Pregnancy #62

[RoseyThorney]

Thank you! We’re both okay luckily. I was turning in the road and was halfway across when the other car decided to set off at 15-20mph and slammed into my front passenger side. Luckily it wasn’t too bad of a crash, my front bumper is a mess but they monitored babies heartbeat for 20 minutes and it met all the criteria and I can feel movements now at her regular time

I feel bad because it was a coworkers boyfriend who hit me and he was very apologetic but I didn’t want to speak to him at all, the stress of these situation was awful and I think the only reason they let me go to triage was because I was crying on the phone we rang and pushed the number for the ‘emergency triage’ at first and the lady on the phone said ‘we’ll you’ve rang emergency and it’s not an emergency really is it’

my boyfriend nearly snapped at her over the phone if they don’t consider a car accident an emergency while pregnant what do they class as one haha

What in the cinnamon toast fuck is that kind of response from the lady on the phone?! Seconding the comment about the majority of medical receptionists being absolute pieces of work!

I’m glad you’re okay and that baby is also doing fine. Your poor nerves though. 🥲

 

[Keera]

Saw my mum yesterday and we were talking about who I wanted around when I give birth. I told her I was happy for visitors but no kissing baby and she looked stunned and then in a really moody voice said she'll maybe just on the top of the head and when I said no she said well you'll have to remind me or the emotions will just take over and I won't help myself. Had a feeling she would be like this. MIL was instantly like whatever makes you guys comfortable

we have told everyone not to kiss the baby (my in laws will just do what they like) and I’ve already decided if anyone kisses the baby they just won’t get to hold her again.

I’m so super paranoid about RSV, flu etc especially with mine being due in January

 

[Greencatfysh]

I had a good birthday class at my hospital tonight. I was happy to hear they don't induce until 10 days after your due date as my Tiktok is full of people being induced at 39/40 weeks. They also told me every room has a bath which is probably common practice (I have no idea!) but happy if the birth pool is busy I can still have a bath in labour.

Yes I’ve seen this too - I think in the US it’s really common to induce asap at 38 weeks or so, so all I see is videos of women freaking out cos they have reached 39/40 weeks I’m currently 40+5 so it definitely makes you panic!

 

[themuffinwoman]

Thank you for all the replies. I think the posters saying about being able to get over the (short lived) disappointment if it’s not the one you were hoping for is ringing true for me. I feel like it’s going to be so overwhelming in the post-birth moments that if it’s the “wrong” sex it will just seem so much worse, but then more than likely I’m just going to be so relieved he/she is here that it won’t matter and there’s going to be all sorts of other emotions going on anyway. Probably worrying for nothing so I can take this off my long list of other things I’m worrying about!

I wanted a boy and everyone was telling me she would be a boy, when we found out she was a girl I was quite upset because I thought I would disappoint her. I’m not girly, or into make up, I would rather be playing football or cricket than with a Barbie and wouldn’t be able to relate to her. Silly I know.

After a day or two I got over it, I spoke to someone at work who said she absolutely hates football but you bet she was out every Sunday being the loudest mum cheering on her footie-mad son.

If you are disappointed it’s completely normal and ok, once they’re here it will feel like a distant memory. The other day I was YouTubing toddler hairstyles because I want to be able to style it properly as I have no idea what I’m doing

PS I do love all the clothes but I get angry when I see superheroes on boys’ clothes then Barbie and unicorns on girls’, not even female superheroes on their clothes

 

[Spencerskates]

I've actually found a nice non alcoholic drink... they've improved since I was last pregnant in 2020....

Aldi pink greysons non alcoholic gin.. actually tastes similar to real gin.

Still can't find a nice non alcoholic wine.. nosecco still vile

M&S fizzzero is gorgeous!

 

[Super_Berry]

I can’t believe I’m 36 weeks tomorrow time seems to have gone so fast but so slow! Hospital bag is 90% packed, nursery is done and it’s just last little bits to sort out now. Can’t believe it’s nearly time

I'm 36 weeks too! On my to-do list for this week is to pack hospital bag, sort baby's drawers, and finish making some.meals to freeze. I keep going between excited, doesn't feel real, to absolutely terrified haha

 

[Spencerskates]

I actually hadn't thought of this at all. My bf gets two weeks and does have 1.5 weeks of holiday after yoo but it's still not much if I'm waiting days on end for the induction to work. How many days did you have to stay in hospital after it? I feel very nervous about having to stay in hospital myself when my bf gets home which is why I haven't been worried about a C-section.

I had a planned section and only had to stay in 24 hours after my baby was born.

 

[Greencatfysh]

38 weeks and I’ve been to our big shopping centre. I think I’ve lost my mucus plug from googling it?!

Exciting! It can grow back though, so don’t panic you’re in labour. But keep an eye out for other symptoms..!

 

[Angrysue_]

Thank you it's the best feeling ever and I'm so grateful.

We will be getting a scan soon hopefully. I want to see the midwife next week first and see if i would be eligible for an early scan on the NHS first. I have quite a few gynae conditions, but if not we will go for a private one.

Yeah I am the same. Extremely greatful and feel so so lucky to have been given this chance. It's surreal still !

Yeah see what they will offer you, worth a go trying to get it on the NHS first. Fingers crossed for you. Keep us all updated on your journey 🩵🩷

 

[Super_Berry]

Hi everyone, just found out I’m pregnant yesterday 🥹 can I join the thread? First time mum here, no sisters and no friends who have had a baby and feeling quite overwhelmed!

Congratulations! I'm having my first in Dec (I'm 34 weeks today). Happy to answer any questions you have at any time. It's been quite the rollercoaster so far.

 

[scouseconstantine]

I’m not in too much pain at the moment (30 weeks) but I want baby out just so I can stop panicking i about kick counts and movements who are these women who want to be pregnant nonstop, the anxiety alone has put me off another haha

 

[anything at all]

Yeah that's me, I need to be in control the thought of a surprise fills me with chaos. I have bought a couple of neutral things but nothing much. I'm the same girl clothes are beautiful and I just want to know if I can buy them or not. I would actually really like a boy but girls clothes are so much better

The clothes girls really are

I feel like we don’t need to buy too much new this time with us having our second boy, but I’d like some bits that are only worn by the new baby. But going into my local a couple of days ago Tesco it’s like baby boys don’t even exist. They have this tiny neutral section that’s just awful.. and then so many beautiful girls bits!! They’ve shoved the baby boy clothes on the end of older boys clothes but there’s barely anything there and what is there is awful and ugly

 

[Jaybob]

Hi ladies,

I am 15w3d today. We had our dating scan at 13w6d and baby was perfect. Everything as normal.

Since then my energy has come back a lot and my nausea is much less frequent. I am occasionally getting crampy/stretchy feelings in my lower stomach and sides. Nothing painful just uncomfortable. I don't massively have a bump yet, it slightly appears sometimes and then other times it isn't visible.

I have myself completely wound up that something is wrong. I know I am probably being irrational but any reassurance would be gratefully received.

I know it's too early to feel movements so I don't even have that for reassurance. So annoying as I thought after the first trimester I would relax and enjoy this pregnancy!

I got a proper bump at around 20 weeks, I went on holiday and when I came back my coat would no longer do up.

Please come back to read your post at 30 odd weeks when you can no longer bend down and you're being kicked to shit and have a good laugh at yourself

If you are really concerned about anything, speak to your midwife I think you're just enjoying the magical 2nd trimester

 

[Greencatfysh]

I just didn’t tell the airline I was pregnant and wore a baggy jumper… of course if anything happened on the flight it was the first thing my husband would have told them. But they didn’t ask and I didn’t tell

The only issue with this is that if anything happened to you, the airline or airport wouldn’t be liable for anything if you didn’t have a F2F certificate. Obviously it’s unlikely but worth bearing in mind depending on how long the flight is and if you have any health issues

 

[Elisha97]

I’m so excited to be able to select the next category up

 

[anotheronebitesthedust.1]

Has anyone had a successful sweep? My midwife has offered this when I’ll be 40+4, in case nothing happens naturally next week. Interested to hear whether they work, the stats online say they usually do…

I did 40+2 , had sweep at 11am , she was here at 4am

 

[Spencerskates]

I worked until 36 weeks with my first on a job where I was on my feet most of the time (NHS surgeon) and on those last few weeks were a killer. Standing in one position for hours on a end nearly did me in.

I don’t know how you managed that!

I went to 38+5 (the 5 days is important) in my first pregnancy. I’m a secondary school teacher and if I didn’t have a KS4/5 heavy timetable, I wouldn’t have managed it, but it was exam season so I was often only teaching 2 or 3 lessons a day. This time I think I’ll try to go to 37 weeks but won’t beat myself up if I don’t manage it.

 

[Angrysue_]

Baby Girl 3 is here!

She arrived on Monday, followed the trend of her sisters and being born at 36 week (and 1 day), weighing 5lbs. She was born at home, delivered by daddy and we are all absolutely obsessed with her.

Omg this is beautiful 🩷🩷🩷 Born at home and delivered by Daddy made me emotional. Congratulations to you all 🩷🩷🩷
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Had my 3d/4d scan today and baby girl did not want to cooperate. She’s positioned head down and was facing my spine so we couldn’t see her face at all, she only pouted at us a little.

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Omg this is so cute!!!

 

[WeepingCassandra]

It’s ok to be disappointed, I was gutted when my 3rd was a boy. Cried for weeks, literally weeks which feels ridiculous now esp as everyone says they got over it which in a day or less but at the time it felt very overwhelming. I wasn’t that I didn’t want a boy, I just thought he’d be my last and was mourning almost for a girl I’d never get and that mother/daughter relationship I’d never have.
I knew I’d feel sad which is why I did the early scan to try and get used to it before hand and I’m doing the same again this time. Don’t think I’ll be as upset this time though, I couldn’t imagine my boys being anything else now and I’ve not let myself get my heart set on a girl like last time x

We didn't find out until the birth but I've always, always wanted girls, not boys. So to have a little boy presented to you was a bit of a shock and I did really struggle with accepting/bonding with him (though tbf I have a history of shit mental health anyway, hormones hit me like a brick at the best of times and I am prone to anxiety and depression). But I do truly believe you get given the baby you need, not the baby you want!

If we have another and it's not a girl, I will be a bit sad I think, it feels like there's some special things you get with girls that you don't with boys. Your first grandkid is slightly different if they're your daughters, not your sons, you don't get to do the wedding dress shopping, or the girly afternoon teas (though there may be some boys who enjoy that, I can't imagine there's many teenage boys who like a shopping trip and a gossip over lunch), spa days, that kind of thing. But hey ho, they love us unconditionally and we love them back the same!

 

[JombleWomble]

Thank you. I shall check this out. Hopefully it has some tips about morning sickness. Not been feeling great and getting worried about throwing up on the commute. What makes me super worried is I get the train with up to four colleagues - including the MD! (depends if we bump into each other on the platform, we usually do).

Having one rich tea biscuit first thing in the morning helped to settle my stomach and reduce the morning sickness. I also had terrible motion sickness in the first trimester and used Preggie Pop sweets (I got them from Amazon) which really helped with car & train journeys. They just look like normal boiled sweets too so if you do bump into your colleagues they won't know it's pregnancy related.

Tomorrow's task is to finally tell my unsupportive parents that we’re having a baby.

Good luck! I really hope it goes well. The thread will be here for you if you need a debrief after