She needs to completely shelve the idea of having a third child. She can’t cope with the 2 kids she already has - evidently. A 3rd child is not what she or those kids need. It would add yet more pressure and mayhem to their family and they simply don’t have the capacity for it. She needs to get her head out of her arse and start putting the effort into the 2 kids she already has. THEY should be her absolute number 1 priority over and above everything else. duck Instagram, duck being an “influencer”, duck the relentless DIY, duck moaning and spending time stressing about Rob & his bleeping job, duck the constant travelling to Scotland and duck all the unnecessary clubs/sports/activities etc and just focus on providing a stable, structured, simple routine for those kids.