Pregnancy #63

[anything at all]

unless they change the date or something happens sooner we could be meeting baby in 9 days

 

[scouseconstantine]

Are you packing snacks? All I can think about is food right now. 37 weeks and my sickness is almost under control (my new anti sickness meds work 70%) or the time so I'm enjoying eating. I'm not sure what snacks to take with me.

I feel like everyone I ask this question to has been influenced by tik tok because everyone gives the same answers lucozade sport, breakfast bars (normally bland belvita) and haribo. Where’s the crisps?? Where’s the chocolate?? I’m not pushing a baby out to be greeted with a dry honey oat belvita

 

[scouseconstantine]

Had a little bit of a cry today. Tired of staying home and feel like I’m just stuck in a routine of wake up, clean, nap, cook, sleep. Don’t want to go too far away from home in case I go into labour but that means weekends are now just a quick trip out then straight back home. I’m tired of feeling anxious about baby movements and being at home more means I’m more alert to movements and lack of them (but in reality they’re fine it’s just me panicking). Stressed about birth and even more stressed about the possibility of stillbirth which is driving me crazy because I keep seeing comments and Tik toks even though I’ve blocked them which just feels like a bad omen plus seeing people who are behind you having their babies just reminds me she’s still not here yet

Just want this baby here now please

 

[RedPotter]

I've got my 12 week scan next week and I'm so anxious. I am excited to see the baby again(we had a private scan at 7 weeks) but just so nervous that there could be something wrong!

 

[Amylaauren]

Officially overdue 🥲 really struggling with the constant messages asking if baby’s here and feeling so sorry for myself! I can’t even do anything nice because I’m so uncomfortable

 

[Londonsays]

We had our reassurance scan tonight and it definitely has helped us feel a little less nervous. Although we didn’t see much, hearing the heartbeat was just what we needed.

 

[absolute-omnishambles]

Hope you don’t mind me changing the convo but has anyone lost friends when being pregnant?

I’ve only told a handful of friends however I have a friend who isn’t as close but she guilt tripped me into telling her (my fault for caving). She randomly messaged and told me to promise her I’d tell her if I was pregnant and how I needed to confide in her blah blah blah I found it really manipulative. She didn’t know I was pregnant but I found it selfish like her needs came first.
She’s had ivf and unfortunately it hasn’t worked.
I’ve had trauma with miscarriages and I’m high risk due to my health so it’s not easy breezy.

I haven’t heard from her since then (a blessing) until I met up with her and some closer friends for lunch. She made me feel so awkward and shot down anything I said and dismissed me but she also lectured me on how I need behave whilst pregnant. I confided in my friend and she said she also witnessed it at lunch and I’m not going mad.

I’m shocked that someone I thought was a nice girl, someone who I thought had their shit together could be so selfish or just projecting her upset onto me.

She’s is obsessed with health so lectured me about my health conditions and how I need to act during pregnancy. It’s quite a niche illness to have and she knows shit.

Has this happened to anyone else? I’m happy if the friendship jogs on and leaves me alone but I am a little hurt x

The friendship isn’t serving either of you well any more, so communicate your needs clearly and give it the slow fade if need be. Any lecture can be responded with a ‘I’d rather we didn’t discuss that’ or ‘Please don’t do x again, it’s upsetting me.’ And if she continues, then stop seeing her and being available.

I think it’s important to understand that not everyone can take infertility, and a failure to conceive with good grace- so I think she does need to be cut a bit of slack.

Some people can be genuinely happy and hopeful at a friend being pregnant when they are struggling to conceive.

Others can say the ‘right thing’ and go to the baby showers with a smile on but break down in private. Some need to detach entirely.

Others, like your friend, can become absolutely erratic as a result. I certainly was unhinged after three unexplained early losses before my child was born.

Sounds like she was desperate to be ‘normal’ and open about your pregnancy, but can’t really cope with it all- so is acting strange and domineering.

That doesn’t mean she is completely ‘excused’ from acting like an arsehole and upsetting you- you just need to relinquish your expectations of what she can offer you. She can’t be the friend and source of positive energy that you need right now, and it might be necessary to see each other less.

You might find each other again, you might not.

I would personally take solace in the fact that you are likely to make lots of new mum friends at NCT and baby groups as you enter this new phase of your life.

 

[indeedjoy]

Boots £10 Tuesday has got a wooden play gym/mat for £10 from £40. Looks like a great deal.

I just got this and one for my friend too! Looks great

currently in the pregnancy unit down to bleeding not sure why I’m posting here but feel I am losing my mind

 

[Heartbeats]

I’m 7 weeks and the nausea is wild this time. Everything triggers it but the worst trigger of all? My husband. I’ve never been less attracted to him in my life. Is this a pregnancy hormone thing or have I made a serious mistake?!

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Thanks for the warm welcome everyone and an extra hi to folk from the TTC thread. Honestly wasn’t sure I’d ever make it here

Thanks for all the hints, tips and responses I think an early pregnancy scan will help me and my overly anxious mind. I’m guessing they can’t see too much as it’ll be really teeny tiny? My Flo pregnancy app is now saying I’m 5 weeks pregnant with a epic sesame seed of a collection of beautiful cells hanging out in my body, but I thought the ‘5 weeks’ would start tomorrow. Who knows?!

 

[Bubblesandflowers]

I am still in awe of feeling the baby kick me. It keeps waking me up and I can't go back to sleep cause I am enjoying it so much.

 

[anything at all]

I’m down to have baby tomorrow and they just gave me the first lot of steroids in the leg. That thing is no joke ouch
Another one in 12 hours. 🥲

I want whatever is best for baby of course but I thought I still had a bit more time left as pregnant to eat all the junk food and not worry about my weight

 

[Super_Berry]

Got to the hospital and was just 2cm, but I can barely move with the pain of the contractions. We got sent home and told to go back when things change but it's so painful. It's a 25 min drive to the hospital and contractions in the car are even worse than I thought they'd be.

So utterly miserable hoping I dilate more soon and can be admitted.

 

[101d]

I had my appointment to discuss opting for an elective c section (I know not everyone's first choice, but the right choice for me!)
It went so smoothly, the doctor was understanding and had no issues with me going for it. I feel SO relieved that I don't have to worry about that now.

5 weeks left at work today! I'm over it. I've been over it since I found out in June

 

[Vmanxx]

Looking for some opinions/ experiences etc. Probably going to be very mixed...

I am due in April and the thought of giving birth sends shivers down my spine. I am thinking of having a caesarean.
What do you all think?

Personally I would research the pros and cons of a section both for you and baby as interventions will always carry risks. For example the fluid in babies lungs isn’t squeezed out as it is with a vaginal birth, baby also misses out on vital bacteria that’s present in the birth canal, risk of infection to yourself, recovery etc. At the end of the day, it is major abdominal surgery and not to be taken lightly.

As with everything in birth, it’s absolutely you’re choice however, you’ll never know how you’ll cope until the moment comes, you might find that it’s not as bad as you expect x

 

[Shinythings]

My Husband has a slight sore throat and as a man who gets Man Flu he is obviously dying and moaning about how bad he feels despite being able to take all the drugs. Meanwhile I'm still struggling to talk without coughing.

Just checking whether a court would look favourably upon me should he be murdered?

 

[101d]

38 weeks today! Feeling heffa! Patiently waiting for my elective c section date (I feel like we’ll be forgotten, always the way lol)

 

[RoseyThorney]

How are we all soothing back pain? I’ll be 27 weeks tomorrow, have done 4 13 hour shifts this week and I’m absolutely paying for it now

The heated seats in our cars are an absolute dream for back pain, so something with heat might help you. I had a pregnancy massage a few weeks ago and it proper sorted me out, I’d definitely recommend getting one if you can!
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Baby boy is here! Born on 19 November weighing 7lbs 8ozs.

He has a very full head of hair and is my husband’s twin

Congratulations!!!
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We had our 4D scan today at 27 weeks and 5 days and baby girl was in a beautiful position.

4dscan - Picallow

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Link will expire at 3pm tomorrow.

 

[Elisha97]

I’m at the point where I’m so pregnant I feel like I might collapse and die or explode

39 weeks and I am over it and worrying she won’t want to come out- they’ve offered me a c section though which I think I will take

 

[PoppyKJ]

Oh good lord my baby will come in this thread I can’t quite believe it