The advice thread for random problems #3

[CallMeHollywood]

This is going to sound like a 1st world problems but I’m getting quite stressed out about it, I can’t seem to engage in a conversation with a male human lately without them assuming my tina is open for business and I don’t know why

Im not classically attractive, got my dads features and I’m overweight, been wearing baggy jeans and jumpers, no make up, really really not in any way siren or sexy, but I’ve had 5 workers in the past week alone try to get my number as I’m going about my normal day, men who work in petrol stations, shops, restaurants I’m at with my husband and even soft play have all given it a go! I’m friendly and answer questions but definitely not flirty, is the bar set so low now I can’t even make eye contact? This is a very recent problem, has something changed in the past few months and large girls are now hot?

We’ve always been hot darling might be your confidence coming across. Enjoy it

 

[stargirl23]

Random problem, have purchased a trampoline for my niece an have gotten to the stage of putting on the springs

Does it matter the springs don't match the instructions? I can only put the springs one way so it means the part attached to the trampoline has the spring part going from bottom to up an not over the top like the picture shown

I don’t think it matters. We’ve had a trampoline 3 years and I never realised the springs had to be a certain way when building it

 

[Snippysnips]

I don’t think it matters. We’ve had a trampoline 3 years and I never realised the springs had to be a certain way when building it

Thanks, am breaking my back trying build this thing an didn't want to build it an release I screwed up with the springs

 

[stargirl23]

Thanks, am breaking my back trying build this thing an didn't want to build it an release I screwed up with the springs

I felt dead after building it. Took me hours

 

[Babysnark]

This is going to sound like a 1st world problems but I’m getting quite stressed out about it, I can’t seem to engage in a conversation with a male human lately without them assuming my tina is open for business and I don’t know why

Im not classically attractive, got my dads features and I’m overweight, been wearing baggy jeans and jumpers, no make up, really really not in any way siren or sexy, but I’ve had 5 workers in the past week alone try to get my number as I’m going about my normal day, men who work in petrol stations, shops, restaurants I’m at with my husband and even soft play have all given it a go! I’m friendly and answer questions but definitely not flirty, is the bar set so low now I can’t even make eye contact? This is a very recent problem, has something changed in the past few months and large girls are now hot?

Maybe you've recently been giving off some kind of pheromone?

To be honest I don't think men find women that aren't skinny as off putting as we are made to believe by our societal conditioning (as another overweight person).

 

[Meg78]

Maybe you've recently been giving off some kind of pheromone?

To be honest I don't think men find women that aren't skinny as off putting as we are made to believe by our societal conditioning (as another overweight person).

I’m starting to wonder! If anything I’ve gotten lazier with my appearance lately as I’m permanently exhausted, perhaps my brand of sarcasm overrides the physical and they just find my snark irresistible?

 

[petitspois]

I’m starting to wonder! If anything I’ve gotten lazier with my appearance lately as I’m permanently exhausted, perhaps my brand of sarcasm overrides the physical and they just find my snark irresistible?

Your jeans haven't gone threadbare or something have they and you're basically flashing everyone? I walked round Tesco once years ago wondering why men were staring and almost all the buttons on my top were undone.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Your jeans haven't gone threadbare or something have they and you're basically flashing everyone? I walked round Tesco once years ago wondering why men were staring and almost all the buttons on my top were undone.

I once BF my baby in Sainsbury’s and forgot to do my shirt back up. I will forever be grateful for the spotty, dorky looking teenager who told me without blushing or giggling. He’s now a manager but men do seem to be bolder? It seems to be a thing right now, maybe it’s post Covid excitement

 

[Mamacita]

Can't really give too much detail but always wanting a hug from me, kept kissing my neck when hugging, took a strong disliking to my boyfriend within the last year out of no where, is very bossy and it's his way or no way (for example cutting our hedge when it doesn't need doing).
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Our houses are the exact same layout, so when I'm walking across the landing they can hear it. I can hear when they've stepped into the bathroom as you have to step down. It's honestly so bizarre and I already feel on edge living here because of the neighbour, and now this has started again since he's moved back in. Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it but it's all too coincidental, especially as it has started again since he's moved back in with his wife.

I feel like you're maybe paranoid. Like how would they know it's you going to the toilet, not your boyfriend? You mentioned it doesn't happen when your boyfriend goes

 

[Probablylurking66]

Can anyone offer any advice on bed bugs? I found one last night in my bed, crawling on my quilt...absolutely horrific. I'm already not having a great mental health week and this has pushed me over the edge, I'm extremely stressed and have cries several times today. Might sound silly but I just really, really don't want to deal with this right now, I don't have the mental capacity. I had a good look around my bed and mattress and haven't so far seen any others (or any traces), so I'm hoping it might be a one-off, but I know it's more likely than not that there's more hiding somewhere.

We've got a pest control company coming to inspect the flat tomorrow and then give us a quote. My landlord wasn't all that helpful but has agreed to contribute to the cost of treatment. Hopefully we can get a treatment booked in ASAP, I just want them gone and to sleep soundly knowing there's no bleeping bugs crawling over me and eating me alive!

 

[Tide'sout]

I used Zero In Bed Bug Powder available on Amazon. It has mixed reviews but being desperate I felt I had nothing to lose. I can happily say that for me it was 100% effective. If it hadn't worked I would have been ringing pest control too. It's a miserable thing to have to deal with and I hope you get it resolved soon x

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not a problem but has anyone here seen the Oppenheimer film and if so can you please confirm if there's a 15-minute sex scene or not? I can't find a straight answer among all the noise online about it, it seems unbelievable though. I'm not a prude but hate the thought of sitting in a cinema full of people watching a graphic boinkfest for 15 minutes

Fantastic film if you can sit through 3 hours. Needed the toilet twice!
There were two sex scenes and I don’t even feel like they were two minutes long. Florence did show her breasts several times and I feel like it weren’t needed. She most probably wanted them on screen as I noticed she is a bit attention seeking

 

[clueless]

Fantastic film if you can sit through 3 hours. Needed the toilet twice!
There were two sex scenes and I don’t even feel like they were two minutes long. Florence did show her breasts several times and I feel like it weren’t needed. She most probably wanted them on screen as I noticed she is a bit attention seeking

Thank you! Ugh I thought as much. I read that the Irish Times said "Jean Tatlock is distilled from a real-world intellectual and political influence to a glistening pair of breasts" - lovely! Florence probably insisted on it, she definitely seems attention seeking - one of those ones who would say it's about art and empowerment, but really she just wants the attention and everyone to see her mammaries

 

[Okgolightly]

Fantastic film if you can sit through 3 hours. Needed the toilet twice!
There were two sex scenes and I don’t even feel like they were two minutes long. Florence did show her breasts several times and I feel like it weren’t needed. She most probably wanted them on screen as I noticed she is a bit attention seeking

In a film directed by one of the greatest directors ever you think Florence Pugh had enough sway and influence to demand she gets her breasts out? Holy misogyny…

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

This is going to sound like a 1st world problems but I’m getting quite stressed out about it, I can’t seem to engage in a conversation with a male human lately without them assuming my tina is open for business and I don’t know why

Im not classically attractive, got my dads features and I’m overweight, been wearing baggy jeans and jumpers, no make up, really really not in any way siren or sexy, but I’ve had 5 workers in the past week alone try to get my number as I’m going about my normal day, men who work in petrol stations, shops, restaurants I’m at with my husband and even soft play have all given it a go! I’m friendly and answer questions but definitely not flirty, is the bar set so low now I can’t even make eye contact? This is a very recent problem, has something changed in the past few months and large girls are now hot?

Own it girl

And don't put yourself down.

 

[Kizzie]

Can anyone offer any advice on bed bugs? I found one last night in my bed, crawling on my quilt...absolutely horrific. I'm already not having a great mental health week and this has pushed me over the edge, I'm extremely stressed and have cries several times today. Might sound silly but I just really, really don't want to deal with this right now, I don't have the mental capacity. I had a good look around my bed and mattress and haven't so far seen any others (or any traces), so I'm hoping it might be a one-off, but I know it's more likely than not that there's more hiding somewhere.

We've got a pest control company coming to inspect the flat tomorrow and then give us a quote. My landlord wasn't all that helpful but has agreed to contribute to the cost of treatment. Hopefully we can get a treatment booked in ASAP, I just want them gone and to sleep soundly knowing there's no bleeping bugs crawling over me and eating me alive!

Diatomaceous earth powder for any bugs. it's very fine though so wear a mask and get the powder up as much as you can with a dustpan and brush before vacuuming as it can really clog your vacuum up.

I use it for flea prevention and cure on my animals. also once one of my cats bought in a pidgin and left it under my bed and I started to get badly bitten, it was bird mites biting me, but one go with diatomaceous earth powder and that was the end of that.

 

[clueless]

In a film directed by one of the greatest directors ever you think Florence Pugh had enough sway and influence to demand she gets her breasts out? Holy misogyny…

Martin Scorsese didn't intend for Margot Robbie to be fully nude in the Wolf of Wall Street, he wanted her to wear a robe, but she insisted upon it because she thought it was important for her character (and she was right). She had little to no influence then because she was unknown before that film, but I think it shows that directors can be open to suggestions from their cast if it's in line with the vision of the film.

I'm not wanting to bicker at all, I just think it is an interesting story and contrast.

 

[CallMeHollywood]

The idiots who lived in my house before me used gorilla adhesive to stick a mirror that isn’t shatter proof. Cue me trying to remove said mirror and ending up covered in tiny shards of glass while the majority of it is still stuck to the tiled wall.
Any thoughts on how to get this off? I’ve covered the back wall in wd40 and white spirit in the hope it dribbles down, but it’s not worked.

 

[petitspois]

The idiots who lived in my house before me used gorilla adhesive to stick a mirror that isn’t shatter proof. Cue me trying to remove said mirror and ending up covered in tiny shards of glass while the majority of it is still stuck to the tiled wall.
Any thoughts on how to get this off? I’ve covered the back wall in wd40 and white spirit in the hope it dribbles down, but it’s not worked.

Try nail polish remover. Good Luck, sounds a horrible job

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

In a film directed by one of the greatest directors ever you think Florence Pugh had enough sway and influence to demand she gets her breasts out? Holy misogyny…

Yes I do. You don’t have to be a misagonist to not be a fan of seeing others naked all the time.
The fact that miss Pugh is constantly half naked irl tells me enough.
Maybe you should look past all your newly minted phrases at the actual “celebrity”. The breast brought absolutely zero to the film. There’s a reason why they stick out