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A knickers plea!!! Does anywhere know where they do maternity knickers that go up to the underneath of the our knockers?! I'm struggling to find any!! M&S had zero maternity knickers in today which I was shocked at!! Thanks
George at Asda maternity knickers are full cotton and Bridget Jones levels of high up your belly!
 
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A knickers plea!!! Does anywhere know where they do maternity knickers that go up to the underneath of the our knockers?! I'm struggling to find any!! M&S had zero maternity knickers in today which I was shocked at!! Thanks
Try George at Asda! you can order them online 🥰
 
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A knickers plea!!! Does anywhere know where they do maternity knickers that go up to the underneath of the our knockers?! I'm struggling to find any!! M&S had zero maternity knickers in today which I was shocked at!! Thanks
I’ve sized up in Primark full briefs and they are basically up to the bra, or way least cover most of the bump in a comfortable way.
 
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A knickers plea!!! Does anywhere know where they do maternity knickers that go up to the underneath of the our knockers?! I'm struggling to find any!! M&S had zero maternity knickers in today which I was shocked at!! Thanks
I did order some online from M&S which I quite like, but I’ve also just sized up two sizes in their flexifit full briefs too which have also been super comfy! I couldn’t find any actual maternity knickers in store at M&S either but did online!
 
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M&s full brief are fantastic if you go up a size.
I'm from Ireland so have dunnes which have great choices too 😅

Have had a stomach bug the last 24 hours and on the other side of it thankfully.
 
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I knew you ladies would come up trumps (get it🤣) thanks so much!!! Going to have a look at all these options mainly the online ones. Living on an island has its pros, but the cons are definitely lack of shops including primark 😭😭
 
I’ve been a bit unhinged today. Awake since 3am, got it in my head that the boy’s movements were less and different and it was stressing me out, had to do some work even though it was my day off and the start of my 4 day weeks. So worked from 8:30-9:30ish, called the maternity unit, went in to sit on the CTG. the boy is fine, so that helped. Came home, did some housework, made lunch, painted a load of stuff outside, crashed in front of the telly then had a nap. What a weird day 🤣
 
I did order some online from M&S which I quite like, but I’ve also just sized up two sizes in their flexifit full briefs too which have also been super comfy! I couldn’t find any actual maternity knickers in store at M&S either but did online!
I got the full briefs from M&S and maybe went 2 sizes up, not ashamed to say I still wear them now and my baby is 10 months old 🤣

Just parking myself here because I want another one so just want to remind myself of the wild ride of pregnancy to check I definitely do 🤣🤣
 
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I’ve been a bit unhinged today. Awake since 3am, got it in my head that the boy’s movements were less and different and it was stressing me out, had to do some work even though it was my day off and the start of my 4 day weeks. So worked from 8:30-9:30ish, called the maternity unit, went in to sit on the CTG. the boy is fine, so that helped. Came home, did some housework, made lunch, painted a load of stuff outside, crashed in front of the telly then had a nap. What a weird day 🤣
I’ve had a weird day too! Didn’t feel baby at all from yesterday morning, had a panic, got sent by mr amarantine to lie down (I keep trying to do house moving jobs and he thinks I am exerting myself - I’m not 😂), felt a couple of flutters, called triage back to say I’m probably fine, then lay down again around 5ish and felt nothing so had a cry, went to triage, was told baby had the strongest heartbeat they’d heard all day, came home to find that my parents (being well meaning) have packed away our entire living room including the sofas, so had another cry because we have nowhere to sit after dinner, and finally we have no internet because we had to set it all up at the new house, so I can’t even scroll mindlessly, can’t rely on dodgy 4G because we live in the a end of nowhere…today needs to absolutely do one 🤣
 
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I’ve had a weird day too! Didn’t feel baby at all from yesterday morning, had a panic, got sent by mr amarantine to lie down (I keep trying to do house moving jobs and he thinks I am exerting myself - I’m not 😂), felt a couple of flutters, called triage back to say I’m probably fine, then lay down again around 5ish and felt nothing so had a cry, went to triage, was told baby had the strongest heartbeat they’d heard all day, came home to find that my parents (being well meaning) have packed away our entire living room including the sofas, so had another cry because we have nowhere to sit after dinner, and finally we have no internet because we had to set it all up at the new house, so I can’t even scroll mindlessly, can’t rely on dodgy 4G because we live in the a end of nowhere…today needs to absolutely do one 🤣
Oh lord! No sofas, nah. I’d not have coped! Really glad Junior Amarantine is ok. It’s SO easy to fall into a worry pit about them! MrDN didn’t want me up a step ladder to do painting and I got annoyed at him. I don’t even like being up a step ladder when I’m not pregnant, I was never going to do dangerous stuff! Now we’re on course to make some serious progress on a garden project that is totally and utterly pointless but I’ve somehow decided is the only thing in the world we need to be doing with our time.
 
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Oh lord! No sofas, nah. I’d not have coped! Really glad Junior Amarantine is ok. It’s SO easy to fall into a worry pit about them! MrDN didn’t want me up a step ladder to do painting and I got annoyed at him. I don’t even like being up a step ladder when I’m not pregnant, I was never going to do dangerous stuff! Now we’re on course to make some serious progress on a garden project that is totally and utterly pointless but I’ve somehow decided is the only thing in the world we need to be doing with our time.
Likewise I am glad all was good with Junior DragName, it is so easy to worry ALL THE TIME! The little madam (we assume, we don’t actually know!) is still not moving but I feel much better having had a listen to the heartbeat!

Mr A literally does not want me to do ANYTHING and I am getting so cross because I am useless at doing nothing and have only been doing the things I feel okay doing like moving clothes and taking down curtains, the good thing about all this is that he cleaned the oven because he didn’t want me around the chemicals - so that’s good because he never does that 😂 I hope your “pointless” (🤣) garden project goes well, I bet it’ll be fab and be exactly as you planned!
 
Does anyone have experience with being overweight/obese and if this changes anything with antenatal care? I know risks are increased but what does that actually look like for how you’re treated. I gained quite a bit of weight during IVF treatment (a listed side effect of the medications as well as barely being able to walk or move much). I wasn’t obese before this but my BMI has tipped just over 30 after gaining over 10lbs. I’ve gone back to the gym recently as I finally feel well enough, was very fit before fertility treatment with running a few times a week and powerlifting so I (did) have a lot of muscle too. I can only see in my area that induction is recommended with a BMI over 40. But if I’m weighed throughout pregnancy and I do gain actual pregnancy weight (I’m only 8 weeks now) will this push my BMI sky high? I don’t get why BMI applies in later pregnancy!
 
Does anyone have experience with being overweight/obese and if this changes anything with antenatal care? I know risks are increased but what does that actually look like for how you’re treated. I gained quite a bit of weight during IVF treatment (a listed side effect of the medications as well as barely being able to walk or move much). I wasn’t obese before this but my BMI has tipped just over 30 after gaining over 10lbs. I’ve gone back to the gym recently as I finally feel well enough, was very fit before fertility treatment with running a few times a week and powerlifting so I (did) have a lot of muscle too. I can only see in my area that induction is recommended with a BMI over 40. But if I’m weighed throughout pregnancy and I do gain actual pregnancy weight (I’m only 8 weeks now) will this push my BMI sky high? I don’t get why BMI applies in later pregnancy!
First of all congratulations!!!

Sorry if I’ve not understood your post / question properly -

I was a size 10/12 with my first pregnancy. However with my second (I am currently 37 weeks), I was a very different size! I was a size 16 and I had a high BMI (31.5) at my booking appointment. I have only been weighed once since that initial weigh in. So twice in total throughout this pregnancy.

The only difference I have found is that if your BMI is above 30 at your booking appointment, you are automatically put forward for a glucose / gestational diabetes test but you have a right to decline this. And then I think if it is above 40, you aren’t allowed a water birth (but please don’t quote me on that). I think it’s because it is harder for midwives to lift you from the pool if you are this size and there are complications etc.

I’ve not really restricted my food intake this pregnancy and when I was weighed for the second time (I think I was around 34/35 weeks), my BMI had only gone up to 32.5 or 33. So I think you’d have to eat an awful lot to go from just over 30 BMI to over 40.

I know it’s different with every trust but my weight hasn’t been mentioned at any appointments (even at my consultant appointments, let alone my midwife appointments) / hasn’t been an issue whatsoever 😊. I’m hoping for a VBAC and despite my size, the hospital have been so supportive and haven’t said the word “no” to anything at all. But if they do for you, remember everything is your choice, the NHS only has guidelines. Very very obese women go on to have natural births, average sized babies, no gestational diabetes etc! X
 
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Does anyone have experience with being overweight/obese and if this changes anything with antenatal care? I know risks are increased but what does that actually look like for how you’re treated. I gained quite a bit of weight during IVF treatment (a listed side effect of the medications as well as barely being able to walk or move much). I wasn’t obese before this but my BMI has tipped just over 30 after gaining over 10lbs. I’ve gone back to the gym recently as I finally feel well enough, was very fit before fertility treatment with running a few times a week and powerlifting so I (did) have a lot of muscle too. I can only see in my area that induction is recommended with a BMI over 40. But if I’m weighed throughout pregnancy and I do gain actual pregnancy weight (I’m only 8 weeks now) will this push my BMI sky high? I don’t get why BMI applies in later pregnancy!
My BMI was 40/nearly 40 when I fell pregnant. Combined with my age, it being my first baby and a couple of other factors, it’s put me on the red/high risk pathway. However, it’s not really meant anything at all. I’ve had some extra BP and urine tests (all fine). I’ve had extra growth scans (had one of two, was absolutely fine). I’ve been weighed once during pregnancy, I wasn’t told the amount which I was fine with. I was told I had gained a perfectly normal amount of weight. I haven’t been told I can’t give birth in water and haven’t been told I have to be induced. I did get my file passed to an obstetrician who said I should have the GD test (had it, it was negative), i should deliver by 40+6, i should give birth in the main hospital. I do feel like i would be able to make any decision i wanted at this point though, given that so far (35+3) everything is absolutely fine. It feels like it was an early recommendation based on the likelihood that things could be more complicated for me. The only thing that stands in my way if having complete choice is my baby is breech and he’s still very high up with not much of any part of him in my pelvis, if he doesn’t turn i will opt for a c-section as I don’t want to risk trying to birth a breech baby naturally.

One sonographer wrote in my notes that she couldn’t do the NT measurement because of my BMI. This was horse tit. She couldn’t do it because the baby spent most of his time with his back to her scanner/in a difficult position, that was the primary problem. The fact that she jabbed me so hard I cried out to try and get him to turn was my main clue. She was a horrible woman and I made a complaint about her, but every other person I’ve encountered has been lovely, has not had issues because of my size and has not large shamed me at all. In fact, it’s the most size-positive experience I’ve ever had in the NHS. Turns out it’s the GPs that are horrible and large shaming, everyone else is a bit more balanced!

I hope you have the same sort of experience as me and congratulations!!
 
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My BMI was 40/nearly 40 when I fell pregnant. Combined with my age, it being my first baby and a couple of other factors, it’s put me on the red/high risk pathway. However, it’s not really meant anything at all. I’ve had some extra BP and urine tests (all fine). I’ve had extra growth scans (had one of two, was absolutely fine). I’ve been weighed once during pregnancy, I wasn’t told the amount which I was fine with. I was told I had gained a perfectly normal amount of weight. I haven’t been told I can’t give birth in water and haven’t been told I have to be induced. I did get my file passed to an obstetrician who said I should have the GD test (had it, it was negative), i should deliver by 40+6, i should give birth in the main hospital. I do feel like i would be able to make any decision i wanted at this point though, given that so far (35+3) everything is absolutely fine. It feels like it was an early recommendation based on the likelihood that things could be more complicated for me. The only thing that stands in my way if having complete choice is my baby is breech and he’s still very high up with not much of any part of him in my pelvis, if he doesn’t turn i will opt for a c-section as I don’t want to risk trying to birth a breech baby naturally.

One sonographer wrote in my notes that she couldn’t do the NT measurement because of my BMI. This was horse tit. She couldn’t do it because the baby spent most of his time with his back to her scanner/in a difficult position, that was the primary problem. The fact that she jabbed me so hard I cried out to try and get him to turn was my main clue. She was a horrible woman and I made a complaint about her, but every other person I’ve encountered has been lovely, has not had issues because of my size and has not large shamed me at all. In fact, it’s the most size-positive experience I’ve ever had in the NHS. Turns out it’s the GPs that are horrible and large shaming, everyone else is a bit more balanced!

I hope you have the same sort of experience as me and congratulations!!
This makes me SO happy to read!!!!! X ❤❤❤
 
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I dunno if I overdid it today doing this garden project but I just had to abandon my dinner which I was enjoying to go throw up. I haven’t been properly sick throughout my entire pregnancy so this took me totally by surprise. I don’t think I drank enough fluids today, when I went for a wee it was a bit dark, so I was having a cheeky glass of squash when I started to feel a bit sicky and assumed I needed to drink and eat. I usually snack all through the day but I didn’t even really notice being hungry. So, I continued drinking my squash till dinner time, had a few mouthfuls then suddenly felt extremely sick. I now feel ok just… confused about what just happened. It’s not scorching hot here, I have sun cream on (got burned when it was 19 degrees and foggy a few weekends ago, lesson learned!). I did have what I thought was plenty of sitting down time in between tasks, my tasks were fairly sedate ones. And I’m still hungry but don’t dare finish off my dinner 😭😭😭 maybe some toast for me in a bit.

Absolute solidarity to the HG and constantly sick ladies though. I literally threw up twice and I am acting like my world just ended. You ladies are complete and utter heroes
 
I dunno if I overdid it today doing this garden project but I just had to abandon my dinner which I was enjoying to go throw up. I haven’t been properly sick throughout my entire pregnancy so this took me totally by surprise. I don’t think I drank enough fluids today, when I went for a wee it was a bit dark, so I was having a cheeky glass of squash when I started to feel a bit sicky and assumed I needed to drink and eat. I usually snack all through the day but I didn’t even really notice being hungry. So, I continued drinking my squash till dinner time, had a few mouthfuls then suddenly felt extremely sick. I now feel ok just… confused about what just happened. It’s not scorching hot here, I have sun cream on (got burned when it was 19 degrees and foggy a few weekends ago, lesson learned!). I did have what I thought was plenty of sitting down time in between tasks, my tasks were fairly sedate ones. And I’m still hungry but don’t dare finish off my dinner 😭😭😭 maybe some toast for me in a bit.

Absolute solidarity to the HG and constantly sick ladies though. I literally threw up twice and I am acting like my world just ended. You ladies are complete and utter heroes
I think it's just so easy to throw yourself out of whack. The other morning I was up and at 'em doing chores and whatever and had only had a slice of toast and half a glass of water... about 10.30 I suddenly nearly fainted (proper blood thumping in ears, sweaty flush, dizzy). Had some food and water then was fine again shortly after 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ hope you feel more yourself ASAP
 
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First of all congratulations!!!

Sorry if I’ve not understood your post / question properly -

I was a size 10/12 with my first pregnancy. However with my second (I am currently 37 weeks), I was a very different size! I was a size 16 and I had a high BMI (31.5) at my booking appointment. I have only been weighed once since that initial weigh in. So twice in total throughout this pregnancy.

The only difference I have found is that if your BMI is above 30 at your booking appointment, you are automatically put forward for a glucose / gestational diabetes test but you have a right to decline this. And then I think if it is above 40, you aren’t allowed a water birth (but please don’t quote me on that). I think it’s because it is harder for midwives to lift you from the pool if you are this size and there are complications etc.

I’ve not really restricted my food intake this pregnancy and when I was weighed for the second time (I think I was around 34/35 weeks), my BMI had only gone up to 32.5 or 33. So I think you’d have to eat an awful lot to go from just over 30 BMI to over 40.

I know it’s different with every trust but my weight hasn’t been mentioned at any appointments (even at my consultant appointments, let alone my midwife appointments) / hasn’t been an issue whatsoever 😊. I’m hoping for a VBAC and despite my size, the hospital have been so supportive and haven’t said the word “no” to anything at all. But if they do for you, remember everything is your choice, the NHS only has guidelines. Very very obese women go on to have natural births, average sized babies, no gestational diabetes etc! X
Thank you for this! Yes this is what I meant - I have the midwife for the first time this week and just wanted to mentally prepare for what they’ll say about my weight. I worked so hard to lose weight to be eligible for IVF funding but have gained most of it back which is a bit demoralising. Also have always had massive G/H cup boobs which I was made fun of for as a teenager and looked out of proportion too when I was much skinnier. Now they’re even bigger and probably weigh a ton by now. Good to hear hospital have been positive so far regarding your birth plan too and I really hope all goes smoothly for you! I haven’t restricted eating either but have been trying not to overeat and I’m hoping now I can exercise again I might actually lose a little or at least not gain much.
 
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My BMI was 40/nearly 40 when I fell pregnant. Combined with my age, it being my first baby and a couple of other factors, it’s put me on the red/high risk pathway. However, it’s not really meant anything at all. I’ve had some extra BP and urine tests (all fine). I’ve had extra growth scans (had one of two, was absolutely fine). I’ve been weighed once during pregnancy, I wasn’t told the amount which I was fine with. I was told I had gained a perfectly normal amount of weight. I haven’t been told I can’t give birth in water and haven’t been told I have to be induced. I did get my file passed to an obstetrician who said I should have the GD test (had it, it was negative), i should deliver by 40+6, i should give birth in the main hospital. I do feel like i would be able to make any decision i wanted at this point though, given that so far (35+3) everything is absolutely fine. It feels like it was an early recommendation based on the likelihood that things could be more complicated for me. The only thing that stands in my way if having complete choice is my baby is breech and he’s still very high up with not much of any part of him in my pelvis, if he doesn’t turn i will opt for a c-section as I don’t want to risk trying to birth a breech baby naturally.

One sonographer wrote in my notes that she couldn’t do the NT measurement because of my BMI. This was horse tit. She couldn’t do it because the baby spent most of his time with his back to her scanner/in a difficult position, that was the primary problem. The fact that she jabbed me so hard I cried out to try and get him to turn was my main clue. She was a horrible woman and I made a complaint about her, but every other person I’ve encountered has been lovely, has not had issues because of my size and has not large shamed me at all. In fact, it’s the most size-positive experience I’ve ever had in the NHS. Turns out it’s the GPs that are horrible and large shaming, everyone else is a bit more balanced!

I hope you have the same sort of experience as me and congratulations!!
Wow that sonographer sounds horrific, good on you for making a complaint! It’s just a bit of sane perspective to remember that women of all sizes and health statuses give birth to healthy babies. But hard to keep in mind when you’re already in a fragile state and afraid of being judged by HCPs. I’ve never had it from a GP but became a bit obsessed with BMI as it was so important in the fertility clinic. Will probably do the GD test if I need to, Sounds like everything is going smoothly for you so far and like mushroomprincess, it really cheered me up to read this.
 
Wow that sonographer sounds horrific, good on you for making a complaint! It’s just a bit of sane perspective to remember that women of all sizes and health statuses give birth to healthy babies. But hard to keep in mind when you’re already in a fragile state and afraid of being judged by HCPs. I’ve never had it from a GP but became a bit obsessed with BMI as it was so important in the fertility clinic. Will probably do the GD test if I need to, Sounds like everything is going smoothly for you so far and like mushroomprincess, it really cheered me up to read this.
She was horrible, but the 20 week scan sonographer was honestly the most joyful woman I’ve ever met. She LOVED her job and that was a really healing process for me. The sonographers I’ve seen since (I forgot I did get an extra growth scan after I went to maternity triage with concerns about reduced movement so they referred me for an extra, but everything was fine, it’s just my anxiety!) have been great as well. We were about to start a pre-IVF diet journey so I could lose some final kgs when I got my positive pregnancy test, we were going to go privately because on the NHS I’ve have had to lose 40% of my weight which I could never have done healthily, whereas the private clinic had a cut off bmi of 40, so my plan was to lose a few kg to get my BMI to 35 or so to be well within the boundary and then go for it. I don’t know if it was my wonky hormones from my PCOS but I have had to eat my way through this pregnancy, eating so much more food than I ever ate normally, but basically my weight gain has been what they’d expected when you add up the weight of the baby, the amniotic fluid, the extra blood, the extra water you carry and so on. And my BMI hasnt gone up that many points either, so please don’t worry. You have the right to say no to everything they suggest. I decided I would follow all the recommended tests and check and to be honest it’s made me feel well looked after rather than scrutinised for my weight but that’s probably down to the midwives being really nice.
 
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