Pregnancy

[jazyblu]

I wanted a surprise initially but husband wanted to know. Again, previous miscarriage influenced my decision as I wanted to picture the baby better and glad we did find out, instantly changed my outlook and I could see myself with the baby in the future way better than I could before. Annoyingly most people presume it’s so you can decide what clothes to buy which for
me it was never about (although is Convenient to not have to only buy gender neutral as many shops don’t even have a gender neutral section beyond newborn!)

I was going back and forth on finding out early as we had a bit of a miscarriage scare and went through 3 awful weeks waiting for a follow up scan to see if the pregnancy was viable or not. I then realised I am currently pregnant, I'm already attached and if anything did happen I wouldn't regret finding out.
So many people assume it is just so you can paint a room pink or buy loads of gendered toys! I totally get that some people don't need to know the sex in order for it so feel "real" but for me I think it will help!
I just think the surprise of being handed a baby will be enough on delivery day, finding out the sex and still having to pick a name etc just seems like too much for one day to me

 

[Definitelyme]

love this post! Really resonates with me, I done up a nice nursery and bought a gorgeous expensive sleigh-style cot, with visions in my head of popping my little girl down to sleep in her beautiful cot while I potter around getting on with things, and has my now 20 month old little angel ever once slept in that beautiful expensive cot?? No she bloody hasn’t not even once in her whole life!! she screams bloody murder if I try to get her to sleep on her own.

Love it! My first we wrecked ourselves trying to get her to sleep in her cot, and looking back now I just think “wtf did we do that to ourselves?!” By 9 months she was cosleeping full time. Baby 2 and baby 3 never even got set in a cot, straight in to our bed. We did put the crib up as we were still hopeful but never bothered using it for anything for storage we’ve given the crib away now so again baby 4 will be in bed straight away. I know people probably think I’m nuts, but I do love snuggling up to their little baby bodies my 2yo sleeps glued to my side and it’s (usually!) lovely!

Would recommend ice pops sipping water ginger nuts and micro chips
I know it’s hard but keep eating as it can make it worse if you don’t xxx

Thank you for the kind response You’re right, it is bloody hard, the things we do to ourselves for our kids!

I can’t stomach a ginger nut after my last pregnancy!! I chew a lot of gum which helps, and actually I have the opposite problem from most in that it’s constant nibbling which keeps my nausea at bay so I eat far too much hopefully only a few weeks left though, last pregnancy it ended by 28 weeks and I’m 21 weeks now so very hopeful I’m almost done If not by the end I’ll be an absolute whale from the constant nibbling

 

[Octopies]

What are your thoughts on finding out the sex? My husband always said he didn't want to know until we had a positive test and then he was like "I need to know NOW"

I'm not fussed about boy or girl, and we won't have overly gendered baby stuff but to me it will be a really big thing for bonding. It makes the whole arrival of the baby less abstract and we can start calling it he or she and then using their name before birth.

I did the sneak peek test on Saturday and apparently will find out this weekend or next Monday!

I found out the sex because this was an unplanned pregnancy and although I’ve been with my partner a very long time we never expressed a desire for kids.

But when I found out I was pregnant we knew we wanted the baby but it didn’t make it any easier to get my head around the idea. It didn’t help that I was two months when I found out I was pregnant so it felt like everything was happening so quickly.

I wanted to find out the gender as I thought it would help me to get used to the idea / bond with the baby. And it 100% has. When I found out we are having a girl I was absolutely beaming all the way home, I kept crying with happiness, it just felt so right. (I had no preference either way re sex!)

It definitely helped me feel closer to the alien growing inside me - my daughter!!!

 

[Gem2212]

I was going back and forth on finding out early as we had a bit of a miscarriage scare and went through 3 awful weeks waiting for a follow up scan to see if the pregnancy was viable or not. I then realised I am currently pregnant, I'm already attached and if anything did happen I wouldn't regret finding out.
So many people assume it is just so you can paint a room pink or buy loads of gendered toys! I totally get that some people don't need to know the sex in order for it so feel "real" but for me I think it will help!
I just think the surprise of being handed a baby will be enough on delivery day, finding out the sex and still having to pick a name etc just seems like too much for one day to me

We had exactly the same experience, it was a horrible 3 weeks and it meant we ended up telling close friends and family earlier and not in the happy/excited way we had wanted to. We felt like we didn’t actually celebrate being pregnant as I started bleeding the day after we found out and we feel now like finding out the gender and sharing with friends and family can be some news we can actually enjoy sharing.

I think it will help us bond a little more as we can start calling bump her/him or even by their name

 

[WhatABore]

All this gender talk,
So my first, I was told at my 20 week scan that we were having a girl, get to my growth scan at 32 weeks and she asked if we knew the sex and she then told me no, it's a boy

My second, they couldn't tell at my 20 week scan, but said at my growth scan at 36 weeks that it was 60% looking like a girl

This time we found out at my 20 week scan that it's a girl. Hopefully that's right

 

[MrsJones83]

I’ve found out gender with all of mine, I’m just too impatient to wait and it helps me feel closer to the baby. I don’t tend to tell many people, and I try to keep their arrival date quiet too. We have a short list of names but never tell anyone or decide properly until the baby is born.
I’ve never had a preference to what I’m having, I just like to know!

I’ve kept most things so I’ve reused them for all my children, I love seeing my new baby in something that their siblings have worn.

 

[Definitelyme]

I’ve kept most things so I’ve reused them for all my children, I love seeing my new baby in something that their siblings have worn.

Me too! All of ours have had the same first outfit which I love Even now when my youngest wears hand me downs from my eldest I get all emotional about it they also look identical so I recreate a lot of pics of my first with my third

 

[MrsJones83]

Me too! All of ours have had the same first outfit which I love Even now when my youngest wears hand me downs from my eldest I get all emotional about it they also look identical so I recreate a lot of pics of my first with my third

You can tell mine are siblings, they have exactly the same eyes, nose and mouth, but they have very different hair colours.
My 2yr old and 3yr old are the exact same size so they get mistaken for twins all the time.
It drives my OH mad because I’ve got boxes, and boxes of clothes stashed away, but it all gets used again.

 

[Pink Sparkle]

This is my scan at 8wks, I saw a lot more than I expected to be fair!

Oh wow that’s amazing. Thank you for sharing this! Congratulations

 

[Definitelyme]

You can tell mine are siblings, they have exactly the same eyes, nose and mouth, but they have very different hair colours.
My 2yr old and 3yr old are the exact same size so they get mistaken for twins all the time.
It drives my OH mad because I’ve got boxes, and boxes of clothes stashed away, but it all gets used again.

My husband is the same! Always moaning about the clothes in the attic but they’ll be used! All 3 of mine look identical, and they all look exactly the same as me my poor husband doesn’t get a look in, as thy are much more like me personality wise too!! We keep saying if this next one doesn’t look the same as the others they’ll be disowned! I have to admit that I will be a bit disappointed if I don’t get another clone. I love how alike they all are!

 

[MakeDamnSure]

Hi I’m 38+2. Due on Christmas Day! So scared lol

My first was born on Christmas Day! He will be 5 this year! It makes Christmas even more magical! Try not to be scared, you can do it! I’ve never felt such an amazing feeling as when I had just given birth!

 

[Stimpii]

All this gender talk,
So my first, I was told at my 20 week scan that we were having a girl, get to my growth scan at 32 weeks and she asked if we knew the sex and she then told me no, it's a boy

My second, they couldn't tell at my 20 week scan, but said at my growth scan at 36 weeks that it was 60% looking like a girl

This time we found out at my 20 week scan that it's a girl. Hopefully that's right

Oh god don’t. I had a gender scan and my 20 week
one and was told girl at both but I’m still convinced it’s gonna be a boy. Have 2 already

 

[Squiggle]

20 weeks tomorrow and my SPD is back and so bad I limp when I walk. Hahaha

 

[WhatABore]

Oh god don’t. I had a gender scan and my 20 week
one and was told girl at both but I’m still convinced it’s gonna be a boy. Have 2 already

Luckily, we had bought pretty much all gender neutral stuff anyway as I think babies look adorable in white and the room was grey so it wasn't too bad. But we hadn't picked a boys name at all

 

[Definitelyme]

20 weeks tomorrow and my SPD is back and so bad I limp when I walk. Hahaha

Quite literally feel your pain. I am also limping (sciatica not spd) to the point my toddler now does it as well from watching Only 21 weeks

 

[Squiggle]

Quite literally feel your pain. I am also limping (sciatica not spd) to the point my toddler now does it as well from watching Only 21 weeks

Its awful isn't it! I was hoping I would get away with it this time round! I have my scan on Wednesday! Can't wait! Everything all ok apart from pain?

 

[Stimpii]

Luckily, we had bought pretty much all gender neutral stuff anyway as I think babies look adorable in white and the room was grey so it wasn't too bad. But we hadn't picked a boys name at all

The room is grey as it was anyways but I have bought girlie clothes. will make sure I pack some white things just incase

 

[Definitelyme]

Its awful isn't it! I was hoping I would get away with it this time round! I have my scan on Wednesday! Can't wait! Everything all ok apart from pain?

Is there anything that you can do for the spd? I had a friend with it and by the end she had to sleep downstairs as she couldn’t climb up anymore, and had to have a section because she couldn’t open her legs. My sciatica sometimes (oddly) feels a bit better towards the end, so I’m hoping it’s the same this time. Very sick as well, but overall everything is fine with baby so shouldn’t complain! I had my 20 week scan at 18 weeks because of Covid and all looked well. Fingers crossed for yours

 

[Rainbow1]

Ahh so pleased to find this thread!

I’m 38 weeks so not long to go

as with other posters feel like I haven’t had much midwife interaction, didn’t have urine checked til week 32! As my previous appointment I had, the surgery had changed the rules on using the toilets so was unable to go, they started giving out pots to take home after that

Hospital letters I had stated you needed to pay for scan photos but don’t put cost on letter, I took money just Incase at my 12 week scan but was so nervous I forgot all about it, however all photos I’ve got at my scans have been free! I had extra scans up until week 26 too as my cervix was measuring shorter than average and at each appointment they did a growth scan on baby too and spent time trying to get good photos which I thought was nice

This is my first baby and so many things have surprised me so far but I think main one is that you only get 2 ‘official’ scans, I suppose it’s something I’ve never gave any thought to previously but I just presumed they would be a regular thing all through pregnancy!

 

[openbook1]

Ladies can I ask something really embarrassing I’ve been desperate to ask someone but feel really stupid and at least I’m anonymous here.

I’m 24 weeks with my first. I’ve only slept with 1 person and I’m mid 20s so I’ve never had a smear test etc. To be honest I’ve never had anything ‘medical’ happen to me in my life so naturally finding this all very strange and very anxious about it all.

I have always found sex quite painful / uncomfortable and always felt like my partner is too ‘big’ (he’s average it just ‘feels’ that way!). I also find tampons quite painful to use. I went to the doctors about the sex thing when I was at uni as it would cause me to bleed and they just told me to use more lube and sent me away. Nobody has ever actually checked it out. (Boyfriend was also a virgin Til he met me so can’t tell me what’s ‘normal’ or not )

anyway now I’m really scared that medically I might have something ‘wrong’ down there or I might be quite small/ have an issue and nobody would know about it (until it’s too late and I can’t push a baby out of there!!)


Is it possible to be too small to give birth (btw I’m not a small person I’m a 5ft7 wide hipped size lady!!)

i am really considering raising this with my midwife and asking her to ‘take a look’ to settle my nerves as I feel like a freak would that be nuts?!

Read about vagimismus. It could be a case of that.