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I don’t have answers but I didn’t want to read this and leave you feeling ignored. I guess there is a lot behind this and needs to be handled sensitively. Does he seem bothered by the fact that he is not allowed to date? Or that prayer seems to interfere with other activities? Perhaps he is at peace with these aspects, or even is drawn to them. I know it may be hard to accept as a parent if you didn’t see this in their future. Are there other muslims his age or in the family (you mentioned your dad was) who he can connect with? I know many muslims who lead active and fulfilling lives, and they tend to have connection and understanding through family and a community. But also, depending where you live, a lot of consideration is given by schools/groups for those who need to take time for prayer. I guess it is hard to know what to do, or if anything needs to be done if it is a path he is exploring or adopting. I say this with no judgment, parenting is difficult and I hope you can find some ways to navigate this with your son.
P.S. These are not questions you need to answer here, just thinking out loud.
Hi I also didn’t want to just read and run. If it’s affecting his life to a point where you are concerned then you should speak to him about it
I don’t have particular experience in this area but it is always a big red flag when young people change religion/join a religion and start acting very differently (can be concerning many/any religions not just Islam)
You need to ask why the change? More importantly who has influenced this. Would you consider your son to be vulnerable and easily led? If it’s genuine and he’s being respectable and following the rules of the religion then great but there is always the concern it may be more serious and for not so good reasons. no judgement here just trying to help
Thank you for your replies. He has always been a tad socially awkward and I think islam gives him a sense of belonging and the basic values it teaches make him feel safe. Like many young people, he came across it on social media and started to look deeper into it. It is so important to him now, his days are centred around it. I think it me that's more worried about it as I see his friends dating, going out etc and him having less and less in common with them. Really appreciate the replies, just needed to hear other people's take on it.
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It varies by country and for a few of them it’s only 3. The FCO website gives info for each country.
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Sorry I can't offer you any advice about this but I just wanted to say I'd be surprised if this hasn't raised red flags with school about the possibility of radicalisation especially after what you have put here.
Came here to say the same thing. There's a big section we have to go through on this in safeguarding training. Sorry I can't be of more help though OP
Hi. On the contrary, the school have sorted out a prayer room and let him leave lesson a few minutes early as prayers are at a specific time. Although this is very accommodating of them, I had hoped they would have some words of advice for me but it seems not. I have been searching for maybe a support group who advise in this situation but I can't find anywhere. 
this happened to my partners friend, he wasn’t born into any religion and never followed any religion for over 20 years but then slowly started watching even more stuff online about islam. Many people fell out with him as he couldn’t grasp why other people weren’t doing the same. He told my partner I was HaramHi. On the contrary, the school have sorted out a prayer room and let him leave lesson a few minutes early as prayers are at a specific time. Although this is very accommodating of them, I had hoped they would have some words of advice for me but it seems not. I have been searching for maybe a support group who advise in this situation but I can't find anywhere.
what is your general area i will see if i can find any support groups xhas he got a new online friendship group? Are you able to check his online activity? I can sympathise as the partners friend was very close to us and my son loved him and vice versa however he will not come round anymore as he believes I am haram. I actually see him comment things on social media calling them haram too
I think I will look into what he's watching online. He knows no other Muslims I real life. He's such a lovely gentle lad. Think he's always felt like he doesn't really fit in.has he got a new online friendship group? Are you able to check his online activity? I can sympathise as the partners friend was very close to us and my son loved him and vice versa however he will not come round anymore as he believes I am haram. I actually see him comment things on social media calling them haram too
do any of your family follow a religion? it isn’t a crime to turn to religion but I do believe in gut feeling and you should definitely try find out if he is doing it for the right reasons.
No. None of us do. My dad was Muslim but I don't think that's the reason. Its difficult because it is bringing him peace and calm but also disrupting being a typical teenager.
I'd honestly just keep an eye out an see if there's other reasons, it's fine to follow religion but if he's doing it only because he's finding peace an calm with it then it might be worth pointing out you can find the same peace an calm other ways, am sure there's other religions that practice but theres also non religious ways to practice it, I don't class myself as anything but doing yoga, tai chi, meditating, etc are all ways to find I'd imagine the same peace an calm
Like others have said, it's worth keeping an eye on social sites, sometimes it's easy to get swayed into things without realising it's what you really want but you can be made to feel like you don't fit unless you go along with it
If you were buying a second hand car, would you be more swayed by lower miles or a newer car? I have a £5k budget, which apparently doesn't get you much these days. 
My options seem to be either a 10+ year old car with lower average miles (for the age) or a higher mileage car still 8 or so years old.
My options seem to be either a 10+ year old car with lower average miles (for the age) or a higher mileage car still 8 or so years old.
Personally I would go lower miles. You don't want a car someone has ragged for years.If you were buying a second hand car, would you be more swayed by lower miles or a newer car? I have a £5k budget, which apparently doesn't get you much these days.
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