I've always been fascinated by her. So glad she has her own thread here.
I watched the wedding in the middle of the night from the US. In fact it's one of my earliest memories. She was flawed and damaged, and probably had far more demons than have been made public. Her admitted bulimia, throwing herself down the stairs whilst pregnant, etc., that's just not normal behavior. I think she was very likely bi-polar or worse. I do feel she was genuine in her desire to help people. She had that IT quality and was so damn photogenic. And I think she enjoyed playing with the media when it suited her. However, she was far too young at 19 to be thrown into what in essence was a love triangle. Even if Charles isn't lying about not sleeping with Camilla when he first married Diana, he was still emotionally involved with her throughout all those early years, and that is gross and would have made any woman feel crazy.
I'm from the US and feel she died because it was a perfect storm of an inebriated driver, driving erratically at high speed, and lack of a seat belt. I think it's a terribly boring death. Could have been avoided which makes it all the sadder. My husband is English and firmly has always believed she was murdered, and that PP had something to do with it. He thinks her purposely having a fling with a Muslim was the root of it and she had to be taken out. Add to that the whole Savile pedophile ring and God only knows what she'd been witness to and maybe was about to blab about. The Queen has pretty much always chosen the Crown over herself, at least aside of the whole Andrew situation. So I can see her turning a blind eye if the "men in grey" thought Diana had to go. I don't think anyone can argue that the RF totally benefited by Diana's death. Charles was able to move on, they had full control over the boys, and no loose cannon "People's Princess" running around spilling tidbits about Charles' inadequacies. But I still in my gut feel she died in a messy, avoidable, drunk driving accident.
I think Dodi's father felt he'd be blamed for her death and so came up with this fairytale BS about their being secretly engaged and a pregnancy. He lost his son and is heartbroken, so I understand his need to blame everyone else.
I don't think we will ever know what truly happened. But just the mystery of it all would likely make Wills and Harry probably far more emotionally traumatized than had it been a clear cut accidental death. I can't imagine wondering if my own family had something to do with my mom's death.