You jinxed me. The people hit me this evening, but BOY was I needing that
pregnancy is bloody wild!! Questioning why we even thought it was a good idea to bang and make babies until they're in my arms then all will be forgiven 🤍
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pregnancy is bloody wild!! Questioning why we even thought it was a good idea to bang and make babies until they're in my arms then all will be forgiven 🤍Haha this is what I have also decided - least I’ll be ready come December when baby is hereI had the worst insomnia when I was pregnant. I eventually would just give up with it and go downstairs and watch TV/read (and often have toast as I was usually ravenous too!) it did ease off. I truly think it’s your body’s way of preparing you for no sleep
the only time I feel them moving at all is when I wake up in the middle of the night, then I worry all day when I barely feel anything but I am only just over 20 weeks…I feel like I could've written this.🤍 Wear whatever YOU feel good in. You don't need to be wearing tight crop tops to enjoy your bump or feel good about yourself. Women are the worst I find and they should know bloody better.I know I am a MASSIVE oversharer here but in my real life I’m really private. And I have struggled with how many people at work are commenting on my bump. I’ve always hated the way I look and I have learned to accept my bump but I am struggling to accept the attention that is being drawn to it.
I’ve had ‘you look blooming lovely’ (that one was quite sweet to be fair), ‘oh, yes, there is definitely a bump now’ () and ‘you’re looking swell’ followed by ‘I’ve not seen you wearing something tight fitted yet’ (
). Not helped by the fact that I’m so busy I am just chained to me office so I don’t see people much. I kind of liked my outfit today till I got that last comment. This is a me problem, people mean well, but I just want to shout ‘STOP LOOKING AT ME’ when instead I have to say things like ‘haha I look like an egg’ or ‘yes, I’m normally in my tent-wear aren’t I?’ Or ‘yes, definitely pregnant, teehee’. Its exhausting.
It’s also all been from women. The men at my workplace would NEVER.
I'm a short a, size 16/18 up top with massive melons, size 12-14 bottoms, so I feel out of proportion most of the time. My bump first time round looked so out of place, gave me a baggy crotch, made me look SO much wider, it was also the 2022 July heatwave when I was full term and all I wanted to do was hide in baggy jumpers and leggings. I'll never forget the "aren't you too hot" in that comments bcus yes I was fking ROASTING but if I didn't wear something like that I felt like I was going to hide in my house until I popped.
I just moaned to MrDragName about people commenting on my bump because I know he knows how much I hate any kind of attention being drawn to me. I was getting ready for bed at the time so I’m taking my clothes off and putting my PJs on. He’s watching me, saying nothing and then, when I’ve finished, he goes ‘yeah, but he’s going to get even bigger though, isn’t he?’ So I do that pretend cry laughing thing and he’s furiously back tracking going ‘no, he is, not you’ and I’m like ‘but he’s inside of me so I will have to get bigger!!!’ 
I hate this insomnia rubbish, like clockwork every night at about 2am and I can’t get back to sleep until 4-5am and it’s completely come out of the blue too, I was sleeping so well! I’ve tried pillow sprays and sleep music and magnesium and still, awake every night with restless legs (which I had before pregnancy anyway, just worse now ) I suppose at least I’ll have practice for when baby is here! It’s not so bad now as I’m a teacher with no other kids and it’s the summer hols but I’m really trying to fix this before I need to be up at 6 when the holidays end - I know when baby arrives sleep will be much rarer but I’d like to get it whilst I can
) I suppose at least I’ll have practice for when baby is here! It’s not so bad now as I’m a teacher with no other kids and it’s the summer hols but I’m really trying to fix this before I need to be up at 6 when the holidays end - I know when baby arrives sleep will be much rarer but I’d like to get it whilst I can 
I'm the same, 21 weeks and wake up needing the loo at 2 and then I'm just likeI hate this insomnia rubbish, like clockwork every night at about 2am and I can’t get back to sleep until 4-5am and it’s completely come out of the blue too, I was sleeping so well! I’ve tried pillow sprays and sleep music and magnesium and still, awake every night with restless legs (which I had before pregnancy anyway, just worse now
the worst is the past few nights it's been like half awake but brain whizzing so can't get that final push to actual sleep, I'd rather be properly awake then at least I can read or something instead of sleep taunting me out of reachI can relate so muchI'm the same, 21 weeks and wake up needing the loo at 2 and then I'm just like
I can sort of lie there quietly but not get back to sleep and it’s driving me absolutely mad, it’s only probably been the last week or so that it’s been like this, I’ve been doing quite well with sleep until honestly a few days ago and now it’s well and truly a nightly thing…
Yup. It’s been like this for the last two months at least for me. I don’t even need a wee. Just wake up. Then my first born is an early riser - he was waking at 5:30 but is managing to stay asleep until 6am lately.I hate this insomnia rubbish, like clockwork every night at about 2am and I can’t get back to sleep until 4-5am and it’s completely come out of the blue too, I was sleeping so well! I’ve tried pillow sprays and sleep music and magnesium and still, awake every night with restless legs (which I had before pregnancy anyway, just worse now
Ohh this must be such a nightmare! I’m counting my blessings that this is our first and I currently have time to catch up it being the school holidays…the main time I can currently feel baby move at 20 weeks is when I wake up in the night so I wonder what this is telling us about baby’s future sleep habits
The thing I find most frustrating when I wake up in the night is whilst I'm tossing and turning trying to get comfortable and back to sleep, my partner is just lying there peacefully sleeping
On the topic of bumps, I know I had a bit of a rant about this a while ago, but I find it so weird how many people feel the need to comment on the size of the bump. Everyone carries differently as well and you should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable in without comment.
I think a lot of people mean well but just don't know what to say or how to say it and then there are other people who are just idiots. To start with I had people telling me how small my bump was, then last week I was in the doctors waiting room and some random man asked me if I was sure it wasn't twins. I just awkwardly laughed it was so weird, he literally had said nothing else to me.
Basically my conclusion after that ramble is people just tend to say things without thinking and sometimes it would be better to say nothing at all!
On the topic of bumps, I know I had a bit of a rant about this a while ago, but I find it so weird how many people feel the need to comment on the size of the bump. Everyone carries differently as well and you should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable in without comment.
I think a lot of people mean well but just don't know what to say or how to say it and then there are other people who are just idiots. To start with I had people telling me how small my bump was, then last week I was in the doctors waiting room and some random man asked me if I was sure it wasn't twins. I just awkwardly laughed it was so weird, he literally had said nothing else to me.
Basically my conclusion after that ramble is people just tend to say things without thinking and sometimes it would be better to say nothing at all!
Geared myself up for my first call to triage today and visit to the day assessment unit why is is such a daunting call even though they say to always ring if you’re worried
why is is such a daunting call even though they say to always ring if you’re worried If someone pulls out the whole are you sure it’s not twins thing - go for awkward. Make them writhe in awkwardness. Just go straight faced and say “I don’t understand” - when people are forced to explain they may realise oh hang on what a tit thing to say.The thing I find most frustrating when I wake up in the night is whilst I'm tossing and turning trying to get comfortable and back to sleep, my partner is just lying there peacefully sleeping
On the topic of bumps, I know I had a bit of a rant about this a while ago, but I find it so weird how many people feel the need to comment on the size of the bump. Everyone carries differently as well and you should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable in without comment.
I think a lot of people mean well but just don't know what to say or how to say it and then there are other people who are just idiots. To start with I had people telling me how small my bump was, then last week I was in the doctors waiting room and some random man asked me if I was sure it wasn't twins. I just awkwardly laughed it was so weird, he literally had said nothing else to me.
Basically my conclusion after that ramble is people just tend to say things without thinking and sometimes it would be better to say nothing at all!
For me, it’s my own family who ate tit at being people. Like whenever I’m stressed out it’s “try not to worry about it” “everything happens for a reason” “just be grateful xyz” OR maybe you could work on your emotional awareness and be better?
I'd be so tempted to ask them what it's like being the first documented human with ultrasonic / X-Ray vision
I have quite a small bump for my stage in pregnancy and a girl I work with commented that “it must be a very small baby is it”, which did wonders for my anxiety. When will people realise that it’s just not right to comment on anyone’s bump. If you want to say something say “you’re looking great”, everything else is unnecessary!
Have not slept the night through since my BFP. Except the day the boy evaded the doppler so I was told to go to maternity triage at the nearby big hospital immediately for checks and I had the biggest most screaming meltdown that something might be wrong with him (spoiler:he was fine, but he’s grounded for life!). And that was literally the only night I made it all the way through so… I’d rather avoid the drama and live with the insomnia I think! I’ve had times where I’ll wake up at 3, there’s no getting back to sleep, so I get up, make toast, have a nice bath and then just get myself into work and try my best!I hate this insomnia rubbish, like clockwork every night at about 2am and I can’t get back to sleep until 4-5am and it’s completely come out of the blue too, I was sleeping so well! I’ve tried pillow sprays and sleep music and magnesium and still, awake every night with restless legs (which I had before pregnancy anyway, just worse now
Just nap. I know all the good sleep hygiene stuff tells you naps are the enemy and you have to be in a routine and stuff but it’s all hopeless advice when you’re pregnant. Having a nap does not make me sleep any better or worse at night and at least I’ve had a rest. I had lifelong insomnia but this has been on another level!
I’m firmly back in my tent wear today. It’s all me, I am so body conscious but I’m pissed that I felt good in my outfit yesterday then it drew so much attention I’ve consigned it to knocking about at home in. I was wearing a nice duster/cardigan thing that I sewed myself FFS. Why couldn’t we have focussed on how nice that was instead of how big my belly is?!The thing I find most frustrating when I wake up in the night is whilst I'm tossing and turning trying to get comfortable and back to sleep, my partner is just lying there peacefully sleeping
On the topic of bumps, I know I had a bit of a rant about this a while ago, but I find it so weird how many people feel the need to comment on the size of the bump. Everyone carries differently as well and you should be able to wear whatever you feel comfortable in without comment.
I think a lot of people mean well but just don't know what to say or how to say it and then there are other people who are just idiots. To start with I had people telling me how small my bump was, then last week I was in the doctors waiting room and some random man asked me if I was sure it wasn't twins. I just awkwardly laughed it was so weird, he literally had said nothing else to me.
Basically my conclusion after that ramble is people just tend to say things without thinking and sometimes it would be better to say nothing at all!
I was a large 18-smallish 20 when I fell pregnant and whilst my weight gain has been fairly minimal and is, in the main, the combination of baby+amniotic fluid + extra blood etc, I was always going to look big because I -am- big! This should not surprise anyone. The boy is measuring basically as being a bang average weight even though I look like a giant beach ball so everyone can stick it up their bums as far as I’m concerned
I had terrible insomnia throughout the second trimester up until around 32 weeks - the heat wave didn’t help. I was sleeping about 1-2 hours and ended up crying out of frustration and exhaustion.
I am now 37 weeks and so exhausted I’m sleeping 10hrs per night and only waking for a pee.
so there is hope
I literally cannot get out of bed I’m so exhausted. I’m hoping this is normal?!
I am now 37 weeks and so exhausted I’m sleeping 10hrs per night and only waking for a pee.
so there is hope
I literally cannot get out of bed I’m so exhausted. I’m hoping this is normal?!
I've been worried about how small my bump is considering I'm carrying twins (my MIL also tells me I'm small), a girl at my work made a comment a few weeks ago about me looking the same as when I last saw her (which was a few weeks before that) so of course I worry even more that they're not growing etc... I wonder how it would go if somebody asked me if I'm sure I'm not having twins and I say well actually I am (not that it's their business), people think they're so funny saying that! Just wish people would stop with comments, nobody will be more aware of our bumps than us so there's no need to comment and potential heighten insecurities/worries etc!
The midwife and sonographer are the only people able to make comment on the baby’s size and we need to remember that! Mind you, I know those terrible paper tape measures aren’t very accurate so even that is a minefield. But yeah, it’s really easy to let what others say get into your head!
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