The advice thread for random problems #2

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Not a problem but a general query:

I’ve been gifted an Amazon voucher and I have no idea what to buy! I don’t use Amazon often and when I do it’s mostly for little things I can’t find in stores (hair oil, spices etc).

The voucher is for £20 and I want to make the most of it. Anyone a frequent Amazon user and can give me ideas of some things I can buy?

I’ve been trying to learn how to do gel nails at home so my first thought was buying some nail art brushes or gel polish but I’m open to other suggestions.

Also I realise this is very vague and there’s a million things to buy on Amazon but my mind is blank

If you enjoy watching tv then get an amazon firestick. Curently £26.99 but wait for January sales to see if it goes down in price.
Really good for streaming on your tv and ot has all the apps on there so it’s one thing for all your services and you can take it on holiday

Otherwise I normally get really random bits. The last three things I bought was doorstops, garden hard bristle broom and pro-kolin for the dog

 

[Snippysnips]

Looking for advice on if you can report a scam in the workplace

My dad works in a carehome an does this "lottery" it's £10 a month an you only get it if your number is the bonus ball but only on specific Saturdays

His number actually come out last week but they told him that this month it needs to be the last Saturday of the month, in the 5 years he's worked there he's had it maybe a few times but they keep changing what Saturday in the month it's going be

I wish he would stop but unfortunately he's gets a bit talked into things an honestly I don't know if they are talking the elderly into this scam as well

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I’m not sure if I’ve ever asked advice on this issue before. It’s a rather difficult one.
My brother and his wife (both intheir 40’s) lives with my mum (82). My mum and my SIL dislike each other immensely and doesn’t get on at all. It’s causing a really toxic environment and my mun is deeply unhappy. I’m so worried about her.

Now the big problem is I’m in the UK and they are in South Africa. I don’t feel like I can interfere too much as I’m not there to give support.
I am in a priviliged financial position that I could bring my mum to the UK and she would become a dependant on me. She however absolutely refuses. I don’t blame her.

I honestly don’t know what to do. His wife ignores my mum. They are all messy and my mum works far to hard to keep the house clean, they say she’s OTT.
They don’t pay any rent although my mum struggles financially. I know they don’t have a lot of money but they could afford to give some money, even £50 a month out there would make a huge difference to her.
They do BBQ’s at the house and don’t include her.
I can go on and on about these things.

I just don’t know what the solution is. I’m going in April for a visit and feel that I need to talk to my brother. But I don’t know what to say. We don’t have a close relationship but I never thought they would treat my mum like that.

I also don’t want to cause too much tit as I’m there for 3 weeks and then I leave again.
In an ideal world we’d sell the house and I’d get my mum a little flat in an OAP village or somehwere secure but again, she doesn’t want to do that.

PS this only started once my brother got married. Before that there weren’t really any issues. And although my mum isn’t perfect my SIL is really horrible. All I can think is the poonani must be really good

Looking for advice on if you can report a scam in the workplace

My dad works in a carehome an does this "lottery" it's £10 a month an you only get it if your number is the bonus ball but only on specific Saturdays

His number actually come out last week but they told him that this month it needs to be the last Saturday of the month, in the 5 years he's worked there he's had it maybe a few times but they keep changing what Saturday in the month it's going be

I wish he would stop but unfortunately he's gets a bit talked into things an honestly I don't know if they are talking the elderly into this scam as well

This is 100% a scam. Contact them and tell them you will let the police and action fraud know what is going on. Is it the care home itself or a specific person who runs this?

 

[HoGi]

Looking for advice on if you can report a scam in the workplace

My dad works in a carehome an does this "lottery" it's £10 a month an you only get it if your number is the bonus ball but only on specific Saturdays

His number actually come out last week but they told him that this month it needs to be the last Saturday of the month, in the 5 years he's worked there he's had it maybe a few times but they keep changing what Saturday in the month it's going be

I wish he would stop but unfortunately he's gets a bit talked into things an honestly I don't know if they are talking the elderly into this scam as well

Whilst it does seem like a scam, unless there is a formal syndicate style agreement with rules etc. I doubt action fraud or the police will be interested.

Best advice is for your dad to stop contributing and chalk it up as bad experience.

If however the residents are taking part that is 100% a safeguarding issue that needs escalating.

 

[Rxt156]

Looking for advice on if you can report a scam in the workplace

My dad works in a carehome an does this "lottery" it's £10 a month an you only get it if your number is the bonus ball but only on specific Saturdays

His number actually come out last week but they told him that this month it needs to be the last Saturday of the month, in the 5 years he's worked there he's had it maybe a few times but they keep changing what Saturday in the month it's going be

I wish he would stop but unfortunately he's gets a bit talked into things an honestly I don't know if they are talking the elderly into this scam as well

Hate when people are being taken advantage of. Proper boils my piss! The best he can do is withdraw. Possibly raise with higher up managers owners as I bet whoever runs it will be raking it in ££££

 

[littlepup]

Not a problem but a general query:

I’ve been gifted an Amazon voucher and I have no idea what to buy! I don’t use Amazon often and when I do it’s mostly for little things I can’t find in stores (hair oil, spices etc).

The voucher is for £20 and I want to make the most of it. Anyone a frequent Amazon user and can give me ideas of some things I can buy?

I’ve been trying to learn how to do gel nails at home so my first thought was buying some nail art brushes or gel polish but I’m open to other suggestions.

Also I realise this is very vague and there’s a million things to buy on Amazon but my mind is blank

Lavender Violets gel sets are decent. You can get about 20 colours for £20. They sometimes go down to around £15 I think but very good value either way

 

[Snippysnips]

Whilst it does seem like a scam, unless there is a formal syndicate style agreement with rules etc. I doubt action fraud or the police will be interested.

Best advice is for your dad to stop contributing and chalk it up as bad experience.

If however the residents are taking part that is 100% a safeguarding issue that needs escalating.

Tbh I don't think there is any formal agreements with this, there's been no paperwork an from what he's said it's bascially a hand over the money situation

Hate when people are being taken advantage of. Proper boils my piss! The best he can do is withdraw. Possibly raise with higher up managers owners as I bet whoever runs it will be raking it in ££££

It angers me as well cause it literally is a piss take, am not sure if it's the mangers that's doing it or if they only know about it, unfortunately it's one of these places that if people kiss up to the managers then the managers turn a blind eye to whatever

 

[Bobbleowl90]

I need advice asap please.

Our house has a shared stop tap with both neighbours, but we also have one in the cellar too. Neighbour has a leak and he’s turned our supply off. We’ve turned it back on and explained to him what he needs to do, but he’s gone back out and turned it off again. This has happened three times. We wonder if he has dementia and he is forgetting what we’ve told him. We obviously can’t go without water all day/night. What on Earth do we do?

ETA: he won’t let anybody in his house to take a look either.

 

[Snippysnips]

I need advice asap please.

Our house has a shared stop tap with both neighbours, but we also have one in the cellar too. Neighbour has a leak and he’s turned our supply off. We’ve turned it back on and explained to him what he needs to do, but he’s gone back out and turned it off again. This has happened three times. We wonder if he has dementia and he is forgetting what we’ve told him. We obviously can’t go without water all day/night. What on Earth do we do?

ETA: he won’t let anybody in his house to take a look either.

Does he seem he might have dementia? or like he might be doing it out of spite? Is there a water company you can report it too? If he does have dementia then you might need to report it to the water company an let them know your neighbour is turning it off because he has a leak an you feel it's because you think he may have dementia, perhaps they can deal more with it because really the leak should be getting fixed an your neighbour might not be getting anyone out to it

 

[Hastaggifted]

I brushed my teeth last night and went off to bed, woke up a few hours later with the most disgusting taste in my mouth. Like a kind of ear wax and stomach bile mix. Had a drink of water which made it worse. Jumped out of bed and brushed my teeth again, it settled it a bit but not fully. Went back to sleep, woke up and the taste was in full force. Brushed my teeth, had breakfast, trying to get the taste out of my mouth but its still there. Its affecting everything I eat or drink. Google isn't very helpful. Any idea?!

 

[Snowjoke]

I brushed my teeth last night and went off to bed, woke up a few hours later with the most disgusting taste in my mouth. Like a kind of ear wax and stomach bile mix. Had a drink of water which made it worse. Jumped out of bed and brushed my teeth again, it settled it a bit but not fully. Went back to sleep, woke up and the taste was in full force. Brushed my teeth, had breakfast, trying to get the taste out of my mouth but its still there. Its affecting everything I eat or drink. Google isn't very helpful. Any idea?!

My taste was like this when I had covid

 

[chickhicks86]

I brushed my teeth last night and went off to bed, woke up a few hours later with the most disgusting taste in my mouth. Like a kind of ear wax and stomach bile mix. Had a drink of water which made it worse. Jumped out of bed and brushed my teeth again, it settled it a bit but not fully. Went back to sleep, woke up and the taste was in full force. Brushed my teeth, had breakfast, trying to get the taste out of my mouth but its still there. Its affecting everything I eat or drink. Google isn't very helpful. Any idea?!

Sinus or throat infection? Or did you do any cleaning with bleach? That stays up my nose for ages!

 

[LaBlonde]

My taste was like this when I had covid

same! @Hastaggifted - do you feel okay otherwise? if you start getting a headache or similar i would recommend doing a test. a weird taste that i couldn’t get rid of (like you describe) was actually my first symptom of covid.

(i also have had it once or twice as part of a really bad hangover though!)

 

[littlepup]

I brushed my teeth last night and went off to bed, woke up a few hours later with the most disgusting taste in my mouth. Like a kind of ear wax and stomach bile mix. Had a drink of water which made it worse. Jumped out of bed and brushed my teeth again, it settled it a bit but not fully. Went back to sleep, woke up and the taste was in full force. Brushed my teeth, had breakfast, trying to get the taste out of my mouth but its still there. Its affecting everything I eat or drink. Google isn't very helpful. Any idea?!

I'd give me teeth a really good floss too just to be sure n take some antacid incase it's reflux. Is it better sitting up vs laying down?

 

[Hastaggifted]

My taste was like this when I had covid

same! @Hastaggifted - do you feel okay otherwise? if you start getting a headache or similar i would recommend doing a test. a weird taste that i couldn’t get rid of (like you describe) was actually my first symptom of covid.

(i also have had it once or twice as part of a really bad hangover though!)

I had covid last week, I have tested negative since. Could this still be an ongoing side affect? It's is disgusting. I feel fine in myself and no longer coughing.

I'd give me teeth a really good floss too just to be sure n take some antacid incase it's reflux. Is it better sitting up vs laying down?

It's the same taste no matter what I do. I've flossed, scrubbed my teeth multiple times and even brushed my tongue as far back as I can possibly reach. I've used corosodyl (sp?) To try and kill the taste. I have the minty fresh taste for 5 minutes and then the ear waxy taste come back 🥲.


I have Christmas food to eat and this is ruining my life 🥲🥲

 

[LaBlonde]

I had covid last week, I have tested negative since. Could this still be an ongoing side affect? It's is disgusting. I feel fine in myself and no longer coughing.

I have Christmas food to eat and this is ruining my life 🥲🥲

oh gosh it could be! it was only at the start for me but i know a few people who had their taste affected for a little while

bless you, this is the absolute worst time to have your sense of taste messed up! make sure everyone saves some food for you!

 

[Snowjoke]

I had covid last week, I have tested negative since. Could this still be an ongoing side affect? It's is disgusting. I feel fine in myself and no longer coughing.

It's the same taste no matter what I do. I've flossed, scrubbed my teeth multiple times and even brushed my tongue as far back as I can possibly reach. I've used corosodyl (sp?) To try and kill the taste. I have the minty fresh taste for 5 minutes and then the ear waxy taste come back 🥲.


I have Christmas food to eat and this is ruining my life 🥲🥲

Ahhh no! I’d say it’s from covid. It took a wile for that to pass, couldn’t even eat toast and butter lol hope you feel better soon

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I had covid last week, I have tested negative since. Could this still be an ongoing side affect? It's is disgusting. I feel fine in myself and no longer coughing.

It's the same taste no matter what I do. I've flossed, scrubbed my teeth multiple times and even brushed my tongue as far back as I can possibly reach. I've used corosodyl (sp?) To try and kill the taste. I have the minty fresh taste for 5 minutes and then the ear waxy taste come back 🥲.


I have Christmas food to eat and this is ruining my life 🥲🥲

Jip, some people had their taste and smell affected for up to 3 months. Mine was only a few days but you shouldn't wake up feeling like there is an awful taste
Which makes me think you probably have a sinus or flu issue

 

[Slaybutter]

Omg so that’s what Covid is like I must have caught it early days. Beginning of 2020 I had a taste of skunk that lasted less than an hour. I also called a manufacturer to complain about their putrid smelling bar of soap!!!! The memories

Get better soon @Hastaggifted

eta: When OP said stomach bile and ear wax I had a Google to see if skunky is another way to describe it, and it is!! I would say congealed skunk gland really captures the experience.

 

[Snippysnips]

Does anyone sell on Etsy?

Am thinking of selling some crafts, but is it better to have a good stock so you can continuously sell or can you just put up what you have an when it's gone it's gone till you can put more up, I know eBay is probably better if you just have one of somthing but Etsy seems better for selling home made crafts