with him.
Where do I go from here?
Sounds kind youre doing the right thing. Your child will continue to make their own decision about their dad. Possibly will end up seeing that he’s treating you badly and will make further decisions based on that
Thank you, it's reassuring to hear that what I'm doing is ok. It's a really hard situation to navigate, particularly this latest incident because my son's really confused and upset by it.
I was in this situation but my daughter is now grown up. It's really hard to know where to draw the line between being honest, as you should, and 'witching' about them. It sounds like you're absolutely handling this the right way, the most important thing is to ensure they can feel open with you on discussing their feelings about their father, positive and negative. I realise I failed at that at times, particularly because I was so angry at his lack of care for his daughter. It is horrible to be responsible for 99% of the boring stuff and hear your child gush about a dad who is barely around and only does the fun things when he feels like it.
My daughter now has no contact with her father through her own choice (she decided when she was an adult). Kids understand a lot more than we realise sometimes. While we want to shield them from disappointment, I think you have to let him feel this one. I would tell him that he can always talk about it with you, and it's totally ok to be upset.
Perhaps think about the idea that being in a relationship with someone controlling and coercive, it sets up your mind to feel responsible for them and their behaviour. When you've been through years of tiptoeing around their bad moods and trying to keep them from acting out (and being blamed for anything going wrong with their mood!!), your brain still tries to do that even when they're gone. In a way this still might be an issue - you feel responsible for him being a good father. It feels like a personal failure that he isn't being a good dad - and it shouldn't. Try and separate that idea in your head and think about how their behaviour is strictly THEIR problem, and all you can do is just be a good mum (which you clearly are) for your son. If he is a disappointing, absent father, that is on him. He will suffer the consequences of it, because he's missing out on a relationship with your child. And while it is so, so hard to see your child upset - they'll grow up knowing who was there for them and who wasn't. It will all work out
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