Single by Choice

[mousey]

In my house, It’s me, my mother and my daughter so we live in beautiful harmony. The only trouble we have is with my Bengal cat and surprise, surprise - he is male. They are all the same! He does nothing round the house and expects us to weight on him hand and foot. He is such a little shit and I refuse to believe a female cat would have the same attitude!

to be fair, I have a female cat and she can be a little shit as well

 

[mediocrehouseplant]

Realised I've mentioned that line twice in this thread (oops), funnily enough it goes down better with teenagers than with adults at social events like weddings

 

[EllenDeGenerate]

What’s orthorexia?

GOOGLE IT.

 

[Mooordgirl]

Thanks for sharing! I booked a solo trip to NYC in the spring.

Amazing - thats at the top of my list, but i cant get the hotel rates to match my budget!!!

Enjoy - and tell us all about it!!

 

[Here for gossip]

Yes. He already isn't respecting boundaries you have clearly set out.
Eurgh

Yea having a guy over when my kids are at home is a big no for me kids do not need to be involved with a parents dating life, only time my kids would ever meet someone is if it was going to be turn into along relationship

 

[shadowcat5]

This is exactly me!

I think it may have been mentioned in the Childfree thread (perhaps even by yourself) but how do people find answering the question of “so have you found anyone?” Or “when is it going to be you?” at like weddings etc. What do you say that will stop asking forever lol

I wish I had an answer but i usually just stand there awkwardly

 

[Chocolategoggler]

@Chocolategoggler What's the name of the Irish lady with drill? I'd like to watch her videos.

Dainty Diaries. She's making less of them now. Has been talking about anxiety last year and going for therapy.
You could start by watching a get to know me video so you have her backstory in your mind i.e. how she got the house and furnished it. Otherwise you might just dismiss her as "a sweet little girl".

It would be best to watch from the beginning to see how she evolved to now - what a journey! Then you won't miss how the garden started, the gorgeous Blondie who was really her "supervisor", the travel vlogs and the "makes" videos - I defy you not to make at least one of these.
Then you might understand how she's ended up writing a book and being on Irish TV.

 

[Here for gossip]

I have been single for 8 years by choice, I love my own company and freedom, but this last while I have been thinking of a guy i dated in my 20s, even to the point of having dreams about him, does this mean something?

 

[Gym&Tonic]

That is SUCH a good way of putting it @shadowcat5 In fact, I’m going to message her that now cos she’s just got in touch questioning why he’s taken two hours to respond to her

He sounds like such a waster, he’s a divorced weekend dad who’s currently sleeping in a bunk bed at his mum’s. And he couldn’t even keep it up when they slept together She’s a super accomplished career woman with her own home and so much going for her! It’s crazy to see her turn to mush over this loser just because he’s given her some attention!

WOMEN! DO BETTER!

Wow he sounds like a catch (not)

 

[Thatswhattatsaid]

Guys, I feel only you would understand how stupid this is. Long story short I was on this free counselling site talking about the fact that I think I’ve developed feelings for someone for the first time in my life (it’s a no go btw). I explained that I’ve never had these feelings and had been happily single forever. And the person replied “you need to get married” (not to this person I like, just in general). And “it’s the only solution” Great, thanks.

Please tell me it wasn’t the counsellor that said it

 

[Tell.A.Tale]

"and maybe I'm a cake tin" is my reply to that usually.

Yes! That’s great. I’m putting it in the bank to tell me auntie next time she says this. She says it every time I see her. Also her “lid” was a total PoS

 

[hehehe]

omg Linda! finally someone's spoken the thoughts that I've been unable to articulate my entire adult life!!!
---

Last night while watching TV, I had a brief thought that I'd like a partner to bring me snacks and drinks while I sat down, but then I realised that I actually want to win the euromillions on Friday and have a housekeeper and personal chef.

Energy on

 

[Fledgling Psycho]

i am intrigued as to how he took this photo?!! or if he got one of his friends to take it

like you say, how are you meant to react to that? it would i could see whenever i looked at him!

They use the delay option I think

 

[Olgivy]

Yeah they left Reddit after being trolled so much by men unsurprisingly but there is the archive of posts on there, and they have a website with a podcast too:

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/top/?t=all

https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/

It's controversial, but the 4B subreddits https://www.reddit.com/r/4bmovement/ have a lot of FDS ideas and that's my path these days...

Ohh, thank you for posting this. I’m going to read through some of the archive. It’s a shame they couldn’t just ban men from commenting. As for 4b *same.* I had already decided that this would be my lifestyle, before even hearing about it. But reading through the posts there, feels like home. I no longer feel like I’m talking an alien language anymore. And no men allowed, so no centering themselves, when a woman is sharing her experience.

 

[newtoyou]

Seriously, get a dog. He looks at me like I’m the best thing that ever walked the earth. You get a wonderful welcome even if you’ve just been to put the bins out and we both go up to bed at the same time, he has his side and I have mine.

I’m allergic sadly and also I work quite far from home every day. You’re all making me jealous though

 

[OmgObsessed]

Was watching Euphoria and this lol. I've literally been able to have sex with every guy I ever wanted. I'm just so bored of dating and sex. Now if only my brain would catch up and stop making me have crushes. ‍

 

[shadowcat5]

i wonder that myself! i have ocd and a few of the other ace folk i’ve spoken with definitely seem to be neurodiverse. i wonder if having some degree of anxiety or triggers plays into it in some way. i can certainly see why my ocd causes me to overthink situations like this, but also i don’t know if it necessarily causes the lack of initial attraction that i feel.

it’s weird. i can find someone aesthetically pleasing at a first glance, but that sexual attraction doesn’t even come into play until i can connect with them as a person. this is even with celebrities and such.

i’ve always had a fairly low sex drive too, and find sex in itself awkward and like i’m playing a role and get into my own head during it. admittedly i don’t know if i’ve slept with many people who i have a genuine connection with on my level or rather that i did it in relationships etc because i felt like i should and it was expected.

idk, feelings!

100% yes! I mentioned up thread that I can find men very attractive but that’s where it ends. I’m open to going and and doing stuff with men as a companion type thing but again, that’s where it ends. I’m being testing for adult autism but I don’t think being Ace is specifically aligned with being neurodiverse but I’m willing to bet a lot of asexuals fit that bill.

Just go with how you feel, there are no rules

I just want to say quickly, I wasn't insinuating neurodiverse = ace. It was more that I was wondering as I compartmentalise everything so I wasn't sure if my splitting up of attraction was an asexual/ace thing or my autistic brain lol!

ETA: or both, or neither... you catch my drift

 

[hehehe]

Currently on my second holiday on my own. First one was an easy weeks' beach holiday This one is a bit further afield with some travelling involved...

Where did you go? I just had a solo staycation (Highlands), which was generally nice but the terrible weather and obligation to sight-see all the landmarks means I feel shattered rather than refreshed by it. I want to go somewhere warm, accessible and peaceful.

 

[soph30]

“Because I am an English lady, and the Americans monopolise the market”

 

[MarthaFarkus]

I just want to say quickly, I wasn't insinuating neurodiverse = ace. It was more that I was wondering as I compartmentalise everything so I wasn't sure if my splitting up of attraction was an asexual/ace thing or my autistic brain lol!

ETA: or both, or neither... you catch my drift

Oh no, don’t worry I was just surmising. Like you say, could be either/or. Humans are complex eh