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Can anyone help me regarding a hen party? Do you have to get everyone a gift bag?

I’m maid of honour and it’s a night away with hotel, travel and activities. I’ve also paid for the bride. I’ve paid for card games, accessories for bride to wear etc and everything is adding up quickly! If I have to get gift bags it’s going to be a lot of money as there will be 16 people. It’s really making me worry as we don’t have loads of spare money.

We’re also paying to travel, hotel stop for the actual wedding plus of course wedding gift and everything else involved.

Please someone tell me I’m not a tight a for not wanting to do gift bags? Or if I am being tight can someone please give me suggestions of what I could give people?
No gift bags and often the cost of the brides bits and pieces is separated out over everyone. I’d have a word to see if everyone would stick £10 in to cover some of it.
 
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Can anyone help me regarding a hen party? Do you have to get everyone a gift bag?

I’m maid of honour and it’s a night away with hotel, travel and activities. I’ve also paid for the bride. I’ve paid for card games, accessories for bride to wear etc and everything is adding up quickly! If I have to get gift bags it’s going to be a lot of money as there will be 16 people. It’s really making me worry as we don’t have loads of spare money.

We’re also paying to travel, hotel stop for the actual wedding plus of course wedding gift and everything else involved.

Please someone tell me I’m not a tight a for not wanting to do gift bags? Or if I am being tight can someone please give me suggestions of what I could give people?

good thread which may help x
 
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We’ve just had a new extension built and remodelled our kitchen etc to be open plan. The designer decided that removing the door between the living room and the hallway would be good, as the door wouldn’t protrude into the living room. Unfortunately, the building regs inspector has insisted that a fire door is needed and thus the door has to be reinstated. The builders are suggesting that a door is put in place to get the work signed off, but then removed and the walls made good. Leaving aside the safety aspect, I’m concerned that removing the door would invalidate our insurance if we were unlucky enough to have a fire, given that we know it’s a building regs requirement, even if the fire didn’t get anywhere near the door. Has anyone doing a refurb had a similar experience and if so, what did you decide?
 
We’ve just had a new extension built and remodelled our kitchen etc to be open plan. The designer decided that removing the door between the living room and the hallway would be good, as the door wouldn’t protrude into the living room. Unfortunately, the building regs inspector has insisted that a fire door is needed and thus the door has to be reinstated. The builders are suggesting that a door is put in place to get the work signed off, but then removed and the walls made good. Leaving aside the safety aspect, I’m concerned that removing the door would invalidate our insurance if we were unlucky enough to have a fire, given that we know it’s a building regs requirement, even if the fire didn’t get anywhere near the door. Has anyone doing a refurb had a similar experience and if so, what did you decide?
I find this very strange. I know of several people who have all open plan downstairs and they had zero issues with needing a fire door.
 
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We’ve just had a new extension built and remodelled our kitchen etc to be open plan. The designer decided that removing the door between the living room and the hallway would be good, as the door wouldn’t protrude into the living room. Unfortunately, the building regs inspector has insisted that a fire door is needed and thus the door has to be reinstated. The builders are suggesting that a door is put in place to get the work signed off, but then removed and the walls made good. Leaving aside the safety aspect, I’m concerned that removing the door would invalidate our insurance if we were unlucky enough to have a fire, given that we know it’s a building regs requirement, even if the fire didn’t get anywhere near the door. Has anyone doing a refurb had a similar experience and if so, what did you decide?
Could it be because there's no door closing off the hallway? We have a open plan kitchen with a living area an it's fine but there is a door closing that area off to the hall, I'd imagine they would want the hallway closed off so that in the event of a fire it doesn't spread into the hall an throughout the house compared to if it was closed in on the one area

I'd talk with the insurance, last thing you want is it being void, if insurance says it's fine not having the door then I'd just remove it, but I'd go by their decision since they would be the ones paying out
 
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We’ve just had a new extension built and remodelled our kitchen etc to be open plan. The designer decided that removing the door between the living room and the hallway would be good, as the door wouldn’t protrude into the living room. Unfortunately, the building regs inspector has insisted that a fire door is needed and thus the door has to be reinstated. The builders are suggesting that a door is put in place to get the work signed off, but then removed and the walls made good. Leaving aside the safety aspect, I’m concerned that removing the door would invalidate our insurance if we were unlucky enough to have a fire, given that we know it’s a building regs requirement, even if the fire didn’t get anywhere near the door. Has anyone doing a refurb had a similar experience and if so, what did you decide?
Technically there is nothing stopping you, you could buy the house and remove it unknowingly.

Fire doors are there to allow a safe exit rather than stopping the spread of a fire in regards to insurance, plus they only work if shut. We have one on our hall and we never shut it so it’s useless in reality.
 
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I find this very strange. I know of several people who have all open plan downstairs and they had zero issues with needing a fire door.
The main concern seems to be because the house is three stories. The inspector said it would have been OK otherwise.
 
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We’ve just had a new extension built and remodelled our kitchen etc to be open plan. The designer decided that removing the door between the living room and the hallway would be good, as the door wouldn’t protrude into the living room. Unfortunately, the building regs inspector has insisted that a fire door is needed and thus the door has to be reinstated. The builders are suggesting that a door is put in place to get the work signed off, but then removed and the walls made good. Leaving aside the safety aspect, I’m concerned that removing the door would invalidate our insurance if we were unlucky enough to have a fire, given that we know it’s a building regs requirement, even if the fire didn’t get anywhere near the door. Has anyone doing a refurb had a similar experience and if so, what did you decide?
The designer should have been au fait with the regs, I’d be having a word. I’d also just speak to your insurers, different companies have different rules, it’s too important to take other peoples experiences as a gurantee.
 
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The designer should have been au fait with the regs, I’d be having a word. I’d also just speak to your insurers, different companies have different rules, it’s too important to take other peoples experiences as a gurantee.
Judging by how the project has gone, the error was ours in assuming she knew what she was doing. I'm going to call the insurance company tomorrow and see what they say.
 
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I bought a ‘brand new’ pair of jeans from Net a Porter. This pair of jeans is not second hand. The internal side of the pockets came full of bubbles (cotton bubbles similar to when a top has been worn too many times).

I’m not sure if I need to return them because I don’t know if it’s a case where they’ve been worn and returned or they just got like that from how they were maintained in the warehouse?!
 
I bought a ‘brand new’ pair of jeans from Net a Porter. This pair of jeans is not second hand. The internal side of the pockets came full of bubbles (cotton bubbles similar to when a top has been worn too many times).

I’m not sure if I need to return them because I don’t know if it’s a case where they’ve been worn and returned or they just got like that from how they were maintained in the warehouse?!
Return them and I hope you paid with paypal or something similar.
I returned a pair of trainers because they were damaged and they didn’t even bother to acknowledge anything apart from that they received them back. I had to open a paypal dispute, which again they didn’t acknowledge and then paypal returned my money.
I will never buy from them again
 
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Return them and I hope you paid with paypal or something similar.
I returned a pair of trainers because they were damaged and they didn’t even bother to acknowledge anything apart from that they received them back. I had to open a paypal dispute, which again they didn’t acknowledge and then paypal returned my money.
I will never buy from them again
Thank you. I’ll return them. I did a few returns in the past and they were rather good. Let’s hope they continue on this trajectory. I didn’t pay with PayPal but my bank is good with dispute resolution if need be.
 
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Hi all,

Has anyone here experience of long hospital stays? It’s looking like I will soon be admitted for an estimated two month stay and want to be as prepared as possible going in. I’ll have a private room but shared toilet/ shower facilities.

I’ll have no control over food/diet so that’s at least one less consideration

any hints/tips/advice as to what might make the stay as comfortable as possible?
 
Hi all,

Has anyone here experience of long hospital stays? It’s looking like I will soon be admitted for an estimated two month stay and want to be as prepared as possible going in. I’ll have a private room but shared toilet/ shower facilities.

I’ll have no control over food/diet so that’s at least one less consideration

any hints/tips/advice as to what might make the stay as comfortable as possible?
I’ve only been in a few days myself but what helped me was taking my own blanket and pillow from home so I had that comfort. hope you’re okay and your stay is as comfortable as possible for you cx
 
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I’ve only been in a few days myself but what helped me was taking my own blanket and pillow from home so I had that comfort. hope you’re okay and your stay is as comfortable as possible for you cx
It largely depends on the type of ward- for example I stayed on a psych ward and we could have cuddlies, blankets and flowers- anything really from home. An acquaintance was in for a week post surgery and we weren’t even permitted to take flowers on to the ward!
 
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Hi all,

Has anyone here experience of long hospital stays? It’s looking like I will soon be admitted for an estimated two month stay and want to be as prepared as possible going in. I’ll have a private room but shared toilet/ shower facilities.

I’ll have no control over food/diet so that’s at least one less consideration

any hints/tips/advice as to what might make the stay as comfortable as possible?
If you have a tablet you’ll want to make sure you have internet and your apps installed beforehand (Netflix or Audible etc). Don’t forget headphones. Maybe some little things you don’t use often like a nail file. Some waterproof flip flop style shoes for the shower room, dressing gown and wash bag to carry toiletries through. Dry shampoo. Biscuits 🍪 Little things like that.
 
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Hi all,

Has anyone here experience of long hospital stays? It’s looking like I will soon be admitted for an estimated two month stay and want to be as prepared as possible going in. I’ll have a private room but shared toilet/ shower facilities.

I’ll have no control over food/diet so that’s at least one less consideration

any hints/tips/advice as to what might make the stay as comfortable as possible?
If you have a private room maybe take a little portable speaker? Quite nice to fill the room with music instead of having it on your phone/earphones.

get yourself a really long charging cable for your iPhone and/or tablet as sometimes the plugs are in funny places.

Definitely take your own pillow and if you haven’t already been advised it might be worth labelling up your possessions to save confusion or if something goes missing it’s easier for it to get returned to you.

You could also take packing cases to keep your things organised (I assume you can use the cupboards provided but having your bits and bobs in organised packing cases might make you feel a bit happier as I find it hard to stay organised when I’ve only got a small space to live out of.

I hope whatever treatment you’re in for goes well and I wish you the absolute best.
 
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I bought a ‘brand new’ pair of jeans from Net a Porter. This pair of jeans is not second hand. The internal side of the pockets came full of bubbles (cotton bubbles similar to when a top has been worn too many times).

I’m not sure if I need to return them because I don’t know if it’s a case where they’ve been worn and returned or they just got like that from how they were maintained in the warehouse?!
Are they a stone wash or washed/distressed kind of look jean? The process can affect the softer cotton in the pockets making it bobble.
 
is anyone here a dab hand at sewing? I bought some maternity jeans on Vinted and - surprise - they have rips in the knees 🙄 I’m having bad luck with black mat jeans so I’m just going to keep them and sew them up, but is there anything I should be aware of?
 
is anyone here a dab hand at sewing? I bought some maternity jeans on Vinted and - surprise - they have rips in the knees 🙄 I’m having bad luck with black mat jeans so I’m just going to keep them and sew them up, but is there anything I should be aware of?
Are they New Look ones , I had those when I was pregnant. Sometimes rippred jeans don't have enough material to sew them up because the gaps are too big to meet.
 
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