So where does the ‘blame’ lie, way back to the original inadequate ancestor who started the cycle of neglect, abuse and deprivation? Most of the posters here have issue with Rosie’s failure to take responsibility. Blame is something Rosie does, to excuse her adult choices and behaviour. It’s the opposite of responsibility. No-one is disputing Rosie’s behaviour, actions and even her thought processes are related to her own experiences. I think we have all agreed it’s incredibly sad. What we’re saying is that it doesn’t excuse her subjecting her own children to the same.
The care system isn’t ideal, but your claims are outdated, there are so many measures being taken to improve the care experience and improve life chances for children. What’s the alternative? Do we turn a blind eye to toxic parenting because they didn’t have a great upbringing themselves? Do we prioritise a parent’s needs above a child’s rights?