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@Gym&Tonic I couldn't reply earlier because I was at work but I believe this one maybe even worse than old a cheeks.
It was back in 2018 and naive moi signed up for Badoo.
This weirdo sent me about three pictures of him with his testicles all tied up with very thin cable so they were bulging and veiny. His fool was tied up too and tied by cable to the door handle so it was stretched backwards. To complete these charming pictures he had a pair of knickers or underpants on his head. I'm pretty certain there was someone else taking the pictures. I'm sorry but I think bulgy balls trump's a cheeks! 🤓
 
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I can go one better. I received a photo of this bloke lying on a coffee table, legs in the air with his a cheeks pulled wide apart. I actually laughed at the time because it was ridiculous and quite frankly who the duck would want to see that?! But looking back now it’s all shades of wrong isn’t it? Needles to say it put me right off. I could never look at him the same way funnily enough 🙄
This takes me back 😂 I was chatting to a guy online years ago and he sent me a series of weird scuddies! Him on all fours and lying on his side with a leg in the air were just a couple of the positions 😳 he was called Stevie and from Dundee, not the same guy is it? 😂 if not, there’s two of them which is worrying 👀
 
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All of this talk reminds me of an older lady who used to come to my choir. She got chatting to a younger guy and all was going well until out of the blue he sent her a photo of himself wearing a nappy and sucking a dummy. I kid you not.
 
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My best friend has been in the ‘talking stage’ with a man for TEN YEARS now. She’s put so much time and effort into this man that I don’t think she feels like she can just give it up as a bad job now. She has been talking to other men and going on dates as well, she hasn’t gone full Miss Havisham or anything, but still. Are men really so terrible that you can’t find another better one in ten years?!
 
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I had no idea that a thread was created!

Reading everybody's stories when it comes to men further confirms my will to stay far away from them.

Since I work in a male dominated field I have no problem to meet guys but I am always sick to see the difference in terms of maturity. Their homes are disgusting, they have poor hygiene, have alcohol or drugs problems.

At this point, dating a guy would literally destroy some women's quality of life.
 
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To be honest, while I agree with the general sentiment about most men being gross, I have quite a high proportion of non-gross male friends and still haven't ever dated any of them. With some there's an obvious reason for that (gay, married, too old/young), but even with the single ones where I love them very much and there's enough mutual attraction to have a FWB relationship I just don't feel any particular desire to move into a house with them, meet their families, insist they don't bag anyone else etc etc. I like spending the occasional evening snuggling on the sofa to watch a film together, but that's about as far as it goes in terms of romatic feelings 🤷‍♀️
 
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I second the dating fear. I am useless socially anyway so there's that but it's also the whole who pays thing i cba with.

The only time I would want a relationship is at the weekend. I do enjoy doing everything alone but it'd be nice to have someone to do something big with. Exploring ne w places and day trips are great alone but it'd be nice to do something with someone sometimes (I don't have friends where I live, they all live far away). The other thing is it'd be nice to have someone to share my day with once I'm home from work. I like going home to the peace but it would be nice occasionally to go home and offload to someone. Then I think about having to tell someone what I'm doing or having to bend to someone else's schedule and I'm like yeah never mind. As nice as it'd be to have someone to spend the odd weekend with, the thought of having to give my weekend to spend at weddings or family parties and tit is a no lmao.
I think the best relationship I ever had was a weekend one. I'd look forward to seeing him on Friday nights, we'd have a lovely weekend together and then I'd very happily see him off on a Sunday night or early Monday morning. Seeing him every day was a big mistake and basically ended our lovely relationship. I need a LOT of alone time!

I had no idea that a thread was created!

Reading everybody's stories when it comes to men further confirms my will to stay far away from them.

Since I work in a male dominated field I have no problem to meet guys but I am always sick to see the difference in terms of maturity. Their homes are disgusting, they have poor hygiene, have alcohol or drugs problems.

At this point, dating a guy would literally destroy some women's quality of life.
Count me among them!

To be honest, while I agree with the general sentiment about most men being gross, I have quite a high proportion of non-gross male friends and still haven't ever dated any of them. With some there's an obvious reason for that (gay, married, too old/young), but even with the single ones where I love them very much and there's enough mutual attraction to have a FWB relationship I just don't feel any particular desire to move into a house with them, meet their families, insist they don't bag anyone else etc etc. I like spending the occasional evening snuggling on the sofa to watch a film together, but that's about as far as it goes in terms of romatic feelings 🤷‍♀️
I completely agree. In fact, I think that not only is a "conventional" relationship not for me, but I think many people (especially women) would be much happier without the whole marriage/kids/dog/white picket fence myth. The trouble is, especially for older women, men tend to want a housekeeper rum slave rather than a partner. To quote a woman I once met in an airport (she was in her 80s and was returning from a hiking holiday in the Himalayan foothills) "All men want a mummy they can f*&%". Her other memorable quote was, "I still feel like I'm 15 - imagine my surprise when I catch sight of myself in a mirror!".
 
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I know a fair few married women 50-60 and the majority of them sleep in separate beds. They are unhappy but have very comfortable lives financially. Most complain that their husbands rarely go out, have no friends & spend a lot of time on their phones! Looking a cars & what feed to use on the lawn (sarcasm alert) maybe?
I shudder to think what it must be like attempting to connect to someone day in and out who you no longer want to be with but the alternative fills you with fear.
 
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To be honest, while I agree with the general sentiment about most men being gross, I have quite a high proportion of non-gross male friends and still haven't ever dated any of them. With some there's an obvious reason for that (gay
I don't understand why men refuse to take care of themselves unless they're gay (generally speaking). No I don't want to s your d when you haven't showered for a week. No I don't find your sweat pants or basketball shorts with a t-shirt attractive.

Yet, women are "gross" if we don't shave every single hair. We're told we look bad if we don't have our nails done, not wearing a dress, and blah blah blah.

Bonus: I've never had a meal or anything paid for by a man. But they witch about women never buying them things. BS!

I'm honestly not going to settle anymore.
 
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I don't understand why men refuse to take care of themselves unless they're gay (generally speaking). No I don't want to s your d when you haven't showered for a week. No I don't find your sweat pants or basketball shorts with a t-shirt attractive.

Yet, women are "gross" if we don't shave every single hair. We're told we look bad if we don't have our nails done, not wearing a dress, and blah blah blah.

Bonus: I've never had a meal or anything paid for by a man. But they witch about women never buying them things. BS!

I'm honestly not going to settle anymore.
Unless we raise our standards, they'll never raise theirs. No point settling is there when there's glorious single freedom on offer. 💃
 
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Does anyone else have any single friends who can't seem to function without male attention and find it hard to deal with them? I have a few recently single friends and they've all jumped straight on the apps and spend hours talking to any and every man they find, I have no idea how they do it and it's very hard to not judge them for being so lost without men talking to them...
 
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Does anyone else have any single friends who can't seem to function without male attention and find it hard to deal with them? I have a few recently single friends and they've all jumped straight on the apps and spend hours talking to any and every man they find, I have no idea how they do it and it's very hard to not judge them for being so lost without men talking to them...
No but I used have this flatmate where even though I was going to a pub somewhere to catch up with people once a month, I'd get the same question the next morning: 'Did you meet anyone?'
 
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Does anyone else have any single friends who can't seem to function without male attention and find it hard to deal with them? I have a few recently single friends and they've all jumped straight on the apps and spend hours talking to any and every man they find, I have no idea how they do it and it's very hard to not judge them for being so lost without men talking to them...
Yes, I've a couple like that. The most annoying part of it for me is that they can't seem to believe that I'm quite happy to go out somewhere and not be interested in meeting a man. One of them almost always says, "Did you meet anyone interesting?" no matter where I've been. I usually tell her that I met several interesting people, but of course that's not what she really means.
 
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Does anyone else have any single friends who can't seem to function without male attention and find it hard to deal with them? I have a few recently single friends and they've all jumped straight on the apps and spend hours talking to any and every man they find, I have no idea how they do it and it's very hard to not judge them for being so lost without men talking to them...
Yes. One specific one who continues to make the same man mistakes all the damn time, it drives me insane. We’re always around picking up the pieces but jheez, learn something please!
 
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Does anyone else have any single friends who can't seem to function without male attention and find it hard to deal with them? I have a few recently single friends and they've all jumped straight on the apps and spend hours talking to any and every man they find, I have no idea how they do it and it's very hard to not judge them for being so lost without men talking to them...
It’s when they start using Facebook Dating that you really need to worry 😂 if you thought the offerings on tinder were bad…

but on a serious note, my two best mates are like this and I feel that as we get older, I can relate to them less and less. I couldn’t give less of a tit about men, but every conversation ends up circling back to the hunt for a man. They hate going out for lunch because you can’t meet men there - we have to go to bars where you can’t have a catch up (I live a couple of hours away).
 
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I don’t know if I’m just being a bit sensitive but I feel like I’m struggling this eve. I went out for tea with friends, of the 5 of us 2 are married and currently pregnant (same stage of pregnancy) and the other two, both are engaged and have children. I was the only one single and without kids. I feel like I’m at a stage where I can’t make a decision whether I want kids and even if I do I’m single so not on the cards any time soon. The first 47 minutes was spent talking about pregnancy and labour, a large amount of time thereafter was spent on pregnancy and kids, to the point I said very little as I literally have nothing to input. I feel selfish for feeling left out. It doesn’t help that one of them has literally dropped me since finding out she’s pregnant, in the run up to her wedding I obviously suited her agenda in going for walks and getting fit etc but now lucky to get a phone call. Does anyone else struggle with this?
 
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I don’t know if I’m just being a bit sensitive but I feel like I’m struggling this eve. I went out for tea with friends, of the 5 of us 2 are married and currently pregnant (same stage of pregnancy) and the other two, both are engaged and have children. I was the only one single and without kids. I feel like I’m at a stage where I can’t make a decision whether I want kids and even if I do I’m single so not on the cards any time soon. The first 47 minutes was spent talking about pregnancy and labour, a large amount of time thereafter was spent on pregnancy and kids, to the point I said very little as I literally have nothing to input. I feel selfish for feeling left out. It doesn’t help that one of them has literally dropped me since finding out she’s pregnant, in the run up to her wedding I obviously suited her agenda in going for walks and getting fit etc but now lucky to get a phone call. Does anyone else struggle with this?
I've had to stop struggling with but it's not you. Trust me I spent years thinking it was me.
 
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I shudder to think what it must be like attempting to connect to someone day in and out who you no longer want to be with but the alternative fills you with fear.
Yup so many people just stick together because it’s too much hassle/scary to separate.
a lot think they can’t be alone but they’d be fine.
 
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