Pregnancy #67

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I am literally falling asleep at work today 🥱 the final trimester is exhausting, especially with GD, a 3yo and a 6yo
 
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So I had a bad day. I went to hockey last night, was so careful only in training on a quiet training day so less than 10 people. So of course I got smacked in the groin with a ball. Never happened in my life before.
Luckily my bestie is obs and gynae so I was crying on the phone to her as I spiralled. We came to the conclusion as it was the bony area and no bleeding I could call for a scan if I wanted but I’d probably be fine.
Unsurprisingly I will not be going back for about 6 months.
It’s such a shame as it was the first time I had had energy in 12 weeks to actually run about!
 
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Today has been a lot and it’s only 1pm 😅

I had my booking appt this morning which went really well and my midwife is lovely . We’ve moved areas since I had my other two children so it is a new trust and therefore a completely new care team but everyone I encountered was so nice and so that’s quelled my anxieties a bit. I had pre-eclampsia with my daughter and so it’s no surprise I’m considered high risk and will need to be on aspirin from week 12 onwards . I’ve even already had my 12 week scan appointment through on BadgerNotes which is on 6th May so something nice to look forward to !!

we’re going to tell our families shortly and so I’ve ordered big brother and big sister t shirts for my son and daughter . They came today , about 20 mins after I got the message about my 12 week scan , and I just burst into tears . Today the pregnancy has finally felt real I guess . Even with the horrible symptoms I’ve been having I guess it hadn’t sunk in yet but I’ve just sobbed for the last 10 minutes

But with great highs come great lows - my husband has spotted a patch of damp in our dining room 🥲 so now I’m having to sort out someone to come and look at that …
 
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I'm 38 weeks and on crutches as can't weight bear due to pelvic pain. Can't lift my daughter either, can't bend down, can't carry anything. I've got my daughter for 10 hrs today solo while my partner works. She's 22m. It's extremely difficult especially bc I can't leave the house with her either! Luckily we have a garden and it's a lovely day so we'll be out there most of the day and she communicates pretty well, she's no trouble at all, I feel blessed. Idk what I'd do if we couldn't go out though.
I had induction last time and really don't want to go through that again so I'm just powering through. But definitely ask if it's something you'd consider, hopefully they'll induce you sooner as you say.
I'd say just try and be easy with yourself. It's soo easy to feel mum guilt and to also put so much pressure on ourselves. But you got to do what's right for you and your circumstances. Do you have any annual leave to use up or anything so you can give yourself some rest? Any adjustments they can make at work for you? I'm sure you've probably already looked into all this.
Sorry to hear that. It sounds really tough! That's lovely you have a garden and can get out. Good luck today!

I had an induction first time round and it was really quick and intense, but I'm not opposed to having another if it means I can get this baby out quicker!

I have booked some days off when my son is in nursery so I can rest.

I know it's just the case of ploughing through until baby is here, but ugh, it's so hard!
 
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Those of you who have been pregnant with a toddler, how did you do it? I am so exhausted. I'm only 32 weeks and genuinely don't think I will survive the next 8 weeks. I have the worst insomnia and the lack of sleep is torture. There is no downtime as I am working 4 days and then have my son to look after. I can't even look forward to evenings and night time as I cannot sleep. I am so big and heavy... I need to sit down for a minute everytime I carry toddler upstairs.

Oh and husband and I got the sicknenss bug so we were wiped out all weekend whilst our son was full of beans.

I have a midwife appointment this week and I'm going to ask if there is anyway I can be induced bang on 37 weeks as I can't do it!!
I ended up going on mat leave early, kept my kid in nursery for as much as possible and got my mum to help me out too. It was so bloody hard and for me I genuinely found newborn with a toddler easier than pregnant with a toddler. At least I could get up off the floor quickly to chase the toddler 😂
 
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Hi all, joining the thread!

Currently 8+3 weeks (had a reassurance scan yesterday) and all was fine.
This is my third baby, I’m 36 and my two boys are 15 and 12. My 12 year old was also born at 24+5 weeks so definitely feeling 100% crackers but here we go ☺
 
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I had a really lovely chat with my sister in law yesterday and I've decided that I'm going to write myself a little letter to remind myself of what I do/don't want to do when I'm in the newborn trenches. With our first, I persevered with breast feeding and pumping for far too long, it made me miserable and when I stopped within 2 - 3 days the fog of sadness and guilt lifted and I stopped being very sad/anxious/upset with myself 24/7 and got back to just being regular sad XD

I've also decided that I'm going to try a hypnobirthing course, I poopooed it all last time but I can feel the anxiety creeping up when I think about labour/birth. I'm under no illusions, it could all be tit but maybe if I've got some breathing exercises and can think a bit clearer then it might be slightly better?
 
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I had a really lovely chat with my sister in law yesterday and I've decided that I'm going to write myself a little letter to remind myself of what I do/don't want to do when I'm in the newborn trenches. With our first, I persevered with breast feeding and pumping for far too long, it made me miserable and when I stopped within 2 - 3 days the fog of sadness and guilt lifted and I stopped being very sad/anxious/upset with myself 24/7 and got back to just being regular sad XD

I've also decided that I'm going to try a hypnobirthing course, I poopooed it all last time but I can feel the anxiety creeping up when I think about labour/birth. I'm under no illusions, it could all be tit but maybe if I've got some breathing exercises and can think a bit clearer then it might be slightly better?
That’s a lovely idea ! I might do the same you know
 
I'm close to the end and struggling for comfort so not sleeping. Our mattress has seen better days. Should I get a new one now or wait until the baby is 6 months+? I remember my second spewed on the bed a fair few times and first peed 🫣 not sure what to do... says the woman who bought white sofas with two small children!
 
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I'm close to the end and struggling for comfort so not sleeping. Our mattress has seen better days. Should I get a new one now or wait until the baby is 6 months+? I remember my second spewed on the bed a fair few times and first peed 🫣 not sure what to do... says the woman who bought white sofas with two small children!
Buy a mattress topper rather than new mattress... I'm the same of love a new mattress but waiting until kids are older
 
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I'm close to the end and struggling for comfort so not sleeping. Our mattress has seen better days. Should I get a new one now or wait until the baby is 6 months+? I remember my second spewed on the bed a fair few times and first peed 🫣 not sure what to do... says the woman who bought white sofas with two small children!
I bought a new mattress when my daughter was a month old because my back was getting f***ed from feeding and I needed more support than my 10 year old mattress 😅
 
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I'm 17w2d today and even though I feel and look very pregnant, I still feel like I can't be excited due to previous losses. I feel like I'm just waiting for something bad to happen all the time and tbh it's really draining me. This will be my only baby too and I know I'm wasting this whole time probably worrying over nothing, all my scans look fine, I've even felt her move (I think?)
Loss really does rob you of any happiness x
 
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I'm 17w2d today and even though I feel and look very pregnant, I still feel like I can't be excited due to previous losses. I feel like I'm just waiting for something bad to happen all the time and tbh it's really draining me. This will be my only baby too and I know I'm wasting this whole time probably worrying over nothing, all my scans look fine, I've even felt her move (I think?)
Loss really does rob you of any happiness x
Oh darling I’ve been in your position. After loss, my pregnancy resulting in my 🌈 baby felt devoid of the magic everyone talks about, I hardly told anyone just in case, kept it offline and felt I was at least a trimester behind in my brain as I was so worried. Every scan I would make myself sick from anxiety.
You’re not alone and just do the best you can, don’t listen to anyone who says you have to enjoy every day of being pregnant, it’s just not a reality for us mummies who’ve gone through loss xx
 
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Oh darling I’ve been in your position. After loss, my pregnancy resulting in my 🌈 baby felt devoid of the magic everyone talks about, I hardly told anyone just in case, kept it offline and felt I was at least a trimester behind in my brain as I was so worried. Every scan I would make myself sick from anxiety.
You’re not alone and just do the best you can, don’t listen to anyone who says you have to enjoy every day of being pregnant, it’s just not a reality for us mummies who’ve gone through loss xx
Thank you so much. I agree with everything you said, I'm hoping it eases soon which I thought it would the further along I got, but it seems to be getting worse. I think I'll have a chat with my midwife.
I'm happy you got your rainbow baby x x
 
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Babies are so expensive! Crapbag isnt keen given we've just put the deposit down on a bigger car, bought a new garden sofa set because I wanted something more comfortable with the baby and ordered a new pram because I hated the old one 😂 maybe ill buy one on my card, get it delivered when hes at work and the old taken away 🫢 he will be none the wiser!

I bought a new mattress when my daughter was a month old because my back was getting f***ed from feeding and I needed more support than my 10 year old mattress 😅
 
Babies are so expensive! Crapbag isnt keen given we've just put the deposit down on a bigger car, bought a new garden sofa set because I wanted something more comfortable with the baby and ordered a new pram because I hated the old one 😂 maybe ill buy one on my card, get it delivered when hes at work and the old taken away 🫢 he will be none the wiser!
I've been told under no circumstances am I to buy a new pram as I absolutely insisted on having a nice fox print Cosatto with our first which cost a bomb (we got a travel system) under the understanding it would last for all future babies. When I realised it's a piece of tit and I should've gone with the MaxiCosy my OH preferred (but was in boring black...) I had a bit of a strop about it :D The trouble is, they depreciate so quickly! We bought ours with the car seat which we wouldn't pass on anyway even if we weren't using it again for about £1200 and they sell second hand for £250. If you're lucky.
 
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Just checking in to see how everyone is doing 🫶

I’m 11 weeks today and there is light at the end of the first trimester tunnel . I’m feeling more energised (though still ready for bed at 7.30) , less sick . We’ve had our dating scan through and it’s on 6th May 🥺 I’m feeling really anxious about it even though we saw a heartbeat at 7w4d and my symptoms have continued to be strong and present . But I know this anxiety never goes away … just got to roll with it
 
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What are you all wearing/did wear in first trimester, feeling very bleurgh tha nothing fits. Well jeans fasten up but don’t look nice on the waistline and uncomfortable. Lost 4 stone last year so my body changing again is going to take some getting used to. I know it’s not the biggest issue right now.
 
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What are you all wearing/did wear in first trimester, feeling very bleurgh tha nothing fits. Well jeans fasten up but don’t look nice on the waistline and uncomfortable. Lost 4 stone last year so my body changing again is going to take some getting used to. I know it’s not the biggest issue right now.
I’m 22 weeks and I swear I’m fatter everywhere except my actual belly. In the same day I had someone tell me “you’re massive” and someone else “you don’t look pregnant” so I basically just look large 🙃 I can’t get things over my shoulders! Who gets large shoulders in pregnancy! Just been through all my summer wardrobe and angrily put all my jeans in storage. Planning on living in flowy dresses and joggers.

I also had no idea that pregnancy made your skin more sensitive to sun, sat outside for a few hours in this nice May UK weather and my skin on my entire body has gone SO red and rashy and blotchy. This is payback for me having zero sickness in my first trimester I swear!

I STILL can’t feel baby move ☹
 
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