Sexless Relationships?

[Veronica]

Our sex life has dwindled too. Life just gets in the way. It’s the waiting Togo to bed, you’re tired, not feeling sexy in your pjs.
Then it’s a week, then a month, then two.
I don’t know how to fix it but it’s been so long I’ve lost the mojo. Doesn’t help that I’ve put on a tonne of weight and feel like an ugly heffer.
We kiss, we cuddle. Just don’t have time to spend to reconnect intimately.

Yep totally get this.

 

[Laur91]

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 3 years and we’ve not had sex for at least 18 months. At first it was all the excuses tiredness, depression, money, etc (all his end) but things have improved and nothing has happened. He’s never even said I love you He said he can’t love me as I don’t love myself which isn’t true. He says he cares about me but is not in love with me and never has been. We don’t even kiss anymore. Well I kiss him but nothing from him. He says I’m free to leave and find someone else but I don’t understand the situation and it breaks my heart. I’m almost 28 and he is 35 and I feel like we should be progressing but it’s not. He’s not depressed or anything either so it’s just me

what is it about him that makes you stay? Sorry but from your comment it seems like there’s no real good reason, it sounds like he treats you terribly?! You need to find someone who loves and appreciates you. life is too short not to.

 

[Boredinstagrammer29]

This must be so hard to deal with, I really feel for you and I hope your partner is kind & understanding xx



100% this - my partner is a lot more reserved and shy than I am, any new positions or anything we’ve tried it’s because I’ve researched and asked him if he’d like to try it. It feels quite one sided at the moment with me trying to come up with ideas and him being happy to try it but then it just fizzles off again.

maybe his libido has changed. We can all chat and support you but ultimately your partner has the answers. It’s such a sensitive issue to broach and may stem from somewhere you haven’t even thought of. Be gentle and try to have a chat with him

 

[DevaVictrix]

My husband and I got married 2 years ago. He was 33 and I was 29. He is attractive and we got on well from the first day we met. I wouldn’t say I’m gorgeous but i know I’m not ‘ugly’. I felt great on my wedding day though (wonders of hair and makeup and I hadn’t eaten properly for about 3 months so I was really slim). We went away for a 2-week honeymoon. Week 2 we literally didn’t sleep together at all, in fact, I don’t think we even kissed much. We slept together a few times before that Christmas, and then found out we were expecting. We literally have not had sex in over a year. And I mean nothing, at all. Pregnancy sickness took over my body for so long and then I was paranoid about losing our baby. Now that I have had the baby I feel wobbly and bigger in places. I’m knackered, dark-eyed and irritable a lot of the time because life is tough these days. I do find my husband attractive and wish we could be close sometimes, but honestly I don’t really enjoy sex very much, I don’t like my body and feel very vulnerable / exposed. Sometimes I wonder if I’m actually verging towards being asexual, but then again, my odd feelings towards sex have definitely been affected by a very religious upbringing in which I don’t recall my mum ever using the word in front of us, and it was seen to be dirty. All in all, I’m probably a disappointment to my husband, in that respect.