The perinatal mental health midwife team are amazing. I’ve had help throughout this pregnancy with them and they’ve given me home visits, and it’s been so nice to talk to someone. I had 2 losses back to back right before I got pregnant this time round and my anxiety has been through the roof. Speak to your EPU for some reassurance. When I was 5 weeks I was put on progesterone until I was 16 weeks because of my previous losses 🤍Aww guys thank you @raspberryjuice @Brewtime87 @Greencatfysh @littlepup 🥹🩷
I’m so happy to be here! I’m just under 4 weeks. I keep trying to think positive things.
i haven’t and didn’t plan to tell any services I’m pregnant yet as the pain of having to cancel it all when something happens is just something else to deal with, but I might so I can get help with my mental health. I think I’m even worse because one of my miscarriages was a missed miscarriage and I had no symptoms at all so I’m haunted by that! I’ve already put aside the money I’m going to throw on private scanswe won’t be telling anyone at all apart from work and parents because we’re just too scared. I hope it does get easier; I think it’s because the MMC was at a time I should have been ‘safe’ too. I keep saying to myself it’s a brand new pregnancy and a totally different time 🩷
Yep. Recent dreams include going to a wedding of a guy I used to like and him telling me he loves me and wants to run away with me. Being added on LinkedIn by the stalker lady from Baby Reindeer and lots about my dad who passed away a couple years agoAnyone else had really crazy dreams since being pregnant? Like a whole different level of insane
Oh love I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I had to keep instigating baby/pregnancy chats with my partner as even though I knew he was excited, he just didn't seem to really acknowledge it or talk about it at all in the earlier stages. I did make a gentle comment at one point that I was worried he wasn't happy as he didn't talk about baby, he promised me he was but I guess it just doesn't come naturally to some people. It's only been in the last few weeks he's speaking more about it, and today was the first time he spoke directly to bump and held it. I know it can feel awkward and uncomfortable to broach some things and ask direct questions but honestly it really is the best thing to do xSorry guys to put a dampner on things, especially after all the lovely talk about your partners. I'm feeling so lonely in my pregnancy and I'm only 10 weeks. This weekend I felt so sad. I don't think my husband really gets I'm pregnant and that I'm exhausted all the time. He's just going about his normal life and here I am struggling to get through each day. I really want to talk to him about it but the thought of it makes me want to bawl. I just want to be spoilt a bit and for it to be acknowledged I'm going through something. I know the answer is to talk to him but ahhhhhh.
I think it takes them a lot longer for things to sink in whereas we go into parent mode as soon as we say the positive test. I think it’s very easy for them to just get on with their lives as we are dealing with all the things that come with pregnancy which can be frustrating. Since we’ve been looking at baby things recently which included swapping the car I can see the change but it still hasn’t made him pick up his socksSorry guys to put a dampner on things, especially after all the lovely talk about your partners. I'm feeling so lonely in my pregnancy and I'm only 10 weeks. This weekend I felt so sad. I don't think my husband really gets I'm pregnant and that I'm exhausted all the time. He's just going about his normal life and here I am struggling to get through each day. I really want to talk to him about it but the thought of it makes me want to bawl. I just want to be spoilt a bit and for it to be acknowledged I'm going through something. I know the answer is to talk to him but ahhhhhh.
Have you had any scans yet? I remember with my first my partner didn’t really seem interested/like he actually realised I was pregnant during the first trimester. I remember being exhausted and he was just like ‘what’s up with you???’ Like he couldn’t get his head around the fact I was pregnant and feeling rubbish. I did notice once I had my 12 week scan he suddenly perked up and was like ‘woah, there’s a baby in there’ as it’s so much bigger as well than early scans. Then as time went on he got more and more involved and it was hitting him I was in fact, carrying his child! Then once we found out it was a boy at the 20 week scan he was different altogether! He seemed more excited than me! Then this time round he’s been great throughout. You wonder what goes on in their heads, men are a lot different than women with their thinking and thought process, try and speak to him about how you’re feeling and he might come out with how he is feeling and you can both go from there! It will be rubbish feeling that way so I hope it picks up for you cos you deserve to be excited and not feeling lonely 🤍Sorry guys to put a dampner on things, especially after all the lovely talk about your partners. I'm feeling so lonely in my pregnancy and I'm only 10 weeks. This weekend I felt so sad. I don't think my husband really gets I'm pregnant and that I'm exhausted all the time. He's just going about his normal life and here I am struggling to get through each day. I really want to talk to him about it but the thought of it makes me want to bawl. I just want to be spoilt a bit and for it to be acknowledged I'm going through something. I know the answer is to talk to him but ahhhhhh.
thank you! It’s so strange because I’m calmer in some ways as the absolute worst has happened to me and I realise at this early stage there’s nothing I can do, but then also more panicked, especially when I think of certain time frames! I’m trying to find our local EPU this morning and I’ll ask their advice 🩷🩷🩷I haven't had the same experience as you so really cannot imagine how you are feeling, but I have used the mental health services throughout this pregnancy and can say it has been amazing for me. I have more regular midwife appointments at home and the level of support I have now compared to my last pregnancy is insanely different.
Hopefully you'll find the right support for yourself and the anxieties will ease over time
thank you so much 🩷 I’m going to ask about the progesterone! I got told before I couldn’t have it unless I bleed (I’m praying to god this doesn’t happen cos even when everything is fine it’s such a added worry)The perinatal mental health midwife team are amazing. I’ve had help throughout this pregnancy with them and they’ve given me home visits, and it’s been so nice to talk to someone. I had 2 losses back to back right before I got pregnant this time round and my anxiety has been through the roof. Speak to your EPU for some reassurance. When I was 5 weeks I was put on progesterone until I was 16 weeks because of my previous losses 🤍
I agree with the others that men take a bit longer to realise what a change it is. There’s no bump yet, they haven’t seen the baby/know the gender (if you’re going to find out) so they don’t really associate the first bit with you actually growing a baby. The 12w scan can be a turning point when they see the baby as then it’s “real”Sorry guys to put a dampner on things, especially after all the lovely talk about your partners. I'm feeling so lonely in my pregnancy and I'm only 10 weeks. This weekend I felt so sad. I don't think my husband really gets I'm pregnant and that I'm exhausted all the time. He's just going about his normal life and here I am struggling to get through each day. I really want to talk to him about it but the thought of it makes me want to bawl. I just want to be spoilt a bit and for it to be acknowledged I'm going through something. I know the answer is to talk to him but ahhhhhh.
Does this happen when people get to a certain amount of weeks or have people had it all the way through? It’s actually one thing I don’t have yet and I’m worried I will not cope if/ when it happens!How are you guys managing to sleep at night??? I can’t get comfortable and when I do I’m waking up for a toilet breakI’ve got another 10 weeks yet
I’ve only been getting up to wee since about 35 weeks, before then it was once/twice a night and I could get comfy with my pillow and back to sleep easily. Now baby is ginormous it’s more uncomfortable but apart from the weeing I do still manage a good sleep most nights. Definitely haven’t suffered like a lot of these poor ladies so it might not be so bad for you eitherDoes this happen when people get to a certain amount of weeks or have people had it all the way through? It’s actually one thing I don’t have yet and I’m worried I will not cope if/ when it happens!
To be fair I wee a lot through the day and when I get into bed I get back up about 5 times before I go to sleep. I think maybe 3 out of 7 nights I'll wake up to go the loo, that's when I close my eyes when I wee so I don't disturb myself too muchDoes this happen when people get to a certain amount of weeks or have people had it all the way through? It’s actually one thing I don’t have yet and I’m worried I will not cope if/ when it happens!
waking in the night to wee, was my only reason for testing for pregnancy because it’s something I never do. But I stopped for ages, till this last weekDoes this happen when people get to a certain amount of weeks or have people had it all the way through? It’s actually one thing I don’t have yet and I’m worried I will not cope if/ when it happens!
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