The problem here is that going on holiday, like the cost of housing, bills and everything else in the world is designed for 2 people paying full price.My boss’ wife popped into work today and was talking about holidays. I was saying how I’ve not been away in years as I can’t afford it with all my bills etc. She looked at me with a sad face and goes “aww do you not have a partner?”
No and that’s my CHOICE. I’d rather be single and stuck in England than stuck with a moronic man just so I can have a crap package holiday every summer
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this is true. i hate all the cost of living articles atm which completely ignore the existence of single person households.
frankly, i’ll pay double the price for a holiday if it means not having to deal with a man though
Well of course the other thing is that without a male companion you are considered fair game for harassment in most of the world…even here at home in the uk!this is true. i hate all the cost of living articles atm which completely ignore the existence of single person households.
frankly, i’ll pay double the price for a holiday if it means not having to deal with a man though
Don’t get me started….
It’s amazing how many people I know who are blatantly in unhappy marriages and relationships and just put up with it because either they can’t be bothered with the hassle of splitting up, or they can’t stand to be alone. I can think of a few where there is also low level abuse and control. One the husband is obviously and alcoholic and he has a really tempestuous with his wife, they can go months not speaking to each other despite living in the same house. Threats of divorce never happened and the now the kids have grown up and they’re stuck with each other. It’s pretty sad but they’ve been together since they were teens and I don’t think they know any different.
i know so many people like this, and it’s just so sad. what a waste of a life
equally sadly, they’re always the ones who try and give me relationship advice or tell me i need to meet someone etc - and i think “why? so i can end up in a situation like you?” like you say, they don’t know any different, and i think it’s then combined with societal pressure and their own insecurities.Yes yes and yes
I've been house hunting for months and my advisor said "You know. It would be easier if you tried with a partner." I'd rather walk on glass than buy a house with anyone.
The amount of horrible stories that I heard about women being kicked out by their boyfriends while repaying half of their mortgages for years is scary. Also, the amount of women who can’t buy a house because they spent all their money on their families is too damn high.
I'd be damned before I make the stupid mistake of buying a property with someone and having to fight with them over it. Ya girl was raised better than that
Yes let me just get into a relationship just so I can have a holiday... That sounds healthyMy boss’ wife popped into work today and was talking about holidays. I was saying how I’ve not been away in years as I can’t afford it with all my bills etc. She looked at me with a sad face and goes “aww do you not have a partner?
No and that’s my CHOICE. I’d rather be single and stuck in England than stuck with a moronic man just so I can have a crap package holiday every summer
Today I remembered something I heard some years ago. I was temping for an agency at the time and happened to see one of the other temps in the office. She was moaning about how she was short of work. She said it was okay for me because I was good-looking and could get a man to marry me so I wouldn't have to work. It so happened I was just getting out of an abusive marriage so was left a bit speechless. But that seems quite a common idea, even these days. Marriage seems to be a form of legalised prostitution for some women. Very sad.
Very sad. I get similar responses if I’m stressed or having a moan about the cost of living crisis and increase in bills etc. it’s always “you need to meet a man” - this generally tends to come from someone I thought was a close friend. She’s now pregnant and can’t talk about anything else, we work at the same place and it’s been a bit chaotic the last few weeks and she was talking about how she won’t have to deal with it soon enough, I said to her “I just want paid leave without having to have a baby” and completely ignoring what I said her response was “you don’t need a man to have a baby” before going on to suggest I get a sperm donor (I’m 30). I have made it very clear to her repeatedly saying “I don’t want kids” and the only response I ever get is “but you’d make a great mum” it’s really starting to frustrate me now, I was telling another friend and she said it’s really disrespectful and bordering offensive.
@Thatswhattatsaid She sounds a pain. Just picture her up all night with the baby as you snuggle peacefully in bed! It must be hard not to snap at her. It shows really that she has zero empathy and doesn't listen!
Just need to rant!!!! My friend & I have been friends forever. Anyway. She’s got a fella, last time we went out for lunch & a catch up she was like can we leave now I wanna get the train cos X is finishing work at X time. Wtfffff man get a grip! I’ve asked her to go for dinner next week and she said she doesn’t know cos she might be busy. And the weekend after she’s going to Europe for a night with her fella. Again it’s all about him. Get a grip. You don’t need to be with your fella every weekend!!!
I don't mind friends prioritising time with their partners, what I mind is when they make zero effort and then have the galls to complain that they don't get invited to outings anymore A (no longer) very close friend is like this, ever since she's started dating her now-husband, we (not just me but the rest of our group and her) haven't spent time together without her partner for more than maybe 3 times total. In 6 years. And two of those times was because he was out of town for god's sake. If that's where your heart lies, by all means enjoy your relationship and hope you're happy and valued, but you can't expect people to be on standby in case you change your mind or find yourself alone for a few days.
After having him tagging along to literally all the plans for years and never having a heart to heart with said friend about anything, I'm just done. If and when she wants to meet, she can arrange something herself and I'll attend if I fancy it but I'll no longer make the effort, especially after an entire pandemic without so much as a 'what's up' text. Now that I'm out of the common group chats (I can't keep up with constant conversation) I have no idea what's going on in her life apart from having a child and work and husband, and I'm just tired of feeling guilty.
I said something similar on the child-free thread, but I don't know why it's always the responsibility of the single/child-free part to make the effort for the married/parent friend and never the other way around. Sick of feeling like my time and life is disposable to some because I'm not married/in a relationship/a parent. Piss off.
A (no longer) very close friend is like this, ever since she's started dating her now-husband, we (not just me but the rest of our group and her) haven't spent time together without her partner for more than maybe 3 times total. In 6 years. And two of those times was because he was out of town for god's sake. If that's where your heart lies, by all means enjoy your relationship and hope you're happy and valued, but you can't expect people to be on standby in case you change your mind or find yourself alone for a few days.After having him tagging along to literally all the plans for years and never having a heart to heart with said friend about anything, I'm just done. If and when she wants to meet, she can arrange something herself and I'll attend if I fancy it but I'll no longer make the effort, especially after an entire pandemic without so much as a 'what's up' text. Now that I'm out of the common group chats (I can't keep up with constant conversation) I have no idea what's going on in her life apart from having a child and work and husband, and I'm just tired of feeling guilty.
I said something similar on the child-free thread, but I don't know why it's always the responsibility of the single/child-free part to make the effort for the married/parent friend and never the other way around. Sick of feeling like my time and life is disposable to some because I'm not married/in a relationship/a parent. Piss off.
This talk of friends reminds me of a (no longer) close friend. I helped her leave her partner with the practical stuff. He was kicking her and the (4) kids out over him leaving the house. She had gave up her career to raise the kids and had no money. I sorted a solicitor out, benefits, everything. Anyway…she started to be a bit quiet. Said she was meeting this male friend that she volunteered with. She even had a night away with him. I knew they were clearly together at this point but she didn’t say anything. I couldn’t understand the secrecy and tried speaking to her about how distant she was becoming with me well needless to say we’re no longer friends because she put him first but I got all the blame. I don’t know why people change so much.
On the topic of friends giving up all of who they are when they're in a relationship. I've never known that happen with a man. It always seems like they carry on as normal. Same with having kids. It seems like women give up everything but men can still go to the pub twice a week, football on saturday, golf on sunday like they did when they were child free.
Clearly she’s one of those women who can’t be alone and needs validation from a man. I find that quite pathetic actually.
it always makes me think of that cartoon in the new yorker (which i can’t find now!) with a man proposing to a woman saying: will you marry me and give up your existence to keep me happy while my life will continue completely as normal?!
the baby threads here always make me think that too though. it’s always mum doing everything and complaining that partner has gone out with the lads and come home at 3am while she hasn’t been on a night out since 2019 or he doesn’t know how to soothe the baby because he never spends one on one time with them etc. it’s so sad to me.
twitter is telling me that it’s “singles day” (who knew this was a thing?) so happy singles day to my fellow fabulous single people 
treat yourself! xx
this time last year i was in intense paranoia because the guy i had been dating for nine months began ghosting me after making plans for christmas and so i spent most of november in deep despair. this year however, i am amazing
treat yourself! xxthis time last year i was in intense paranoia because the guy i had been dating for nine months began ghosting me after making plans for christmas and so i spent most of november in deep despair. this year however, i am amazing
We are all amazing!! 
Single & Free. Yippee
Single & Free. Yippee
Oh cool! Happy Singles Day to my lovely tattle friends! We are fabuloustwitter is telling me that it’s “singles day” (who knew this was a thing?) so happy singles day to my fellow fabulous single people
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this time last year i was in intense paranoia because the guy i had been dating for nine months began ghosting me after making plans for christmas and so i spent most of november in deep despair. this year however, i am amazing
Happy singles days you absolute treats! 
My bestie (who is normally fiercely independent) came over to mine last night freaking out over a guy she’s slept with once who she’s now mooning over. She was like a completely different person. It was so wild to me that someone who I’ve always looked up to as the ultimate independent woman was now fretting over her appearance and the way she types messages, constantly checking her phone to see if he’s online. She’s also stopped eating meals and is living on shakes. Apparently this has nothing to do with pining for the guy who’s “too good looking” for her and is just a coincidence
Never been happier to be single!
My bestie (who is normally fiercely independent) came over to mine last night freaking out over a guy she’s slept with once who she’s now mooning over. She was like a completely different person. It was so wild to me that someone who I’ve always looked up to as the ultimate independent woman was now fretting over her appearance and the way she types messages, constantly checking her phone to see if he’s online. She’s also stopped eating meals and is living on shakes. Apparently this has nothing to do with pining for the guy who’s “too good looking” for her and is just a coincidence
Never been happier to be single!