Congratulations re becoming a Nanna!
Re your OH, It’s text book abuse to try to separate people from their loved ones. To break down your support network and relationships so you become entirely reliant on him. And from your previous posts about him doing a lot for the house, the money situation, you are despite holding on to your relationships, which will I doubt still be impacted.
That on top of his lack of empathy toward you, implying you’re a drain (reading between the lines there), having a lot of self importance and dismissing your family while making his important… this is all emotional abuse.
Are you working now? If not, could you try to, to regain some independence? Take steps toward getting yourself into a situation where you can confidently get rid of him?
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