No I don’t think he has. He was very adamant that this is what he wanted, rather than discussing it between us and coming to a mutual decision. It’s hard but I just don’t see where texting him back would get me! Even though I miss him & enjoyed the time we had together, I’m on a bit of a journey of self-care atm, learning new skills and being selfish!
Alot of people have said that, and now my mind wonders....
I got broken up with during lockdown, been together 5 years. It was unexpected for me (we’d had our rows due to constantly being in each other’s space during lockdown but took separate walks etc and made up). 4 months on, I’m still heartbroken and miss him. He does text me and has mentioned meeting up (I still have some of my things at his place) but I just don’t feel ready to see him yet. I hope I can meet up with him as the break up was all on his terms.
Well she's stopped posting since I asked! She did post on another thread about whether to swipe for her neighbour who she sees a lot. That was in May so not quite 3 months ago?!Is that same person?!
So strong! you should be really proud of yourself as thats really strong to not text back! do you think he has changed his mind?
And how would I know if their is another women.
This is such a great attitude to have, sounds like you are doing great! I had this same conversation last night I said that he wants to carry on talking to me because he knows that while I am talking to him I am not moving on and talking to/dating other guys. And i also found out that he was seeing someone else really quickly after and its just really tainted my view of him but as you said its quite a good thing isnt it.
Yeah we all have that week in bed, god ive had several, but its good to get back out and doing stuff again because its just waiting and wasting your life. xIt’s a weird one isn’t it? We did talk about meeting up as he said he wanted us to be friends and he stills cares about me (apparently). But to me that is just messing with my head - you either want to be with me or you don’t! And he chose the latter.
At the start I took a weeks leave from work (I’m a PhD researcher) and I spent that week in bed, crying, eating chocolate very stereotypical. But something clicked in me and thought this could be a blessing in disguise. He was a commitment-phobe, gaslighted me several times and I was always left wondering where this is going and if it’s my fault. It’s made it hard because it happened in lockdown but in a way I’m glad I couldn’t go anywhere and just look after myself. I’m learning to drive after years of wanting to do it, I’ve started going to the gym again and I’m looking forward to the future.
I hope you continue to look after yourself. And yes, don’t check any social media!
This is really interesting to hear - did you both go with other people in this time if you dont mind me asking? If so, how did you deal with that? As thats something that has always bothered me, I always feel i cannot go back to someone who has slept with someone else in a time apart - however I am an overthinker.
Sorry to hear this! This is the issue and ive had it done to me before, they stay in touch with the odd text here and there to make sure that they are still on your mind so that you dont fully move on - and that really isnt fair. How are you? x
