The advice thread for random problems #3

[Blondeangel2515]

Honestly take some accountability for your self

I do hold myself accountable I shouldn’t of messaged him back but I genuinely didn’t think he was still in a relationship with the way he was talking but then he slipped up and I felt uncomfortable hence why I made her aware I should of known after the first time round with the same patterns hence why he isn’t gonna come back into my life again

 

[BaffledWarthog]

No legal battle they’ve closed the case and they’ve told him not to message me again. He has no way of messaging me I am humble I did the right thing, she’s aware what he’s doing behind her back and she had a right to know. Even the police woman said she doesn’t see no point in continuing the complaint because all I did was message her family to make her aware of her boyfriends behaviour. No I’ve done nothing wrong

I'm aware the case was closed, I can read. But if you are thinking of messaging AGAIN after your warnings then you are not only a dangerous person with too much time but you will find yourself in some kind of legal dispute.
I think you want some kind of validation from other people about what you've done because you think you're a saint for telling the girl and her family. It's none of her family's business until she tells them and you stepped way out of place hunting them down to tell them. You probably need some kind of therapy after this, it's unhealthy and obsessive.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

I'm aware the case was closed, I can read. But if you are thinking of messaging AGAIN after your warnings then you are not only a dangerous person with too much time but you will find yourself in some kind of legal dispute.
I think you want some kind of validation from other people about what you've done because you think you're a saint for telling the girl and her family. It's none of her family's business until she tells them and you stepped way out of place hunting them down to tell them. You probably need some kind of therapy after this, it's unhealthy and obsessive.

But I won’t be messaging again because he won’t be messaging me again I don’t need validation from anyone because I know I did the right thing and anyone in the situation would want to know their boyfriend is messaging someone about babies etc. you may see it as stepping out of line, I didn’t hunt them down, they were on her profile public so I messaged. you can call me all this and that that’s your opinion but I’m not asking for validation if you can read then you would of seen all I’ve said is it’s hilarious what they said when it’s only half the truth and clearly it’s fine what I done because the police woman thought it was fine behaviour and closed the case and told him not to message me again if that’s me needing validation then you clearly need to look it up because I’m not asking for that I’m just venting how stupid it is when I have prove they know I have

 

[stardust1]

But I won’t be messaging again because he won’t be messaging me again I don’t need validation from anyone because I know I did the right thing and anyone in the situation would want to know their boyfriend is messaging someone about babies etc. you may see it as stepping out of line, I didn’t hunt them down, they were on her profile public so I messaged. you can call me all this and that that’s your opinion but I’m not asking for validation if you can read then you would of seen all I’ve said is it’s hilarious what they said when it’s only half the truth and clearly it’s fine what I done because the police woman thought it was fine behaviour and closed the case and told him not to message me again if that’s me needing validation then you clearly need to look it up because I’m not asking for that I’m just venting how stupid it is when I have prove they know I have

She told you you had a lucky escape?.. What’s with the obsession over multiple threads if it’s not for validation. So many people told you to forget about but you seem to struggle with that.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

She told you you had a lucky escape?.. What’s with the obsession over multiple threads if it’s not for validation. So many people told you to forget about but you seem to struggle with that.

I’ve forgot about the situation but the way the police woman reacted to it, the way she said stuff lives went free in my head “he said you sent the family sexual messages” “yes they were the screenshots of stuff he sent me” “and you send them to the family, to make the girlfriend aware” honestly it was like a lightbulb moment suddenly clicked with her

 

[BaffledWarthog]

But I won’t be messaging again because he won’t be messaging me again I don’t need validation from anyone because I know I did the right thing and anyone in the situation would want to know their boyfriend is messaging someone about babies etc. you may see it as stepping out of line, I didn’t hunt them down, they were on her profile public so I messaged. you can call me all this and that that’s your opinion but I’m not asking for validation if you can read then you would of seen all I’ve said is it’s hilarious what they said when it’s only half the truth and clearly it’s fine what I done because the police woman thought it was fine behaviour and closed the case and told him not to message me again if that’s me needing validation then you clearly need to look it up because I’m not asking for that I’m just venting how stupid it is when I have prove they know I have

Why are you telling someones family what their daughters boyfriend is up to? Why are you sending them screenshots that include sexual content of their DAUGHTERS boyfriend? AFTER THE DAUGHTER BLOCKED YOU. Why the duck would they want to see their potential son in law in that light whether he cheated or not it's not for their eyes.
Maybe you don't fully understand the context of this or your life is so bland you have to obsess over it and create a drama. It's strange behaviour and there's no helping you because you refuse to see it from another angle. Hope you got your validation from at least one person.

 

[stardust1]

I’ve forgot about the situation but the way the police woman reacted to it, the way she said stuff lives went free in my head “he said you sent the family sexual messages” “yes they were the screenshots of stuff he sent me” “and you send them to the family, to make the girlfriend aware” honestly it was like a lightbulb moment suddenly clicked with her

I’m honestly struggling to find what is so hilarious about it. You nearly ended up with a police caution for it. No need at all to send it to her family and i’d be going mad too. You should have blocked him months ago, in fact you just look complicit in it all by keep allowing it to happen yet are taking the moral high ground for messaging her family?

 

[saltandvinegarcrisps]

I’ve forgot about the situation but the way the police woman reacted to it, the way she said stuff lives went free in my head “he said you sent the family sexual messages” “yes they were the screenshots of stuff he sent me” “and you send them to the family, to make the girlfriend aware” honestly it was like a lightbulb moment suddenly clicked with her

 

[JoeBloggs]

But I won’t be messaging again because he won’t be messaging me again I don’t need validation from anyone because I know I did the right thing and anyone in the situation would want to know their boyfriend is messaging someone about babies etc. you may see it as stepping out of line, I didn’t hunt them down, they were on her profile public so I messaged. you can call me all this and that that’s your opinion but I’m not asking for validation if you can read then you would of seen all I’ve said is it’s hilarious what they said when it’s only half the truth and clearly it’s fine what I done because the police woman thought it was fine behaviour and closed the case and told him not to message me again if that’s me needing validation then you clearly need to look it up because I’m not asking for that I’m just venting how stupid it is when I have prove they know I have

You are in an advice thread, you clearly want people to tell you did the right think and how wonderful you are. Instead everyone has seen how unhinged you are. Just stop. You can say the police woman understood all you like, it’s likely she just humoured you.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

I’m honestly struggling to find what is so hilarious about it. You nearly ended up with a police caution for it. No need at all to send it to her family and i’d be going mad too. You should have blocked him months ago, in fact you just look complicit in it all by keep allowing it to happen yet are taking the moral high ground for messaging her family?

He was blocked on everything I had him on, he found me on social media i didn’t have him on and didn’t think he would come looking but he did and then messaged me out the blue I don’t find the whole situation funny but I do find funny is the police woman’s reaction to the situation.
no need to to message the family but when I have no other means to message his girlfriend I’m gonna go through to the family to let them know what’s happening.

 

[stardust1]

He was blocked on everything I had him on, he found me on social media i didn’t have him on and didn’t think he would come looking but he did and then messaged me out the blue I don’t find the whole situation funny but I do find funny is the police woman’s reaction to the situation.
no need to to message the family but when I have no other means to message his girlfriend I’m gonna go through to the family to let them know what’s happening.

Well i’m sorry but I agree it boarders on harassment. The sheer embarrassment she could have felt over something that she is not to blame for is awful

 

[Blondeangel2515]

You are in an advice thread, you clearly want people to tell you did the right think and how wonderful you are. Instead everyone has seen how unhinged you are. Just stop. You can say the police woman understood all you like, it’s likely she just humoured you.

The police woman did understand me completely you can say I’m unhinged all you like as I said before that’s your opinion I asked for advice on the situation when it happened I merely just gave people an update on what happened and had a little vent interpret that as you wish you’ve been doing it all night
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Well i’m sorry but I agree it boarders on harassment. The sheer embarrassment she could have felt over something that she is not to blame for is awful

Well that’s your opinion. I didn’t know what else to do, she needed to be aware I’ve made her aware and the police was satisfied with my reasoning they weren’t bothered that much took them a week to even do the complaint

 

[JoeBloggs]

Well that’s your opinion. I didn’t know what else to do, she needed to be aware I’ve made her aware and the police was satisfied with my reasoning they weren’t bothered that much took them a week to even do the complaint

Nothing, you didn’t need to do anything! She doesn’t need to be made aware. She’s blocked you and you’ve gone out of your way to harass her. If you continue you will be the one in hot water not him.

There is no point you posting, the advice you’re getting isn’t getting through to you. We’ve got the update, now take everyone’s advice and move on before this gets even more out of hand.

 

[littlepup]

I asked for advice on the situation when it happened I merely just gave people an update on what happened and had a little vent

You gave the situation no context and implied you were the one who was completely innocent as though he was harassing you.
Was he giving it the sexual content this time or did you save up the messages from the previous time and send them? You obviously replied to him. Why reply then send the messages to the ex or family? Does that not seem strange to you? You are not the good person here. The innocent one is his girlfriend and her family and they are the ones you are continuing to drag into it.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

Nothing, you didn’t need to do anything! She doesn’t need to be made aware. She’s blocked you and you’ve gone out of your way to harass her. If you continue you will be the one in hot water not him.

There is no point you posting, the advice you’re getting isn’t getting through to you. We’ve got the update, now take everyone’s advice and move on before this gets even more out of hand.

But I don’t need to take anyone’s advice I’ve deleted his number he’s blocked on everything he can’t message me so I won’t be making her aware of his duck boy behaviour again doesn’t seem to be getting through to you

 

[CallMeHollywood]

But I don’t need to take anyone’s advice I’ve deleted his number he’s blocked on everything he can’t message me so I won’t be making her aware of his duck boy behaviour again doesn’t seem to be getting through to you

So you’re here to brag. Nice.

 

[stardust1]

Has anyone over here dealt with PALS to get a second opinion via the NHS? If so how did it go?

 

[Blondeangel2515]

So you’re here to brag. Nice.

Not to brag but just saying the way the police woman spoke on that call the reaction to it all lives rent free in my head

but to be fair I thought it was a bit unprofessional with her saying I’ve got a lucky escape I didn’t think they were allowed to say things like on like give an opinion on stuff

 

[littlepup]

Not to brag but just saying the way the police woman spoke on that call the reaction to it all lives rent free in my head

but to be fair I thought it was a bit unprofessional with her saying I’ve got a lucky escape I didn’t think they were allowed to say things like on like give an opinion on stuff

HE lives rent free in youre head and the fact he moved in with another girl.
You said just earlier this evening you’d contact the family again. Anyway, I hope some of this is finally getting through.

@Snippysnips I’d put a message on Tripadvisor if you’re a member, to find a good place to stop off. It’s good for stuff like that.

 

[LaBlonde]

But I don’t need to take anyone’s advice I’ve deleted his number he’s blocked on everything he can’t message me so I won’t be making her aware of his duck boy behaviour again doesn’t seem to be getting through to you

with respect, you’ve been posting this on the dating thread for actual months where you were told (multiple times) to leave this girl alone. i have no clue how that progressed to messaging their families but i guess also is proven in your first sentence. you don’t take anyone’s advice. leave them alone and move on with your life.