Trigger warning references to child sexual abuse/material
I’m in a few online communities for survivors of abusive mothers and something that’s shocked me is how many mothers were either exploiting their children sexually for financial gain (whether cash payments or to keep their partners in their home) or how many just turned a blind eye and didn’t advocate for their daughters when they disclosed. CSE is a growing area of concern for social services in the UK & there are dedicated houses for young girls at risk of/participating in it it’s such a problem. Offenders are usually family members not strangers, so these are poor young people being pimped out by family or their community. This isn’t a stretch or beyond the realms of possibility to imagine is happening with these poor girls,
especially if they’re disclosing online (imagine this is probably as disclosing to mum has yielded no protections). And as problematic as it is to say, especially if their mum is involved in some of the less palatable types of sex work herself
Also it doesn’t have to be the most extreme acts ever to meet the threshold of abuse. A lot of material found on child sex offenders’ phones are “normal” Facebook photos they’ve taken offline as they’re so accessible and they’re sick and can turn anything into material. Some they edit with AI. Even something that can appear normal like the mum doing an Instagram photoshoot can actually be a form of abuse, offenders either groom or just ask for offending parents to send over images/video to spec. CSAM can be implied material, not necessarily sexual as we as adults know it, like them saying or wearing something the offender likes or just acting normal and child like. That poor baby Wren is probably the best example of this - like having the toddler handle phallic objects or say things like “I swallowed it” which could all pass on social media platforms but are clearly CSAM made for a certain community. She’ll likely make more money off of this than her own stuff & I don’t believe she’s above refusing it. I also believe any young girl making a disclosure - as do most adults because most of us give a shit about children!!
In case she’s reading this - girl we are on your side please please please disclose to any trusted adult (a teacher, anyone employed by your school, anyone at an airport or hotel ideally in the UK, a doctor, the police (you can report online if you don’t have the privacy for a call), NSPCC) who can make an action plan for you and get you the help you really deserve!! The adults in your life are shit and failing you right now, but life does get SO much better after an abusive childhood and there is help out there