I know I sound like a complete tool. Just borne out of frustration because in a nutshell I am bitter and jealous of everyone around me succeeding at their first attempt.
Everything I've tried has failed miserably. I've tried academia. Crashed out twice.
I've tried applying for positions in different industries. I'm always rejected. I can't seem to get my foot in the door.
I don't have any skills that's my issue. Nothing is transferable. This is where I feel like I'm trapped in customer service. I don't have skills. I just have the things that are standard,like good time keeping and reliability. That's not skills, that's just common sense. It's not like I'm a job hopper either.
I get the impression I've maybe painted myself as being lazy.
I can't exactly say that's the case. I work my absolute arse off. I will go out of my way to try and pick things up as best as I can. I think I can be a very awkward person so sales doesn't come naturally to me. My current job hasn't really trained me so I've been having to pick a lot of it up myself.
First off you're only 22, that's super young! You still have your whole life to work things out and I am so sure that they will.
I was exactly the same as you at 22 and I think a huge thing you're missing is confidence in your own potential. I was awkward and anxious and I was working jobs that were awful for me and gave me no skills, training, etc. At 22 it's so normal to not know what you want to do, and know who you are. You're still very much finding your feet as a young adult and you're in no way getting too old to start anything. I went back to uni at 26, finishing my degree this year at age 29 and I'm still not 100% sure about my next steps and what I'll be doing even a year from now and that's okay.
I think the issue is in GCSE year you're forced to pick based on your future, same with college and uni and you're expected to know what career you want before even knowing anything about what that career entails or if it's even suited to you. Our brains don't even finish developing until 25-ish how are we supposed to pick something as a child and stick with it? I know people older than me in their 30's who have changed career because what they chose back then doesn't reflect who they are now.
Skills wise, skills come with experience and time. Some people are naturally more skilled in certain things than others but they also lack in other areas. We all have strengths and weaknesses it just takes us time to figure them out. I used to be incredibly shy and awkward and struggled in the workplace a lot, since then I'm still a bit awkward but I do better in customer facing rolls because I've worked on my communication over the past few years. I lack skills in organisation and leadership and know now I could never be a manager or anything higher up and that's okay.
It sounds like your job is an issue here, lack of training made me feel incompetent and caused me to fail in those jobs. Without training how are you supposed to learn and grow? All well and good picking it up yourself (a skill in itself) but they're supposed to train you.
I'd evaluate
what you want to do, don't let societal pressure and expectations get to you. Also comparing yourself to others isn't helpful, focus on your own path.
I wanna ask do you have any hobbies or things you particularly feel drawn too? It helped me to turn my interests into education and hopefully a career one day. I work a pretty dead job at the moment whilst doing this and I will say there's nothing wrong with it, I actually really enjoy it but not something I particularly want to do forever. It wouldn't be the worst thing though.
āØļø And your only 22 have plenty of time to decide what you want to do very young x
