Newbie here. What a strange old week it's been. Hadn't been on Tattle much for a sneaky read since the whole MOD debacle, that was a trainwreck I couldn't peel my eyes away from. A friend on Insta alerted me to the RVK_tweets instagram, which was eye opening. I followed it. Then a whole bunch of the larger accounts blocked me, which leads me to believe they're all on here reading these threads, popped over to that same account and blocked all the accounts following. These are accounts I had really pleasant interactions with in the past and rather enjoyed following. At this point I had unfollowed RVK. All of those tweets pissed me right off from the racist stuff to the classist, but the one about Adele being pregnant and no one being able to tell was like a dagger. I'm a fat girl ( have a hormone disorder that messes with my metabolism and fertility ). I'm comfortable in my own skin though, but comments like that can be soul crushing for your self worth, even if you are confident. While I am fat I am not get me out of the house with a crane fat, I'm a size 14/L/XL (in the US), most people would simply call me curvy. I got pregnant after 10 years infertility struggles and loss and several people made similar comments to me, that they wouldn't have known because I'm already fat and it hurts really badly for someone to say something like that, it can cause you to spiral into self loathing. Those tweets felt like a true picture of her character and I didn't want to follow someone who speaks like that about others, be it fat people or Asian people, or people who have less money than her. RVK thinks she's better than everyone else and that solidified it for me.
Do these women share a block list? All I did was unfollow RVK and follow that account about her tweets. I didn't say anything negative to her. I didn't bully her. I just unfollowed, which they all advocate for if you don't like them or what they post. Yet, I got blocked by a whole slew of them. I think my favorite that blocked me was Charlotte of The Home That Made Me, which feels a bit rich since she has in her bio, "advocate of kindness" - obvs that doesn't apply to RVK or herself. This experience was eye opening to me for a number of reasons. I never felt like I was influenced by these women, I just followed them, admired their decorating, got some ideas for my own home, thought their kids were cute, etc etc etc. But then when this happened it really affected me negatively, ruined my day if I'm honest. It's strange to see different accounts everyday (for years) and then have a bunch disappear through no fault of your own. It was jarring. I don't feel as though I have the "right" to anyone's content, but I had always been so kind and supportive, sending messages and leaving nice comments, it felt like a school experience of being really nice to a group of girls in class, helping them with something they didn't understand perhaps, and generally being a good egg, then to be pushed into a mud puddle by them on your way home. I realized I HAD been influenced by them and them all blocking me at the same time was like school yard bullying for simply unfollowing someone you thought was nice but turned out to be a class A wanker (RVK). The few left that didn't block me, I unfollowed as I realized it's really just about numbers, these aren't women who appreciate the love and support (which equates to free stuff/money) they get from followers, they're only there trying to bag the next freebie and they don't give a tit if they are bit fat bullies doing it.
We live in hope!
