The advice thread for random problems #3

[shadowcat5]

T-gel sometimes goes reduced on Amazon in the £2.50 bottle. Capascal also contains coal tar and is slightly cheaper but smells horrendous. It’s the one doctors do on prescription for seborrhoeic dermatitis.
This might be worth a try, definitiey pitched as a cheap t-gel. It makes (my long, fine) hair a bit tangly while washing, doesn’t foam much or feel nourishing but didn’t cause any irritation for me and I liked the smell. It’s cheap enough to try.

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you are a superstar! i actually love the XHC/XBC ranges and it works well for me! Thank you so much

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Tips for a caravan holiday please. Travelling with the following
18 month old
2 dogs
7 adults

Top of my list: Prosecco

Last time I went away with 2 dogs, in laws and husband it was fairly stressful and not that enjoyable

Are you in a touring caravan or a static?

Camping chairs if you don't have decking. Possibly a fold up washing line, useful for drying towels/swimwear etc. Millets currently have one reduce to half price.

Board games and cards are always a winner.

All the alcohol you can fit in the car

Decent walking shoes so you can find a far hill to climb and get away from everyone .

 

[littlepup]

you are a superstar! i actually love the XHC/XBC ranges and it works well for me! Thank you so much

Just to say I didn’t mean £2.50 a bottle on Amazon, I meant 250ml gets reduced

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Weird one: anyone here ever used neurogena t-gel and can recommend an alternative? It was good in my hair but it’s so expensive for a tiny bottle

If it’s for seborrhoeic dermatitis try and get a prescription of betacap from the doctors. One bottle lasts me a year and it’s much more effective than any of the shampoos.

 

[square_spoon]

How do you be a good friend to someone who is going through a breakup with a married man? (For context in the story she didn’t mention he was married until he dumped her). Anyway I knew my friend had been seeing someone for about 6-9 months, she met him through a sport she’s involved with that I’m not, so although I thought it was weird she never introduced us during that time I passed it off as us not moving in the same crowd. She was quite secretive about the whole thing but seemed happy so I was happy for her. Fast forward to now and he’s dumped her, saying he’s going to stay with his wife and kids (it turns out the 6-9 months coincided with his wife being pregnant and the breakup coincided with the birth of that child). My friend is inconsolable, thought he was the one etc. etc. and I’m trying to be supportive to her through the breakup but it’s really difficult. She has put this guy on a pedestal and is convinced he is the perfect man for her, speaks unkindly about his wife, and although I don’t bash him when we chat (that takes some restraint) if I even suggest that he’s made his choice and she needs to learn to love with it even though it hurts she starts lashing out at me. It’s tiring.

I understand she is heartbroken and believes everything this guy told her but it is so hard to listen to. I don’t want to abandon her in the middle of this but honestly it’s tough to support her. Not because he’s a married guy but because she is so in denial about the realities of their relationship and says horrible things about his wife….and then lashes out at me about how I don’t understand their connection and a love like theirs. She’s right, I don’t understand being the side piece while some fella’s wife is pregnant, and having him decide he’s not feeling us anymore when his wife has the baby. Any advice on what to do?

 

[WeHadFunRight]

How do you be a good friend to someone who is going through a breakup with a married man? (For context in the story she didn’t mention he was married until he dumped her). Anyway I knew my friend had been seeing someone for about 6-9 months, she met him through a sport she’s involved with that I’m not, so although I thought it was weird she never introduced us during that time I passed it off as us not moving in the same crowd. She was quite secretive about the whole thing but seemed happy so I was happy for her. Fast forward to now and he’s dumped her, saying he’s going to stay with his wife and kids (it turns out the 6-9 months coincided with his wife being pregnant and the breakup coincided with the birth of that child). My friend is inconsolable, thought he was the one etc. etc. and I’m trying to be supportive to her through the breakup but it’s really difficult. She has put this guy on a pedestal and is convinced he is the perfect man for her, speaks unkindly about his wife, and although I don’t bash him when we chat (that takes some restraint) if I even suggest that he’s made his choice and she needs to learn to love with it even though it hurts she starts lashing out at me. It’s tiring.

I understand she is heartbroken and believes everything this guy told her but it is so hard to listen to. I don’t want to abandon her in the middle of this but honestly it’s tough to support her. Not because he’s a married guy but because she is so in denial about the realities of their relationship and says horrible things about his wife….and then lashes out at me about how I don’t understand their connection and a love like theirs. She’s right, I don’t understand being the side piece while some fella’s wife is pregnant, and having him decide he’s not feeling us anymore when his wife has the baby. Any advice on what to do?

Oooooh good god what a guy!

I think honestly I would maybe just agree with her that you’ll never understand and say you are not the right person for her to go over details of the relationship with, but you can help take her mind off it by doing fun things together instead. It’s not right she’s lashing out at you, you should point that out to her.,

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone ever heard of this site and booked from them? Am interested in this but I don't know if it's legit or not, apparently I just show up in my home town between certain hours for it

 

[Pesky Tarian]

Has anyone ever heard of this site and booked from them? Am interested in this but I don't know if it's legit or not, apparently I just show up in my home town between certain hours for it

Yes we did the Alice in wonderland one. You'll have to download the app to receive clues/play. Good fun.

 

[stardust1]

How do you be a good friend to someone who is going through a breakup with a married man? (For context in the story she didn’t mention he was married until he dumped her). Anyway I knew my friend had been seeing someone for about 6-9 months, she met him through a sport she’s involved with that I’m not, so although I thought it was weird she never introduced us during that time I passed it off as us not moving in the same crowd. She was quite secretive about the whole thing but seemed happy so I was happy for her. Fast forward to now and he’s dumped her, saying he’s going to stay with his wife and kids (it turns out the 6-9 months coincided with his wife being pregnant and the breakup coincided with the birth of that child). My friend is inconsolable, thought he was the one etc. etc. and I’m trying to be supportive to her through the breakup but it’s really difficult. She has put this guy on a pedestal and is convinced he is the perfect man for her, speaks unkindly about his wife, and although I don’t bash him when we chat (that takes some restraint) if I even suggest that he’s made his choice and she needs to learn to love with it even though it hurts she starts lashing out at me. It’s tiring.

I understand she is heartbroken and believes everything this guy told her but it is so hard to listen to. I don’t want to abandon her in the middle of this but honestly it’s tough to support her. Not because he’s a married guy but because she is so in denial about the realities of their relationship and says horrible things about his wife….and then lashes out at me about how I don’t understand their connection and a love like theirs. She’s right, I don’t understand being the side piece while some fella’s wife is pregnant, and having him decide he’s not feeling us anymore when his wife has the baby. Any advice on what to do?

first of all i think you sound like a lovely friend I understand from your post you don’t want to abandon her but I think a bit of tough love may be needed before you end up taking the back lash from something that isn’t your fault. I think you should explain that you are there for her as a friend to support her in feeling better however she cannot lash out at you and take a step back from her as you are correct you do not understand and that is ok

 

[Snippysnips]

Yes we did the Alice in wonderland one. You'll have to download the app to receive clues/play. Good fun.

Thanks, will probably book it then

 

[Pesky Tarian]

Thanks, will probably book it then

I wish we'd had the option of this one looks good!. I'm not going to lie the clues were pretty difficult so the bigger your team the better, a bit like geocaching. The best part was seeing everyone walking around dressed in costume.

 

[Snippysnips]

I wish we'd had the option of this one looks good!. I'm not going to lie the clues were pretty difficult so the bigger your team the better, a bit like geocaching. The best part was seeing everyone walking around dressed in costume.

Thanks, I think there's only going be 4 of us, but looking forward to trying it, did yours take you long to complete or was quite a bit of walking? Am curious to know if they keep the areas close together or spread them out a fair bit, our towns quite small but the parks a far walk out

 

[Pesky Tarian]

Thanks, I think there's only going be 4 of us, but looking forward to trying it, did yours take you long to complete or was quite a bit of walking? Am curious to know if they keep the areas close together or spread them out a fair bit, our towns quite small but the parks a far walk out

Yes quite a lot of walking, doubling back on yourself etc. We stopped and had lunch mid way . You get a league table at the end and some people did it in an hour, must have been well practiced. Took us a few hrs and we latched on to another team to help lol. Great how they do it though, top tip make the most tech savvy person 'leader' in the app.

 

[Snippysnips]

Yes quite a lot of walking, doubling back on yourself etc. We stopped and had lunch mid way . You get a league table at the end and some people did it in an hour, must have been well practiced. Took us a few hrs and we latched on to another team to help lol. Great how they do it though, top tip make the most tech savvy person 'leader' in the app.

Thanks, I don't mind the walking but some in the group may need a bit of a warning just incase

 

[Sniffing Eggs]

How do you be a good friend to someone who is going through a breakup with a married man? (For context in the story she didn’t mention he was married until he dumped her). Anyway I knew my friend had been seeing someone for about 6-9 months, she met him through a sport she’s involved with that I’m not, so although I thought it was weird she never introduced us during that time I passed it off as us not moving in the same crowd. She was quite secretive about the whole thing but seemed happy so I was happy for her. Fast forward to now and he’s dumped her, saying he’s going to stay with his wife and kids (it turns out the 6-9 months coincided with his wife being pregnant and the breakup coincided with the birth of that child). My friend is inconsolable, thought he was the one etc. etc. and I’m trying to be supportive to her through the breakup but it’s really difficult. She has put this guy on a pedestal and is convinced he is the perfect man for her, speaks unkindly about his wife, and although I don’t bash him when we chat (that takes some restraint) if I even suggest that he’s made his choice and she needs to learn to love with it even though it hurts she starts lashing out at me. It’s tiring.

I understand she is heartbroken and believes everything this guy told her but it is so hard to listen to. I don’t want to abandon her in the middle of this but honestly it’s tough to support her. Not because he’s a married guy but because she is so in denial about the realities of their relationship and says horrible things about his wife….and then lashes out at me about how I don’t understand their connection and a love like theirs. She’s right, I don’t understand being the side piece while some fella’s wife is pregnant, and having him decide he’s not feeling us anymore when his wife has the baby. Any advice on what to do?

Gosh. Poor wife and you.

 

[Kizzie]

I want to print a number of the same images on the same sheet of paper ( for keyrings). mine only has a few settings 9 are too big and 35 are too small. How can I print say 20 of the same images on the same A4 paper?

 

[TheSlayer]

I want to print a number of the same images on the same sheet of paper ( for keyrings). mine only has a few settings 9 are too big and 35 are too small. How can I print say 20 of the same images on the same A4 paper?

Personally I would put a table in for the number you want on the sheet then just paste the image into the square

You can turn off the boarders if you don’t want the line around the image when printing

 

[Pinhead Larry]

What do you think is a normal amount to spend on bills per month? We currently have a joint income of just under 80k, which works out at about £4300 per month after all taxes etc. at the moment we put £600 each in to the joint account and it covers all bills with a little money to spare. We want to move somewhere bigger and more suburban, but the mortgages are looking to be around £1600 on their own, so I imagine we’d be paying just over £1k each including bills, which is obviously a lot more but then we’d have a garden and more space, and be somewhere a bit quieter (currently live in the city centre) I was originally looking at it thinking I used to rent a flat and paid around £1000 per month for just rent and parking, so it’s not that bad but I am not sure if I’m being silly

sorry for this massive ramble

 

[JoeBloggs]

What do you think is a normal amount to spend on bills per month? We currently have a joint income of just under 80k, which works out at about £4300 per month after all taxes etc. at the moment we put £600 each in to the joint account and it covers all bills with a little money to spare. We want to move somewhere bigger and more suburban, but the mortgages are looking to be around £1600 on their own, so I imagine we’d be paying just over £1k each including bills, which is obviously a lot more but then we’d have a garden and more space, and be somewhere a bit quieter (currently live in the city centre) I was originally looking at it thinking I used to rent a flat and paid around £1000 per month for just rent and parking, so it’s not that bad but I am not sure if I’m being silly

sorry for this massive ramble

The general rule of thumb is 50% for essential living costs including rent/mortgage and food. Our joint income is about £72K and our bills are £2K a month, we bring home £4,700. Our bills do include home & life insurance and sky but not our cats or car costs. Personally £600 a month is nothing, especially considering your income.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

What do you think is a normal amount to spend on bills per month? We currently have a joint income of just under 80k, which works out at about £4300 per month after all taxes etc. at the moment we put £600 each in to the joint account and it covers all bills with a little money to spare. We want to move somewhere bigger and more suburban, but the mortgages are looking to be around £1600 on their own, so I imagine we’d be paying just over £1k each including bills, which is obviously a lot more but then we’d have a garden and more space, and be somewhere a bit quieter (currently live in the city centre) I was originally looking at it thinking I used to rent a flat and paid around £1000 per month for just rent and parking, so it’s not that bad but I am not sure if I’m being silly

sorry for this massive ramble

Imo that mortgage is good, obv depending where you live and size etc.

However I’d hang tight as mortgages should stabilise and then start dropping in the next couple of years