@Howdy,
@ReturningthePearls,
@Endora - thank you for the support, affirmation, peace and quietude you brought me. I can't thank you enough. And I feel guilty, because I'm not on this thread often enough and it feels like you're doing emotional labour for me - I can't apologise sufficiently. You all mean the world to me and I value you so greatly. Across the vast, dark gulf of nothingness that is the Net, I feel as though I have true friends.
My mother apologised copiously this morning. She was abject and felt wretched. I still felt bewildered and numb, though, because when people make a wholesale and unjustified attack on
me - not that which I have done, but the content of my character - and it bears no resemblence to that which I am, it's...beyond disconcerting. My mother says she is sorry for the ad hominems. That I have the greatest integrity of anyone she's met. And apologised for gaslighting me over my autism. I feel empty, nonetheless. There's a point of no return: it may be vanishingly small, smaller than a mouse's heartbreak or a high E in alto on a harp, but it is broken nonetheless.
I have to figure out what to do. From not drinking at all, I'm now having several glasses of wine to deal with my anguish. I can't stand being in my own skin. I can't bear those watching hours of the night when one is faced with the totality, the true reality of oneself, and there is no comforting barrier between 'I am' and 'what I am'.
I'm so grateful to our community, our lovely sisterhood. I had the thought earlier that death would be peaceful and sternly quelled the thought; but I do not know how I would survive without you all. The loneliness in my everyday world is crippling. My online life is blessed.
Love to all of you.
ETA: I asked my father to apologise for having disparaged my appearance (I was finally content in my own skin/face afteer so many years; yes, I used to model, but always saw myself as ugly, and had been given a complex/phobia by my schoolmates mocking my thin upper lip and double chin, the latter not affected remotely via diet or exercise: even when I was six stone at 5'10" and anorexic, The Chin was always with me). He said: 'well, I don't see why I should apologise. I have to point out your issues as I perceive them. Your profile looks unnatural and your chin is an obvious problem area.' And then, arms folded: 'so, tell me: why should I apologise?'
Typical narc.