Pregnancy #62

[littlepup]

I was told to take my notes everywhere. Mine weren’t online. I think it’s just easier to hand them a copy they can flick through rather than them having to open everything on a computer, it saves time in short appointments and is just easier to navigate. When in for reduced movements, the monitoring room didn’t have a computer point on so there’s that too I guess, access to the system.

 

[littlepup]

Would you go to bongos bingo 32 weeks pregnant???

Absolutely no chance. I wouldn’t go not pregnant if I had to stay sober. Not because I can’t have fun sober but everyone gets absolutely steaming. Unless your lot aren’t likely to. It’s one thing to be sober in a room full of people having a social drink and getting merry over an evening, it’s another to watch people do shots and get blotto where you can’t even chat and you’re just dodging getting bumped into all night.

 

[Keera]

Slight trigger warning of infection and loss ahead!

Not sure what to do.. I’m sure I’m only panicking as I’m pregnant after a couple of losses/ scares but I’m 30 weeks and I’ve raging sinusitis and a temperature too. The baby feels like she’s moved less today but then I wouldn’t know as I’ve spent loads of it asleep and couldn’t manage any food, just water. I’m trying to work out if she’s following her normal pattern now I’m up but so far she’s moved a little but pretty quiet.. but is it just because I have been?! Google says I only have to worry about temperature in the first trimester but I’m scarred by some of the loss groups I attended where some of the poor women sadly lost their babies to infection at all stages.

Would you ring triage? Would you take anything for this? Is sinusitis at 30+ weeks a worry?

First of all if you are worried at all then call triage for advice and reassurance

I just wanted to share though that I’ve had food poisoning (twice!!!!!) and a breast abscess that the doctors cannot get under control (I’ve been on antibiotics for four weeks and had it drained at this point) I also had the same worries but baby is absolutely fine and no doctors have had any concern that she would come to any harm, sometimes it can be easy to focus on the stories about worst case scenarios 🩷🩷

hope you feel better soon!!!

 

[ASAnigel]

I have a bit of an embarrassing question - how do you tell the difference between leaking waters, wee and discharge?! I’m experiencing fairly wet underwear mostly in the mornings, it doesn’t smell of nothing but it also smells of something… it could also just be sweat because I’m waking up so sweaty during the night. I’m 37+6 today. According to Google I would know if it’s my waters breaking and also that leaking urine is very common… I don’t really want to have to go in to get checked unless I really need to

This is my favourite game to play daily
I think mine is a combo of increased discharge as well as a leaky bladder at this stage!

my midwife did say waters tend to have a slightly sweeter smell but I’m not sure how obvious that would be to an untrained nose!

Has yours been constant or on and off? Mine has been on and off so I haven’t gone to get checked but I don’t know if that’s the right thing!

 

[Hmwxo]

Still in a limbo with this pregnancy. 14w4d atm and my next appointment with Fetal Medicine isn’t until just over 16 weeks.
It’s just all waiting to be at a certain stage for testing as one of the main options I have from Fetal Medicine is an Amniocentesis.
I hadn’t thought too much about it but I started having nightmares about it the last few nights and my sleep has been so shit because of it. If anyone has had one before please tell me your experience and if it was really as bad as I’m putting it in my head.

I had CVS done at around 15 weeks (as I didn’t want to wait until 16 weeks for the amniocentesis) but I think they are almost identical procedures, just CVS is taking a sample of the placenta rather than the amniotic fluid. I was so nervous ahead of the appointment because of the risks involved and the potential of finding out bad news but the consultant, doctor and midwife who carried it out were so lovely and made me feel really at ease. They said I could watch/listen to something on my phone as a distraction but I wanted to feel present so just watched the sonograph screen instead. Pain wise it felt like a punch to the stomach (I don’t know how to word that without making it sound scary, because it really didn't *hurt*, just took my breath away for a second) and then the next 24-48 hours I just felt very tender like bad period pains. The procedure itself took less than 10 minutes and really wasn’t too bad, although I made the mistake of looking at the needle near the end which made me feel a bit light headed I feel like the CVS would be more painful as it is taking a sample of the placenta rather than the fluid, so I hope it may not be as uncomfortable for you. They told us the gender of the baby which was so lovely and we got our results back about 3 days later I believe, which thankfully were all clear. I am 37 weeks now and have a little scar on my tummy.

Sorry for the essay but I hope this reassures you, make sure to take it easy after the appointment too. I took the next day off work and made sure not to lift anything heavy or do too much. Good luck

 

[Greencatfysh]

This is actually great advice that I’m going to take on board - my in laws listen to what we say (no visitors to hospital we will let you know when we are ready for you to come and meet baby - which will be within a couple of days I don’t mean WEEKS) but then they just act as if we mean everyone ELSE and not them!
Partner finally explained there will be no long stays with them or overnights for at least 6 months as I’m intending to breastfeed which caused a bit of a sulk if I’m honest.
I get they are excited but I feel like there is an entitlement to the baby there which is getting my back up.
It’s such stark contrast to my own parents who are so laid back they are horizontal and while they are excited they are very much “whatever you need us to do we will do it”.

Sorry @Greencatfysh I’m always piggybacking onto the in laws posts it’s truly my biggest stresser at the moment

Don’t worry, we’re in the same boat!

 

[User767676]

Slight trigger warning of infection and loss ahead!

Not sure what to do.. I’m sure I’m only panicking as I’m pregnant after a couple of losses/ scares but I’m 30 weeks and I’ve raging sinusitis and a temperature too. The baby feels like she’s moved less today but then I wouldn’t know as I’ve spent loads of it asleep and couldn’t manage any food, just water. I’m trying to work out if she’s following her normal pattern now I’m up but so far she’s moved a little but pretty quiet.. but is it just because I have been?! Google says I only have to worry about temperature in the first trimester but I’m scarred by some of the loss groups I attended where some of the poor women sadly lost their babies to infection at all stages.

Would you ring triage? Would you take anything for this? Is sinusitis at 30+ weeks a worry?

I’d definitely ring triage if you’re concerned - I’m sure it’s nothing but it will put your mind at rest hope you feel better soon!

 

[Greencatfysh]

I can’t comprehend it either. If I told them in person or over the phone, I’d be blindsiding them and not giving them space to react in private. If I told them via text it’s bad sportsmanship blah blah blah.

I told them via text to protect myself from THEIR immediate bad reaction and to take my step-mum’s difficult feelings about not having kids of her own into consideration. Amongst many things said, there was a comment about why they’re the last to know about previous losses… it’s like they forgot how horrible they were to me after my first one!

I have a phone call with them to look forward to later.

Exactly. You’ll never win, so being able to accept that will help you and you know you’ve done nothing wrong (as backed up by us here, your partner I’m sure, your friends) all you can do is stick to what you know is right and enjoy your well deserved healthy pregnancy and baby!

 

[Greencatfysh]

aww thank you! They haven’t changed his mind but they’re just so precious baby played ball but kept her foot by her head most of the scan the photos were so clear I can’t stop staring! They’ve told me baby is in breech at the moment though so fingers crossed she sorts herself out in the next 11 weeks

Our was breech up until the last 31 week check and now at 35 weeks she’s 3/5 engaged 🩷

 

[RoseyThorney]

Apologies for the TMI but… I’ve got my first pile. Achievement unlocked?

 

[Jaybob]

Hello! Didn’t think I’d see myself back on this thread but here I am back for #3

We were on the fence for whether to go for it so did a see what happens, and now I’m just shy of 5 weeks!

Hi I'm about the same as you, if you want a pregnancy buddy .

 

[Keera]

Anyone here with O- blood and had the anti-d injection? Is it true they inject it into your buttcheek? I’m fine with needles etc but the thought of one in my arse is making me cringe.

Also, an update on the drama with my parents… the air has been cleared with my dad but my step-mum is refusing to speak to me and isn’t sure if she wants to be involved. So now my dad feels torn between his wife and daughter/grand-daughter. I watched a YouTube video last night where someone said it’s an amazing feeling watching the people you love, love your children. And it made me feel sad that my own parents can’t remove their heads from their arses. 🫤

I got the choice - I went for arm, its a sore one be prepared

 

[mashedbananapancakes]

Hi everyone, I hope I can join the chat. I’ve just found out I’m pregnant (feels weird even typing that!) and am about 6 weeks. Any recommendations for good books that cover everything? Getting overwhelmed by the amount of info on the internet so would be good to focus on a book or two in the first instance. Thank you in advance

Congratulations I'd recommend Marie Louise - The Modern Midwife's Guide to Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond

 

[Greencatfysh]

I’m not much of a skincare/makeup person anyway so I had no clue there were ingredients you had to look out for - one of the many things no one straight up tells you

Under my eyes have been so dark and patchy and I thought I’d found something to try to help reduce it but realise that actually maybe it’s not recommended in pregnancy because of a couple of its ingredients. I’ve always had fairly dark under eyes anyway but it seems so much worse this pregnancy

Does anyone have pregnancy any safe recommendations that might actually work? Some days I look like someone has punched me in the face

It’s a minefield! The only thing I stopped using is retinol. I didn’t bother looking into other ingredients that closely - my recommendations would be:

- any under eye cream with caffeine and vitamin c will help with dark circles (this one from Origins is amazing and they also do a matching tinted face cream which is so great to slap on in the morning and make you look awake https://www.origins.com/product/153...ghtening-eye-cream-with-vitamin-c-niacinamide) the caffeine is in such tiny amounts it won’t be an issue and niacinamide is preganancy safe.

- for a concealer that actually works I use this one from Rodial - I’ve tried so many and this one actually covers dark circles: https://www.lookfantastic.com/p/rodial-banana-low-lighter-5.5ml/12062520/

Overall though key is to keep them moisturised, there’s nothing scientific that will properly combat dark circles as they are genetic/to do with blood flow. 🩷

 

[anything at all]

Got a letter from my health visiting team that basically said ‘hey we hear you’re pregnant, congrats! Here’s a qr code if you want any information’

please tell me that means they won’t be coming round my house before babies born because I do not have time for that

with my first they did book an appointment to visit before birth, but baby came 3 weeks early, she knocked on the door and was like ‘oh I see you had the baby already I’ll leave you to it..’ then we never saw that one again

Maybe its just some areas that do a quick home visit before birth, but I’ve heard it’s usually just questions like where will baby sleep, plans for feeding etc, I don’t think they nose around your house unless things have changed

I feel like we saw ours way too much between 0-6months, and they were way too strict and marked little one down for stupid things like not being able to rattle a toy at 2-3 months and then they will leave you alone and don’t bother with you again until 12months to come back and mark you down again because baby isn’t colouring in or hasnt got multiple words yet. It’s so silly how awful they make you feel for your baby being ‘behind’ on milestones when they’re not! I’m glad I know for next baby to not pay any attention to their super strict and limiting guides for these milestones

 

[scouseconstantine]

Baby is lying in such a weird position today and it’s killing me

 

[Kaylarina]

who are these women who want to be pregnant nonstop, the anxiety alone has put me off another haha

I’d say that’s technically me. I have a 2 and a half year old, 17 month old and now this one I have been lucky with easy pregnancies though (touch wood) and both my girls came with quick labours - didn’t even make it to the hospital with my second!

 

[scouseconstantine]

Painting the nursery this week while we’re both off and it’s killing me lmao glad we haven’t left it until later. I’ve only done the bottom half of the walls and it’s took us two days to get two coats on - when we first moved in I painted three rooms in two days

 

[littlepup]

We’ve been kindly given a Snuzpod4 and a Chicco next to me second hand from family but unsure which on to use? They both got their pros and cons from what I’ve read so struggling to choose which one, any idea of which one is best?

Personally I’d say go with which ever fits best. The next2me is good but it’s just plonked next to the bed, side down and that’s it. For this baby I’ve used it to rock a handful of times and raised one end briefly until I read you shouldn’t but otherwise I’ve never used the functions.
You could use one for daytime naps and one in the bedroom so if one is moveable, that’d be better for daytime perhaps.

 

[Seeemm]

Congratulations! How come you aren’t doing so well - we are all here to listen and advise 🩷

Thank you!! I’m not too bad, just finding c section recovery tough going as I am not one for sitting still. My blood pressure has been high since about 3 days pp which warranted a stay back in hospital last week. I found being in hospital tough - I wasn’t really sleeping or eating and it was SO WARM. Trying to breastfeed did not help - I lasted 3 days breastfeeding just wasn’t for me and I’m very happy that I was able to feed him for 3 days.