I don't find it interesting talking about mediocre men all the time or it infringing on quality time. Plus I like home to feel like a sanctuary so I cba with random men being in the house ruining the energy 
(as much as I appreciate it's her home too). But yeah, I just don't get it when people centre men so heavily!!!
They have this in South Korea -- single women communities. Financially secure mostly young women, but all ages welcome. It sounds perfect.
My (way past retirement age, white, male) GP said nearly the same thing word for word when I had an appointment with him to discuss my deteriorating mental health due to past and recent trauma. "I just want to see you back here in a year's time married and with a baby".Guys, I feel only you would understand how stupid this is. Long story short I was on this free counselling site talking about the fact that I think I’ve developed feelings for someone for the first time in my life (it’s a no go btw). I explained that I’ve never had these feelings and had been happily single forever. And the person replied “you need to get married” (not to this person I like, just in general). And “it’s the only solution”Great, thanks.
a year later and I am not, in fact, married and pregnant and am, instead, diagnosed with complex PTSD and on the waiting list for Step 4 NHS mental health care. A relationship/children was not the solution I was in need of.
I think the best relationship I ever had was a weekend one. I'd look forward to seeing him on Friday nights, we'd have a lovely weekend together and then I'd very happily see him off on a Sunday night or early Monday morning. Seeing him every day was a big mistake and basically ended our lovely relationship. I need a LOT of alone time!
Count me among them!
I completely agree. In fact, I think that not only is a "conventional" relationship not for me, but I think many people (especially women) would be much happier without the whole marriage/kids/dog/white picket fence myth. The trouble is, especially for older women, men tend to want a housekeeper cum slave rather than a partner. To quote a woman I once met in an airport (she was in her 80s and was returning from a hiking holiday in the Himalayan foothills) "All men want a mummy they can f*&%". Her other memorable quote was, "I still feel like I'm 15 - imagine my surprise when I catch sight of myself in a mirror!".To be honest, while I agree with the general sentiment about most men being gross, I have quite a high proportion of non-gross male friends and still haven't ever dated any of them. With some there's an obvious reason for that (gay, married, too old/young), but even with the single ones where I love them very much and there's enough mutual attraction to have a FWB relationship I just don't feel any particular desire to move into a house with them, meet their families, insist they don't shag anyone else etc etc. I like spending the occasional evening snuggling on the sofa to watch a film together, but that's about as far as it goes in terms of romatic feelings
This was a big realisation for me. I didn’t like being the “single” one. I also felt I got left out when there were couples dinners and couples weekends away. I realised I wanted a relationship for the social aspect and because that’s what society expects. I didn’t actually want one though. When I dipped my toe in, I felt so drained by it. By all of it: Their presence in my space (physical / emotional / mental). The obligation to message daily and call and fain interest in their jobs and lives.
