That’s what we’re all here for! It strikes me that it is 100% normal to feel overwhelmed but that doesn’t mean you’re doing a tit job!This swapped my tears from sad ones to happy ones… thank you from the bottom of my heart for this. It’s just what I needed to hear. Sending you huge hugs, thank you again. X
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I’d have kicked him in the goolies and gone feral, tbh.I am by no means a "skinny" girl. I've always been built like a brick shithouse. I have now found that's due to PCOS, insulin resistance and high testosterone levels. However, it still doesn't make me feel any better.
I comfortably sit around the 13 stone mark. The only time in adulthood I managed to get under 12 stone was when all I ate was french onion soup on an evening and did high intensity spin classes 6 days a week. I was wrecked, but I did it for my wedding... The COVID hit and I ended up back around 13 stone by the end of it.
I wouldn't say I like how I look, I hate it tbh. I've tried all sorts of diets and still around the 13 stone mark by the end of it. I ran 5ks at least once a week and still nothing.
My husband made a comment today about me "you look around 30 weeks pregnant, it can't be all bump, you've clearly put weight on" and how I'm "not really moving or doing anything", yet by the time I've done the cooking, cleaning, washing, ran around after a toddler, etc. I'm shattered. The last thing on my mind is to exercise. Not to mention I'm growing two little froglets.🫠
I think his comments have just tipped me over the edge and I'm so emotional about it all. I know my body will never ever be the same again and I was totally okay with that until today. Now I've spiralled down a hole of "pregnancy exercises" and wondering how the f I'm going to find the energy to do all this amongst the already chaotic life we have.
I'm also very conscious that I'll probably be having an elective section which terrifies me as firstly I'm scared of needles (horrifically scared) and secondly the recovery. I know I'll have a section overhang if I decide to go down that route and I was at peace with that too until today. Now I'm just a bit of a large, sweaty mess wondering how much of a whale I'll look at 30 weeks.
Sorry, rant over.
No to pregnancy exercises unless you want to incorporate some movement. Stretching seems to be the thing everyone on TikTok loves to talk about. I know some of the lovely pregnant ladies in here still hit the gym and if you have the energy for it, excellent! But it’s a no to suddenly starting something because you think it’s what you should do based on a dumb comment from your daft husband. I believe you show earlier in a second pregnancy and with twins. Doesnt mean by 30 weeks you’ll be a giant, I think it just means your body goes ‘oh hey I remember this, let’s go!’ I struggle with how my naked body looks and struggle with myself from certain angles but I’m really trying to just accept it and not be horrid to myself for the first time in my life. You’ll have some extra general fluids and stuff, and a tonne more blood, as well as the twinnies!
I hope you get a really big bouquet of flowers out of this epic fail from Mr Fishsticks.
Ok we’re going to need your address because a bevvy of be-bellied women are going to ride at dawn (because we’ve bleeping been awake since 3am) and sort your husband out. Who says that?! I am so very sorry he did because your partner is supposed to be the person you trust most and can be at your most vulnerable with and he was very unkind. i really hope that he has a long hard think and apologises. I just want to give you a big hug (and now that you don’t need them anymore - him in the balls)I am by no means a "skinny" girl. I've always been built like a brick shithouse. I have now found that's due to PCOS, insulin resistance and high testosterone levels. However, it still doesn't make me feel any better.
I comfortably sit around the 13 stone mark. The only time in adulthood I managed to get under 12 stone was when all I ate was french onion soup on an evening and did high intensity spin classes 6 days a week. I was wrecked, but I did it for my wedding... The COVID hit and I ended up back around 13 stone by the end of it.
I wouldn't say I like how I look, I hate it tbh. I've tried all sorts of diets and still around the 13 stone mark by the end of it. I ran 5ks at least once a week and still nothing.
My husband made a comment today about me "you look around 30 weeks pregnant, it can't be all bump, you've clearly put weight on" and how I'm "not really moving or doing anything", yet by the time I've done the cooking, cleaning, washing, ran around after a toddler, etc. I'm shattered. The last thing on my mind is to exercise. Not to mention I'm growing two little froglets.🫠
I think his comments have just tipped me over the edge and I'm so emotional about it all. I know my body will never ever be the same again and I was totally okay with that until today. Now I've spiralled down a hole of "pregnancy exercises" and wondering how the f I'm going to find the energy to do all this amongst the already chaotic life we have.
I'm also very conscious that I'll probably be having an elective section which terrifies me as firstly I'm scared of needles (horrifically scared) and secondly the recovery. I know I'll have a section overhang if I decide to go down that route and I was at peace with that too until today. Now I'm just a bit of a large, sweaty mess wondering how much of a whale I'll look at 30 weeks.
Sorry, rant over.
Woken up with a gammy throat and a painful cough. Special place in hell for whatever moron gave me these germs, my week is way too busy for this crap.
Ugh good luck. I had this for 6 days and it’s only just clearing. Being sick and pregnant is so tit as you can’t bloody take anything. Hope it is maybe just tiredness and it eases for you quickly!
Have taken two paracetamol and dragged myself into work. Have to spend most of today showing my maternity cover the complexity of our budgets
kill me now!So a little update after my last post. I've not been sick since Sat night!! This is the longest I've gone and hopefully means i can regain some of the weight I've lost (it's an awful lot). Drs still haven't got back to me, as we have to email them and 111 basically didn't care 
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Have started taking omeprazope twice a day and that seems to have settled it loads. I actually managed 2 small chips and a milkshake last night!!! I got over emotional and cried. We've got some complan in to try and help and I'm prioritising fluids and shakes, along with gummy bears for the sugar. This pregnancy has really turned my life upside down. Bonus news is we have a private scan today so that's exciting. Thank you all for not making me feel terrible about how I was feeling with being so sick (8-10+ times a day) that I felt ungrateful.
.Have started taking omeprazope twice a day and that seems to have settled it loads. I actually managed 2 small chips and a milkshake last night!!! I got over emotional and cried. We've got some complan in to try and help and I'm prioritising fluids and shakes, along with gummy bears for the sugar. This pregnancy has really turned my life upside down. Bonus news is we have a private scan today so that's exciting. Thank you all for not making me feel terrible about how I was feeling with being so sick (8-10+ times a day) that I felt ungrateful.
I’m so glad you’ve managed to get something that helps. That is completely rubbish about the Dr and 111 though. You keep e-mailing that surgery!So a little update after my last post. I've not been sick since Sat night!! This is the longest I've gone and hopefully means i can regain some of the weight I've lost (it's an awful lot). Drs still haven't got back to me, as we have to email them and 111 basically didn't care
Have started taking omeprazope twice a day and that seems to have settled it loads. I actually managed 2 small chips and a milkshake last night!!! I got over emotional and cried. We've got some complan in to try and help and I'm prioritising fluids and shakes, along with gummy bears for the sugar. This pregnancy has really turned my life upside down. Bonus news is we have a private scan today so that's exciting. Thank you all for not making me feel terrible about how I was feeling with being so sick (8-10+ times a day) that I felt ungrateful.
I have never taken Complan, when I was not pregnant but had e.coli and couldn’t eat I moved onto vegan protein shakes (developed a temporary dairy intolerance). I was going to use them in pregnancy to help with my nutrition maybe but they had vitamin A in them which tend to be advised against in pregnancy, at least no topical retinol (which is Vitamin A), no liver and no pate as lots of pate has liver which contains loads of vitamin A. I have no idea how much is unhealthy though, because it must be naturally occurring in other things and there must be a ‘safe level’. So, I am waffling on a huge amount to say that you should maybe just check what Complan has in it in case there is vitamin A? And if there is just check with a midwife before you have any sort of panic. I don’t think it’s a case that if you even think about vit A that the worst will happen!
I’ve never found anyone in this thread to be remotely judgemental through the highs and lows. Just because you really want something with all your heart like being pregnant doesn’t magically mean it’s an easy process. That would be soooo great if that was the case! But some women do have a seriously rough time and it must make them feel extremely fed up and that is just a totally normal human emotion!
Im on a struggle bus and sorry for the TMI but my pelvic floor in this pregnancy has gone to complete pot. I never had any issues before but I seem to be leaking a lot more as I'm vommitting..
I actually feel so gross , I'm a little shy of 9 weeks. Only another 30 to go.
I say it a lot but men definitely wouldn't do pregnancy, we would be existent
I actually feel so gross , I'm a little shy of 9 weeks. Only another 30 to go.
I say it a lot but men definitely wouldn't do pregnancy, we would be existent
Sorry, I feel like I’m trying to have an answer for everyone in here and I’m totally not but my bladder was a nightmare from early pregnancy at night time, and I got a referral to a specific physio for bladder weakness/pelvic issues who works with pregnant and non-pregnant people. After going through everything with her it turns out I’ve probably had an overactive bladder maybe my whole life and so whilst it’s been worse in pregnancy the real work will begin when I’m post partum. However, doing a drinks diary where I had to record input and output and explain everything I was drinking was totally enlightening. I was drinking a lot more fluid than I thought, some fluids were possibly irritating my bladder so I’ve cut them out/reduced them, and I am trying to be more balanced about drinking the same amount slowly over the whole day and that’s personally helped me most of the time. Different issues will have different solutions though of course, it doesn’t sound like this would help your particular issues. I got my referral through my midwife and it was a recommendation from this thread so I’m trying to pay it forward
I think that if men were pregnant rather than women that there would be massive advances in all of it and there would be a bit less shrugging and ‘yeah, that’s just pregnancy’ about every single wacky symptom that there is. My dream of falling asleep one night with the next to me cot set up and then waking up in the morning to find the baby had magically and painlessly arrived would be way closer to reality than the side eye I’m going to get from my midwife when I announce this as my birth plan later this week
This is absolutely spot on, if men had to do it there would be so much scientific research and advances in place! Also, sounds like a great birth plan, let’s all put thatI think that if men were pregnant rather than women that there would be massive advances in all of it and there would be a bit less shrugging and ‘yeah, that’s just pregnancy’ about every single wacky symptom that there is. My dream of falling asleep one night with the next to me cot set up and then waking up in the morning to find the baby had magically and painlessly arrived would be way closer to reality than the side eye I’m going to get from my midwife when I announce this as my birth plan later this week
We’ve done the majority of our moving now but I am so ridiculously tired, Mr A was annoying yesterday when I moaned I was too hot and too tired. He said I shouldn’t moan because we’re all hot and tired, which is a case in point for how men just wouldn’t be able to hack pregnancy! He’s apologised for being a fool now but I was cross that instead of calling him out at the time and telling him it was a fool comment I just cried
moving whilst pregnant over bank holiday weekend when it’s really hot, 0/10 do not recommend…I know I already quoted this post but was thinking about it earlier, and I felt I should say also don’t worry about the housework, do what you can do! I found it easier to do it the minute I walked in the door before I sat down, I lost all motivation for everything in the evenings too and pretty much lived on airfryer jacket potatoes with beans and cheese! My partner is (usually) away a lot for work (he’s currently without a job due to redundancies at his company which is a bit stressful) but he was still away a lot in my first trimester. I’m really lucky that we live close to my parents and they’re willing and able to help out because I know not everybody is able to have this, but honestly those early weeks with me feeling crap and Mr A away in India for work I had mum come round a few times to help with the housework. Lean on any help you have in the first trimester because it is HARD!
Excellent. I woke up feeling terrible. I have some out of date Covid tests (exp may 2024) and I took one and it’s positive! My last positive test was a pregnancy one and was slightly more joyful.
MrDN has dashed out to the chemist to get an in date test and we’ll hope this has been a false positive. I’m winning at life
MrDN has dashed out to the chemist to get an in date test and we’ll hope this has been a false positive. I’m winning at life
Just had my 28 week growth scan, my last 2 scans baby girl's head has been 6% and I've been a bit worried but today it was 18% so I feel a bit relieved that it's not gone down! She's predicted to be 2lbs12 atm and baby boy 2lbs15! Seems crazy to me that I'm carrying almost 6lbs of baby already
Trekked over to the next town (door to door an hour and a bit), got to midwife appointment, peed in tube, she dipped it and went "yup urine clear let's do your BP" "wait, clear?" "urine clear?" "No protein?" "No"
Dunno wtf all that was about then???
Obstetrician at day unit said she didn't think stress would manifest as this but when I was last there protein trace had reduced (after 1 week signed off) and today it's back to normal level (after 2 weeks signed off) so
Dunno wtf all that was about then???
Obstetrician at day unit said she didn't think stress would manifest as this but when I was last there protein trace had reduced (after 1 week signed off) and today it's back to normal level (after 2 weeks signed off) so
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Riddled with anxiety tonight , have a scan tomorrow and I cannot stand them.. at least it's first thing in the morning anyway. Still feeling so bloody tired and definitely don't have an appetite so all good signs
I am due my section on Friday… I am so ready to have this baby.
I didn’t go to sleep until around 3am and then our little boy came in and woke us at 4.20am for breakfast.
I know sleep is difficult with a newborn but I feel in some ways it’s easier than pregnancy insomnia.
I didn’t go to sleep until around 3am and then our little boy came in and woke us at 4.20am for breakfast.
I know sleep is difficult with a newborn but I feel in some ways it’s easier than pregnancy insomnia.
Was it here I read about someone wanting to know if choking on their spit was a pregnancy thing because it’s been happening to them a lot lately, because same!!! Omg at least five times a day I’ll have an episode where I feel I need to be resuscitated after what felt like a harmless swallow
I think that was me! It’s definitely something that happened to me whilst not pregnant but it feels like it’s happened a LOT more since being pregnant and it does feel like my life has flashed before my eyes each time!
Weird update. I do have Covid, I rang the midwifery unit and they were a bit ‘ 
’ about it because it’s basically so retro these days and nobody has to test. They advised me to cancel my scan for today. I rang the scan department over 30 times and could t get through so decided to mask up, sanitise and come anyway. I feel bad about it but I’m also surrounded by coughing sniffing people who might have Covid anyway and not know!
Anyway, I think I’m glad I came because there isn’t as much fluid around the baby as they’d expect there to be so I’m now in maternity triage to be checked out. I’m remaining calm, my actual freak out is any pregnancy-related anything will trigger my mat leave starting and woah Nelly, I am NOT ready to leave work early as much as I really want to because I’m done.
’ about it because it’s basically so retro these days and nobody has to test. They advised me to cancel my scan for today. I rang the scan department over 30 times and could t get through so decided to mask up, sanitise and come anyway. I feel bad about it but I’m also surrounded by coughing sniffing people who might have Covid anyway and not know!Anyway, I think I’m glad I came because there isn’t as much fluid around the baby as they’d expect there to be so I’m now in maternity triage to be checked out. I’m remaining calm, my actual freak out is any pregnancy-related anything will trigger my mat leave starting and woah Nelly, I am NOT ready to leave work early as much as I really want to because I’m done.
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