The advice thread for random problems #3

[clueless]

Not a problem but has anyone here seen the Oppenheimer film and if so can you please confirm if there's a 15-minute sex scene or not? I can't find a straight answer among all the noise online about it, it seems unbelievable though. I'm not a prude but hate the thought of sitting in a cinema full of people watching a graphic boinkfest for 15 minutes

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not a problem but has anyone here seen the Oppenheimer film and if so can you please confirm if there's a 15-minute sex scene or not? I can't find a straight answer among all the noise online about it, it seems unbelievable though. I'm not a prude but hate the thought of sitting in a cinema full of people watching a graphic bonkfest for 15 minutes

I'm going to see this 3 hour monstrosity tomorrow and will let you know I'll probably use that scene to go use the toilet so I really hope it's about half way into the film

 

[LaBlonde]

Not a problem but has anyone here seen the Oppenheimer film and if so can you please confirm if there's a 15-minute sex scene or not? I can't find a straight answer among all the noise online about it, it seems unbelievable though. I'm not a prude but hate the thought of sitting in a cinema full of people watching a graphic bonkfest for 15 minutes

i asked a colleague about it this morning and she said it’s not all sex as cillian murphy “reads scripture during it” and then i was scared to ask more

 

[clueless]

I'm going to see this 3 hour monstrosity tomorrow and will let you know I'll probably use that scene to go use the toilet so I really hope it's about half way into the film

Thank you! I also read there's apparently three sex scenes, I hope they're not all 15 minutes, or maybe they're five minutes each?

 

[CoffeeMamma]

My friend in America saw it opening night and confirms “there are like 3,2 minute ones”

 

[AllTheBest2022]

Am I just being paranoid? Lived in our house (terraced) for nearly 3 years. The couple on one side are lovely, the couple on the other not so much, more an issue with the husband than the wife. He is outright weird and overbearing. Seems to think I'm a single mum etc, always trying to 'help'. Anyway, ever since we've moved in I've noticed whenever I go to the bathroom someone their side 99% of the time will go into their bathroom their side, I'm fairly sure it's him as she works 12 hour shifts. Never happens when my boyfriend goes to the toilet, and it's happening far too often to be a coincidence. Bare in mind I'm 7 months pregnant so if I go for a wee, chances are I need to go again 3 minutes later, and the person still goes into their bathroom. To begin with my partner thought I was being paranoid but since other stuff has happened he's now acknowledged it. Any advice?

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

To begin with my partner thought I was being paranoid but since other stuff has happened he's now acknowledged it.

What is the other stuff?

 

[shadowcat5]

i asked a colleague about it this morning and she said it’s not all sex as cillian murphy “reads scripture during it” and then i was scared to ask more

I heard apparently Florence Pugh at one point is riding him like a bucking bronco and then gets up and starts reading from the Hindu book of scripture… they apparently put a CGI dress on her in India

 

[LaBlonde]

I heard apparently Florence Pugh at one point is riding him like a bucking bronco and then gets up and starts reading from the Hindu book of scripture… they apparently put a CGI dress on her in India

wait so he gets up, mid-ride, and is like “this has really put me in the mood for reading some hindu scripture”?! i want to see this movie now

 

[shadowcat5]

wait so he gets up, mid-ride, and is like “this has really put me in the mood for reading some hindu scripture”?! i want to see this movie now

apparently she does? I don’t know. ive only watched reviews of it

 

[Snippysnips]

Am I just being paranoid? Lived in our house (terraced) for nearly 3 years. The couple on one side are lovely, the couple on the other not so much, more an issue with the husband than the wife. He is outright weird and overbearing. Seems to think I'm a single mum etc, always trying to 'help'. Anyway, ever since we've moved in I've noticed whenever I go to the bathroom someone their side 99% of the time will go into their bathroom their side, I'm fairly sure it's him as she works 12 hour shifts. Never happens when my boyfriend goes to the toilet, and it's happening far too often to be a coincidence. Bare in mind I'm 7 months pregnant so if I go for a wee, chances are I need to go again 3 minutes later, and the person still goes into their bathroom. To begin with my partner thought I was being paranoid but since other stuff has happened he's now acknowledged it. Any advice?

Am curious to know how they know you are in the bathroom, can you hear each other through the walls? I used to live in a semi detached an unless the neighbours were being really loud I wouldn't know which room they were in

Is there a way you can try an soundproof the walls a bit so they can't tell where you are, or maybe you can leave him in his bathroom all day by leaving a phone there playing bathroom sounds on it loudly

 

[AllTheBest2022]

What is the other stuff?

Can't really give too much detail but always wanting a hug from me, kept kissing my neck when hugging, took a strong disliking to my boyfriend within the last year out of no where, is very bossy and it's his way or no way (for example cutting our hedge when it doesn't need doing).
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Am curious to know how they know you are in the bathroom, can you hear each other through the walls? I used to live in a semi detached an unless the neighbours were being really loud I wouldn't know which room they were in

Is there a way you can try an soundproof the walls a bit so they can't tell where you are, or maybe you can leave him in his bathroom all day by leaving a phone there playing bathroom sounds on it loudly

Our houses are the exact same layout, so when I'm walking across the landing they can hear it. I can hear when they've stepped into the bathroom as you have to step down. It's honestly so bizarre and I already feel on edge living here because of the neighbour, and now this has started again since he's moved back in. Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it but it's all too coincidental, especially as it has started again since he's moved back in with his wife.

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

Can't really give too much detail but always wanting a hug from me, kept kissing my neck when hugging, took a strong disliking to my boyfriend within the last year out of no where, is very bossy and it's his way or no way (for example cutting our hedge when it doesn't need doing).

Wow. At what stage does this become...assault? He is overstepping boundaries - this is not ok.

Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it

You are not thinking too much into it.

 

[petitspois]

Can't really give too much detail but always wanting a hug from me, kept kissing my neck when hugging, took a strong disliking to my boyfriend within the last year out of no where, is very bossy and it's his way or no way (for example cutting our hedge when it doesn't need doing).
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Our houses are the exact same layout, so when I'm walking across the landing they can hear it. I can hear when they've stepped into the bathroom as you have to step down. It's honestly so bizarre and I already feel on edge living here because of the neighbour, and now this has started again since he's moved back in. Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it but it's all too coincidental, especially as it has started again since he's moved back in with his wife.

A bit over the top maybe but, to be honest, I would move. He sounds like someone who has already developed an inappropriate interest in you. That could escalate.

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

A bit over the top maybe but, to be honest, I would move. He sounds like someone who has already developed an inappropriate interest in you. That could escalate.

But why should she have to move? He is the problem, not her.

 

[petitspois]

But why should she have to move? He is the problem, not her.

Because he's a potential (emphasis upon potential) predator who won't move will he?

 

[Ingognito.Queen]

Because he's a potential (emphasis upon potential) predator who won't move will he?

But moving away is giving the message that what he is doing is ok and he will continue this behaviour

 

[petitspois]

But moving away is giving the message that what he is doing is ok and he will continue this behaviour

It's really tricky. He might just be an hole of course but it might be one of those situations where hindsight is wonderful. There's nothing to take to the police of course so it's a case of 'steer clear of the weirdo' for me.

 

[Meg78]

This is going to sound like a 1st world problems but I’m getting quite stressed out about it, I can’t seem to engage in a conversation with a male human lately without them assuming my tina is open for business and I don’t know why

Im not classically attractive, got my dads features and I’m overweight, been wearing baggy jeans and jumpers, no make up, really really not in any way siren or sexy, but I’ve had 5 workers in the past week alone try to get my number as I’m going about my normal day, men who work in petrol stations, shops, restaurants I’m at with my husband and even soft play have all given it a go! I’m friendly and answer questions but definitely not flirty, is the bar set so low now I can’t even make eye contact? This is a very recent problem, has something changed in the past few months and large girls are now hot?

 

[Snippysnips]

Random problem, have purchased a trampoline for my niece an have gotten to the stage of putting on the springs

Does it matter the springs don't match the instructions? I can only put the springs one way so it means the part attached to the trampoline has the spring part going from bottom to up an not over the top like the picture shown