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Tips for minimising dust in your home? I just moved into a new flat in the city (as opposed to the suburbs) and feel like I need to give up work to focus on dusting full time. I’ve never lived anywhere with so much dust! There’s no building work going on nearby and pollution isn’t a huge issue….I have no idea what’s causing the volume of dust.
that is a very tricky situation. Does he have any friends? I think i would honestly bite the bullet and tell them you want to see your dad alone then yiu can re asses the situation after the response you get. I don’t think that would be an unreasonable request from you xThanks for your message. He's vulnerable in the sense that I think he is undiagnosed on the autism spectrum, just the way he is makes me think that. I have a feeling he may have 'love bombed' her, and doesn't want to lose her, so goes along with whatever she wants. One of my brothers lived with them both during lockdown and apparently she was super controlling, not letting him finish sentences etc, that was before he sold his house. His behaviour has changed since he has met her, he has given up a lot of his interests, and it's always her way or no way.
My siblings don't like her.. they get on with her, but only for my Dad's sake. They've tried talking to my Dad as well and he just brushes them off.
Thank you for responding. Unfortunately, she works from home and they both live in a flat. They both live out of the area now, about 1 hr drive away. I suppose I could 'pop in', or arrange a walk when she's working or something, I might suggest that to him actually. I think he would time it with his partner's work/lunch time and ask her along too though, which makes it super awkward because I don't then want to say 'Actually, I was wondering if my Dad could come on his own...'
They've made quite a few big purchases since my Dad sold his house, which makes me wonder whether it is what he really wants. He's had her whole flat redecorated, new flooring etc and they're just about to fit a new kitchen.. I have no idea what their arrangement is either, whether he pays her rent, or helps with bills, or even whether his name is on the mortgage (highly doubt it, as he's retired).
I feel like if they were to split up, he'd have nothing - no house, and little money.
You could try an Air purifier with a HEPA filter. I can’t recommend a particular one though as I’m yet to bite the bullet and get one.
Do you have woodern floors? My house is constantly dusty but I put it down to a husband and two cats!
My daughter choked on water last night and was sick because of the coughing. She only sicked up the water. I'm usually a very strict 48hrs at home after sickness kinda Mum but she is begging to go to school because its a fun dress up day. My husband is saying no, she was sick, she needs to stay home, but because it was only because she choked I'm unsure. What are your thoughts?
I would send her in, if you are 100% sure it's not a bug. Maybe mention to the teacher though, just in case the fact she was sick comes up in conversation
I’d send her in and tell her not to mention it!I would send her in, if you are 100% sure it's not a bug. Maybe mention to the teacher though, just in case the fact she was sick comes up in conversation
I’d send her in. My son is a vegetarian on a predominantly plant based diet and he often has loose poo (sorry!!) and the school said it’s my judgement as to if I send him In because otherwise he’d have horrific attendance (like an absence a week!) the 48 hour thing exists for bugs.
Have we got any HR professionals on this thread? I need some advice on when to tell work I’m pregnant.
I’m up for a promotion that’s been promised to me since February but no contracts or paperwork filed with HR yet (they’re so tit and slow). Im at 12 weeks, so I can technically tell them now, but also don’t have to. Should I wait until that promotion has been contractually agreed to tell them? Should I tell them before it’s agreed to force their hand a bit? Im guessing there may be issues with discrimination if they then don’t give it to me. I’m fed up of waiting for an answer to be honest.
I’m up for a promotion that’s been promised to me since February but no contracts or paperwork filed with HR yet (they’re so tit and slow). Im at 12 weeks, so I can technically tell them now, but also don’t have to. Should I wait until that promotion has been contractually agreed to tell them? Should I tell them before it’s agreed to force their hand a bit? Im guessing there may be issues with discrimination if they then don’t give it to me. I’m fed up of waiting for an answer to be honest.
I am not in HR, but according to the law - Employees must tell their employer about the pregnancy at least 15 weeks before the beginning of the week the baby is due.
Yes, that’s fine. I’m only 12 weeks. I’ve got time to play with which is why I’m unsure what to do.
Yes! I never thought I’d miss carpet but I suppose carpet probably attracts the dust as much, you just can’t see it
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If you’re not sure how ethical they are in their dealings with employees why would telling them force their hand? They could just deny you the promotion and say they were going to deny it anyway. I don’t see what there is to gain from telling them, it could only negatively influence your outcome if you have a feeling anyway that they’re not necessarily people who do things by the book.
Obviously if you need accommodations for your pregnancy they’d need to know at that stage. Hope it’s all going well for you.
Effectively if you have carpet the dust is in it, where on wooden floors it can only sit on it so while it appears to be more dusty is it probably not but you can just see move of it. I am not sure if that makes it better!Yes! I never thought I’d miss carpet but I suppose carpet probably attracts the dust as much, you just can’t see it
I did just that. I said they would send you home and tell me off!
Me again. So ratty has been back. Left a couple of nice ‘presents’ (poo) on the garden pavement which my neighbours have walked through the house. My (lovely) neighbour a few doors down has been forced to remove their bird feeder and tidy their garden because of ratty. My landlord, who it looked like had done the garden actually has just strummed the grass. The drains are blocked and the bins have not been moved so there’s all food/dog/pet tit all around them. The fresh waste bin my nightmare neighbour seems to think is just for them has been dumped in the garden, so all you can eat buffet for ratty - as they won’t tolerate others using it (so why don’t they just have it in theirs then?!).
Theyve not long come in from smoking, making a racket and dumping their cigarettes in the dry leaves piled in the garden by the bins.
The landlord doesn’t understand why they need to sort the bins, get rid of the big pile of dry leaves and remove the mass of ivy growing over the pavement meaning people can’t walk on it, apparently just cutting the stalks is enough. Pretty certainly ratty is living in the ivy. Literally all the other properties have been sorted out.
Neighbour is being a nightmare making a racket middle of night and early morning (think 3am/6am) and by racket I don’t just mean noise (have earplugs) they’re jumping around causing my walls (that are not brick) to vibrate and hurting me.
Last landlord contact was, and I quote ‘get a hobby’ I’m the one the bloody council are bothering about the garden. Thr back garden is at least six feet deep in various weeds and god knows what else ruining next doors property.
I’m still being harassed on FB as well. Some what is, for me, really hurtful stuff about my mental health. I can get zero support as everyone says ‘too ill’ except services who when concerns are raised say I’m fine
Theyve not long come in from smoking, making a racket and dumping their cigarettes in the dry leaves piled in the garden by the bins.
The landlord doesn’t understand why they need to sort the bins, get rid of the big pile of dry leaves and remove the mass of ivy growing over the pavement meaning people can’t walk on it, apparently just cutting the stalks is enough. Pretty certainly ratty is living in the ivy. Literally all the other properties have been sorted out.
Neighbour is being a nightmare making a racket middle of night and early morning (think 3am/6am) and by racket I don’t just mean noise (have earplugs) they’re jumping around causing my walls (that are not brick) to vibrate and hurting me.
Last landlord contact was, and I quote ‘get a hobby’ I’m the one the bloody council are bothering about the garden. Thr back garden is at least six feet deep in various weeds and god knows what else ruining next doors property.
I’m still being harassed on FB as well. Some what is, for me, really hurtful stuff about my mental health. I can get zero support as everyone says ‘too ill’ except services who when concerns are raised say I’m fine
I could really use some advice about a friendship I'm struggling with. We work together, so it's difficult because it's a mixed context. The situation was that we had a company event where we were talking to one of our partners and she afterwards criticised me quite severly about talking over her the entire time; and also brought up a different incident where I stood up for her when she was bullied by a mutual teammate - claming I percieve her as less than, and incompetent, thus the talking over her, and stepping in when it was neither wanted nor neccessary (according to her) with the bullying.
I'm angry but I don't know how justified it is. I thought the event went well and we had a fun time with the partner, I did not get a bad vibe at all. She claims the partner was impatient with me and unhappy about my behaviour - I can't see that but she might be right.
As for the bullying and perceiving her as "less than" - well... she does have the girly girl "help me you're a strong man" act down to a T, which is part cultural (different country of origin). It's a sensitive topic and I don't want to be cruel and throw that in her face that a lot of the reactions she gets isn't because my coworkers inherently disrespect women; I'm a woman too, and never felt that way with my coworkers. Instead, it's because she unconsciously uses the "helpless doe" act when she needs help, and that creates a certain type of response.
I accept and agree with her that I overstepped a boundary by bringing our friendship into a work context and behaving like I would with a friend, not a coworker; but I strongly resent being the only one with a responsibility here - that her behaviour is fine and dandy and has nothing to do with the reactions she gets - instead everyone else needs to change around her to accomodate her instead.
I want to talk to her about this eventually but I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I won't take any of the blame; and I also want to be cognisant of the cultural differences as not to make her uncomfortable, because that happens a lot when we talk. Whether it being about dating where she doesn't get my perspective at all, or cultural phenomena of our respective countries. It's like we don't really understand what the other is saying.
I'm angry but I don't know how justified it is. I thought the event went well and we had a fun time with the partner, I did not get a bad vibe at all. She claims the partner was impatient with me and unhappy about my behaviour - I can't see that but she might be right.
As for the bullying and perceiving her as "less than" - well... she does have the girly girl "help me you're a strong man" act down to a T, which is part cultural (different country of origin). It's a sensitive topic and I don't want to be cruel and throw that in her face that a lot of the reactions she gets isn't because my coworkers inherently disrespect women; I'm a woman too, and never felt that way with my coworkers. Instead, it's because she unconsciously uses the "helpless doe" act when she needs help, and that creates a certain type of response.
I accept and agree with her that I overstepped a boundary by bringing our friendship into a work context and behaving like I would with a friend, not a coworker; but I strongly resent being the only one with a responsibility here - that her behaviour is fine and dandy and has nothing to do with the reactions she gets - instead everyone else needs to change around her to accomodate her instead.
I want to talk to her about this eventually but I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I won't take any of the blame; and I also want to be cognisant of the cultural differences as not to make her uncomfortable, because that happens a lot when we talk. Whether it being about dating where she doesn't get my perspective at all, or cultural phenomena of our respective countries. It's like we don't really understand what the other is saying.
Here’s one for you guys 
Is there such thing as toe nail extensions? I promise I’m not nuts, I am a CHRONIC nail picker and when I was about 12 I had ingrown toenails due to this. When I was 18, it started happening again so I got pedicures for a while and they used to put false nails on so I couldn’t pick them. Fast forward and it’s happening again but I am way too scared to walk into a salon and ask in case it’s not normal
Is there such thing as toe nail extensions? I promise I’m not nuts, I am a CHRONIC nail picker and when I was about 12 I had ingrown toenails due to this. When I was 18, it started happening again so I got pedicures for a while and they used to put false nails on so I couldn’t pick them. Fast forward and it’s happening again but I am way too scared to walk into a salon and ask in case it’s not normal
you can get acrylic put on them to strengthen and lengthen them xHere’s one for you guys
Is there such thing as toe nail extensions? I promise I’m not nuts, I am a CHRONIC nail picker and when I was about 12 I had ingrown toenails due to this. When I was 18, it started happening again so I got pedicures for a while and they used to put false nails on so I couldn’t pick them. Fast forward and it’s happening again but I am way too scared to walk into a salon and ask in case it’s not normal
That’s what I was thinking of! X
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