Happy Mother’s Day
My gosh, that sounds so hard. I know nothing about this stuff but it can’t hurt to ask. You being in this much distress and pain isn’t ok for you, the baby, your husband or your toddler. I really hope there is some sort of relief for you soonRiddle me this… my section is booked for the 17th when I’m 39+3. Am 37 weeks tomorrow but have just spent the last week in hospital after collapsing and being bluelighted there after struggling with my back for a week (threw it out cleaning the toilet but went down like a sack of) I’ve spent almost 2 weeks unable to walk and am currently on crutches and can’t manage without them. I’ve not slept for almost 2 weeks and am constantly in discomfort. Unable to do basic tasks and I also have a 2.5 year old so my husband is struggling doing everything.
Do I ask them to bring my section forward? Will it provide any relief whatsoever? Or has the damage already been done? I am HUGE and baby is pulling everything forwards which isn’t helping but I can’t imagine having this pain PLUS a newborn PLUS a toddler not in nursery over the Easter hols. I am genuinely on the edge. Think I’ve cried every day for the last 2 weeks. Not doing this again
It’s honestly brutal. Don’t get me wrong I’m grateful I’m able to have another baby as there was a time we didn’t think it would ever happen once, let alone twice but I literally cannot do it anymore. Had a scan 2 weeks ago and I’m carrying a 96th centile baby who was over 7lb still with another 5 weeks to go. The weight at the front is just pulling on my back and I just need to lie flat and take shitloads of painkillers, neither of which I can currently doMy gosh, that sounds so hard. I know nothing about this stuff but it can’t hurt to ask. You being in this much distress and pain isn’t ok for you, the baby, your husband or your toddler. I really hope there is some sort of relief for you soon
Maybe there’s a compromise where the date could be brought forward a bit? Even halfway between now and the booked date? I imagine that would still feel like torture but it’s half as many days of torture at least. Your health and the baby’s health surely have equal consideration right now. If you’re in distress maybe the baby can get into distress, with no sleep and you being in so much pain it doesn’t sound like the optimum environment for those final days of baby growing, which I obviously don’t say to deliberately make you feel bad because it’s not your fault, you’re doing all you can!It’s honestly brutal. Don’t get me wrong I’m grateful I’m able to have another baby as there was a time we didn’t think it would ever happen once, let alone twice but I literally cannot do it anymore. Had a scan 2 weeks ago and I’m carrying a 96th centile baby who was over 7lb still with another 5 weeks to go. The weight at the front is just pulling on my back and I just need to lie flat and take shitloads of painkillers, neither of which I can currently do
I just don’t know what to do for the best - do I ask for early delivery which will benefit me but potentially not baby or do I just stick it out not sleeping, on crutches and crying in pain everyday to know my baby is getting everything they need until 39+3? The thought of another 17 days of this genuinely makes me want to cry (more than I have already!)
The only non medicated thing I can think of is using physiotape.It’s honestly brutal. Don’t get me wrong I’m grateful I’m able to have another baby as there was a time we didn’t think it would ever happen once, let alone twice but I literally cannot do it anymore. Had a scan 2 weeks ago and I’m carrying a 96th centile baby who was over 7lb still with another 5 weeks to go. The weight at the front is just pulling on my back and I just need to lie flat and take shitloads of painkillers, neither of which I can currently do
I just don’t know what to do for the best - do I ask for early delivery which will benefit me but potentially not baby or do I just stick it out not sleeping, on crutches and crying in pain everyday to know my baby is getting everything they need until 39+3? The thought of another 17 days of this genuinely makes me want to cry (more than I have already!)
I’ve got a support bandage from the physio which feels supportive when it’s on but is SUCH a faff whenever it needs to come off (toilet / shower / bath / mealtimes).The only non medicated thing I can think of is using physiotape.
I’ve had an appointment for a massage + reflexology for 3 weeks but keep having to push it back because I physically cannot get on the table or lie on it. I saw physio at the hospital but they’ve basically given me crutches, a bandage, exercises and sent me on my wayI keep seeing TikTok ads for some bump band thing. No idea if some sort of sling for the stomach/bump would take some of the pressure off but yeah, the physio tape sounds like a great suggestion! There’s a sports massage place in my town that I think also do pregnancy massage. No idea if there is anything near you, or if you could afford to see a physio privately maybe?
they wouldn’t let me, had to be 39 weeks+ though my concerns weren’t as great as yours, I asked simply because baby was supposed to be so large I was convinced I’d go early. The best they could do was bring it forward to 39+1. And I did go early the day before resulting in an EMCS.Has anyone actually had an ELCS at 37/38 weeks before?
I’ve got a blood test Tuesday so going to raise it with the midwife then. I can’t walk, sleep, stand without crutches, drive, cook meals, do laundry or anything ‘normal’. Feel like I’m being a shit parent to my existing child because I can’t put her to bed or pick her up and I guess I just want it to be over now. I’m really worried I’ll develop PPD / resent my baby if I’m forced to go longer and ensure this utter misery for another 2.5 weeksthey wouldn’t let me, had to be 39 weeks+ though my concerns weren’t as great as yours, I asked simply because baby was supposed to be so large I was convinced I’d go early. The best they could do was bring it forward to 39+1. And I did go early the day before resulting in an EMCS.
It always has to be a balance with these things so they’ll be balancing mother’s mental health against babies lung development I would guess. I would think you’d have to prove your mental health is severely suffering for them to bring it forward.
I hope you find some way to sleep, maybe if you have a recliner or something? I'm sure your child will be fine and won't remember much.I’ve got a blood test Tuesday so going to raise it with the midwife then. I can’t walk, sleep, stand without crutches, drive, cook meals, do laundry or anything ‘normal’. Feel like I’m being a shit parent to my existing child because I can’t put her to bed or pick her up and I guess I just want it to be over now. I’m really worried I’ll develop PPD / resent my baby if I’m forced to go longer and ensure this utter misery for another 2.5 weeksI don’t think it helps I’m not sleeping which amplifies everything x 50000.
I’m staying at my parents’ who live a few doors down as they have a lower bed I can get in and out of with crutches but I’m still so uncomfortable all the time I have to get up and move every hour.I hope you find some way to sleep, maybe if you have a recliner or something? I'm sure your child will be fine and won't remember much.
Oh how lovely to find out on mothers day.Hi everyoneOnly 5 weeks pregnant. Just found out today and just feel completely shocked, excited, scared and also out of body experience!
Just had to share the news with *someone* and found this thread! Sorry this is a pointless post x
I’m finding it’s exciting but scary telling people. My silly mind is like weee this is lovely and then well what if something happens and this has just jinxed it all…We told our Mums yesterday, there was lots of tears which set me right off, haha! MotherDragName has already told me off for the heinous crime of lifting her suitcase (which wasn’t actually heavy). How quickly she has forgotten how long she hid her own pregnancy with me and all the madcap things she did throughoutthat’s helped make it feel a bit more real for us. We’re just holding our breaths a bit till our private NIPT results come back which should be this week.
It’s not pointless!!! Congratulations! Exciting times!Hi everyoneOnly 5 weeks pregnant. Just found out today and just feel completely shocked, excited, scared and also out of body experience!
Just had to share the news with *someone* and found this thread! Sorry this is a pointless post x
Went through my mind this morning for sure! We’ve kept things off social media and not told friends yet. Although we both realise that, if the worst was to happen, people would show us nothing but love but I think we would find all that too much!I’m finding it’s exciting but scary telling people. My silly mind is like weee this is lovely and then well what if something happens and this has just jinxed it all…
That’s so excitingggggggg! Finding out the sex does make things feel a bit more real.Today I have learned that Rennies are gross (is Gaviscon any better? It’s the chalky texture that made me feel really yucky. I was going to buy Morrisons own liquid antacid but it was aniseed flavour which seemed super gross). But, I learned that JuniorDragName seems to have ‘passed’ the private NIPT with flying colours (the percentage of foetal DNA seemed a bit low but not low enough for there to be any comment, and the probability of the various things seemed pretty gosh darned low). And we know the sex of the baby! What a rollercoaster of a day!
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