Pregnancy #64

[Pattycake19]

ketones in urine should I be worried? Guessing it wasn’t too much as midwife didn’t seem that bothered by it but this is the first time it’s happened so confused

I had this the other day, midwife said just need to drink more as a bit dehydrated but nothing to worry about. This was my second urine test of the day and the first one they never mentioned it

 

[Tretps29]

***advice or condolences needed***

this probably sounds trite but both my mum and sister have separately at the same time been messaging me about baby name they are both brutally honest and my mum has said she doesn’t like any of my suggestions but then followed it up with why so I’m left with connotations.
I haven’t told either of them our final couple of name choices but it’s given me such anxiety.
My sister has given me a list of acceptable names I can use (old fashioned which isn’t my vibe) and when I said one name she told me absolutely not and said her kids she teaches called her daughter that.
I even had a nightmare about names last night
Both my mum and sister are saying the other shouldn’t be so judgy or influence me (when that’s exactly what they’re both doing)
They’re not people you can stand up to and I’m really all for making everyone happy and not causing friction.

my name choices we like

Sofia - no apparently it’s too like Sophie
Eloise - no it’ll be shortened to El (we already have an El in the family)
Seren - hated, no reason given just hated

The two names I have not told them (because they will HATE and I don’t want to hear it) I’ve kept under wraps.

I should have just said not discussing it but that was my foolish error.

I know I shouldn’t care but it’s really got to me, possibly hormones aren’t helping.
I just feel a bit lost about it all.
This is a much wanted baby after several
Miscarriages and I am high risk. So I am probably focussing on something trite to worry about.
Sorry to moan and rant I just feel deflated x

 

[ahtisyourself]

That’s really rude and intrusive of them. Unless the name is Adolf I think they need to step back and realise that anything other than “that’s a lovely name” is unwanted and overstepping. For those exact reasons I’ll be keeping our chosen names to ourselves. Were finding out the gender and will be revealing that so my excuse will be “I have to leave something as a surprise”, but really I just don’t want any opinions or the old “I dated an X back in 1997 and they were horrible”. No one will say anything once baby is here and named. The names you have chosen above are perfectly lovely so I’m sure the others are just as pretty

 

[calabazarock]

@Tretps29 personally I think it's time to stand your ground. If you allow then to dictate over your baby's name, they will dictate further into other topics about rising your child.

 

[LavaFlake]

@Tretps29 I would personally saw you are no longer discussion baby names ahead of birth. Create that boundary now and it will help with future boundaries. Once the baby is here and named they probably won’t have anything to say about the name as it’s too late and names often have a funny habit of being perfect for a baby when you see them in the flesh.

 

[indeedjoy]

***advice or condolences needed***

this probably sounds trite but both my mum and sister have separately at the same time been messaging me about baby name they are both brutally honest and my mum has said she doesn’t like any of my suggestions but then followed it up with why so I’m left with connotations.
I haven’t told either of them our final couple of name choices but it’s given me such anxiety.
My sister has given me a list of acceptable names I can use (old fashioned which isn’t my vibe) and when I said one name she told me absolutely not and said her kids she teaches called her daughter that.
I even had a nightmare about names last night
Both my mum and sister are saying the other shouldn’t be so judgy or influence me (when that’s exactly what they’re both doing)
They’re not people you can stand up to and I’m really all for making everyone happy and not causing friction.

my name choices we like

Sofia - no apparently it’s too like Sophie
Eloise - no it’ll be shortened to El (we already have an El in the family)
Seren - hated, no reason given just hated

The two names I have not told them (because they will HATE and I don’t want to hear it) I’ve kept under wraps.

I should have just said not discussing it but that was my foolish error.

I know I shouldn’t care but it’s really got to me, possibly hormones aren’t helping.
I just feel a bit lost about it all.
This is a much wanted baby after several
Miscarriages and I am high risk. So I am probably focussing on something trite to worry about.
Sorry to moan and rant I just feel deflated x

I’d tell them to politely duck off or my favourite line is keep your opinions to yourself

I don’t get why some people feel compelled to give you unsolicited advice

It’s YOUR baby not theirs!!!

 

[ahtisyourself]

Kind of grateful that if Baby Kestrel is a boy the name is SORTED and NOBODY CAN QUESTION IT especially in-laws because my Dad died when I was a kid (if a he, he will likely be a variation of my Dad's name, who was named after his father, who was named after his father, who was named after his father etc. etc. etc.)

If Baby Kestrel is a girl it'll be a free-for-all and I'll be keeping it a surprise

I remember you found out the same time as me so I notice you every time you post! I know you struggled with it all at the start, as did I to a certain degree! How is your head with everything now if you don’t mind me asking x

 

[lilykestrel]

I remember you found out the same time as me so I notice you every time you post! I know you struggled with it all at the start, as did I to a certain degree! How is your head with everything now if you don’t mind me asking x

ahhh thank you! yes I'm much better, weirdly it all just kind of lifted after my first midwife appointment.... I'm not questioning it.

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

***advice or condolences needed***

this probably sounds trite but both my mum and sister have separately at the same time been messaging me about baby name they are both brutally honest and my mum has said she doesn’t like any of my suggestions but then followed it up with why so I’m left with connotations.
I haven’t told either of them our final couple of name choices but it’s given me such anxiety.
My sister has given me a list of acceptable names I can use (old fashioned which isn’t my vibe) and when I said one name she told me absolutely not and said her kids she teaches called her daughter that.
I even had a nightmare about names last night
Both my mum and sister are saying the other shouldn’t be so judgy or influence me (when that’s exactly what they’re both doing)
They’re not people you can stand up to and I’m really all for making everyone happy and not causing friction.

my name choices we like

Sofia - no apparently it’s too like Sophie
Eloise - no it’ll be shortened to El (we already have an El in the family)
Seren - hated, no reason given just hated

The two names I have not told them (because they will HATE and I don’t want to hear it) I’ve kept under wraps.

I should have just said not discussing it but that was my foolish error.

I know I shouldn’t care but it’s really got to me, possibly hormones aren’t helping.
I just feel a bit lost about it all.
This is a much wanted baby after several
Miscarriages and I am high risk. So I am probably focussing on something trite to worry about.
Sorry to moan and rant I just feel deflated x

Of course you feel deflated - what a couple of witches! (Sorry I know they’re your family but that’s what they are being). The names you have shared are lovely. Like others have said I would just start shutting down convo and if they still don’t take the hint say that unless they give birth to your child they don’t get an opinion. When my sister shared her baby name I was a bit unsure but kept it to myself and you know what? Once she was born I had to suck eggs because she just suits the name.

 

[Tretps29]

Awwww thanks so much ladies for all the support and encouragement RE crappy remarks about my baby names.

I’m not confrontational and am the go between my sister and mum who are forces to be reckoned with. I mean I’m no wall flower but I know when to shut my gob.

I just don’t get it as I’d never ever comment or impose my opinion on anyone else. It’s totally their choice.

Thank god for my mum In law who will love whatever we choose.

I really wish I’d never engaged in answering their questions or allowing them to talk baby names.
Very stupid of me.
Note to anyone else here just don’t for the love of god mention names x

 

[Vmanxx]

I had some STRONG opinions on my 1st’s name, I had a wobble about it towards the end of pregnancy but I stuck with it. He’s 8 now and I can’t imagine him ever being called anything else. It suits him so well and I’ve had several apologies over the years x

 

[BWinter]

I was supposed to go up until 37 weeks but I’ve taken annual leave up until then, I genuinely can’t carry on

From my understanding dates and raspberry leaf tea don’t actually encourage labour but they soften your cervix, making for an easier labour? I hope that’s right maybe I started too early, I think I was too keen

I hope they work!

I’m 40+1 and have been doing all the old wives tales for the last week or so - raspberry leaf tea, pineapple, spicy food, dates, walking, sex (but it didn’t really happen ), nipple stimulation via colostrum harvesting, other stuff to release oxytocin like getting a massage- and none have worked (yet!).

 

[Scorpihoe]

I’m 40+1 and have been doing all the old wives tales for the last week or so - raspberry leaf tea, pineapple, spicy food, dates, walking, sex (but it didn’t really happen ), nipple stimulation via colostrum harvesting, other stuff to release oxytocin like getting a massage- and none have worked (yet!).

Have you tried the miles circuit? I’ve seen it on TikTok and really want to know if it works! But I also cba for all that exercise

also I envy you for getting a massage, I’ve called so many places and they refuse to massage me because they say I’m too far along now

 

[BWinter]

Have you tried the miles circuit? I’ve seen it on TikTok and really want to know if it works! But I also cba for all that exercise

also I envy you for getting a massage, I’ve called so many places and they refuse to massage me because they say I’m too far along now

I’ve inadvertently done some of those things separately, but I didn’t know it had a name or about all of them. I’ll give them a go and report back as I really don’t want the induction I’m scheduled for on Sunday!

The masseuse I had didn’t seem concerned, it was just a high street Thai place. Let me know what region you live in and if it’s the same as me I’ll let you know the name!

 

[Shinythings]

Please tell me you get your energy back after birth. I'm not meaning not to be tired, but I get worn out just doing the housework or walking 5 minutes to the shop. I'm such an active person normally and it's doing me in.

 

[BWinter]

Is anyone else heading for an induction? I have mine scheduled next week due to advanced maternal age. The leaflet I’ve been given talks about dilapan pessary (rods), balloon catheters, and propess pessary. Do they tell you which one you’ll have or do you have a choice? I’m going to do some research now, but has anyone had any of these or heard one is better than the other?

 

[Shinythings]

Is anyone else heading for an induction? I have mine scheduled next week due to advanced maternal age. The leaflet I’ve been given talks about dilapan pessary (rods), balloon catheters, and propess pessary. Do they tell you which one you’ll have or do you have a choice? I’m going to do some research now, but has anyone had any of these or heard one is better than the other?

I guess the first question is do you want an induction? Maternal age is not an indicator for one so wasn't sure if you wanted one or they've told you you need one (you don't).

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

***advice or condolences needed***

this probably sounds trite but both my mum and sister have separately at the same time been messaging me about baby name they are both brutally honest and my mum has said she doesn’t like any of my suggestions but then followed it up with why so I’m left with connotations.
I haven’t told either of them our final couple of name choices but it’s given me such anxiety.
My sister has given me a list of acceptable names I can use (old fashioned which isn’t my vibe) and when I said one name she told me absolutely not and said her kids she teaches called her daughter that.
I even had a nightmare about names last night
Both my mum and sister are saying the other shouldn’t be so judgy or influence me (when that’s exactly what they’re both doing)
They’re not people you can stand up to and I’m really all for making everyone happy and not causing friction.

my name choices we like

Sofia - no apparently it’s too like Sophie
Eloise - no it’ll be shortened to El (we already have an El in the family)
Seren - hated, no reason given just hated

The two names I have not told them (because they will HATE and I don’t want to hear it) I’ve kept under wraps.

I should have just said not discussing it but that was my foolish error.

I know I shouldn’t care but it’s really got to me, possibly hormones aren’t helping.
I just feel a bit lost about it all.
This is a much wanted baby after several
Miscarriages and I am high risk. So I am probably focussing on something trite to worry about.
Sorry to moan and rant I just feel deflated x

Your baby, your decision. Everyone else can absolutely shove it up their arses.

 

[BWinter]

I guess the first question is do you want an induction? Maternal age is not an indicator for one so wasn't sure if you wanted one or they've told you you need one (you don't).

I don’t particularly, but the consultant was keen I should have one. The midwife did say I could delay if I get monitored and everything is ok. Maybe I should just do that.

 

[Tretps29]

Your baby, your decision. Everyone else can absolutely shove it up their arses.

Thank you! yep shove it up your a I need to hear this x