The advice thread for random problems #3

[littlepup]

Just an update from my problem at the weekend
Phoned the police back after that harassment claim and apparently it was because I sent screenshots of my ex messaging me to his current girlfriends family. My ex and his girlfriend saying I sent her family sexual messages like yes I did they were screenshots of what your boyfriend was sending me and I sent them to your family to make you aware so I don’t get abuse and because you blocked me. Making out I sent random sexual images to her family

like what did they think I would say to the police over this? When they know I have screenshots that I sent to them apparently he didn’t even tell the police he was messaging me in March and a week after I snitched he done the claim.
Why waste police time on this petty thing and now he’s made himself a right tit even the woman on the phone sounded like she was face palming at it. She’s closed the case and said I had a lucky escape

Sorry but this is also something you’ve been posting about for a long time too. (I have something approaching eidetic memory).
Everyone said block him and move on. The guy is a moron to keep messaging you but you’ve now actually got a police report against you because if this too-ing and fro-ing now. Stop wasting your life and endangering yourself with this idiot. Sending his girlfriend screenshots months ago is one thing, sendiing them to her family is unessecary - just block him!

 

[Snippysnips]

Not so much a problem but more advice, going down to Blackpool in a few weeks time, we are leaving from central Scotland

Is there anywhere we could stop off that's nice for lunch? Or even a wander around, we will have more or less the full day to do whatever, my dad isn't fond of the service stop off places because of price so looking for somewhere along the motorway we could pull off an go see, it will be a Sunday we are driving down

 

[JoeBloggs]

Sorry but this is also something you’ve been posting about for a long time too. (I have something approaching eidetic memory).
Everyone said block him and move on. The guy is a moron to keep messaging you but you’ve now actually got a police report against you because if this too-ing and fro-ing now. Stop wasting your life and endangering yourself with this idiot. Sending his girlfriend screenshots months ago is one thing, sendiing them to her family is unessecary - just block him!

I agree, what are getting out of sending screenshots to his girlfriends family? She’s blocked you, she doesn’t want to know. You’ve dragged her family into it and that’s not fair. It doesn’t matter that he was messaging you, stop engaging with this man, block and move on before you end up with this against your name.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

I agree, what are getting out of sending screenshots to his girlfriends family? She’s blocked you, she doesn’t want to know. You’ve dragged her family into it and that’s not fair. It doesn’t matter that he was messaging you, stop engaging with this man, block and move on before you end up with this against your name.

because she needed to know what he was doing behind her back and I knew her family would let her know maybe she should sort her boyfriend out and make sure he’s not messaging any other girls. What did I get out of it hopefully some bloody peace I rather have a name known I let them know when they’re being mugged off then someone that lets guys think they can get away with it from turning a blind eye and ignoring it but yeah over now thank duck

 

[JoeBloggs]

because she needed to know what he was doing behind her back and I knew her family would let her know maybe she should sort her boyfriend out and make sure he’s not messaging any other girls. What did I get out of it hopefully some bloody peace I rather have a name known I let them know when they’re being mugged off then someone that lets guys think they can get away with it from turning a blind eye and ignoring it but yeah over now thank duck

YOU think she needs to know, some people would rather turn a blind eye. I presume she is an adult, you’ve messaged her before and she’s blocked you. Take that as a hint that she doesn’t want to know and that’s on her and has nothing to do with you. Leave it alone and let her make her own mistakes if she chooses to stay with him. I think you’ve taken this too far, step away and become the bigger person. I get he hurt you, and he will likely hurt her but she needs to discover that herself.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

Thankyou for your replies. Too ill for hoarding uk. Sorry for repeating myself. I shouldn’t have mentioned it, it’s just I can’t mention my conditions!
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Not for the first time, we really need an emoji!

I’m glad it’s sorted for you!

Thanks i really appreciate. Glad it’s over but I’m sure they’re gonna feel absolutely stupid when the police officer phones them she was fab and understanding I think it’s something they must get often as she seem to have had a light bulb moment in the middle of the conversation say when explained the situation
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YOU think she needs to know, some people would rather turn a blind eye. I presume she is an adult, you’ve messaged her before and she’s blocked you. Take that as a hint that she doesn’t want to know and that’s on her and has nothing to do with you. Leave it alone and let her make her own mistakes if she chooses to stay with him. I think you’ve taken this too far, step away and become the bigger person. I get he hurt you, and he will likely hurt her but she needs to discover that herself.

Nah I’ll message her again if he ends up messaging me again she may not want to know but I rather give her the information then she can decide what she wants to do with it. Leaving it alone will make him think he can keep doing it and it’s no wonder cheating is normalised that’s days.
He hasn’t even hurt me I’m being the bigger person by letting her know what he’s doing while she’s out shopping and I’m letting him know he can’t get one over on me least she knows he’s mugging her off and she needs to keep tabs on him

 

[stardust1]

Thanks i really appreciate. Glad it’s over but I’m sure they’re gonna feel absolutely stupid when the police officer phones them she was fab and understanding I think it’s something they must get often as she seem to have had a light bulb moment in the middle of the conversation say when explained the situation
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Nah I’ll message her again if he ends up messaging me again she may not want to know but I rather give her the information then she can decide what she wants to do with it. Leaving it alone will make him think he can keep doing it and it’s no wonder cheating is normalised that’s days.
He hasn’t even hurt me I’m being the bigger person by letting her know what he’s doing while she’s out shopping and I’m letting him know he can’t get one over on me least she knows he’s mugging her off and she needs to keep tabs on him

You have been reported for harassment and your seriously still going to message her again?! Honestly mind your own business. Block him change your number ask your friend to delete him too then he has no way to message you. This whole thing is just stupid and you are bringing it on your self now

 

[Blondeangel2515]

You have been reported for harassment and your seriously still going to message her again?! Honestly mind your own business. Block him change your number ask your friend to delete him too then he has no way to message you. This whole thing is just stupid and you are bringing it on your self now

If he does I would message her again because he has no way of contacting me now

 

[saltandvinegarcrisps]

Thanks i really appreciate. Glad it’s over but I’m sure they’re gonna feel absolutely stupid when the police officer phones them she was fab and understanding I think it’s something they must get often as she seem to have had a light bulb moment in the middle of the conversation say when explained the situation
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Nah I’ll message her again if he ends up messaging me again she may not want to know but I rather give her the information then she can decide what she wants to do with it. Leaving it alone will make him think he can keep doing it and it’s no wonder cheating is normalised that’s days.
He hasn’t even hurt me I’m being the bigger person by letting her know what he’s doing while she’s out shopping and I’m letting him know he can’t get one over on me least she knows he’s mugging her off and she needs to keep tabs on him

You sound super unhinged, how old are you?

 

[littlepup]

If he does I would message her again because he has no way of contacting me now

I don’t even want to know how you got hold of her family’s numbers but she has made her decision by blocking you. It’s not for you to decide what she needs to know. That is indeed harassment. For some reason you refuse to block him, to trap him? The guy is an idiot to message but it’s not your crusade. This has been going on for ever now. You’ve been obsessing. Checking if he’s unblocked you etc. Just get on with your life.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

You sound super unhinged, how old are you?

Not unhinged I just find the whole thing laughable that they forgot to mention that he was messaging me and what I sent was the stuff he was saying to me even the woman found it odd and strange

 

[cowtastrophe]

I don‘t know if I’m looking for advice specifically, I suppose I just want to know if I did the wrong or right thing.

Long story short, I occasionally help out managing an Airbnb. A guest has turned up who is clearly suffering from some severe mental health issues and not taking his meds. I ended up having to go and welfare check him twice over the weekend on my own and today it all blew up when his family called me and basically dumped the whole lot in my lap. I had to call the police and spent hours on the phone to mental health services who were bleeping useless. I didn’t even want to get involved but there was an incident where he approached some random people outside the flat and tried to get them to come in. I think it’s sort of resolved for now though he wouldn’t leave as he’d paid but now my manager is implying I blew things out of all proportion and I’m really ducked off. The flat is apparently a mess and a new guest is due in the same day he’s saying he will leave.

The first thing the police did was remove all the knives and scissors but apparently I overreacted.

 

[saltandvinegarcrisps]

Not unhinged I just find the whole thing laughable that they forgot to mention that he was messaging me and what I sent was the stuff he was saying to me even the woman found it odd and strange

No one cares though you have repeatedly said the same thing across multiple threads. Poor woman's family, they did right thing reporting you.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

No one cares though you have repeatedly said the same thing across multiple threads. Poor woman's family, they did right thing reporting you.

Not really because they wasted police time

 

[JoeBloggs]

Not really because they wasted police time

Oh come on, grow up! You’re looking more like a psycho ex. You can reiterate he messaged you as many times as you like but it’s making you look worse. It’s a harsh truth but move on.

 

[littlepup]

Not really because they wasted police time

This has been part of your life 5 years +, maybe 2 years since you told her. Just leave it now. It is harassment, you’ve managed to get out of it, but it is. They don’t want to know, you’ve searched them up to find them and send them this information.
I was a bit astounded upthread where someone basically gave you advice how to turn it on to him and just took your word for it, perhaps though because I remembered the posts from before. If this was a bloke against a woman I feel like it’d be clear cut obsession.
A reminder of your previous posts.
If this is real, you need to get some help for your inability to let it go.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

Oh come on, grow up! You’re looking more like a psycho ex. You can reiterate he messaged you as many times as you like but it’s making you look worse. It’s a harsh truth but move on.

Not half truth and I am grown up I’ve let a girl know she’s been mugged off again and at least she knows and is aware of this now she has the information and she can do whatever she wants with that info it’s her choice.
I know I’ve done the right thing and I’m not in the wrong with what I done I know if I was in her position I would want to know

 

[BaffledWarthog]

Not really because they wasted police time

You think they've wasted police time because you can't see anything wrong with what you're doing To the family they're probably concerned what your next step is going to be. Maybe if people stopped replying to you about the problems you bring on yourself and the legal battles you're going to potentially bring yourself into you'll be humbled and grow up.

 

[Blondeangel2515]

You think they've wasted police time because you can't see anything wrong with what you're doing To the family they're probably concerned what your next step is going to be. Maybe if people stopped replying to you about the problems you bring on yourself and the legal battles you're going to potentially bring yourself into you'll be humbled and grow up.

No legal battle they’ve closed the case and they’ve told him not to message me again. He has no way of messaging me I am humble I did the right thing, she’s aware what he’s doing behind her back and she had a right to know. Even the police woman said she doesn’t see no point in continuing the complaint because all I did was message her family to make her aware of her boyfriends behaviour. No I’ve done nothing wrong

 

[stardust1]

Not half truth and I am grown up I’ve let a girl know she’s been mugged off again and at least she knows and is aware of this now she has the information and she can do whatever she wants with that info it’s her choice.
I know I’ve done the right thing and I’m not in the wrong with what I done I know if I was in her position I would want to know

Honestly take some accountability for your self