@Millais They sound very narrow minded. Like living in a gossipy village. You sound contented and happy. That's what's important.
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Why are we expected to live like humble little maidens?! Good on you, keep enjoying your well earned money
The funniest part is that it’s all smoke and mirrors and they often end up needing to get flatmates anyway because they’ve overstretched themselves financially. One girl was complaining a while back that she was scared to take off her engagement ring at home because the weirdo they’d recruited from Facebook to help fund their lifestyle might steal it. At least when I walk through my front door, I can leave my valuables wherever I want!Why are we expected to live like humble little maidens?! Good on you, keep enjoying your well earned money
I sent this to a fellow single friend because it reminded me so much of her!
great career, own flat, wonderful group of friends…. and yet her own mother feels “so sad” for her because she hasn’t hit some stupid heteronormative box and got a man in her life.
it will always make me so mad that no matter what women achieve, our lives are always seen as sad and lonely if we’re single.
My mum was talking to one of her friends about some of my hobbies this week and her friend said “it’s nice she has something to keep her occupied seeing as she’s been single for so long.”
You put your finger right on it there.
Gotta wonder how much Mum's choices were influenced by her own social circle, considering she seems to literally see it as 'but all your friends are jumping off that bridge!' When all her friends get divorced, will she have to too?
And I notice mum says nothing about her own life as role model to her daughter (is she single? If she's partnered, is it still with her daughter's dad? Not that she has to be either, but its interesting.) other than being a 'youngish mum', which is sort of a sad brag in itself.
Does feel like there's a slight barb from Mum to her high achieving, popular, financially independent daughter here - haven't quite gotten it all yet, have we, missy?
This reply‘my poor tragic friend is now single and has no children because she didn’t lower her standards. Lucky me though
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The co-dependency is off the scale with these couples. They seem to forget they came into the world alone! I dread to think how many years I wasted trying to follow the programme. Yes relationships do take off and endure but the amount of compromising and swallowing of hurt feelings is a high price to pay for so many!
Honestly in a society where everyone can be who or what they want to be, why is singledom still so pitiable?
Honestly in a society where everyone can be who or what they want to be, why is singledom still so pitiable?
Sounds like my mum
to be fair my parents are quite good about not being too openly 'worried' about me, but I can always sense the underlying tone of fearSame! Nobody says anything directly but it oozes out of every poreSounds like my mum
I love coming back to this thread. I'm an older woman and my marriage broke up some years ago, been single ever since.
I cannot imagine ever living with a man again. Before my marriage ended, dealing with my husband was like having another child: he literally expected me to pick up after him, look after his life, praise him continually and give him declarations of love and sex when he wanted. Why wasn't i changing my surname to his?? This was the least of his antics. But somehow I'm to be pitied.
If I'm not pitied, I'm to blame somehow. I've come across women who say well, you knew what he was like when you married him etc, you put up with poor behaviour from the start. He wasn't like this at the start. He completely did a whole 360 over the course of our marriage.
I remember years ago I was meeting a friend in a pub and a hen party walked in. One of the women explained that one of the party couldn't make it as her marriage had just broken up and she was too upset. All of the group expressed sympathy and then exclaimed that they were so lucky, that this would never happen to them. Wonder how that held up.
I see contemporaries in relationships with sub-standard men and just accepting and forgiving a behaviour all the time. Going on dating apps and George 55 is looking for a woman (max 35), not interested in chubby birds or drama and still figuring out what he wants from dating.
(Anyone else feel that this "dating" and "are we exclusive" is just a way for men to feck around?).
duck.
That.
tit.
I cannot imagine ever living with a man again. Before my marriage ended, dealing with my husband was like having another child: he literally expected me to pick up after him, look after his life, praise him continually and give him declarations of love and sex when he wanted. Why wasn't i changing my surname to his?? This was the least of his antics. But somehow I'm to be pitied.
If I'm not pitied, I'm to blame somehow. I've come across women who say well, you knew what he was like when you married him etc, you put up with poor behaviour from the start. He wasn't like this at the start. He completely did a whole 360 over the course of our marriage.
I remember years ago I was meeting a friend in a pub and a hen party walked in. One of the women explained that one of the party couldn't make it as her marriage had just broken up and she was too upset. All of the group expressed sympathy and then exclaimed that they were so lucky, that this would never happen to them. Wonder how that held up.
I see contemporaries in relationships with sub-standard men and just accepting and forgiving a behaviour all the time. Going on dating apps and George 55 is looking for a woman (max 35), not interested in chubby birds or drama and still figuring out what he wants from dating.
(Anyone else feel that this "dating" and "are we exclusive" is just a way for men to feck around?).
duck.
That.
tit.
“There were also issues with him not changing his pants daily” NOPE NOPE NOPE
I would think it’s a joke if I hadn’t seen so many Reddit posts about grown men not wiping their bums properly
To be fair I don't think judging people based on Reddit is necessarily the best idea
I am a reasonably self aware middle aged bisexual man who generally prefers men though, so...
Blimey what’s the subreddit called for the dirty bum complaints?“There were also issues with him not changing his pants daily” NOPE NOPE NOPE
I would think it’s a joke if I hadn’t seen so many Reddit posts about grown men not wiping their bums properly
There’s not a subreddit that I know if, it’s usually in those advice ones where a woman will come on and say “how do I tell my bf to wipe his bum”, and “I don’t like going down on my bf because his bum smells”. And then the comments will always be talking about how reddit is full of these kind of questionsBlimey what’s the subreddit called for the dirty bum complaints?