That’s how I feel at the moment, past experiences have worn me down so no more!
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Happy Christmas to us, remember how blessed we are not to have to deal with lazy men and annoying in laws!
Happy Christmas Happy Singletons 
I'm just recovering from that blasted flu which was a nightmare! It does mean though I'm not obligated to socialise this Christmas which is wonderful. 
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I'm just recovering from that blasted flu which was a nightmare! It does mean though I'm not obligated to socialise this Christmas which is wonderful. 🧍
Merry Christmas lovelies. I’m tossing and turning in bed, and thinking how great it is that a) I’m not worried about disturbing anyone other than my cat, b) I bought my own gifts so I’m getting exactly what I want and c) No compulsory family / in laws tomorrow. Can just do whatever the duck I want to. The best Christmas really!
Are we the same person?! - Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas everyone!
Hope everyone has a brilliant day and doing it your way whichever that may be. Here’s to peace and happiness
Hope everyone has a brilliant day and doing it your way whichever that may be. Here’s to peace and happiness
I watched Thursday Murder Club last night and thought their setup looked epic
I’m 62 and been single since I was 40. Married v young - under 18, split at 32 when he got someone else pregnant, diagnosed breast cancer, put me first, dated a lot! Had a good two year relationship but we were at different points in our lives, he was 10 years younger. Got another diagnosis with mastectomy- really lost confidence, built a wall to stop any rejection ( childhood trauma stuff)
Found after a few years I actually liked and grew to love my own company.
Going through another diagnosis but not once have I thought it would be easier to be in a couple.
Found after a few years I actually liked and grew to love my own company.
Going through another diagnosis but not once have I thought it would be easier to be in a couple.
This is a nice article about being single and also covers being childfree (behind a paywall but just run it through a remover site)
www.telegraph.co.uk
I’m 49, childless and haven’t had sex for five years. I’ve never been happier
After my last relationship ended eight years ago I chose to start living life on my own terms
Same! I'd love an arrangement like that, god knows how much it would cost though hahaI watched Thursday Murder Club last night and thought their setup looked epic
I've been seeing more and more rants on Tattle about husbands at home for Christmas being absolutely useless at the expense of their wives doing even more work, and I keep wondering why/if this is tolerated. From men who can't be bothered to think of a Christmas present to the ones who won't even keep track of their own laundry, it's like the world's most annoying catalogue of incompetency. I know there are a lot of factors that can keep women from leaving a bad marriage but I have to step away from the keyboard to stop myself from saying "Leave his ass" to each and every one. This is madness.
I can see the issues for women with kids and houses shared with husbands, but the ones who have no legal connection to them baffle me - a lot of the time they can just leave with not as many serious consequences. Through various feminist lines of thought, my only conclusion is that status means a lot to people. The status of being married and being in a couple carries weight, and I'm sure all of us here have been on the receiving end of pity and condescension from married people because we're single. Patriarchy tells women from childhood that the most important thing to be is to be partnered with a man, and that our lives will not be valid without it. It takes a lot to unlearn that, and I'm happy for any woman that does, even in a small way
I know loads of people who jump from unhappy relationship to unhappy relationship as they are too afraid to be alone. I value my peace too much to put up with someone else’s tit. On the few occasions I’ve tried relationships I’m always horrified at the way people behave in relationships. I’m happy to stay single and only a healthy relationship with no ridiculous drama would tempt me away from that.
I absolutely love being single. Every couple I know of- friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, etc. has a situation that is far from ideal. I’ve known a few couples that genuinely seemed to have a lovely relationship but they are of an older generation.
Someone I know was moaning at their husband for not knowing what Xmas presents they got for their kids. Hes not a bad person and takes care of the kids but obviously doesn’t share the mental load of managing the household. It must be so easy to fall into this as a woman (one of the many reasons I wouldn’t have kids). I wonder how many examples there are of a man doing true 50/50. I would be so mad if I did all that and the man gets praise for taking their kids to the park.
Happy New Year fellow singletons!
My adult daughter is out for the night and I have all the snacks, wine and remote to myself.
Also wanted to second the other posters about being in a crap relationship over the festive period. The amount of couples I’ve seen arguing in shops and in the pub this last two weeks has put me right off giving online dating a try in ‘26, not that it was ever really on my to do list. I’m starting a fab new job next week and have booked two solo trips for next year already.
Anyone else staying in for the New Year? Hope whatever you’re doing it’s peaceful
My adult daughter is out for the night and I have all the snacks, wine and remote to myself.
Also wanted to second the other posters about being in a crap relationship over the festive period. The amount of couples I’ve seen arguing in shops and in the pub this last two weeks has put me right off giving online dating a try in ‘26, not that it was ever really on my to do list. I’m starting a fab new job next week and have booked two solo trips for next year already.
Anyone else staying in for the New Year? Hope whatever you’re doing it’s peaceful
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Speaking from experience it sneaks up on you and before you know it you’re a trad wife and have lost yourself. Never again!
There's a thread on Mumsnet where the OP says that life is pointless if you're single!
Happy New Year Everyone. I'm supposed to be giving up chocolate for 2026
so have quite a stash for tonight. I'll probably be asleep when the fireworks 
start, or reaching for the antacids.
Happy New Year Everyone. I'm supposed to be giving up chocolate for 2026
so have quite a stash for tonight. I'll probably be asleep when the fireworks start, or reaching for the antacids.Any time I hear a man/husband/dad being praised for the bare minimum I swap it for the woman to remind myself how ridiculous it sounds.
She’s an amazing mum, she does more than her fair share at home! She’s so hands-on! She’s happy to take the kids for a few hours so I can go to the gym and get my hair done! She does some nursery drop offs when she can! She always makes sure she spends quality time with us at the weekend!
Hear hear!!!
That thread is insane. Mostly sensible replies thankfully but this guy can’t watch TV as he is single and has nobody to talk to about it?! (Or ‘do commentary’ as he calls itThere's a thread on Mumsnet where the OP says that life is pointless if you're single!
Happy New Year Everyone. I'm supposed to be giving up chocolate for 2026
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