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I don’t know what to do — we very recently rescued a dog who had been living alone, crated a lot, but was very much loved by his parent. We have a dog a year older than him, and the rescue was besotted but didn’t listen to any of our older dogs corrections he is just 100% all the time like a puppy.
He started to settle a little and he walks well, eats well, is generally pretty good. He loves people, he’s confident, and I want to love him.
Except, he’s bitten hard twice, and just now he went crazy out of nowhere, growling lunging snapping. Luckily we’ve got him on a leash in the house so I didn’t get bit again. I’ve managed to pop him in a crate leash still on and he’s crying, and then growling if I approach to take it off.
I know sudden aggression can mean pain but he was absolutely fine literally seconds earlier, and nothing triggered it. I don’t think we’re the home for him and, I don’t think he’s fit for living with another dog.
I don’t care about getting money back from the adoption I’m happy to support them, but I’m sat here crying because I just want to give him back. I’m never going to feel safe around him, I’ve always been with dogs, and my boys six and though grumpy he’d never bite.
Do I get in touch with the rescue and tell her to look for a better home for him? It’s embarassing, my family and colleagues have heard all about him. But I want him to be happy, I don’t want to be stuck with a dog that could have had a better life elsewhere. And I know getting a trainer in is an option, but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust him.
i just need to get this out somewhere, and perhaps I’m being a bit dramatic about it. But we’ve wanted to rescue for years and it’s just a nightmare.
He started to settle a little and he walks well, eats well, is generally pretty good. He loves people, he’s confident, and I want to love him.
Except, he’s bitten hard twice, and just now he went crazy out of nowhere, growling lunging snapping. Luckily we’ve got him on a leash in the house so I didn’t get bit again. I’ve managed to pop him in a crate leash still on and he’s crying, and then growling if I approach to take it off.
I know sudden aggression can mean pain but he was absolutely fine literally seconds earlier, and nothing triggered it. I don’t think we’re the home for him and, I don’t think he’s fit for living with another dog.
I don’t care about getting money back from the adoption I’m happy to support them, but I’m sat here crying because I just want to give him back. I’m never going to feel safe around him, I’ve always been with dogs, and my boys six and though grumpy he’d never bite.
Do I get in touch with the rescue and tell her to look for a better home for him? It’s embarassing, my family and colleagues have heard all about him. But I want him to be happy, I don’t want to be stuck with a dog that could have had a better life elsewhere. And I know getting a trainer in is an option, but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust him.
i just need to get this out somewhere, and perhaps I’m being a bit dramatic about it. But we’ve wanted to rescue for years and it’s just a nightmare.
Unfortunately it's best he goes back, we got a rescue years ago that turned out like this, we let the shelter know an they made sure she went to a home with someone who was experienced in what to do, she never bit but we would have to put her on a leash when someone come over because she would go mental, she would only let one of us feed her, another to walk her, another to play with her etc an she also had outbursts like that, one moment she was fine the next going crazy barking an growling
As hard as it was, we released she just wasn't right for us (me an my bro were kids at the time an my mum freaked she may bite) we weren't trained to deal with her or had the experience to know what to do, she in the end went to a dog handler
It's heartbreaking when need to go back, but sometimes it just isn't meant to be, it's isn't fair to you or the dog if you now can't trust him as he will pick up on that, it might put people off visiting as well if they feel they can't trust the dog especially if they want to come round with kids, I'd say to the rescue place an they will be able to re-home him but at least they now know what he's like an can re-home accordingly
Are you in England? Do you have a council tenancy or private? Go down to your local council and/ or CAB. You can get help and advice
Citizens Advice Bureau
what sort of help can be offered, i called the council they were annoyed and said court can either suspend or go ahead with eviction. im worried sick, i have soial anxiety, all day ive been worried about going in tommorow
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what sort of help can be offered, i called the council they were annoyed and said court can either suspend or go ahead with eviction. im worried sick, i have soial anxiety, all day ive been worried about going in tommorow
They can offer you advice on what your rights are and what options (if any) you have in this situation.
What is a section 8 notice? - Shelter England
A notice is the first step to eviction. Your private landlord can give you a section 8 if they have a reason to evict you. For example, missed rent payments.
england.shelter.org.uk
Please try not to worry. Make sure you go there and don’t bury your head in the sand. It’s really unlikely they will evict you if you make an offer to pay the arrears. Even if they say no to your payment plan, it’s up to the court so make sure you go to any court hearing and explain how much you can afford to the Judge. It helps to write down your income and outgoings to show what you can afford
going to court sounds so daunting, but ive been given a date to leave so im really worried this is it.
Question: can patients (in uk so nhs) be refused care if they say no to students being involved/responsible for treatment/care assessments via council? I’ve a rare condition that they are not trained in and know nothing about so it’s just being asked all the time how to spell it and then them, wrongly, assuming it’s ‘just’ ME. I’ve been asked to attend a social services assessment but it will only be with a student. If I don’t then no help will be offered.
When first diagnosed I did help with training but it badly effected my mental health always explaining, by the time I’d finished appointments were over.
Any ideas?!
When first diagnosed I did help with training but it badly effected my mental health always explaining, by the time I’d finished appointments were over.
Any ideas?!
I would check if it is actually only a student they should have a supervisor at all times. In healthcare you can always say no, I assume the same would apply with the council. I’m a bit confused though as your NHS care wouldn’t be dependent on any social services/council assessment.
Sorry I didn’t explain myself properly. Supervision isn't provided with students. I meant each separately so in the case of nhs care I refused a student dr alone and was told I wouldn’t be seen then and likewise social services assessment by phone. I’ve been clear I don’t want students involved but was told if I refused then no help allowed as they’re teaching hospital/surgery/social services department.
Sorry for confusion, am not well at moment so struggling to explain!
Sorry for confusion, am not well at moment so struggling to explain!
You do have the right to refuse being seen by a student, even in a teaching hospital but I suspect they use the student due to a lack of staffing and therefore you may struggle to be seen as quickly. If it is a requirement for you then stick to your guns, they cannot refuse to help you.
Thankyou.
Unfortunately qualified staff who are supervising are too concerned with these staff getting some experience in my condition/issues to stop and think that I’m not happy with that.
A simple example using a common issue I have would be hoarding and being told they need to experience this to help them, I’ve no say in the matter, even after saying I do not want that, it was humiliating and belittling being called filthy and stupid for letting things get out of control and them snatching my belongings and throwing them away. No support or help. It was devastating and the issue is now much much worse. Yet again only offer is group of students with bin liners. They get to put on their cv they’re experienced helping with hoarding when in reality they’re not.
Unfortunately qualified staff who are supervising are too concerned with these staff getting some experience in my condition/issues to stop and think that I’m not happy with that.
A simple example using a common issue I have would be hoarding and being told they need to experience this to help them, I’ve no say in the matter, even after saying I do not want that, it was humiliating and belittling being called filthy and stupid for letting things get out of control and them snatching my belongings and throwing them away. No support or help. It was devastating and the issue is now much much worse. Yet again only offer is group of students with bin liners. They get to put on their cv they’re experienced helping with hoarding when in reality they’re not.
I remember you posts from different threads around the boards for a few years and am sad for you to see that nothing is changing. I think at this stage you need to think about exactly what it s you want, write it down and see if there's a way to get it.
I seem to remember you can't get help except for students to come and clean out your hoard by simply throwing it in the trash, that the social services have kind of signed you off with no further support and you're struggling financially and emotionally. I think you've also said that you can't get any help from charities, family or friends.
So I guess that leaves you with no options at this stage but to accept some student help or start over with accessing other services from a fresh stand point. Would it be possible for you to do some sorting of you hoard on your own to section off some things that you'd willing for the students to take? What help exactly would you like if not disposal? Therapy, organisation? Do you feel you feel you could make the hoarding more manageable with these things in place?
The problem is every service is stretched beyond anything we have ever had before. I've read your posts before and I cannot imagine how hard things are right now but any free help will be limited and from memory you don't have the means for private therapy/help. You mention it is not the help you need, what help do you need? Have you tried Hording UK?
Just an update from my problem at the weekend
Phoned the police back after that harassment claim and apparently it was because I sent screenshots of my ex messaging me to his current girlfriends family. My ex and his girlfriend saying I sent her family sexual messages
like yes I did they were screenshots of what your boyfriend was sending me and I sent them to your family to make you aware so I don’t get abuse and because you blocked me. Making out I sent random sexual images to her family
like what did they think I would say to the police over this? When they know I have screenshots that I sent to them apparently he didn’t even tell the police he was messaging me in March and a week after I snitched he done the claim.
Why waste police time on this petty thing and now he’s made himself a right tit even the woman on the phone sounded like she was face palming at it. She’s closed the case and said I had a lucky escape
Phoned the police back after that harassment claim and apparently it was because I sent screenshots of my ex messaging me to his current girlfriends family. My ex and his girlfriend saying I sent her family sexual messages
like yes I did they were screenshots of what your boyfriend was sending me and I sent them to your family to make you aware so I don’t get abuse and because you blocked me. Making out I sent random sexual images to her family like what did they think I would say to the police over this? When they know I have screenshots that I sent to them apparently he didn’t even tell the police he was messaging me in March and a week after I snitched he done the claim.
Why waste police time on this petty thing and now he’s made himself a right tit even the woman on the phone sounded like she was face palming at it. She’s closed the case and said I had a lucky escape
Thankyou for your replies. Too ill for hoarding uk. Sorry for repeating myself. I shouldn’t have mentioned it, it’s just I can’t mention my conditions!
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Not for the first time, we really need anJust an update from my problem at the weekend
Phoned the police back after that harassment claim and apparently it was because I sent screenshots of my ex messaging me to his current girlfriends family. My ex and his girlfriend saying I sent her family sexual messages
like what did they think I would say to the police over this? When they know I have screenshots that I sent to them apparently he didn’t even tell the police he was messaging me in March and a week after I snitched he done the claim.
Why waste police time on this petty thing and now he’s made himself a right tit even the woman on the phone sounded like she was face palming at it. She’s closed the case and said I had a lucky escape
emoji!I’m glad it’s sorted for you!
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