Pregnancy #62

[Hinchhater1442]

Orange juice can have 0.5% so it’s technically ‘safe’

 

[Amylaauren]

I have my 31 week appointment today. My pelvic/back pain is getting to the point where I’m struggling to walk. Usually I can do easily 10k steps but just going round the shops is so sore and I was in tears on Saturday (probs hormones too)
I’m hoping midwife can provide me a letter I can give to work, I work from home 90% of the time but I’ve got a load of face to face meetings where I’m having to travel in, sit on uncomfortable chairs for hours and I’m honestly dreading it. Is this something she could do? I really want to get out of these meetings it’s hell
Also can’t take any sick leave relating to pregnancy from October as it will trigger my maternity early

 

[PoppyKJ]

Does anyone else’s baby have quiet days? She is still moving about, but she definitely goes through certain days where her movements aren’t as ‘forceful’ as others

 

[Greencatfysh]

Hey all!

I had my baby 2 weeks ago and have been in the newborn struggle bubble since Baby See is doing great, me not so much but getting there! So glad he’s finally here safe and sound

Congratulations! How come you aren’t doing so well - we are all here to listen and advise 🩷

 

[Spencerskates]

Awh that’s nice to hear! I just don’t really know what to expect lol, any recommendations on things to take? Or prepare for?



No she’s breech but also have other personal reasons that go along with that. Awh thank you I hope so, yeah just a big thing to happen ini!

Honestly just take advantage of knowing what day your baby is going to be born! I did daft things like plan to have my nails done the day before, had an everything shower etc. but also changed the bedding and got everything ready at home knowing I wouldn’t be up to it straight away, same with meal prepping.

Nothing really in terms of to take to hospital, but I was really conscious of infection so when the dressing came off I used a clean flannel to dry that area after each shower - saves on washing a big bath towel after every use unless you would anyway.

 

[Scorpihoe]

Thanks for all the advice! Yes I’m in the U.K. I’m going to contact my GP tomorrow and let them know, and then hopefully be in touch with midwife services glad I can choose the hospital I want my care to be at!

@Greencatfysh congratulations!! Wishing you all the best for the coming week

 

[Kaylarina]

I saw a good video on tik tok the other day basically reminding pregnant women that just because something is offered doesn’t mean the medical professional would even accept it if they were pregnant themselves. They have to follow procedures/check boxes/cross the t’s, dot the i’s etc etc so they’d be negligent if they didn’t offer induction and something bad happened, but that’s not to say you should accept it or that they would if they were in your position!!

That's 100% true. I would say I wouldn't accept 98% of the procedures and tests I had to offer as part of my job

 

[Spencerskates]

Thank you! We’re both okay luckily. I was turning in the road and was halfway across when the other car decided to set off at 15-20mph and slammed into my front passenger side. Luckily it wasn’t too bad of a crash, my front bumper is a mess but they monitored babies heartbeat for 20 minutes and it met all the criteria and I can feel movements now at her regular time

I feel bad because it was a coworkers boyfriend who hit me and he was very apologetic but I didn’t want to speak to him at all, the stress of these situation was awful and I think the only reason they let me go to triage was because I was crying on the phone we rang and pushed the number for the ‘emergency triage’ at first and the lady on the phone said ‘we’ll you’ve rang emergency and it’s not an emergency really is it’

my boyfriend nearly snapped at her over the phone if they don’t consider a car accident an emergency while pregnant what do they class as one haha

If anyone here is a kind receptionist I want to preface this with this is absolutely not about you, but why are 95% of medical receptionists absolute arseholes?!

glad you got some reassurance, that must’ve been so scary for you!

 

[Vmanxx]

Yeah I don’t want to be a negative Nelly, but it took me a really long time. I won’t say exactly how long, but just to say that it can happen and not to panic if you’re not immediately pregnant the moment you come off the pill!


My Edward’s/Patau’s syndrome results came back at 1 in 5000 but it doesn’t say if that’s high or low, and Google offers mixed results. Can anyone help?

1 in 5000 is the standard number now, like they don’t say if it’s even lower than that that’s as low as they’ll put now. So yeah that’s a low number. They only go into specific detail of it’s higher risk like 1 in 70 for example

 

[Bingobango]

I'm having a really stressful time at work. I'm a room leader in a nursery and have a whole new team that are just not catching up quick enough. I'm 26 weeks pregnant and I'm struggling. I'm doing everything with management breathing down my neck. I've had high blood pressure ever since I got pregnant and it was under control with tablets but this last week has crept up high again which I think is due to all the stress at work.
I want to have a chant with my manager but I know nothing will change but I just want to do what's right for baby.

Rant over. Sorry I'm an emotional mess tonight.

 

[Greencatfysh]

Ah its so hard trying not to upset anyone - especially when I know they are helping us out massively financially with the travel shstem!
yes the “popping in” is already a bit of an issue and has been anytime partner and I have lived within a 15 minute driving radius of them. I’m not sure they know either that I’m going to be breast feeding and I’m sure that will cause upset
The other thing that’s really setting alarm bells off is the unwillingness to learn about new safety aspects - their last newborn was 30 years ago!!!! But comments have already been made like “it’s like riding a bike” looking after newborn and I want to scream that I’m sure it is NOT 🫠

I’m going to go through my birth plan with partner this weekend so he knows what’s happening and try and impress upon him how I want visiting in the first few weeks to be so he can break the news gently that we will not be requiring a daily “pop in”

Yeah exactly! Very generous of ours to offer but they only offered after we’d already gone shopping and then made it sound like we should have included them. I just hate passive aggressiveness!

totally agree re not keeping up with new guidance. I’ve already mentioned things like safe sleep, which blankets we can/can’t use, having baby downstairs with us all day and therefore needing a downstairs sleep space - all met with laughs and some eye rolls about how silly it all is nowadays. So nice for a first time mum to deal with!!

 

[Amylaauren]

We told my in-laws a name we almost went with (Delilah) and was met with disgust and upturned noses. What’s wrong with Delilah?! We changed the name we wanted years ago but now whenever anyone asks I tell them Renesmee to troll them.

renesmee

 

[Elisha97]

Anyone else just kind of forget they’re pregnant and then get a swift kick to the cervix or catch sight of yourself in a mirror and be like shit maybe I really am pregnant?!

I don’t know when it’s actually going to feel real for me, maybe when she turns 35 or gets a mortgage? I think it’s because we’ve been trying and waiting so long but I can’t wrap my head around it!

 

[Super_Berry]

Yep. This is the one craving that has lasted through the whole of my pregnancy. I also went through a Calippo phase but currently it’s Twisters. I’ve had two tonight before dinner

Haha I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've had other cravings previously, but i'm definitely in my ice lolly era now. Just told my bf I'm excited because there's a Tesco next to my midwife appointment tomorrow so I can get more.

 

[Spencerskates]

For me choosing between a section and induction, I also factored in my husbands paternity leave. With us only getting two weeks, I didn’t want to waste multiple days of that in hospital while waiting to see if various methods of induction worked or not, but I also didn’t want to go through it alone. There’s obviously other things too as other posters have mentioned, but my friend’s husband was already five days into his paternity leave by the time they got home with their baby after every method of induction failed and they then had an emergency section and had to stay in another night.

 

[Greencatfysh]

Controversial, but with our first we actually had both sets of parents visit almost as soon as we got home from hospital. That way it bought us a little bit of time before they visited again, which was especially helpful when day 5 hit, the baby blues were strong and my milk was just coming in. And my parents brought a takeaway for us and made sure we could eat it hot.

we initially planned to wait a week for visitors and had told parents we weren’t ready for visitors straight away, but that’s just what worked for us.

I’m definitely mostly open to see how I’m feeling, I think it’s just the assumptions they make that pisses me off. It’s like the more someone tells you they feel entitled to the baby the less you want them to feel that way, if that makes sense. I totally agree though you never know how you’re going to feel and I’ve also pondered whether just getting it over and done with would help everyone feel better. I think I’ll just see how birth goes and assess then.

 

[sushimama]

I have a lot of troubles falling asleep, I'm almost asleep and then I think YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO CHANGE FOREVER or YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU'RE IN FOR and my heart starts racing like crazy and I can't fall asleep after that. And if I get into thinking about labour / recovery then I'm good till morning, no sleep at all.

Weighed myself this morning and I have 66.6 kg. Not sure if baby's sending me some secret messages. I'm at +5kg so far at 24 weeks, hope it doesn't go crazy in the last trimester.

 

[Scorpihoe]

Why is food so unsatisfying and disappointing? I feel like I really fancy something but as soon as I start eating it I don't want it anymore and everything tastes like disappointment.

I could have wrote this myself. Or I really want to eat something, then I make it and I no longer want it. I had the craziest craving for dominos cookies the other day, made my husband go out and get them, and when he bought them back I didn’t want them anymore 🥲

 

[Kaylarina]

Why is naming so hard!

I'm second guessing every choice, every letter, every sound. Whether it matches the surname. Such a tough decision!

It's beyond difficult. We have an Elanna and an Etta (we didn't intentionally go for 2 E names) but we are drawing a blank for this one. We like Lina and Sofia but again, it feels like we are going for names ending in A on purpose when we are not Although why I worry so much I have no idea as neither of our girls actually get called by their first names...!

Also, I'm English, husband is American and most of his family are South American. Trying to find a name that says nice in all those accidents? World peace would be easier sometimes.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

@themuffinwoman I think about it a lot too, not pregnant but thinking about it in the next year or so and I do wonder often whether I would have felt happier with a planned C section than the induction I had (which is not necessary to discuss on this thread!). A big part of the fog for me those first weeks was trying to recover from the lengthy time I was in labour which if I'd elected for a C section wouldn't have occured!