Pregnancy #65

[littlepup]

Got a wax this afternoon (including a Hollywood) and when I got up to get dressed there was blood on the couch roll. Obviously I made that safe for my waxer and everything, paid and ran home in a panic that something was wrong with the baby.

Had basically figured out I wasn’t bleeding from internally but couldn’t be sure so poor MrDragName had to, errr, check my flaps and discovered a bit of skin had come off, which is likely where the bleeding had come from. It was either he did it or I’d have to explain myself to maternity triage I guess and I figured that would be a serious waste of their time. He asked me if he should take a picture to show me I said I believed him.

Excellent. I am not mortified at all.

Have him check it’s healing well. The extra blood flow and swelling down there makes it more prone to damage which can then lead to infection hence they tell you to avoid hair removal when you get around due date time.

I got away with no stretch marks on my belly but my groin is a different story, the skin is really thin now so still have to be extra careful The joys!

 

[chitchatter7]

I’m having a sloowww time of it, second sweep today- 3cm dilated now at least it’s progressing slightly!

How are you getting on? Any progression? I had a sweep last night in triage after a full day of contractions every 3 minutes and I was only 1cm dilated losing my plug this morning. I swear 3rd babies are so awkward!

 

[QueenKoala]

How are you getting on? Any progression? I had a sweep last night in triage after a full day of contractions every 3 minutes and I was only 1cm dilated losing my plug this morning. I swear 3rd babies are so awkward!

Nothing new to report I’m afraid, just constant loss of mucus plug (how big are these things?! )
My first was a whirlwind labour so this is a completely different experience! Just trying to “enjoy” the process (ha) but I’m too impatient! I hope you’re feeling okay, that sounds like an exhausting day for you!

 

[Tretps29]

I would just like to have a moan.
on the bus to work this morning and it’s a busy bus and two people have taken up the priority seating and they don’t look like they need it…the lady who took the last seat seemed able and say there because she had a dog.

I’m 32 weeks pregnant they didn’t even acknowledge me even though I went over but what can I say if they have a hidden disability so I had to go upstairs where few seats were left.

I also had another incident in a busy lift where a woman tried to get in and told me to move even though there was no room…:bump or not. I told her to wait so she couldn’t get in
She huffed and puffed at me.
I’m not asking for much but the lack of empathy and compassion is outstanding.

 

[A1992]

I would just like to have a moan.
on the bus to work this morning and it’s a busy bus and two people have taken up the priority seating and they don’t look like they need it…the lady who took the last seat seemed able and say there because she had a dog.

I’m 32 weeks pregnant they didn’t even acknowledge me even though I went over but what can I say if they have a hidden disability so I had to go upstairs where few seats were left.

I also had another incident in a busy lift where a woman tried to get in and told me to move even though there was no room…:bump or not. I told her to wait so she couldn’t get in
She huffed and puffed at me.
I’m not asking for much but the lack of empathy and compassion is outstanding.

I’ve been shocked by similar behaviour - I was on my way in to work the other week and it was stinking hot. When I got on the tube not a single person got up even though I made eye contact with some of the women who continued chatting away. Now I’m only 12 weeks pregnant but with twins and definitely “showing”. I had my baby on board badge as I get light headed easily, especially when it’s hot. Eventually, a man who was reading his paper noticed me and offered me his seat but I was quite miffed - some of the women were only on it for a couple more spots - surely they could have given me a seat!

Sorry… rant over!

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

I would just like to have a moan.
on the bus to work this morning and it’s a busy bus and two people have taken up the priority seating and they don’t look like they need it…the lady who took the last seat seemed able and say there because she had a dog.

I’m 32 weeks pregnant they didn’t even acknowledge me even though I went over but what can I say if they have a hidden disability so I had to go upstairs where few seats were left.

I also had another incident in a busy lift where a woman tried to get in and told me to move even though there was no room…:bump or not. I told her to wait so she couldn’t get in
She huffed and puffed at me.
I’m not asking for much but the lack of empathy and compassion is outstanding.

Oh that’s just horrible. I’ve heard this so much. I have to say - I’ve had nothing but positive experiences on transport and frequently get offered a seat. And London usually gets a bad rep. The general public for the most part are rubbish but there are glimmers.

 

[fishsticks]

I appreciate a lot of you are very pregnant on here at the moment But, does anyone have any experience with their clearblue digital not going up to 2-3 weeks as expected, but baby being okay? Estimated to be 4w4d today and it's still showing 1-2. Stressing me out after multiple mcs. Can't get a GP appointment and EPU doesn't provide anything until 6 weeks. Driving myself mad that it's either no in the right place, not growing properly, deciding not to stick around, etc. The anxiety is eating me up. I remember having anxiety with my first, but not this much. It's driving me insane.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Have him check it’s healing well. The extra blood flow and swelling down there makes it more prone to damage which can then lead to infection hence they tell you to avoid hair removal when you get around due date time.

I got away with no stretch marks on my belly but my groin is a different story, the skin is really thin now so still have to be extra careful The joys!

It was a bit tender the next day so walking was a tad uncomfortable but it all feels tip top again now! I might have to time my waxes to perfection because I’ve been on a multi-year waxing journey and it’s taken all of these years to get to a point where the hair regrowth is marginally less epic (yay PCOS!).
I’ve gained and lost weight so many times in my life that my stomach looks ‘better’ (ish) for being marginally filled out by a small baby than it did when I didn’t have a bump. I guess it paid to have the mum tum pre-pregnancy! The skin at the very top of where my public hair would be seems a bit thin though so I will definitely take care in that region!

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

I appreciate a lot of you are very pregnant on here at the moment But, does anyone have any experience with their clearblue digital not going up to 2-3 weeks as expected, but baby being okay? Estimated to be 4w4d today and it's still showing 1-2. Stressing me out after multiple mcs. Can't get a GP appointment and EPU doesn't provide anything until 6 weeks. Driving myself mad that it's either no in the right place, not growing properly, deciding not to stick around, etc. The anxiety is eating me up. I remember having anxiety with my first, but not this much. It's driving me insane.

I did a few old school dip stick tests which you could see a relatively clear progression with the dye getting stronger, although very helpful ladies in here cautioned me that it’s not always truly linear. I only ever used one digital myself a day or two after my first dipstick positive because I was in disbelief then I stayed with my dip sticks. I do remember being fairly driven to distraction that I had no idea how it was all going in there and whether everything was ok.

 

[RedPotter]

I feel so exhausted today and have the health visitor coming over in a minute. I do not have the energy to be hosting a stranger was hoping my partner would be here but he couldn't leave work early!

 

[indeedjoy]

I appreciate a lot of you are very pregnant on here at the moment But, does anyone have any experience with their clearblue digital not going up to 2-3 weeks as expected, but baby being okay? Estimated to be 4w4d today and it's still showing 1-2. Stressing me out after multiple mcs. Can't get a GP appointment and EPU doesn't provide anything until 6 weeks. Driving myself mad that it's either no in the right place, not growing properly, deciding not to stick around, etc. The anxiety is eating me up. I remember having anxiety with my first, but not this much. It's driving me insane.

Try not to worry as easy as that sounds. Your levels will be up and down and the tests won’t always show the correct date.
I had a bit of a hairy start when visiting EPU as my levels weren’t doubling as they should do - I’m now 32 weeks and all seems to be ok

Sending you lots of positivity

 

[Tretps29]

I’ve been shocked by similar behaviour - I was on my way in to work the other week and it was stinking hot. When I got on the tube not a single person got up even though I made eye contact with some of the women who continued chatting away. Now I’m only 12 weeks pregnant but with twins and definitely “showing”. I had my baby on board badge as I get light headed easily, especially when it’s hot. Eventually, a man who was reading his paper noticed me and offered me his seat but I was quite miffed - some of the women were only on it for a couple more spots - surely they could have given me a seat!

Sorry… rant over!

A rant is good.
im so shocked at some people. However for all the crappy behaviour I’ve had some lovely kind strangers make sure I’m ok.
last week in London a bloke insisted on getting my a more comfy chair for the table I sat at. Just a really nice gesture

but people on the whole are mats

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Had my first trip to maternity triage on Sunday evening as I felt that the bub’s movements had been reduced. The midwife immediately found the heartbeat with the doppler and it was strong and loud and whatever. She pointed out he gave a kick as she was using the doppler. She offered me the opportunity to see the obstetrician if I didn’t feel reassured by his heartbeat (I’m too early/he is too small for that monitor), but I did and right enough, he’s been merrily moving and grooving ever since. She used a paper tape measure on me but said nothing about it. She took my blood pressure and said it was fine as was my O2 sats. I was asked to pee in a pot and as there was no feedback on that at all I assume all as well! She mentioned she would refer me for a growth scan within the next 3 weeks, all very casual likes. But I’ve been chased by a quite insisted scan department who are telling me this scan has been marked as urgent and I’m like . I mean, fair play that they’re following it up but they wanted me in today but it clashed with an appointment, then they tried to get me in later today but that wasn’t possible, now they have me in tomorrow. Hopefully they just did an urgent referral so I don’t get forgotten about, and we get yet more rubbish scan pictures of our ‘camera shy’ son.
Being pregnant is beginning to feel like a full time job and I already have a full time job which is quite challenging, haha! Balancing the two is tough right now.

Not complaining about my care, just finding any excuse as ever to be anxious.

 

[Tretps29]

Had my first trip to maternity triage on Sunday evening as I felt that the bub’s movements had been reduced. The midwife immediately found the heartbeat with the doppler and it was strong and loud and whatever. She pointed out he gave a kick as she was using the doppler. She offered me the opportunity to see the obstetrician if I didn’t feel reassured by his heartbeat (I’m too early/he is too small for that monitor), but I did and right enough, he’s been merrily moving and grooving ever since. She used a paper tape measure on me but said nothing about it. She took my blood pressure and said it was fine as was my O2 sats. I was asked to pee in a pot and as there was no feedback on that at all I assume all as well! She mentioned she would refer me for a growth scan within the next 3 weeks, all very casual likes. But I’ve been chased by a quite insisted scan department who are telling me this scan has been marked as urgent and I’m like . I mean, fair play that they’re following it up but they wanted me in today but it clashed with an appointment, then they tried to get me in later today but that wasn’t possible, now they have me in tomorrow. Hopefully they just did an urgent referral so I don’t get forgotten about, and we get yet more rubbish scan pictures of our ‘camera shy’ son.
Being pregnant is beginning to feel like a full time job and I already have a full time job which is quite challenging, haha! Balancing the two is tough right now.

Not complaining about my care, just finding any excuse as ever to be anxious.

How far gone are you?

exact same thing happened to me this weekend
Two of my friends also had reduced movements so we think it was the heat.
I got strapped up to a monitor for baby and me and she started her own rave half way through.
They even got a doctor to see me which really worried me but it was just to say all ok.
Really impressed that they saw me the next day for a growth scan (I’m high risk but don’t think this was a reason)
Obvs I was really worried but it was all ok.
I was worried the investigations meant there was a problem but actually it was all very reassuring x

 

[indeedjoy]

Had my first trip to maternity triage on Sunday evening as I felt that the bub’s movements had been reduced. The midwife immediately found the heartbeat with the doppler and it was strong and loud and whatever. She pointed out he gave a kick as she was using the doppler. She offered me the opportunity to see the obstetrician if I didn’t feel reassured by his heartbeat (I’m too early/he is too small for that monitor), but I did and right enough, he’s been merrily moving and grooving ever since. She used a paper tape measure on me but said nothing about it. She took my blood pressure and said it was fine as was my O2 sats. I was asked to pee in a pot and as there was no feedback on that at all I assume all as well! She mentioned she would refer me for a growth scan within the next 3 weeks, all very casual likes. But I’ve been chased by a quite insisted scan department who are telling me this scan has been marked as urgent and I’m like . I mean, fair play that they’re following it up but they wanted me in today but it clashed with an appointment, then they tried to get me in later today but that wasn’t possible, now they have me in tomorrow. Hopefully they just did an urgent referral so I don’t get forgotten about, and we get yet more rubbish scan pictures of our ‘camera shy’ son.
Being pregnant is beginning to feel like a full time job and I already have a full time job which is quite challenging, haha! Balancing the two is tough right now.

Not complaining about my care, just finding any excuse as ever to be anxious.

They aim to get you seen within 72 hours of the midwife requests a scan so not panic this is completely normal

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

How far gone are you?

exact same thing happened to me this weekend
Two of my friends also had reduced movements so we think it was the heat.
I got strapped up to a monitor for baby and me and she started her own rave half way through.
They even got a doctor to see me which really worried me but it was just to say all ok.
Really impressed that they saw me the next day for a growth scan (I’m high risk but don’t think this was a reason)
Obvs I was really worried but it was all ok.
I was worried the investigations meant there was a problem but actually it was all very reassuring x

27 weeks tomorrow. I’m actually not in heatwave territory (Scotland ). I tend to have wobblers about movements on the weekends I think because during the week I feel like me and the boy have our routine - morning wriggling when I wake up, sometimes a little bop on the drive to work, periodic jiggles during the work day if I’m sat down and concentrating (or at least that’s when I notice it), maybe a kick or two on the way home, dance party after dinner with an after party at bedtime. The weekend throws us both off because I’m doing other stuff! I barely had time to pay attention on Saturday as we did loads so by Sunday I was really conscious of not feeling much. The other Sunday I came quite close to calling triage but he started an evening waltz so I decided not to.

Trying not to worry too much. The midwife at triage was really nice. She took the time to make sure I felt reassured which I did. She misread my notes and thought I’d been in for reduced movement but it was the second time in a couple of weeks I’d had cause to be at the main hospital where all the Drs are so she is probably being ultra careful. My notes point out I’m red pathway (old, large), and suffer from anxiety so maybe this is just the logical next step. At least I only have to wait till tomorrow afternoon I guess!

 

[Tretps29]

27 weeks tomorrow. I’m actually not in heatwave territory (Scotland ). I tend to have wobblers about movements on the weekends I think because during the week I feel like me and the boy have our routine - morning wriggling when I wake up, sometimes a little bop on the drive to work, periodic jiggles during the work day if I’m sat down and concentrating (or at least that’s when I notice it), maybe a kick or two on the way home, dance party after dinner with an after party at bedtime. The weekend throws us both off because I’m doing other stuff! I barely had time to pay attention on Saturday as we did loads so by Sunday I was really conscious of not feeling much. The other Sunday I came quite close to calling triage but he started an evening waltz so I decided not to.

Trying not to worry too much. The midwife at triage was really nice. She took the time to make sure I felt reassured which I did. She misread my notes and thought I’d been in for reduced movement but it was the second time in a couple of weeks I’d had cause to be at the main hospital where all the Drs are so she is probably being ultra careful. My notes point out I’m red pathway (old, large), and suffer from anxiety so maybe this is just the logical next step. At least I only have to wait till tomorrow afternoon I guess!

Never ever feel you shouldn’t worry. I’ve been in twice for movements once at 22 weeks and now at 32 weeks.
im pleased you felt looked after and so you should.
Even if you go in every week it doesn’t matter xx

 

[littlepup]

I appreciate a lot of you are very pregnant on here at the moment But, does anyone have any experience with their clearblue digital not going up to 2-3 weeks as expected, but baby being okay? Estimated to be 4w4d today and it's still showing 1-2. Stressing me out after multiple mcs. Can't get a GP appointment and EPU doesn't provide anything until 6 weeks. Driving myself mad that it's either no in the right place, not growing properly, deciding not to stick around, etc. The anxiety is eating me up. I remember having anxiety with my first, but not this much. It's driving me insane.

Spoiler: TW loss

I had the opposite experience of the weeks going up on digitals even though I was experiencing a loss so they really aren’t an exact science. It’ll depend how hydrated you are, time of day you test etc and they’re so expensive to do often. Try your hardest to wait it out until you can get in for an early scan as tests can’t give you anything conclusive once you’ve got your positive but the daily stress and anxiety they can induce is not good for you. You are pregnant until you have evidence to say otherwise and over the counter tests misbehaving is not that evidence x

 

[fishsticks]

Thanks for all your replies Some more Easy@Home strips arrived in the post this morning and they're definitely darker than the ones I took 3 or so days ago! Definitely easing the worries.

Super hard to not let anxiety get the better of me in the early days, but only 25 days until my first scan around 8 weeks.

 

[clmay]

Baby arrived this morning! Started contractions at 1.30am. Called my maternity assessment centre at 7am to find out they were full and the other nearby one full too! Ended up arriving at another hospital fully dilated and sent to delivery 🫠