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Now this is a good idea. We are all here to offer and share ideas about self-improvement and self-realization things that Anna Bey can't offer
Amen to that!
Im in 100%
I’m in! I absolutely love this idea.
@aliciaaaa It seems that we have people who are not familiar with our previous topic so let's take that into consideration too 
.Could you give us more information on back health,importance of good posture and how does it influences our lives?
.Could you give us more information on back health,importance of good posture and how does it influences our lives?
Here's something I've found useful:
Buy a pretty little notebook - or buy a plain notebook and dress it up with wrapping paper, wall paper, or fabric - just make it look beautiful. Also do the same to a box.
In your notebook, make a big heading for the month, and dedicate a page each to five things you want to work on that month (make sure they're manageable for you), and record your progress / thoughts / comments beside each. Make sure you update your notebook every night, and use the box to store things you pick up along the way that inspire you.
For example:
OCTOBER 2021
PS: I'm not familiar with any prior discussion around this topic, so please forgive me if I have gone completely astray!
Buy a pretty little notebook - or buy a plain notebook and dress it up with wrapping paper, wall paper, or fabric - just make it look beautiful. Also do the same to a box.
In your notebook, make a big heading for the month, and dedicate a page each to five things you want to work on that month (make sure they're manageable for you), and record your progress / thoughts / comments beside each. Make sure you update your notebook every night, and use the box to store things you pick up along the way that inspire you.
For example:
OCTOBER 2021
Goal | Progress |
| Take up yoga | 1/10: Picked up a brochure from the supermarket (placed in box); will give them a call next week to enquire about class times and cost. |
Start each morning with a walk | 1/10: Couldn't go today as I was running late for work, but will hope to start tomorrow. |
Learn to meditate | 1/10: Looked up some YouTube tutorials. It looks hard. Will join a forum and ask how to get started. |
Time for me | 1/10: Spoke to the family about 'me time' for an hour an evening; they've all promised to leave me alone between 7-8pm. Start tonight. |
Starting saying 'no' | 1/10: Was asked to work overtime this weekend (fourth weekend in a row). Said I can't. Didn't offer an excuse, just said I can't. |
PS: I'm not familiar with any prior discussion around this topic, so please forgive me if I have gone completely astray!
Oh I love, love, love this thread idea! 
Not aware of any previous discussions so I'm jumping right in at the deep end. We've got 3 months left to the end of the year to make some real progress in areas we want to improve.
Not aware of any previous discussions so I'm jumping right in at the deep end. We've got 3 months left to the end of the year to make some real progress in areas we want to improve.
I'd love to hear more on this, please! I noticed recently that my shoulders are rounded forwards and I'm turtle necking as well. It's from all the time I spend at my desk for work. I want to correct my posture immediately before it becomes much worse.
Previous thread was about failed sugar baby who started to sell scamming courses,nothing worth mentioning.Our dear @aliciaaaa is getting a degree in sport medicine and she changed my personal perspective on fitness with her insights.Alicia try with YouTube and get something on string theory.Quantum physics for dummies is also good.
Love this! i found myself saving the good advices. Should we: 1) brainstorm topics, 2) just continue with comments and opinions from previous thread and go with the flow? 3) give some background story about our journey? It looks like some ladies started opening up about their lifestyle and thats when we got a lot more interested in sharing.
thank you for starting this thread, i feel priviledged to be here seriously! One topic lead to another so it feels more exclusive if i look for this online i wouldnt find it anywhere or we would find a random website and realize the comments are from 2008-2011 haha!
thank you for starting this thread, i feel priviledged to be here seriously! One topic lead to another so it feels more exclusive if i look for this online i wouldnt find it anywhere or we would find a random website and realize the comments are from 2008-2011 haha!
A wise man once said:
Hello to new people here! Our previous thread was about a failed escort who turned to scamming young women by attracting them with her extensive lying of her lifestyle, belittling them saying that they are low-quality and dating low-quality men, and only she can help elevate them and help them bag a millionaire like she did (surprise she lied about that). Since she is a pathological liar, she was giving god-awful leveling-up advice to these women ( you need to live outside your means and that all you need is a good blow-dry to elevate your confidence and looks LOL). Since a lot of her former student have joined the threads and have been asking for proper guidance on how to better your life, we ended up going off-topic a lot in those threads by giving proper advice, instead of just analyzing her. This thread was created to continue and expand the discussion I ended up talking a lot about health since she would advocate for ridiculous fad diets, and when she purchased a shoddy personal trainer just so she could post instagram pics with him.
So this is mainly about embodied cognition, meaning the body and mind are working together, when you are in a good mood you want to get bigger and expand, while when you're in a bad mood you want to make yourself smaller and hide. A good strong healthy boosts our confidence immensely, we tend to take people less seriously when they are hunched over and chin down. It's proven that when you experience bad news your body's reaction is to make yourself smaller, by slumping your shoulders and hunching down, while when you are in a good state you expand yourself, chest is open, shoulder blades retracted and downwards. This is for all species, animals, humans and crustaceans. (Which is why power-poses are so effective). Psychologically we will be more attracted (not just romantically but generally) to someone if they are physically healthy. A good posture indicates that the rest of your body is functioning optimally, when we first meet someone first thing we do is assess how they carry themselves physically (are they hunched over, covering their mouth, weak eye contact etc), then how they dress and hygiene. It's also been shown in a study that better postures help to succeed higher in life, i didn't believe it until i realized i've never met a single surgeon with a crooked spine, or until i myself started doing those super-man power poses in the morning (really helped me ease into the morning easier and helps make me become a morning person)
Your body has an optimal length and position to be in, when this is disrupted the neural pathways also become disrupted, meaning that it takes the body longer to send a receive a message. People who have chronic back health have an increased amount of stress on their body, leading more cortisol less dopamine in their body. A lot of the studies that test the relationship between strengthen the strong back health/good posture and increased dopamine levels are tested on Parkinsons patients. All of them have found a positive correlation between straight back and increased dopamine levels, i do not know why or how this works but it does. In addition to increased dopamine levels, when you have a straight back you can inhale up to 30% more oxygen, helping your body and especially brain function better, plus you end up getting an oxygen high, which is the best high in the world. The worlds best drug is to simply stand up straight, when your body is upright you inhale more oxygen
when it comes to the body everything works as a unit, if one system/body part is working improperly then another system/body part has to compensate for it. When first assessing a patient for back health we check their foot placement, a flat foot increases the amount of pressure pushing your knee inwards, making the entire lower limb to rotate inward which later develops into knocked-knees. Since your entire lower limb is rotated inwards it also rotates your hip joint inwards. Unfortunately once you have flat-feet it is for life, you must exercise regularly to maintain a healthy arch. I find this workout to be super helpful with strengthening the arch, as well as strengthening your quad muscles to keep the knee joint in place and prevent knocked-knees.
Another common problem people have is that they have weak glutes which causes super tight hamstrings causing an inward rotation of the hips, leadings to lower back pain. This is my favourite hamstring stretch because I used to do it in dance, you can strengthen your glutes by doing backwards lunges (it activates the glutes more than forward lunges) and single leg glute bridges.
Since i sit a lot on my laptop, like everyone else, i pull my chin and shoulders forward making me look a little bit like captian hook. I find this to be an excellent way to reset that posture.
I ended up talking a lot about health since she would advocate for ridiculous fad diets, and when she purchased a shoddy personal trainer just so she could post instagram pics with him.So this is mainly about embodied cognition, meaning the body and mind are working together, when you are in a good mood you want to get bigger and expand, while when you're in a bad mood you want to make yourself smaller and hide. A good strong healthy boosts our confidence immensely, we tend to take people less seriously when they are hunched over and chin down. It's proven that when you experience bad news your body's reaction is to make yourself smaller, by slumping your shoulders and hunching down, while when you are in a good state you expand yourself, chest is open, shoulder blades retracted and downwards. This is for all species, animals, humans and crustaceans. (Which is why power-poses are so effective). Psychologically we will be more attracted (not just romantically but generally) to someone if they are physically healthy. A good posture indicates that the rest of your body is functioning optimally, when we first meet someone first thing we do is assess how they carry themselves physically (are they hunched over, covering their mouth, weak eye contact etc), then how they dress and hygiene. It's also been shown in a study that better postures help to succeed higher in life, i didn't believe it until i realized i've never met a single surgeon with a crooked spine, or until i myself started doing those super-man power poses in the morning (really helped me ease into the morning easier and helps make me become a morning person)
Your body has an optimal length and position to be in, when this is disrupted the neural pathways also become disrupted, meaning that it takes the body longer to send a receive a message. People who have chronic back health have an increased amount of stress on their body, leading more cortisol less dopamine in their body. A lot of the studies that test the relationship between strengthen the strong back health/good posture and increased dopamine levels are tested on Parkinsons patients. All of them have found a positive correlation between straight back and increased dopamine levels, i do not know why or how this works but it does. In addition to increased dopamine levels, when you have a straight back you can inhale up to 30% more oxygen, helping your body and especially brain function better, plus you end up getting an oxygen high, which is the best high in the world. The worlds best drug is to simply stand up straight, when your body is upright you inhale more oxygen
when it comes to the body everything works as a unit, if one system/body part is working improperly then another system/body part has to compensate for it. When first assessing a patient for back health we check their foot placement, a flat foot increases the amount of pressure pushing your knee inwards, making the entire lower limb to rotate inward which later develops into knocked-knees. Since your entire lower limb is rotated inwards it also rotates your hip joint inwards. Unfortunately once you have flat-feet it is for life, you must exercise regularly to maintain a healthy arch. I find this workout to be super helpful with strengthening the arch, as well as strengthening your quad muscles to keep the knee joint in place and prevent knocked-knees.
Another common problem people have is that they have weak glutes which causes super tight hamstrings causing an inward rotation of the hips, leadings to lower back pain. This is my favourite hamstring stretch because I used to do it in dance, you can strengthen your glutes by doing backwards lunges (it activates the glutes more than forward lunges) and single leg glute bridges.
Since i sit a lot on my laptop, like everyone else, i pull my chin and shoulders forward making me look a little bit like captian hook. I find this to be an excellent way to reset that posture.
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Thanks for this amazing thread!
As other people mentioned, what prompted its creation is Anna Bey, a so-called elegance coach who claims to rub shoulders with the elite and “teaches” you how to do so.
As someone here has suggested, here's my story:
I'm not a person who was born with a silver spoon, precisely. I, like lots of people, come from a working class (and somehow disfunctional) family, so I had problems in terms of interacting with people. Apart from that, let's say I wasn't the most popular girl in school, so that didn't help much to my social interaction problems. However, I managed to be a good student and focus on my interests, especially languages (and some UK-related topics
).
After having a terrible experience with a man online (nothing romantic), something clicked on my mind and I realised that I needed to change certain aspects of my life, including psychological help and other self-improvement issues. A few months later, I came across Anna through an Instagram Stories ad I found by chance. I already knew a bit of etiquette because I studied that in college, so I was more focused on how to dress better and improve my social relationships (nothing about bagging a millionaire or billionaire). Looking for the guidance I didn't have, I became interested in her courses and, at some point, I was even interested in buying one of them. However, I didn't have the money yet and I found spending 997 dollars a bit too much.
In order to know if she was the real deal, I did my due diligence and found Tattle, especially the thread about her (and where most of us come from). It was so eye-opening that I'm glad I followed my intuition and got rid of her.
What made me stay and create an account is the marvelous community from all walks of life. To be honest, I've had (and still have) the chance to learn new things and valuable pieces of advice in this forum and I've learned more in a few weeks than what I would have learned with Anna in years and paying exorbitant amounts of money.
I'm still quite young and inexperienced, but willing to offer what I've learned/found interesting, if anyone's interested
.
As other people mentioned, what prompted its creation is Anna Bey, a so-called elegance coach who claims to rub shoulders with the elite and “teaches” you how to do so.
As someone here has suggested, here's my story:
I'm not a person who was born with a silver spoon, precisely. I, like lots of people, come from a working class (and somehow disfunctional) family, so I had problems in terms of interacting with people. Apart from that, let's say I wasn't the most popular girl in school, so that didn't help much to my social interaction problems. However, I managed to be a good student and focus on my interests, especially languages (and some UK-related topics
).After having a terrible experience with a man online (nothing romantic), something clicked on my mind and I realised that I needed to change certain aspects of my life, including psychological help and other self-improvement issues. A few months later, I came across Anna through an Instagram Stories ad I found by chance. I already knew a bit of etiquette because I studied that in college, so I was more focused on how to dress better and improve my social relationships (nothing about bagging a millionaire or billionaire). Looking for the guidance I didn't have, I became interested in her courses and, at some point, I was even interested in buying one of them. However, I didn't have the money yet and I found spending 997 dollars a bit too much.
In order to know if she was the real deal, I did my due diligence and found Tattle, especially the thread about her (and where most of us come from). It was so eye-opening that I'm glad I followed my intuition and got rid of her.
What made me stay and create an account is the marvelous community from all walks of life. To be honest, I've had (and still have) the chance to learn new things and valuable pieces of advice in this forum and I've learned more in a few weeks than what I would have learned with Anna in years and paying exorbitant amounts of money.
I'm still quite young and inexperienced, but willing to offer what I've learned/found interesting, if anyone's interested
.Hello dear! While you are quite young and inexperienced, feel free to share what you have learned to be best you can. We are all free to contribute to this forum.Thanks for this amazing thread!
As other people mentioned, what prompted its creation is Anna Bey, a so-called elegance coach who claims to rub shoulders with the elite and “teaches” you how to do so.
As someone here has suggested, here's my story:
I'm not a person who was born with a silver spoon, precisely. I, like lots of people, come from a working class (and somehow disfunctional) family, so I had problems in terms of interacting with people. Apart from that, let's say I wasn't the most popular girl in school, so that didn't help much to my social interaction problems. However, I managed to be a good student and focus on my interests, especially languages (and some UK-related topics
After having a terrible experience with a man online (nothing romantic), something clicked on my mind and I realised that I needed to change certain aspects of my life, including psychological help and other self-improvement issues. A few months later, I came across Anna through an Instagram Stories ad I found by chance. I already knew a bit of etiquette because I studied that in college, so I was more focused on how to dress better and improve my social relationships (nothing about bagging a millionaire or billionaire). Looking for the guidance I didn't have, I became interested in her courses and, at some point, I was even interested in buying one of them. However, I didn't have the money yet and I found spending 997 dollars a bit too much.
In order to know if she was the real deal, I did my due diligence and found Tattle, especially the thread about her (and where most of us come from). It was so eye-opening that I'm glad I followed my intuition and got rid of her.
What made me stay and create an account is the marvelous community from all walks of life. To be honest, I've had (and still have) the chance to learn new things and valuable pieces of advice in this forum and I've learned more in a few weeks than what I would have learned with Anna in years and paying exorbitant amounts of money.
I'm still quite young and inexperienced, but willing to offer what I've learned/found interesting, if anyone's interested
I am also glad you are one of the ladies who did not fall into Anna's tactics. What Anna is preaching is somewhat dangerous especially to young women. Dear, you don't have to live beyond your means to look fashionable. If you feel fast-fashion brand is what you can afford (despite the reputation these brands hold), then go ahead as long as you look fresh and elegant with what you are wearing.
Always continue to educate yourself, read more about history, sharpen your mathematical and analytical skills further (I am bad at Math, BTW), more more more critical thinking on anything, research, practice, add more skill, and be somebody. Those are the aspects that are more important than just snagging a rich man. And speaking of men, find a guy who will support you endlessly regardless of social status, someone with strong moral fiber, and regard you as a partner in everything.
Thank you very much, Roleena!
At the moment, I can afford street market clothes and some fast fashion every now and then. I don't care about brands, to be honest. As long as clothes have durable and good-looking fabrics at a reasonable price, that's good for me. Spending 2k euros or more in a bag is a bit too much, in my view.I agree with you on improving my mathematical skills, especially because I had a hard time in school and grew some “resentment” towards them
. In other areas, I'm learning at my own pace thanks to the Internet. Apart from that, I got a previous knowledge of business protocol and etiquette, foreign languages, art history, classic mythology, philosophy, psychology and history (among other subjects and disciplines) thanks to school and vocational college.We can all agree that education is key if you want to be an informed citizen instead of someone who falls into whatever mass media says.
When it comes to men, those are the same principles I hold. I don't care about his bank account, as long as he can support himself and is also capable of managing his money. You may find a so-called rich man who, if you look at his financial statement, is nothing but a broke man playing the big game.
Finally, I'd like to start my contributions with a book that I didn't like at first (because I wanted toys), but I have fond memories of it and, if you have children or know anyone with them, will be way more valuable than everything Anna Bey is teaching:
This info is gold! Thank you for sharing.Hello to new people here! Our previous thread was about a failed escort who turned to scamming young women by attracting them with her extensive lying of her lifestyle, belittling them saying that they are low-quality and dating low-quality men, and only she can help elevate them and help them bag a millionaire like she did (surprise she lied about that). Since she is a pathological liar, she was giving god-awful leveling-up advice to these women ( you need to live outside your means and that all you need is a good blow-dry to elevate your confidence and looks LOL). Since a lot of her former student have joined the threads and have been asking for proper guidance on how to better your life, we ended up going off-topic a lot in those threads by giving proper advice, instead of just analyzing her. This thread was created to continue and expand the discussion
So this is mainly about embodied cognition, meaning the body and mind are working together, when you are in a good mood you want to get bigger and expand, while when you're in a bad mood you want to make yourself smaller and hide. A good strong healthy boosts our confidence immensely, we tend to take people less seriously when they are hunched over and chin down. It's proven that when you experience bad news your body's reaction is to make yourself smaller, by slumping your shoulders and hunching down, while when you are in a good state you expand yourself, chest is open, shoulder blades retracted and downwards. This is for all species, animals, humans and crustaceans. (Which is why power-poses are so effective). Psychologically we will be more attracted (not just romantically but generally) to someone if they are physically healthy. A good posture indicates that the rest of your body is functioning optimally, when we first meet someone first thing we do is assess how they carry themselves physically (are they hunched over, covering their mouth, weak eye contact etc), then how they dress and hygiene. It's also been shown in a study that better postures help to succeed higher in life, i didn't believe it until i realized i've never met a single surgeon with a crooked spine, or until i myself started doing those super-man power poses in the morning (really helped me ease into the morning easier and helps make me become a morning person)
Your body has an optimal length and position to be in, when this is disrupted the neural pathways also become disrupted, meaning that it takes the body longer to send a receive a message. People who have chronic back health have an increased amount of stress on their body, leading more cortisol less dopamine in their body. A lot of the studies that test the relationship between strengthen the strong back health/good posture and increased dopamine levels are tested on Parkinsons patients. All of them have found a positive correlation between straight back and increased dopamine levels, i do not know why or how this works but it does. In addition to increased dopamine levels, when you have a straight back you can inhale up to 30% more oxygen, helping your body and especially brain function better, plus you end up getting an oxygen high, which is the best high in the world. The worlds best drug is to simply stand up straight, when your body is upright you inhale more oxygen
when it comes to the body everything works as a unit, if one system/body part is working improperly then another system/body part has to compensate for it. When first assessing a patient for back health we check their foot placement, a flat foot increases the amount of pressure pushing your knee inwards, making the entire lower limb to rotate inward which later develops into knocked-knees. Since your entire lower limb is rotated inwards it also rotates your hip joint inwards. Unfortunately once you have flat-feet it is for life, you must exercise regularly to maintain a healthy arch. I find this workout to be super helpful with strengthening the arch, as well as strengthening your quad muscles to keep the knee joint in place and prevent knocked-knees.
Another common problem people have is that they have weak glutes which causes super tight hamstrings causing an inward rotation of the hips, leadings to lower back pain. This is my favourite hamstring stretch because I used to do it in dance, you can strengthen your glutes by doing backwards lunges (it activates the glutes more than forward lunges) and single leg glute bridges.
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Since i sit a lot on my laptop, like everyone else, i pull my chin and shoulders forward making me look a little bit like captian hook. I find this to be an excellent way to reset that posture.
You are always welcome, dear. I am not born rich, we used to be quite a little well-off until our family business continued to slow down and especially now that it's pandemic, and most of us in our house is unable to handle the business quite well and queries because 4 of us are having separate jobs, and one out of three is currently in Japan working as a nurse.Thank you very much, Roleena!
I agree with you on improving my mathematical skills, especially because I had a hard time in school and grew some “resentment” towards them
We can all agree that education is key if you want to be an informed citizen instead of someone who falls into whatever mass media says.
When it comes to men, those are the same principles I hold. I don't care about his bank account, as long as he can support himself and is also capable of managing his money. You may find a so-called rich man who, if you look at his financial statement, is nothing but a broke man playing the big game.
Finally, I'd like to start my contributions with a book that I didn't like at first (because I wanted toys), but I have fond memories of it and, if you have children or know anyone with them, will be way more valuable than everything Anna Bey is teaching:
I am damn YOLO when it comes to finances; however, I always make it sure I should not ask anyone for money. I will risk loaning from lending companies or government institutions, and that I will not forget living within my means. I am not much of a fan of designer brands. I am more onto clothes that are being sold in most flea markets.
2000 euros? That's already a lot of money in the Philippines, because that's 117,471.84pesos in our currency and with that amount, you can start a food cart business or a small variety store.
If I am not stuck with rising payables, I will search for schools where I can start my Masteral studies. In the meantime, I continue to work and to learn, and further improve my critical thinking skills despite my aging braincells.
I don't have a husband and a child of my own. I will just enjoy life, or at least win my inner personal battles before I could meet someone.
Without a doubt I agree on this one, though not all degree-holding people have well-developed critical thinking skills and some of them, unfortunately, fall prey to the scams of MLM back in my home country. With ample education combined with passion for learning, critical thinking skills is further enhanced so that one will not end up gullible to whatever scams shown to them. I am not also good at critical thinking but I believe critical thinking is a helpful factor that saves a business from financial downfall.
