Pregnancy #62

[Super_Berry]

Have you looked at the doona or something similar? Theres usually decent reductions online too. I love mine!

We actually found one that fits the boot of our car on eBay this morning. I've happily bought everything else so far on FB or Vinted, but just felt so flat going baby shopping (in an actual shop) for the first time and everything being so expensive.

 

[mashedbananapancakes]

Ahh that's great news, so happy to hear!

I've just done my glucose test, was a little surprised I got a little dizzy after about 30mins but I went out to get some fresh air and felt fine after. But actually the worst part was that I had to be there at 6.30 am.

I had my GTT this morning. No coffee from waking up at 7am until 1130am was the worst bit for me

The drink actually wasn't that bad either but I did feel a bit weird for 20 minutes after having it but hopefully everything will be alright!

 

[anything at all]

My partners parents are separated so I sort of have 2 sets of inlaws and one of them was very intruding and over excited with our first, you’d have thought they were the ones having a baby, but ever since our son left the baby baby stage and no longer wanted to be held they couldn’t care less they’ve only seen our son (now 20months) 3 times this year and all the stuff they had talked about doing before he was born they haven’t bothered with.
Not sure if it will be same case with others in laws but some do get bored quickly !!

You may have to have some awkward talks and set some rules, before baby is here is probably better. Mine thought they’d be coming up the hospital to see our son as soon as he was born, yeah no thanks

and I don’t know if any others are likely too.. but when we let ours know our son was born they went and posted it on Facebook that second…neither me or my partner had posted anything and there were still people we’d have liked to have told without them seeing it on Facebook from someone else

Im hoping they’ll be more chill now we’re having our second but we will see..

 

[Hinchhater1442]

Spoiler: Induction reasons and stats

I'm not sure I agree @Hinchhater1442 Induction is no guarantee when baby will come (I believe 2-5 days is most common) and there are tons of reasons you might need or want one and various different methods. They also require much closer monitoring and come with more risks than natural labour (more likely to need interventions/C-section). Most women will labour at home until baby is imminent whereas with induction you could take a bed for days and need 1-2-1 midwife care in labour so it'd be more staff and resource intensive.
I think part of the issue is that we use outdated data for what constitutes a big baby and growth scans are far more prevalent these days. We also have better monitoring and hospitals are targeted to reduce poor fetal outcome meaning they will err on the side of caution. Equally, if a lady does not particularly engage with midwife/pre-natal services they can't just be called in for induction so there would always be an underlying issue.
Induction will be based on clinical need so a baby that's stopped growing or a PPROM will have higher need compared to say, a large baby or an overdue lady where baby is not at risk and can be pushed back.
The hospital will know at any one time the due dates of the ladies registered to have their baby there, medical history etc so they should be able to staff plan using their data systems pretty well in advance.
At my hospital the month I gave birth to my first induction was 33.8% of labours. 48.9% were unassisted vaginal brth, 9.6% assisted, 21.8% ECS and 19.4% planned CS - 380 babies total. I think it's about 20% nationally

Anyway, just my thoughts, I find it all quite interesting x

No I love chit chat like this hahaha I find it interesting too!!
However, surely those 2-5 days of induction is still more ‘controlled’ from a management point of view than the alternative? E.g the 5 week span spontaneous labour could happen from 37-42 weeks (for most).
Obviously I only know what happens in my own trust, but 1:1 care between women and midwives was only once they were in established labour, so those initially being induced weren’t taking up official bed space in labour rooms as they were just on the ward, or sent home as @Greencatfysh said. Then once in established labour they were receiving 1:1 care as they would regardless.
Totally agree though that so much outdated data is the cause for most inductions. I was always very adamant I wouldn’t be induced, still needed the c section anyway 🫠

 

[Hinchhater1442]

Hi guys, I’ve lurked on here as I’ve had my last baby 6m ago but my friend has just had one via c section and i wanted to get her something for herself. Any recommendations? She likes lush stuff but wasn’t sure about bathing after a c section, as I haven’t had one.

My midwife told me it was fine to bath after a c section, however I wouldn’t have felt comfortable putting products in the water I don’t think. I’d have loved something like a nice pair of pjs if you’re wanting to buy something along those lines. Or, my mum sent us a lovely afternoon tea in a box style thing which was lush as it meant neither of us had to prepare anything to eat that day!

 

[yankydoo]

I'm the same with insomnia. I've had it for weeks and can only sleep a few hours a night even if I'm shattered. I'm 34 weeks now and really don't know how I'm going to survive, along with all the other late pregnancy symptoms, until the baby comes.

Things I think help a little are:

Sleeping in another bed as then I can toss and turn without worrying if I'm annoying my husband.
Putting something on my iPad and dozing off to that.
Having a snack - I find I get sleepy after I eat in the middle of the night.

 

[Keera]

Yeah I don’t want to be a negative Nelly, but it took me a really long time. I won’t say exactly how long, but just to say that it can happen and not to panic if you’re not immediately pregnant the moment you come off the pill!


My Edward’s/Patau’s syndrome results came back at 1 in 5000 but it doesn’t say if that’s high or low, and Google offers mixed results. Can anyone help?

I was confused about this too when I had mine - I’ve just gone to look for my results to see what was said. (Nothing helpful )
The sonographer did say that my results wouldn’t be available to me if high risk was detected for any of the conditions and I would be spoken to first, not sure if that is the norm for all trusts.
The nhs Scotland website explains the results as “high risk” if it’s more than a 1 in 150 chance - but again I don’t know if that’s UK wide?

 

[ASAnigel]

Thank you. I shall check this out. Hopefully it has some tips about morning sickness. Not been feeling great and getting worried about throwing up on the commute. What makes me super worried is I get the train with up to four colleagues - including the MD! (depends if we bump into each other on the platform, we usually do).

Congratulations!!
Having dry biscuits before you actually get out of bed and start moving around helped me massively! Like as in have them by your bed and don’t get up at all until you’ve eaten something.
I also used pressure point bands which I do think helped but even if it was just a mental thing it got me through some long days at work!
Also not sure if you’re actually physically vomming yet but if it helps I only actually threw up after eating and it was always almost instant (I know this isn’t the case for everyone but might give you some reassurance) - I constantly felt like I was going to throw up any second but didn’t until after food so might be similar for you! I also found that having to pretend I was fine in front of colleagues and people that didn’t know I was pregnant almost made me convince myself I was okay too!

 

[PoppyKJ]

Mines all online I don’t have ANYTHING from my hospital to take anywhere with me!

 

[Spencerskates]

Hi everyone, I’m 34 weeks tomorrow (yikes) and at my 34 wk appt today baby has jumped from 50th to 95th centile.
I have another GTT on Tues to check GD isn’t the cause - has anybody else had a jump like this?
I’m a bit worried they will push to induce me early if I do have GD / the growth is unexplained, which I really don’t want as am hoping for a home birth and it could impact that.
Thank you

Baby skates no1 jumped from 50th to above 95th, think it was a little earlier though. They offered me either an induction or elective section, or to continue as I was. I went with the elective section but he was actually only 8lbs 11, which is obviously big but not huge. Growth scans aren’t the most accurate and the fundal measurements are even less so!

 

[Keera]

Phew what a relief!

Would you say it’s more sore than the whooping cough one?

Yes - I’m not bothered about needles in the slightest and I wasn’t crying or anything () but sorer than the whooping cough or any other vaccine I’ve had, I assume it’s because it’s a thicker solution 🥲

 

[Hinchhater1442]

Would you go to bongos bingo 32 weeks pregnant???

My friends keep nagging me to go for a birthday. They’re still quite young and haven’t had kids or been pregnant so don’t really think. They keep telling me I’ll be fine but all I can think of is the awful benches I can’t get in and out of, if it’s dangerous when people get on the tables, and the judging I would get. It’s not even the drinking I can’t do that bothers me, it’s safety.. They don’t see it that way though!

I went about 5 months pregnant but generally speaking no, I wouldn’t. It’s very loud, goes on far too late (🥱 if you ask me) and yes people constantly dancing on tables and falling off- you never know what dickheads you’re going to be sat near.
I only went as we went to a venue without those benches and tables where I had a bit more control over where I sat and could separate myself from it a bit. But it wasn’t much fun

 

[Kaylarina]

How do people sleep on these wards honestly

Several people snoring away loudly and I managed about 30mins before being woke up by loud talking.

Earplugs. It’s the only way!

 

[Kaylarina]

I don’t know how you managed that!

I went to 38+5 (the 5 days is important) in my first pregnancy. I’m a secondary school teacher and if I didn’t have a KS4/5 heavy timetable, I wouldn’t have managed it, but it was exam season so I was often only teaching 2 or 3 lessons a day. This time I think I’ll try to go to 37 weeks but won’t beat myself up if I don’t manage it.

Sometimes I wonder how I managed it. Didn’t even get a rest either as my daughter was born the day after I went on mat leave!

I feel this. Ive not long finished at 36 weeks as a midwife, and that was hard enough
Hats off to you, that’s an amazing achievement!

I’m pretty sure you probably work harder!!

 

[Spencerskates]

I’m having a lot of cramping pains at 11 weeks, the pain isn’t unbearable but it is uncomfortable and fairly constant. I’m conscious that it’s the weekend so I won’t be able to go to the doctors, but don’t know if it’s worth ringing maternity triage. I’ve got quite a bit of pain in my back too and was wondering about a UTI - the anti-emetics I’m taking unfortunately don’t help with keeping hydrated. I haven’t taken them today but then as a result I have been sick quite a few times.

 

[Poppykisses87]

Hey all! I’m a newbie 🥹
I’m about 5w along so very early days. I had Covid a month before I got pregnant, a sudden cold came on during implantation, now a couple weeks later I have a horrible sore throat / cough! Has anyone else had this all so early on? I take it it’s due to my body working overtime at the moment and taking a hit? I feel so run down and feel like my husband must think I’m being dramatic lol

 

[Greencatfysh]

Having a total meltdown because wanted to start perineal massage tonight and I absolutely cannot reach or get to grips with it? What the hell!!

Totally agree, I hate it. I even bought that stupid tool that’s meant to help with it. It doesn’t feel right at all and just felt like I’m doing it wrong!

 

[Cucumber and eggs]

8 weeks pregnant with baby no.4. Been stressful so far with bleeding on and off but scans have shown everything is fine and good heart beat. Never had it on other 3 pregnancies. Been stressful as I have had x2 MC in the past. This pregnancy I've had nausea and vomiting which I never had in any of my others. Very tired, very sore boobs, lower back ache but otherwise im okay. Ihave a 17 year old, 6 year old and 4 year old and all 3 are girls.
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Hi fellow Tattlers,

I've just found out that I'm pregnant. I'm only just 4 weeks, suddenly decided to use up my old expired tests before I threw them out and now I'm regretting it .

The only thing is that I'm 45. We've been infertile for years so this is a surprise which my husband is not on board with yet

Is anyone else in a similar situation? Older mum or surprise pregnancy?

I'm classed as older being 37 and like you husband wasn't on board. When I had my last pregnancy four years ago I was classed as high risk for downs due to my age. There is no right age to have a baby in my opinion, I had my first when I was 19 and wish I had waited until I was older, then with my other two pregnancies finances weren't brilliant. Now on my fourth and doing a degree with open University, working full time and struggling with my health and finances. I'd count it as a blessing either way and if its meant to be its meant to be.

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Joining back on this thread, totally unexpected (to a degree!!) but have found out I’m pregnant and very early…. Can someone with an age gap of 20 months please tell me it’ll all be OK?

A mum I was talking to at the weekend has a 20 month gap, she said it was completely insane but now they are 4 and 6 it’s nice and she has her sanity back - no idea if that helps but congratulations xx

 

[JombleWomble]

Can anyone tell me when they got their MATB1 form for second pregnancy? Im 21 weeks now and thought i got it first time round around 20 weeks off my midwife but im not seeing her again until 28 weeks. So just a bit concerned and probably worrying for nothing

I got mine at 25 weeks