Pregnancy #57

[raspberryjuice]

Well after another 3.5 hours on the CTG they finally let me home! He had lots of not mets on the criteria because his heart rate was going too high when he wasn’t moving, then he was moving too much and his HR was too high but the dips were too low (going from between 185-215bpm down to 110-125bpm!!) but eventually it all seemed to settle and the highs and lows started to sync with movement. I’m glad I stayed firm and refused to leave without seeing a doctor after the first 20 min CTG because the longer one clearly showed I wasn’t being dramatic saying he’s not moving much and there was something going on. The MW said he could have been distressed because of the monitoring and that’s why his heart rate was so scatty?! Is that even a thing?? He doesn’t know he’s being monitored Anyway a registrar eventually came to see me and said they could admit me for regular monitoring but the next one would be in 6-8 hours on the ward, or I can come back tomorrow and go back on the CTG for an hour and see what happens, so I’ve gone with that option because I can’t cope with the lack of sleep on the ward. I’m a bit frustrated (and worried, tbh) because when I was on the monitor on Wednesday his HR was also quite high and didn’t really correlate to movement but they just said then that he was “excited”. But now I’m wondering if something is going on with his heart. I have a condition that causes tachycardia, as does my sister (she gets tachycardia and bradycardia though), so I’m wondering if it’s a genetic thing although neither of us developed it or any symptoms until we were in our 20s, or whether he is just getting a bit fed up and distressed in there but we will be reviewed again tomorrow and go from there. There was mention of bringing my csection forward to this week if my CTG is the same tomorrow. At one point it was going to be today

Mr R, ever the optimist in the car on the way home “fancy a bag when we get in to try and get him out then” no babe, I’m good

 

[watermelon sugar]

Well after another 3.5 hours on the CTG they finally let me home! He had lots of not mets on the criteria because his heart rate was going too high when he wasn’t moving, then he was moving too much and his HR was too high but the dips were too low (going from between 185-215bpm down to 110-125bpm!!) but eventually it all seemed to settle and the highs and lows started to sync with movement. I’m glad I stayed firm and refused to leave without seeing a doctor after the first 20 min CTG because the longer one clearly showed I wasn’t being dramatic saying he’s not moving much and there was something going on. The MW said he could have been distressed because of the monitoring and that’s why his heart rate was so scatty?! Is that even a thing?? He doesn’t know he’s being monitored Anyway a registrar eventually came to see me and said they could admit me for regular monitoring but the next one would be in 6-8 hours on the ward, or I can come back tomorrow and go back on the CTG for an hour and see what happens, so I’ve gone with that option because I can’t cope with the lack of sleep on the ward. I’m a bit frustrated (and worried, tbh) because when I was on the monitor on Wednesday his HR was also quite high and didn’t really correlate to movement but they just said then that he was “excited”. But now I’m wondering if something is going on with his heart. I have a condition that causes tachycardia, as does my sister (she gets tachycardia and bradycardia though), so I’m wondering if it’s a genetic thing although neither of us developed it or any symptoms until we were in our 20s, or whether he is just getting a bit fed up and distressed in there but we will be reviewed again tomorrow and go from there. There was mention of bringing my csection forward to this week if my CTG is the same tomorrow. At one point it was going to be today

Mr R, ever the optimist in the car on the way home “fancy a bag when we get in to try and get him out then” no babe, I’m good

Stand firm with them and if you carry on being worried don’t let them palm you off with the ‘hes excited’ malarkey! You obviously know babies pattern and if you’ve got your worries make sure you stand your ground. Hopefully everything is ok! He probs will be out sooner rather than later though, how exciting!

 

[Tazzie]

Has anyone started collecting anything fun??? We decided to go for the “That’s not my…” touchy feely books! Baby doesn’t have a crib, bottles or pram but they do have the cutest book collection

I am so tempted to start buying books, my own book collection is out of control so I know the baby’s will be too. Trying to get to the attic in my parents as I know there is a whole load of my childhood books there..

 

[Whassupgirl]

Well after another 3.5 hours on the CTG they finally let me home! He had lots of not mets on the criteria because his heart rate was going too high when he wasn’t moving, then he was moving too much and his HR was too high but the dips were too low (going from between 185-215bpm down to 110-125bpm!!) but eventually it all seemed to settle and the highs and lows started to sync with movement. I’m glad I stayed firm and refused to leave without seeing a doctor after the first 20 min CTG because the longer one clearly showed I wasn’t being dramatic saying he’s not moving much and there was something going on. The MW said he could have been distressed because of the monitoring and that’s why his heart rate was so scatty?! Is that even a thing?? He doesn’t know he’s being monitored Anyway a registrar eventually came to see me and said they could admit me for regular monitoring but the next one would be in 6-8 hours on the ward, or I can come back tomorrow and go back on the CTG for an hour and see what happens, so I’ve gone with that option because I can’t cope with the lack of sleep on the ward. I’m a bit frustrated (and worried, tbh) because when I was on the monitor on Wednesday his HR was also quite high and didn’t really correlate to movement but they just said then that he was “excited”. But now I’m wondering if something is going on with his heart. I have a condition that causes tachycardia, as does my sister (she gets tachycardia and bradycardia though), so I’m wondering if it’s a genetic thing although neither of us developed it or any symptoms until we were in our 20s, or whether he is just getting a bit fed up and distressed in there but we will be reviewed again tomorrow and go from there. There was mention of bringing my csection forward to this week if my CTG is the same tomorrow. At one point it was going to be today

Mr R, ever the optimist in the car on the way home “fancy a bag when we get in to try and get him out then” no babe, I’m good

Oh bless you I bet you just want him here! I hope they bring him for you soon

 

[Bumblebee2019]

Hope you’re okay and managed to get some rest @raspberryjuice Keep advocating for yourself and your boy - your intuition knows what’s best!

 

[odetotheseaweed]

Well after another 3.5 hours on the CTG they finally let me home! He had lots of not mets on the criteria because his heart rate was going too high when he wasn’t moving, then he was moving too much and his HR was too high but the dips were too low (going from between 185-215bpm down to 110-125bpm!!) but eventually it all seemed to settle and the highs and lows started to sync with movement. I’m glad I stayed firm and refused to leave without seeing a doctor after the first 20 min CTG because the longer one clearly showed I wasn’t being dramatic saying he’s not moving much and there was something going on. The MW said he could have been distressed because of the monitoring and that’s why his heart rate was so scatty?! Is that even a thing?? He doesn’t know he’s being monitored Anyway a registrar eventually came to see me and said they could admit me for regular monitoring but the next one would be in 6-8 hours on the ward, or I can come back tomorrow and go back on the CTG for an hour and see what happens, so I’ve gone with that option because I can’t cope with the lack of sleep on the ward. I’m a bit frustrated (and worried, tbh) because when I was on the monitor on Wednesday his HR was also quite high and didn’t really correlate to movement but they just said then that he was “excited”. But now I’m wondering if something is going on with his heart. I have a condition that causes tachycardia, as does my sister (she gets tachycardia and bradycardia though), so I’m wondering if it’s a genetic thing although neither of us developed it or any symptoms until we were in our 20s, or whether he is just getting a bit fed up and distressed in there but we will be reviewed again tomorrow and go from there. There was mention of bringing my csection forward to this week if my CTG is the same tomorrow. At one point it was going to be today

Mr R, ever the optimist in the car on the way home “fancy a bag when we get in to try and get him out then” no babe, I’m good

What time do you have to go back today? I hope they have some proper answers for you later xx

 

[Lioness1]

@raspberryjuice just catching up! You’re doing the right thing, I don’t know why they make you feel like an inconvenience sometimes and don’t even get a doctor to see you. Hopefully all goes well today, you’re so close to the end maybe they will just bring you in this week.

 

[watermelon sugar]

@raspberryjuice just catching up! You’re doing the right thing, I don’t know why they make you feel like an inconvenience sometimes and don’t even get a doctor to see you. Hopefully all goes well today, you’re so close to the end maybe they will just bring you in this week.

This!!! I was in yesterday and they were the ones who said to me they want me in for weekly scans and CTG’s, I voiced my owns worries and the midwife was so reluctant to get the registrar to come and speak to me. Like their always like ‘come in if you’re worried even if it’s the middle of the night’ but they can be funny with you for even doing that!

 

[PrincessShark]

Well after another 3.5 hours on the CTG they finally let me home! He had lots of not mets on the criteria because his heart rate was going too high when he wasn’t moving, then he was moving too much and his HR was too high but the dips were too low (going from between 185-215bpm down to 110-125bpm!!) but eventually it all seemed to settle and the highs and lows started to sync with movement. I’m glad I stayed firm and refused to leave without seeing a doctor after the first 20 min CTG because the longer one clearly showed I wasn’t being dramatic saying he’s not moving much and there was something going on. The MW said he could have been distressed because of the monitoring and that’s why his heart rate was so scatty?! Is that even a thing?? He doesn’t know he’s being monitored Anyway a registrar eventually came to see me and said they could admit me for regular monitoring but the next one would be in 6-8 hours on the ward, or I can come back tomorrow and go back on the CTG for an hour and see what happens, so I’ve gone with that option because I can’t cope with the lack of sleep on the ward. I’m a bit frustrated (and worried, tbh) because when I was on the monitor on Wednesday his HR was also quite high and didn’t really correlate to movement but they just said then that he was “excited”. But now I’m wondering if something is going on with his heart. I have a condition that causes tachycardia, as does my sister (she gets tachycardia and bradycardia though), so I’m wondering if it’s a genetic thing although neither of us developed it or any symptoms until we were in our 20s, or whether he is just getting a bit fed up and distressed in there but we will be reviewed again tomorrow and go from there. There was mention of bringing my csection forward to this week if my CTG is the same tomorrow. At one point it was going to be today

Mr R, ever the optimist in the car on the way home “fancy a bag when we get in to try and get him out then” no babe, I’m good

Sending lots of love your way, as a MW I would never say what that one did 🫠
I’m glad you stood your ground, and hopefully baby safely arrives soon 🤍

 

[yankydoo]

@raspberryjuice Good luck and well done on advocating for yourself. Keep us updated!

I’ve felt my exhaustion ease up this week so I bit the bullet and did an exercise class this morning, first one for weeks. I feel so much better. Hoping I can keep it up

 

[Elisha97]

How do you all cope with the worries of pregnancy please? Especially in the first trimester!

I’ve had a nightmare with pregnancies; I’ve no living children and I’ve had two miscarriages but I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant again. I’ve also had some illnesses and ‘things’ that are rare in pregnancy before, and it’s making me super nervous. I thought I was doing quite well and I bought a single baby grow last night because I wanted to prove to my brain that positive thoughts and things aren’t harmful. I then had a dream I miscarried again last night and I am a MESS mentally!

 

[littlepup]

The MW said he could have been distressed because of the monitoring and that’s why his heart rate was so scatty?! Is that even a thing?? He doesn’t know he’s being monitored

God they say some stupid tit. I guess she could have meant that your stress at the monitoring was affecting the baby? But then what would ever be the point as obviously you’d be stressed if you couldn’t feel baby.
Well done you for advocating for yourself and not backing down.

Re Books. For anyone having a baby shower. I’ve been to a few and had where instead of buying a card, you buy a book (they’re often the same price or just a few £ more) and write your message in the front of the book.
It’s really cute, my LO loves looking at the messages and knows who they’re all from.

 

[raspberryjuice]

Thank you ladies we’re heading back soon. I’m exhausted I didn’t get to sleep until 6am and then feels like I’ve been awake every hour poking him he check he’s ok hoping his CTG will be normal today because his movement so far is normal for him, but if I do have any concerns I will be speaking up again. The first MW I saw last night was completely useless. I said I felt dismissed both times I’d been in this week and she was like “what do you want me to do??” I don’t know? You’re the professional, I’m having my first baby. I don’t know the processes or options here I’d been reading guidelines on the way in and knew 2 episodes of reduced movement meant you should be properly reviewed but when she came in, glanced at the CTG print out and said I could go because the doctors are busy I saw red
I just want them to get him out safely now. I can see lots of visits for monitoring if they don’t because I’m just going to worry every time he’s a little bit quiet or the opposite as well now, when he’s moving a bit more than normal. After listening to his monitor alarm consistently for 2.5 hours while they started to worry about it before he settled I’m not taking any chances.

Re books - they were on our Amazon wishlist for our baby shower but everyone decided he was too little for books I’m going to buy some. But I do have loads of my childhood books that I took from my grandparents house when we were clearing it out when my Gran died. I’m looking forward to reading the stories and poems to him that my grandparents read to me but I do want some more modern books too. That might be today’s online shopping mission!
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How do you all cope with the worries of pregnancy please? Especially in the first trimester!

I’ve had a nightmare with pregnancies; I’ve no living children and I’ve had two miscarriages but I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant again. I’ve also had some illnesses and ‘things’ that are rare in pregnancy before, and it’s making me super nervous. I thought I was doing quite well and I bought a single baby grow last night because I wanted to prove to my brain that positive thoughts and things aren’t harmful. I then had a dream I miscarried again last night and I am a MESS mentally!

Firstly, congratulations! Do you know how far along you are? I can’t give any specific advice on easing worries of the first trimester because I was also a ball of anxiety (and still am). I also haven’t experienced loss. Are you able to ring your local EPU and explain your history and worries to see if they’ll monitor you closely, check HCG levels or give you an early scan? Or if you can afford it a private scan at 7w is usually quite reassuring. Wishing you lots of luck with your rainbow baby

 

[littlepup]

Thank you ladies we’re heading back soon.

Re books - they were on our Amazon wishlist for our baby shower but everyone decided he was too little for books !

Good luck this afternoon, hope you get someone who really listens.

Re gifts, I’d politely ask for things to cover the first year or so, including books. Otherwise you end up with a load of 0-3mths baby grows and baby lotion whereas some sensory books, tethers, rattles, cups and breakfast sets etc later are way more useful.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Good luck this afternoon @raspberryjuice

 

[Brewtime87]

How do you all cope with the worries of pregnancy please? Especially in the first trimester!

I’ve had a nightmare with pregnancies; I’ve no living children and I’ve had two miscarriages but I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant again. I’ve also had some illnesses and ‘things’ that are rare in pregnancy before, and it’s making me super nervous. I thought I was doing quite well and I bought a single baby grow last night because I wanted to prove to my brain that positive thoughts and things aren’t harmful. I then had a dream I miscarried again last night and I am a MESS mentally!

Congratulations, I'm so so happy to see you here
I would contact your GP and EPU and explain your history and ask if they're able to get you in for earlier scans or anything. Other than that just try to go easy on yourself, don't put pressure on yourself and just take each day as it comes. The anxiety does get easier/less. X

 

[Greencatfysh]

Congratulations, I'm so so happy to see you here
I would contact your GP and EPU and explain your history and ask if they're able to get you in for earlier scans or anything. Other than that just try to go easy on yourself, don't put pressure on yourself and just take each day as it comes. The anxiety does get easier/less. X

Totally agree, the only thing that saved me from being an absolutely wreck was having 2 early scans and being able to see baby was ok on screen. Reading the stats about once you see a heartbeat, etc. To be honest though, I was also bracing myself for if there was a negative outcome and tried to make plans and support systems for myself just in case. There will be a day when you can finally let go and relax a little more - but unfortunately there’s no easy fix to get through that first tri.

 

[littlepup]

How do you all cope with the worries of pregnancy please? Especially in the first trimester!

I’ve had a nightmare with pregnancies; I’ve no living children and I’ve had two miscarriages but I’ve just discovered I’m pregnant again. I’ve also had some illnesses and ‘things’ that are rare in pregnancy before, and it’s making me super nervous. I thought I was doing quite well and I bought a single baby grow last night because I wanted to prove to my brain that positive thoughts and things aren’t harmful. I then had a dream I miscarried again last night and I am a MESS mentally!

Ive followed your journey on TTC and can’t imagine how you’re feeling.
I’ve been having therapy in this pregnancy and the therapist says any “anxiety is an overestimation of risk.”
With that in mind, and actually it’s always helped me, I find looking at stats helpful. They stop me fixating on the worst case but also don’t say “don’t worry, it’ll all be fine”, they give a true picture so you can’t over estimate. So if you look at the stat for women who’ve had recurrent MCs having a successful pregnancy later, what the chances are of a MC at x week, after seeing a heart beat, after having a good combined test result etc.
At the moment you might think ‘100% of my TTC has ended badly’ but each pregnancy is new, different, try not to overestimate your risk. You get past each day to the next milestone, each day is closer to a baby. I would personally speak to EPU and ask for early scans, if not, book them. I’d probably book the NIPT so that you are getting these reassurances sooner rather than later.
You can also fast track on MH services, I got my first appointment within the week and it’s not a quick fix or cure all, not everything is valuable, but for an hour a week, it’s given me a few tools that are helpful.

 

[Bingobango]

After 16 months trying and a couple of fertility appointments we finally got a positive this morning. I had been taking Metformin for three months to help with my ovulation and my number were so high this month I just had a feeling this would be it.
I had a few symptoms this week but kept telling myself it was period related apart from nausea. I know its early but I suffer from motion sickness most days so I knew I would probably feel sick. I dont know what I'm rambling on about I'm just so happy its finally worked. Negative thoughts keep trying to kick in but I wont let them.

 

[Brewtime87]

After all my complaining and worrying that my bump hasn't grown, I've suddenly found myself way too round to fit into any of my jeans, even the ones that were still really roomy just two weeks ago. Eek.