Pregnancy #65

[amarantine]

Had a bit of an evening of it today and need a good vent I was planning for this to be a lovely relaxing evening with a film because mr amarantine is away tonight and I’m back to work tomorrow after two weeks of moving, but I ended up having to toddle off to triage with my mum in tow because I had very slightly pink discharge when I wiped after going for a wee earlier. Long story short baby is fine, but I had a junior doctor come and do internal examinations and swabs just to check and she went off on a total tangent about my low lying placenta and bleeding as a result of that and how they’d need to keep me in and possibly transfer me to a different hospital in case of very early delivery. Cue me having a huge panic because mr amarantine is in bloody Southampton dropping off his company car now he’s moving jobs and can’t get back, plus he won’t have a car after tomorrow, thinking I’m going to be rushed to another hospital in very premature labour. When the midwife came back in to talk to us about what we wanted to do she said there was blood in my urine sample, but all my other obs were normal so it probably just means I have a water infection. All this panic and tears and a late night before I have to go back to work post summer holidays (luckily the next two days are training days!) to find out I probably just have a water infection and nothing to worry about…after being told by the doctor that I’d have to stay in overnight but even if I did my particular hospital isn’t equipped for very premature babies. The midwife was absolutely wonderful though and very reassuring but I’m not half knackered and drained now plus still worried in case it is something else because the doctor put the bloody fear into me…happy sodding Sunday

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

Had a bit of an evening of it today and need a good vent I was planning for this to be a lovely relaxing evening with a film because mr amarantine is away tonight and I’m back to work tomorrow after two weeks of moving, but I ended up having to toddle off to triage with my mum in tow because I had very slightly pink discharge when I wiped after going for a wee earlier. Long story short baby is fine, but I had a junior doctor come and do internal examinations and swabs just to check and she went off on a total tangent about my low lying placenta and bleeding as a result of that and how they’d need to keep me in and possibly transfer me to a different hospital in case of very early delivery. Cue me having a huge panic because mr amarantine is in bloody Southampton dropping off his company car now he’s moving jobs and can’t get back, plus he won’t have a car after tomorrow, thinking I’m going to be rushed to another hospital in very premature labour. When the midwife came back in to talk to us about what we wanted to do she said there was blood in my urine sample, but all my other obs were normal so it probably just means I have a water infection. All this panic and tears and a late night before I have to go back to work post summer holidays (luckily the next two days are training days!) to find out I probably just have a water infection and nothing to worry about…after being told by the doctor that I’d have to stay in overnight but even if I did my particular hospital isn’t equipped for very premature babies. The midwife was absolutely wonderful though and very reassuring but I’m not half knackered and drained now plus still worried in case it is something else because the doctor put the bloody fear into me…happy sodding Sunday

Oh flipping heck! So glad that everything is “ok”. Any sight of blood during pregnancy is so scary - even though for the most part it’s your body just being a fool and panicking you. I’ve had a couple of small bleeds this pregnancy and it’s just so anxiety inducing. I’ve noticed that medical staff tend to forget you’re a person sometimes and they just talk without thinking about how you must be feeling. I don’t think it’s done with malice - just a bit of detachment. Really pleased you had a lovely midwife. Here’s hoping the placenta might move (there’s still time). X

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Had a bit of an evening of it today and need a good vent I was planning for this to be a lovely relaxing evening with a film because mr amarantine is away tonight and I’m back to work tomorrow after two weeks of moving, but I ended up having to toddle off to triage with my mum in tow because I had very slightly pink discharge when I wiped after going for a wee earlier. Long story short baby is fine, but I had a junior doctor come and do internal examinations and swabs just to check and she went off on a total tangent about my low lying placenta and bleeding as a result of that and how they’d need to keep me in and possibly transfer me to a different hospital in case of very early delivery. Cue me having a huge panic because mr amarantine is in bloody Southampton dropping off his company car now he’s moving jobs and can’t get back, plus he won’t have a car after tomorrow, thinking I’m going to be rushed to another hospital in very premature labour. When the midwife came back in to talk to us about what we wanted to do she said there was blood in my urine sample, but all my other obs were normal so it probably just means I have a water infection. All this panic and tears and a late night before I have to go back to work post summer holidays (luckily the next two days are training days!) to find out I probably just have a water infection and nothing to worry about…after being told by the doctor that I’d have to stay in overnight but even if I did my particular hospital isn’t equipped for very premature babies. The midwife was absolutely wonderful though and very reassuring but I’m not half knackered and drained now plus still worried in case it is something else because the doctor put the bloody fear into me…happy sodding Sunday

Drs sometimes just exist in this world of their own I think. Nurses and midwives and sonographers tend to manage to be more human and remember they’re talking to a stressed out parent to be. The consultants I’ve briefly met along my journey have been ok but they’ve probably honed this after years. The Junior Drs are possibly still thinking aloud to themselves and forgetting they’re in front of someone who is hanging on their every word. Hope today is really gentle to you!

 

[amarantine]

Oh flipping heck! So glad that everything is “ok”. Any sight of blood during pregnancy is so scary - even though for the most part it’s your body just being a fool and panicking you. I’ve had a couple of small bleeds this pregnancy and it’s just so anxiety inducing. I’ve noticed that medical staff tend to forget you’re a person sometimes and they just talk without thinking about how you must be feeling. I don’t think it’s done with malice - just a bit of detachment. Really pleased you had a lovely midwife. Here’s hoping the placenta might move (there’s still time). X

When I spoke to triage on the phone even they said I didn’t have to come in if a phonecall was reassuring enough because it sounded pretty okay but they were happy to see me and then to hear all the stuff the doctor then said sent me into a total panic. She was young and a registrar so only just above a junior doctor and very new to the post so I’m sure she was just doing everything by the book which I completely understand and was very professional, just doesn’t half make you panic! Glad I took my mum actually because she’s worked in quality assurance and control and crisis management for the NHS for years so she was very good at asking the right questions. If mr amarantine had been home and just us had gone it would have been even harder to understand the situation as we don’t have that working knowledge!

Drs sometimes just exist in this world of their own I think. Nurses and midwives and sonographers tend to manage to be more human and remember they’re talking to a stressed out parent to be. The consultants I’ve briefly met along my journey have been ok but they’ve probably honed this after years. The Junior Drs are possibly still thinking aloud to themselves and forgetting they’re in front of someone who is hanging on their every word. Hope today is really gentle to you!

This is exactly what my thought was about the doctor, she’s just info dumping and doing things “by the book” because imagine being the registrar that says all is fine only to send me home and have something more serious happen. She was only doing her job, I think it was a tricky situation for the midwife because she’s clearly very experienced and thought as long as all my obs were okay I’d be absolutely fine to go home as baby sounded really healthy and they didn’t find any trace of bleeding when they did the internal examinations and swabs, but the doctor was saying I needed to stay in and she can’t really undermine her colleague…

I’m feeling knackered this morning but mostly cross I missed my chilled evening poor mr a was in a right state, he worries so much about health and the baby

 

[hellooo1]

Long time wishful lurker, just popping in to introduce myself, I've just graduated from the TTC thread and I am so excited! I am currently 4 weeks and 5 days (literally found out at 3 weeks 3 days so I feel like its been an eternity already My partner and I had been TTC for 9 months with one chemical in May so we are cautiously excited at the moment! We've got an early scan booked for 7 weeks 4 days which I am filled with anxiety for but it won't be long before coming around! Hoping to spend a lot of time here over the coming months

 

[amarantine]

Long time wishful lurker, just popping in to introduce myself, I've just graduated from the TTC thread and I am so excited! I am currently 4 weeks and 5 days (literally found out at 3 weeks 3 days so I feel like its been an eternity already My partner and I had been TTC for 9 months with one chemical in May so we are cautiously excited at the moment! We've got an early scan booked for 7 weeks 4 days which I am filled with anxiety for but it won't be long before coming around! Hoping to spend a lot of time here over the coming months

Welcome in! Very exciting times for you! I can relate to feeling like I’ve been pregnant forever, I’m nearly 25 weeks now but honestly known since my period was like 2 days late so it feels like absolutely forever fingers crossed for your early scan, we had one at just over 6 weeks and we’d already known for what felt like ages and waiting for it seemed such a long time!

 

[lilykestrel]

The junior doctor I had at the end of my first day sitting being prodded and poked in the Day Unit blithely said "and it might be you've some sort of kidney abnormality that's only come to light with the physical stress of pregnancy so we'll refer you for an ultrasound" and then looked completely floored when I burst into tears because in my head (that had been sat in a cubicle for hours on that day it was 34C in the South) I was suddenly thinking "omg my kidneys don't work I am going to be on a dialysis machine for the rest of my life wtf" and he was like "I mean that's highly unlikely but it'd be negligent if we didn't check"

 

[lilykestrel]

Speaking of, I'm on my way to said kidney ultrasound (despite results now being back to normal). They told me to drink 1.5 litres of water and not go to the toilet. I may wet myself.

 

[amarantine]

The junior doctor I had at the end of my first day sitting being prodded and poked in the Day Unit blithely said "and it might be you've some sort of kidney abnormality that's only come to light with the physical stress of pregnancy so we'll refer you for an ultrasound" and then looked completely floored when I burst into tears because in my head (that had been sat in a cubicle for hours on that day it was 34C in the South) I was suddenly thinking "omg my kidneys don't work I am going to be on a dialysis machine for the rest of my life wtf" and he was like "I mean that's highly unlikely but it'd be negligent if we didn't check"

Haha I genuinely don’t think any of them are doing anything except being well meaning and sort of regurgitating everything they think it could or might be based on the symptoms you have, they sound a bit like they’ve memorised the textbook the young woman I had was very efficient and professional but hasn’t quite nailed her bedside manner yet, she seemed pretty surprised I was upset that I’d suddenly gone from everything looking fine but they just needed to run internal examinations as is protocol to being told I might need to stay in at the very least if not be transferred to another hospital…I’m absolutely sure she was just young and fresh and probably under a ton of pressure but she wasn’t very reassuring

 

[amarantine]

Speaking of, I'm on my way to said kidney ultrasound (despite results now being back to normal). They told me to drink 1.5 litres of water and not go to the toilet. I may wet myself.

Oh god, this sounds horrendous fingers crossed all the results are okay and also that you do not have an accident en route

 

[fishsticks]

Had a bit of an evening of it today and need a good vent I was planning for this to be a lovely relaxing evening with a film because mr amarantine is away tonight and I’m back to work tomorrow after two weeks of moving, but I ended up having to toddle off to triage with my mum in tow because I had very slightly pink discharge when I wiped after going for a wee earlier. Long story short baby is fine, but I had a junior doctor come and do internal examinations and swabs just to check and she went off on a total tangent about my low lying placenta and bleeding as a result of that and how they’d need to keep me in and possibly transfer me to a different hospital in case of very early delivery. Cue me having a huge panic because mr amarantine is in bloody Southampton dropping off his company car now he’s moving jobs and can’t get back, plus he won’t have a car after tomorrow, thinking I’m going to be rushed to another hospital in very premature labour. When the midwife came back in to talk to us about what we wanted to do she said there was blood in my urine sample, but all my other obs were normal so it probably just means I have a water infection. All this panic and tears and a late night before I have to go back to work post summer holidays (luckily the next two days are training days!) to find out I probably just have a water infection and nothing to worry about…after being told by the doctor that I’d have to stay in overnight but even if I did my particular hospital isn’t equipped for very premature babies. The midwife was absolutely wonderful though and very reassuring but I’m not half knackered and drained now plus still worried in case it is something else because the doctor put the bloody fear into me…happy sodding Sunday

Oh noooo. What a worry!! Hope you're feeling a little better now. I've found previously that Drs and nurses have been PANTS at delivering baby related news. They don't seem to have an anxiety filter. I've been very fortunate that most midwives I've come across have been very understanding and sympathetic and have delivered news far more scientifically based (with pros, cons, facts, figures, etc.) in comparison. Fingers crossed you're all sorted and don't have to go through that again any time soon!! xx

Long time wishful lurker, just popping in to introduce myself, I've just graduated from the TTC thread and I am so excited! I am currently 4 weeks and 5 days (literally found out at 3 weeks 3 days so I feel like its been an eternity already My partner and I had been TTC for 9 months with one chemical in May so we are cautiously excited at the moment! We've got an early scan booked for 7 weeks 4 days which I am filled with anxiety for but it won't be long before coming around! Hoping to spend a lot of time here over the coming months

Hello!! Congratulations!!! There's a lovely bunch in here! I popped in here really early and now I'm 14+1... it's gone so fast yet so slowwwwwwww at the same time. Hoping everything goes smoothly for you and you don't feel too poorly in the first trimester.

 

[lilykestrel]

In a turn of events that surprised nobody (especially as my levels have gone back to normal), my kidneys are fine and without abnormality lol. But good to know for future reference, I suppose. Ultrasound woman made me laugh saying "it must be nice to have an ultrasound that's looking at you not baby" which I suppose it is. (Also, did not wet myself, but may have snuck to the toilet when I got there 20 minutes early cos, as I suspected, I was soon desperate for the loo again)

 

[lilykestrel]

I've found previously that Drs and nurses have been PANTS at delivering baby related news. They don't seem to have an anxiety filter. I've been very fortunate that most midwives I've come across have been very understanding and sympathetic and have delivered news far more scientifically based (with pros, cons, facts, figures, etc.) in comparison.

Just remembered something my therapist came out with which hit the nail on the head 'quite often, the doctors have the knowledge but it's the midwives who have the wisdom'

 

[amarantine]

Oh noooo. What a worry!! Hope you're feeling a little better now. I've found previously that Drs and nurses have been PANTS at delivering baby related news. They don't seem to have an anxiety filter. I've been very fortunate that most midwives I've come across have been very understanding and sympathetic and have delivered news far more scientifically based (with pros, cons, facts, figures, etc.) in comparison. Fingers crossed you're all sorted and don't have to go through that again any time soon!! xx

I bloody hope I don’t - was quite a stressful evening baby is moving a lot today, whether to try and reassure me they are fine or because they are cross at being poked at for two hours last night so are kicking me in revenge, I’m not quite sure it was clear the midwife I saw was really experienced and thought I would be fine to go home but couldn’t really argue against her colleague! I think most doctors are notoriously bad at delivering news sympathetically and are just matter of fact about it which I’m usually fine with but not at 11 at night when I’m anxious about potential bleeding and my partner is away for work I’m not blaming her, just saying maybe she could have been nicer about it…I know it’s her job to run through the risks and “what might happen” but bloody hell…all fine today thankfully, just constantly feeling like I need a wee so that supports the UTI theory! Assuming it is just that as everything seemed fine on the obs!

 

[ValleyRay]

Got a phone call this morning telling me I have gestational diabetes as if I wasn't worrying about this pregnancy enough as it is

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

Got a phone call this morning telling me I have gestational diabetes as if I wasn't worrying about this pregnancy enough as it is

Oh love. I know it sounds scary - my friend has had it twice and whilst it is a bit more admin - she was fine (and treated herself to a big old maccas after birth). It does feel scary but new things often can feel that way and then once you’re in the swing of things it’ll feel less overwhelming.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Spent my day at the hospital for a follow up scan and to be reviewed in triage/the general overflow clinic. There’s a bit more amniotic fluid than last time. The ‘deepest pocket’ they can see measures at a normal amount but when they add all the measured pockets together it’s still low, although less low and therefore not maybe as scary. This was good news. I was to be seen in triage regardless but this time I wasn’t urgent which I’m very grateful for, but I had to watch everyone get taken before me and sit there for two hours. MrDN had packed snacks and a 1L insulated bottle of water, what a hero. But he left them in the car and the hospital parking is so bad he wasn’t even parked in the grounds, we’ve found a public car park that’s close enough that’s our backup plan. I had shovelled a sandwich in my mouth before the scan but I am permanently hungry so that was a challenge, MrDN didn’t eat at all, bless him. I kept telling him he could go he himself something.

Anyhoo, a Dr reviewed me. She was more junior than the Dr that saw me last week although wasn’t clueless or anything like that, but I did feel she was talking quite quickly. I do enjoy all this ‘woman’s right to choose’ stuff but it has me bamboozled at this point. Quite a few times she mentioned bringing my c section date forward again, from next Friday to Monday instead. But at the same time she said everything about the boy looks absolutely fine except the amount of amniotic fluid. Then she says that the earlier they get him out to greater the chance of respiratory problems, but then goes on to say the paediatricians can be there in an instant if needed and it’s not a given that there will be a problem, just a higher chance. By this point I’m starving hungry and dunno what’s for the best but also freaking out about not feeling ready, and wanting to balance cooking him as long as possible with keeping him as safe as possible and I’m thinking ‘how am I qualified to make this decision?!’. I’ve opted to leave my c-section date as it is.

I popped on the CTG before I left and that was fine. My blood pressure took a while to be read but by this point I think the hanger had got to my BP. I’m back with my own midwife tomorrow. The midwife in triage said that if they really wanted the baby out sooner they would have strongly encouraged that. I hope I’ve done the right thing. I spent Thursday as a complete emotional wreck, then spent Friday and Sunday working non stop to take my mind off things. Saturday I think I just loafed about and packed a hospital bag badly. I’ve got maybe one more day’s worth of work to do then I guess it becomes all about the baby

I was going to start my Mat Leave on 15th Sept but the boy will be here by then. Does that alter when my leave starts?

 

[lilykestrel]

I was going to start my Mat Leave on 15th Sept but the boy will be here by then. Does that alter when my leave starts?

I have no idea if this is universal, I would presume it is, but my work's mat leave policy is if baby comes before mat leave was initially projected to start then mat leave starts the day after baby arrives

Hope you can get some rest this evening, that sounds like a heck of a day

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I have no idea if this is universal, I would presume it is, but my work's mat leave policy is if baby comes before mat leave was initially projected to start then mat leave starts the day after baby arrives

Hope you can get some rest this evening, that sounds like a heck of a day

Yeah I’m completely pooped! I did test negative for covid this morning at least but the sniffles still prevail! Is it working day or calendar day? BabyBoyDragName is making his world debut on the Friday, my mat leave is due to start on the Monday. I should be able to ask my work but they can’t handle the fact that I’m more senior than anyone else so don’t like answering my questions

 

[lilykestrel]

Yeah I’m completely pooped! I did test negative for covid this morning at least but the sniffles still prevail! Is it working day or calendar day? BabyBoyDragName is making his world debut on the Friday, my mat leave is due to start on the Monday. I should be able to ask my work but they can’t handle the fact that I’m more senior than anyone else so don’t like answering my questions

Ah right I see your point, unfortunately my lot don't specify