PersonalityMaven
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I think it's important to separate the decision about your bf from the decision about your real friend. It seems clear that the relationship with your bf is not what you need/want. The question I think you are really trying to answer is if you could ever feel happy in a romantic relationship with your real friend.
Here's where pinpointing your particular personality can be very helpful. For some personalities it is possible to fall in love without lust. For others, it is not really possible. To get an idea of your personality type, I would ask these two questions...
Which of these events would you attend (if you had to pick one)?
A. Support group
B. Art/science fair
C. Party
Which of these would be the best job perk for you?
A. Something new happens every day
B. You get to challenge the team
C. You work with lots of successful people
Of course you don't have to answer these. But if you do, I can say what I think that means about your question.
Here's where pinpointing your particular personality can be very helpful. For some personalities it is possible to fall in love without lust. For others, it is not really possible. To get an idea of your personality type, I would ask these two questions...
Which of these events would you attend (if you had to pick one)?
A. Support group
B. Art/science fair
C. Party
Which of these would be the best job perk for you?
A. Something new happens every day
B. You get to challenge the team
C. You work with lots of successful people
Of course you don't have to answer these. But if you do, I can say what I think that means about your question.