I know this well! I was about to start a pre-IVF diet when I got my positive. We just tried to take everything day to day in those first few weeks. A private early scan was helpful for us but I totally recognise not everyone can afford it. It also helped date my pregnancy, I was a week behind what I thought I was/what the date of last period suggested.
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That sounds super sensible to be honest, I’m definitely going to get a private early scan just for anxiety sake. I’m actually going on holiday on the 21st so I’m going to try and get one for next Sunday because otherwise I don’t think my brain will be able to function!
My first scan was at 6 weeks, I thought it was 7. Everyone here had encouraged me to hold on for as long as I could which was wise as if I had gone the week before I don’t actually know if they’d have seen anything much at all. JuniorDragName was a funny tiny smudge with a heartbeat, not distinguishable as anything at all, but the little short videos I have of that heartbeat going for it are still the greatest thing I’ve ever seen in my whole life, as exciting as it is to also have videos and stills of scans where they’re bigger and moving and waving and everything. I’m not a religious person but I tried to tell myself all I could do was try and eat healthily/stay as chilled as possible and what happened next was with some sort of higher power. That helped my anxiety a bit but I still had days where I would panic take another pregnancy test and all sorts so it’s not foolproof! But you go and enjoy that holiday (in moderation of course, haha!). Have a chill time, listen to what your body needs and all that!
I’m nearly 14 weeks, 6th pregnancy (3 babies, 2 angel babies & expecting this little miracle) & I’m starting to feel the baby move. Only when I lie down. But it’s incredible, has anyone else felt there baby this early? Xx
Oh that’s so lovely to hear! Yes I think that we have to forgive our anxieties with these things it’s such a big thing to happen! Thank you
luckily it’s with my mum so she’ll be able to mother me if I need it 
Thanks, all! Yes, I'm someone that suffers quite badly with anxiety at the best of times and I hadn't even really given much thought to how bad it might be when/if I actually got pregnant, as it seemed like such an abstract concept for so long. So, basically nine months of worrying every day, then, yes?
Ah well! I appreciate having somewhere like here to vent 
Now that I have been reassured by the scan, immediately on to worrying for the next few weeks until the next one, naturally! I can't believe how lucky I have been symptom wise!This is exactly what has happened to me too, a few weeks ago. I was approved for IVF (ICSI) under the HSE (Ireland's NHS) but had to lose a few kgs before they would actually start (really strict criteria........don't start me on it). I already knew of the criteria so had been working on the weight anyway before we even had the appointment, but my rate of loss was depressingly slow despite really concerted efforts. Anyway, went even more gung ho in the weeks after the appointment with a view to getting started ASAP (but needed to lose like 6kg or so, so knew it would take at least a couple of months). Was down over 4kg 5/6 weeks later and just doing my usual default pregnancy test on the day my period was due (which had just become a masochistic custom and practice routine every month) and got my first ever positive..........I'm still in disbelief 5 weeks later! I'm taking Proceive (Trimester 1), Folic Acid (5mg on prescription because of my slightly higher weight- they prescribed that for me when I had my HSE appointment), prenatal DHA/Omega 3s and a high-strength Vitamin D. Best of luck to you
That’s amazing!!! I’ve lost about 5 stone over the course of a year because I had a lot to lose but I never really considered it would happen naturally so I think I just let it go to the back of my brain. Congratulations to you and the best of luck also, thank you and also thanks for the vitamin recs!Thanks, all! Yes, I'm someone that suffers quite badly with anxiety at the best of times and I hadn't even really given much thought to how bad it might be when/if I actually got pregnant, as it seemed like such an abstract concept for so long. So, basically nine months of worrying every day, then, yes?
This is exactly what has happened to me too, a few weeks ago. I was approved for IVF (ICSI) under the HSE (Ireland's NHS) but had to lose a few kgs before they would actually start (really strict criteria........don't start me on it). I already knew of the criteria so had been working on the weight anyway before we even had the appointment, but my rate of loss was depressingly slow despite really concerted efforts. Anyway, went even more gung ho in the weeks after the appointment with a view to getting started ASAP (but needed to lose like 6kg or so, so knew it would take at least a couple of months). Was down over 4kg 5/6 weeks later and just doing my usual default pregnancy test on the day my period was due (which had just become a masochistic custom and practice routine every month) and got my first ever positive..........I'm still in disbelief 5 weeks later! I'm taking Proceive (Trimester 1), Folic Acid (5mg on prescription because of my slightly higher weight- they prescribed that for me when I had my HSE appointment), prenatal DHA/Omega 3s and a high-strength Vitamin D. Best of luck to you
Trigger warning: substance abuse Hi all,
So I’ve been basically in distress all weekend. At my booking appointment they asked about alcohol/smoking to which I confirmed drank socially, but no smoking. Then they asked about cannabis use, and I said (believing it was best to be honest about my overall health) that I had smoked before (last time, about 9 months before I fell pregnant at a festival) but no habitual use and like with drinking, nothing at all now I am pregnant. I even joked that I didn’t even eat custard without checking it was safe first.
Anyway, I happened to check mypregnancynotes and noticed she’d written “substance misuse in this pregnancy” and then it changed to “substance misuse concerns at home” and I honestly couldn’t have felt like a worse person in my life. I was hysterically thinking they’d take my baby away, or they’d refer me to the social or something. I was convinced she’d misunderstood or thought I was a junkie.
I called her and clarified what I had said and even said “if you’re concerned, leave it on but please reassure me you don’t believe I will harm my baby” and she immediately apologised and has now removed it from the system. She said she had understood that while I hadn’t smoked during pregnancy or did it habitually, she thought my partner did which is why she put “misuse at home” but I clarified his was the same of mine, last use at a festival.
Thankfully, it is now removed from the notes and says “no social factors of concern” but I’m sharing this to encourage everyone to check their notes in case there are any misunderstandings.
That's shocking
Hi all,
So I’ve been basically in distress all weekend. At my booking appointment they asked about alcohol/smoking to which I confirmed drank socially, but no smoking. Then they asked about cannabis use, and I said (believing it was best to be honest about my overall health) that I had smoked before (last time, about 9 months before I fell pregnant at a festival) but no habitual use and like with drinking, nothing at all now I am pregnant. I even joked that I didn’t even eat custard without checking it was safe first.
Anyway, I happened to check mypregnancynotes and noticed she’d written “substance misuse in this pregnancy” and then it changed to “substance misuse concerns at home” and I honestly couldn’t have felt like a worse person in my life. I was hysterically thinking they’d take my baby away, or they’d refer me to the social or something. I was convinced she’d misunderstood or thought I was a junkie.
I called her and clarified what I had said and even said “if you’re concerned, leave it on but please reassure me you don’t believe I will harm my baby” and she immediately apologised and has now removed it from the system. She said she had understood that while I hadn’t smoked during pregnancy or did it habitually, she thought my partner did which is why she put “misuse at home” but I clarified his was the same of mine, last use at a festival.
Thankfully, it is now removed from the notes and says “no social factors of concern” but I’m sharing this to encourage everyone to check their notes in case there are any misunderstandings.
sure you were only trying to be honest !which I thought was the best thing to do! As I said it wasn’t habitual, and it was roughly 9 months before falling pregnant I last had to I just thought honesty is the best policy! Turns out, I will now just be less honest about these things because I refuse to go through that again!That's shocking
This is such a fool move on their part. It smacks of being judgemental even though they’re not supposed to be. Fair enough, make a note of what you’ve said but they shouldn’t be making inferences.
Hi all,
So I’ve been basically in distress all weekend. At my booking appointment they asked about alcohol/smoking to which I confirmed drank socially, but no smoking. Then they asked about cannabis use, and I said (believing it was best to be honest about my overall health) that I had smoked before (last time, about 9 months before I fell pregnant at a festival) but no habitual use and like with drinking, nothing at all now I am pregnant. I even joked that I didn’t even eat custard without checking it was safe first.
Anyway, I happened to check mypregnancynotes and noticed she’d written “substance misuse in this pregnancy” and then it changed to “substance misuse concerns at home” and I honestly couldn’t have felt like a worse person in my life. I was hysterically thinking they’d take my baby away, or they’d refer me to the social or something. I was convinced she’d misunderstood or thought I was a junkie.
I called her and clarified what I had said and even said “if you’re concerned, leave it on but please reassure me you don’t believe I will harm my baby” and she immediately apologised and has now removed it from the system. She said she had understood that while I hadn’t smoked during pregnancy or did it habitually, she thought my partner did which is why she put “misuse at home” but I clarified his was the same of mine, last use at a festival.
Thankfully, it is now removed from the notes and says “no social factors of concern” but I’m sharing this to encourage everyone to check their notes in case there are any misunderstandings.
you were obviously being completely honest with them, but some people will probably ‘test the waters’ with a response like yours to see if it’s safe to admit to a bigger issue and get help. Or will have kicked heavyuse to the kerb but then found they were having cravings etc. that’s why it’s so important to show no judgment. Bahhhh. I’m sorry this happened to you. You have the right to complain, or to offer feedback on this to a more senior midwife.
Just imagine seeing this fool midwife if you were struggling with alcohol or drugs misuse. Zero support.
Exactly what I was thinking! You must feel safe to be honest as well. Urgh.
Thanks everyone, she didn’t make me feel judged at all which is why I was so shocked and upset when I saw the notes. I will definitely bring it up.
I’ve also learnt the hard way just to smile, nod and give away nothing that’s not vitally relevant/important. There’s some awful midwives and health visitors out there sadly, alongside some literal angels I’ll add
Hi all,
So I’ve been basically in distress all weekend. At my booking appointment they asked about alcohol/smoking to which I confirmed drank socially, but no smoking. Then they asked about cannabis use, and I said (believing it was best to be honest about my overall health) that I had smoked before (last time, about 9 months before I fell pregnant at a festival) but no habitual use and like with drinking, nothing at all now I am pregnant. I even joked that I didn’t even eat custard without checking it was safe first.
Anyway, I happened to check mypregnancynotes and noticed she’d written “substance misuse in this pregnancy” and then it changed to “substance misuse concerns at home” and I honestly couldn’t have felt like a worse person in my life. I was hysterically thinking they’d take my baby away, or they’d refer me to the social or something. I was convinced she’d misunderstood or thought I was a junkie.
I called her and clarified what I had said and even said “if you’re concerned, leave it on but please reassure me you don’t believe I will harm my baby” and she immediately apologised and has now removed it from the system. She said she had understood that while I hadn’t smoked during pregnancy or did it habitually, she thought my partner did which is why she put “misuse at home” but I clarified his was the same of mine, last use at a festival.
Thankfully, it is now removed from the notes and says “no social factors of concern” but I’m sharing this to encourage everyone to check their notes in case there are any misunderstandings.
There’s nothing to judge over imo! Cannabis has its place, I don’t use it anymore but have in varying amounts at points in my life. They wouldn’t react the way they did if you’d said oh yeah I had a few glasses of wine 9 months ago. No different to me, both can be used in beneficial and detrimental ways
im sure id felt some flutters of something around 14-16 weeks too with my last baby but maybe its just being really aware and knowing how it might feel so all in my head because they’re so so small at that point ! I dont know
definitely keeping this in mind for the future!
errrrrrr I had to call in sick to work today and I'm not even entirely sure why, I am just so fatigued and I was awake half the night and the nausea is bad, but I feel a reet weakling for it lol
Bless you! I’m feeling super nauseous and exhausted today too. The thought of a whole week of work feeling like this is overwhelming (and I absolutely cannot take this week off). Just hoping that either it eases or at least next week will be quieter. Whilst I’m so grateful to be pregnant, I’m finding the first trimester quite difficult, especially as I am not comfortable telling work just yet.
I hope a day of rest helps at least restore the fatigue!
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