Ruby Granger #29 Is it soon yet?

[Satisfying Click]

My mum is making fun of me, in my enn-sam-blur! Ruby slipped up and you can hear her real voice.

She looks tragic, I can't bring myself to take the piss considering she looks like an elderly toddler forced to flee her home. (Ok, maybe I can a bit).

So many questions. Why is her school enabling her to do these return visits? After one year, perhaps, but this is all for feeding Ruby's delusional state that she's still the biggest fish in a small pond, and not a grown ass adult who has graduated. From a safeguarding point of view, I would not be happy as a ££££ paying parent that the school allows an adult on the premises and watch their children. Ruby may not be a danger to anyone but herself, though the whole point of safeguarding is working from the assumption that anyone can be a threat.

 

[Ilaariaa]

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My mum is making fun of me, in my enn-sam-blur! Ruby slipped up and you can hear her real voice.

She looks tragic, I can't bring myself to take the piss considering she looks like an elderly toddler forced to flee her home. (Ok, maybe I can a bit).

So many questions. Why is her school enabling her to do these return visits? After one year, perhaps, but this is all for feeding Ruby's delusional state that she's still the biggest fish in a small pond, and not a grown ass adult who has graduated. From a safeguarding point of view, I would not be happy as a ££££ paying parent that the school allows an adult on the premises and watch their children. Ruby may not be a danger to anyone but herself, though the whole point of safeguarding is working from the assumption that anyone can be a threat.

She looks completely deranged

 

[LitNerd]

At my (State) school it was quite normal for students to go back and visit in the first year of uni, just to catch up with the teachers and talk about uni and your plans for the future and stuff like that. I went around December of my first year of uni with two friends.
After that though I've never returned just because I felt like it lol. I went back to retrieve the physical copy of my diploma when it was ready, and a couple friends and my boyfriend were invited by the school for orientation day to talk to the seniors about the course they chose, the uni they're attending, etc. (I wasn't invited. I was too much of an amoeba in high school for any teachers to remember me after I left). That's about it as far as "contact with old schools" goes in my experience. I graduated four years ago and it would be really weird and awkward for everyone if I just popped up one day to say hi to teachers I haven't spoken to since then.

I was about to say this at my high school it was normal for sixth formers from say the previous two years to come back and have a day walking around saying high to the teachers etc, but that would be on a normal day, when it came to events the previous students who attended were INVITED to be there and speak, any others in the audience were siblings of students currently attending and that’s it. I finished my university course a couple of years ago, but because I did a huge amount of work as a student ambassador on open days etc I’ve been invited/asked to speak during my subject talk over the last year - if any of that applied to Ruby I would give her the benefit of the doubt but what specifically makes it weird is that she asked to go / went under her own steam and it’s not like she did loads of work with / for her school whilst she was at uni to justify it

 

[hellodarling]

This comment on one of her outfit of the days is the funniest tit I’ve ever read

 

[gossip_guy]

Have you watched the Jenny Nicholson video on Dear Evan Hansen?

I have! Jenny is amazing!

So many questions. Why is her school enabling her to do these return visits? After one year, perhaps, but this is all for feeding Ruby's delusional state that she's still the biggest fish in a small pond, and not a grown ass adult who has graduated. From a safeguarding point of view, I would not be happy as a ££££ paying parent that the school allows an adult on the premises and watch their children. Ruby may not be a danger to anyone but herself, though the whole point of safeguarding is working from the assumption that anyone can be a threat.

It'll soon be revealed that Ruby's just going back to school to gather research for her next book: Erimentha Parker's Mid-Life Crisis.

Spoiler

45 year-old Erimentha is still living with mummy and daddy and still looking down on "immature" black sheep brother Nathan, who's now a millionaire philanthropist and prized neurosurgeon living in Sweden. Erimentha's on her 23rd gap year and her 57th literary agent and has still not found a publisher who appreciates her innate genius.

She yearns nostalgically for the simpler, more joyful and carefree times, mainly that extended period of time at school when she had no friends and was savagely bullied in a series of increasingly unbelievable ways. Erimentha decides to take advantage of a loophole in her former private school's charter rules and re-enrols to do high school all over again. This time it'll all be different.

On her first second day of Year 7, she's delighted to see that her favourite teacher, Mr. Aldridge, is now the school headmaster. He immediately goes on indefinite mental health leave after seeing Erimentha triggers a PTSD flashback. Upon hearing the news, Erimentha remarks that leaving school in the middle of the day sets a bad example for the students. A friendly, bookish student asks if 45 year-old Erimentha has ever had a job. The polite words of this small, inquisitive child sting Erimentha like a slap to the face - Erimentha has been bullied once again!

Mr. Aldridge isn't the only familiar face that Erimentha encounters on her first day. Her old nemesis Kimblerly/Kimberley/Kimberlee works at the school! And her daughter, also named Kimblerly/Kimberley/Kimberlee, is in Erimentha's class, and she's Erimentha's new "bully"!

Erimentha sets about righting the wrongs of the past by ensuring that well-behaved, polite, thoughtful and generous straight-A student Kimblerleylylee Jr. never "bullies" another student like her mother apparently did. Erimentha enacts a plot for revenge, intent on driving an innocent 11 year old girl out of school and eliminating all competition for top-of-the-class status.

For real though, she's beyond creepy and the school/PTA should be shutting this tit down pronto.

She has a storied history of having an obsessive fixation with childhood and fictional children. She's still gluing collages of Anne Shirley in her planner and taping pictures of kids all over her wall, for god's sake.

Given her constant attempts to try to socialise with young children, foster penpal relationships with them and her tendency to keep sending gifts her young penpals, this is something that her parents and the school should nip in the bud right now.

If her school asked her to pop pack to give a speech about her influencer career, that'd be one thing. But her actively hounding them and begging to come back to give a speech to kids on a topic she's completely uninformed about, then attending school events not to socialise with adult staff, but to "see who the new head girl will be", this is nothing but red flags.

 

[timemoveson]

This comment on one of her outfit of the days is the funniest tit I’ve ever read View attachment 1405743

i choked on my weetabix laughing

 

[teflonpanda]

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My mum is making fun of me, in my enn-sam-blur! Ruby slipped up and you can hear her real voice.

She looks tragic, I can't bring myself to take the piss considering she looks like an elderly toddler forced to flee her home. (Ok, maybe I can a bit).

So many questions. Why is her school enabling her to do these return visits? After one year, perhaps, but this is all for feeding Ruby's delusional state that she's still the biggest fish in a small pond, and not a grown ass adult who has graduated. From a safeguarding point of view, I would not be happy as a ££££ paying parent that the school allows an adult on the premises and watch their children. Ruby may not be a danger to anyone but herself, though the whole point of safeguarding is working from the assumption that anyone can be a threat.

Oh isn't that that blazer she already had when she was 13 years old? Cause I remember a video from a few years ago where she wore that blazer and proudly announced that she's had it for that long. Didn't know she's still wearing that thing, holy moly! At least it's sustainable fashion I guess.

(And yeah I also don't understand why she's attending the head girl event - all it would take to find out is one quick look at her old school's website. And then, if she indeed knows the new head girl/was friends with her, she could just message her/email her/send her a letter in true Ruby Granger style to congratulate her and offer advice or whatever. And if she doesn't know the new head girl, then she should leave her the duck alone anyway. So why attend?!)

 

[TheLadyTea]

Oh isn't that that blazer she already had when she was 13 years old? Cause I remember a video from a few years ago where she wore that blazer and proudly announced that she's had it for that long. Didn't know she's still wearing that thing, holy moly! At least it's sustainable fashion I guess.

(And yeah I also don't understand why she's attending the head girl event - all it would take to find out is one quick look at her old school's website. And then, if she indeed knows the new head girl/was friends with her, she could just message her/email her/send her a letter in true Ruby Granger style to congratulate her and offer advice or whatever. And if she doesn't know the new head girl, then she should leave her the duck alone anyway. So why attend?!)

Because she’s hoping that they’ll see her, realise that she was the best head girl they’ve ever had and then invite her back to take up her old position.

 

[Mclindy]

I was creeped out when Rubster started collecting contact details of kids through some online scheme a few months back. I know many here voiced their concerns about inappropriateness but said she was likely just misinformed and not necessarily sketchy.

I would just say - yeah, wouldn't want this around my kid. Her enabling family and narcissistic tendencies - I would be disturbed if she was in contact with a minor unchecked (even contacting through letters in the mail with inappropriate subtext of a personal relationship).

I grew up in religious circles and her feigned personality, approach to “critical thinking”, even aesthetic, would have fit in well.

I don't know if she is a creep. But I've known enough people that seemed much like her, who ended up being creeps (even jailed for offending against minors) that it doesn't seem a trivial idea to me. She's obviously a person struggling with at least some mental health and physical health issues. I really hope that these issues are all that contributes to her seemingly sinister behaviour. But, if I were a person in her circle, I'd be aware that hope is not enough and there have been enough red flags now to steer well clear.

 

[StatusWoe]

I just got an ad on Tattle for 'nursery school places 2022' That's Ruby's gap year plans sorted, then! I also just remembered the part of her dissertation process where she was contacting Rugby School about their archives.

 

[yerdasellsavon]

I don't know if she is a creep. But I've known enough people that seemed much like her, who ended up being creeps (even jailed for offending against minors) that it doesn't seem a trivial idea to me. She's obviously a person struggling with at least some mental health and physical health issues. I really hope that these issues are all that contributes to her seemingly sinister behaviour. But, if I were a person in her circle, I'd be aware that hope is not enough and there have been enough red flags now to steer well clear.
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I think we can confidently say there's nothing sinister or creepy about Ruby's intentions; she's not a paedophile, but that doesn't make the whole thing anymore off and strange. It's an attempt to cling onto a happy period in her life and as being Head Girl is seemingly her crowning achievement in life, she wants to relive that multiple times over and impart her wisdom to the new one (whether it's wanted or not).

However, even without the creepy side to it, it shouldn't be encouraged. I'm not sure how parents would feel and the safeguarding issues feel they should be present in some form. As people have said, if Jack Edwards revisited his old school to find out who the Head Boy/Girl was, people would understandably see it as grooming as with wrong intentions behind it.

Ruby just shouldn't do it. She needs to let go of that period of her life and if her parents won't intervene, the school should. They won't, as she is a notable alumnus, but they're stroking her ego and it's all just very odd.

 

[nhlf1nwhl]

looks like we'll be getting the exetahhh graduation content tuesday onwards, lovely little reminder on her Instagram stories that it's soon!

 

[theMoth]

And wasn’t she bullied at school? Why would anyone go back to the place where they were bullied in the past?

 

[Deeznutslol]

I think we can confidently say there's nothing sinister or creepy about Ruby's intentions; she's not a paedophile, but that doesn't make the whole thing anymore off and strange. It's an attempt to cling onto a happy period in her life and as being Head Girl is seemingly her crowning achievement in life, she wants to relive that multiple times over and impart her wisdom to the new one (whether it's wanted or not).

However, even without the creepy side to it, it shouldn't be encouraged. I'm not sure how parents would feel and the safeguarding issues feel they should be present in some form. As people have said, if Jack Edwards revisited his old school to find out who the Head Boy/Girl was, people would understandably see it as grooming as with wrong intentions behind it.

Ruby just shouldn't do it. She needs to let go of that period of her life and if her parents won't intervene, the school should. They won't, as she is a notable alumnus, but they're stroking her ego and it's all just very odd.

To be fair, creepy ≠ automatic n, and I don’t think anyone is suggesting that she is one either.
However, Ruby has an extremely unhealthy interest in childhood which has in the past lead her to befriend minors online / encourage younger viewers to contact her, and I just there is always something creepy about an adult who seems to prefer the company of kids over people their own age, regardless of their intentions. She isn’t getting paid to go to her old school, she hasn’t been invited there, and from the way she has spoken about it, it seems like the purpose of her visit is to see students rather than her old teachers.
Plus as innocent as anyone seems, I always think it’s kinda sus when I see an older influencer seeking out any form of contact with kids because they’re in a position of far greater power and there have been so many incidents where young people have been exploited by people with large followings on social media.
I just think Ruby needs to be a bit more responsible when it comes to having contact with young people (for her own sake more than anything), because I can see it easily tipping over into inappropriate territory given her own issues with growing up and her obsessive interest in childhood.

 

[teflonpanda]

And wasn’t she bullied at school? Why would anyone go back to the place where they were bullied in the past?

Yeah I've wondered about that too. I can't stand the thought of having to go back to my old school for that very reason. But I guess it was different for Ruby cause she got help from teachers and her parents (because of course she did) and then the bullying stopped. I think she's mentioned before in videos that the worst of it was in Year 9 or so, and then her last two years were fine. Maybe that's also why she remembers her head girl era so fondly, cause that was after the bullying had stopped.

 

[gossip_guy]

And wasn’t she bullied at school? Why would anyone go back to the place where they were bullied in the past?

She wasn't, but she likes to pretend that she was.

 

[Auga]

Big fish small pond syndrome, or more to the point normal sized fish returning to a puddle. It's just about reliving her old Matilda/Hermione fantasies and trying to recapture that old glory. Someone said on an earlier thread that Ruby's school, despite being a very expensive private school, isn't in the least bit academic. So even studying two hours a day, let alone her proclaimed average of 11, would have let her appear as the resident child genius.

I guess she needs that psychological comfort after the crushing blow of only getting a low first for her dissertation. It really angers me how she contributes to the pressure on her viewers and hustle culture, and then thinks a quick disclaimer is enough to absolve herself.

 

[TheLadyTea]

Big fish small pond syndrome, or more to the point normal sized fish returning to a puddle. It's just about reliving her old Matilda/Hermione fantasies and trying to recapture that old glory. Someone said on an earlier thread that Ruby's school, despite being a very expensive private school, isn't in the least bit academic. So even studying two hours a day, let alone her proclaimed average of 11, would have let her appear as the resident child genius.

I guess she needs that psychological comfort after the crushing blow of only getting a low first for her dissertation. It really angers me how she contributes to the pressure on her viewers and hustle culture, and then thinks a quick disclaimer is enough to absolve herself.

Not academic in the least????? But it has produced such talent as E.L James with Ruby Bones to follow in her gilded footsteps

 

[lucieheaton]

i would be in the year below ruby at school and have been out of school for years now, and i don't know anyone who would go back to school for any kind of event now . then again i didn't go to a private all girl's school, just a normal "underfunded" state school lol

but yeah so weird she's inviting herself back or even cares who the new head girl is, at her big age of 22. move on girl

 

[CatCafe234]

And wasn’t she bullied at school? Why would anyone go back to the place where they were bullied in the past?

I was bullied at school and I don’t feel entirely comfortable suggesting that Ruby wasn’t - there are different kinds of bullying, girls in particular can be vicious and just because you aren’t hit it doesn’t mean that you weren’t hurt. However, taking Erimentha with a massive pinch of salt as Ruby’s autobiographical novel, and taking most of what she put in there as some sort of slightly sadistic wish-fulfilment, I’m not sure that Ruby was ever ‘bullied’. I think she went through a difficult period at school in terms of social relationships, but I genuinely can’t see Ma Granger and Daddy Bones ever keeping Ruby in an environment with serious bullying - quite a few of the ‘bullying’ episodes in Erimentha are basically assault and I don’t doubt that if anything like that had really happened, at the very least the family would have taken Ruby out of the school. She also has never really been consistent with what she says and when she says things happened - again, maybe there are reasons for that but it does seem odd for something that has been such a big thing I her life.

I can’t help but feel that Ruby was never quite as important or popular as she felt she should be, and that caused some issues with her peer group. I also think that the school did deal with whatever went on and Ruby seems to have been happy at the school - it doesn’t strike me as the kind of place that would make someone ‘controversial’ the Head Girl. I think she keeps going back because being Head Girl was the pinnacle of her life - she was special and important and had lots of young people looking up at her, which is what she likes. I mean that in an entirely non-sexual way, I just think she likes to feel important and in charge and can’t do that with her peers or other adults and so looks for that adulation from younger people. She’s living this weird tweenager’s idea of a grown-up life (Endless shopping! Frolicking! No bills! Toddler food! Reading books all day! Dressing up! Lots of money but no real job!) which I can imagine is very appealing to a lot of her younger fans.