Pregnancy #50

[kayefeluu20]

I'm literally not even going to create a birth plan beyond my husband being there and no visitors. I'm usually a complete prepper but this is so out of my hands and I know literally nothing about it so it's very much I'd prefer not to have a c section bc of the restricted movements after but if it's necessary then it's necessary.

Low expectations = low chance of disappointment

 

[fudgebox]

Agree about the Doppler, I’m almost 30 weeks and when the midwife is listening to it I can’t make it out myself anyway! She’s saying do you hear that sound that’s the heartbeat, I’m just like yeah sure

 

[kayefeluu20]

Just got back from MAU for reduced movements and I must say I was very impressed with their response. Was seen within 2 hours, monitored for 25 minutes (she met the criteria within 16 mins). The monitor picked up loads of movements that I didn't feel so the verdict was a) she doesn't like the heat or b) she's in a position that doesn't lend itself to feeling movements.

The monitoring was reassuring but hoping she wriggles herself back into position, as much as I complain I love that she's been an active little kicker.

 

[opintionatedperson]

I've loved the name archie for years and years but I'll drop kick anyone that mentions Megan Markle to me as I had the name long before her and I'm Irish so not copying her at all but yano the way ppl comment

 

[justonemorepage]

I've finally seen the baby kick from outside my tummy! Such a special and cool feeling still yet to catch it on video though - baby stops as soon as I start recording

 

[Ditto247]

Can anyone relate? I'm 29 weeks and I can't stop feeling down about the fact that soon it's no longer just going to be me and my partner. I'm feeling sad that the chapter of just us 2 is almost over.
Don't get me wrong I cannot wait for our little baby to be here but I can't shake the feeling of sadness when it comes to thinking it'll no longer be the 2 of us

 

[at88]

I’ve told both sides we want to spend the first Xmas as a family of 3! We will be spending the whole day in our pjs, watching Xmas films and enjoying our new baby bubble! She will be about 4 weeks at that point! We will see my family Xmas eve and his family Boxing Day. We are all entitled to do what we want, never mind anyone’s opinion on it.. it’s a big deal having a new baby!

For those due before Christmas, what's your take on what to do for the festivities? We usually have a really busy Christmas of driving to my parents for dinner and then driving straight to my OH parents for tea and we are usually out of the house from 12pm-9/10pm. Our baby is still going to be so young at this point so I don't particularly want to drag them out all day and it's also the issue of being in other people's houses when baby needs to nap (where will they sleep?) And still navigating feeds and nappy changing. I feel like I'm going to be so stressed out so I suggested us having people come to us instead (we have a very small family) but already my parents are saying for us to go to them, even after I've said we'll host at mine. I think I would just feel so much more comfortable at my own home where I can put baby down safely for a nap and pop into another room to feed and nappy change etc but I'm being made to feel like I'm being awkward and unreasonable
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[kayefeluu20]

The standoff between me and the bag of jelly babies on my desk rn is quite extreme. I'm trying to work but all I can think about is green jelly babies. Maybe a yellow one. My husband can have the reds and blacks. Trying to hold off until lunch
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The standoff between me and the bag of jelly babies on my desk rn is quite extreme. I'm trying to work but all I can think about is green jelly babies. Maybe a yellow one. My husband can have the reds and blacks. Trying to hold off until lunch

Caved and opened them. Imagine my horror when there's only 2 green ones and one yellow one in the entire bag. The rest are reds or blacks. Fuming. Husband is chuffed as he gets the rest of the bag.

 

[kayefeluu20]

30 weeks tomorrow! Can just about make out tiny fists or knees through the skin. My husband was doing his usual nightly talking to the baby and moisturising my bump, felt some sort of limb and went very pale I've told him it only gets creepier as she gets bigger!

 

[CallMeHollywood]

Very weird to be voting 19-26 weeks. It’s beginning to really speed up now he’s been less activate the last day or so. I’m not too worried as he’s not established any kicking patterns yet, but is anyone else having this?

 

[ScoutFinch]

I’ve heard people say they’ve slept better with a new born than when they were pregnant so there is hope!

Again, still lurking, but I’ve definitely slept better since baby arrived! Yes I’m up with him but I’m not in pain, aching and uncomfy when I do actually go to sleep. I wake up rested! Also being awake with a gorgeous newborn is definitely superior to being awake with sore hips and a constant need to pee

 

[DarthMiepies]

Our surname is Rose. Is Jack Rose for a baby boy too simple?

No not too simple. But it does remind me a lot of the titanic

 

[Cjh78]

My due date is here! Anyone else hitting 40 with no signs of any baby?!

 

[ScoutFinch]

Interested to see hospital bag lists, ladies.

This is mine. I’ll spoiler it cos it’s long!

Spoiler

For Me

• Water bottle
• Nursing notes
• Nursing pillow
• Kindle
• Toiletry bag
• Long Charging cable
• Outfit to go home in
• Bobbles/Hair clips
• Hairbrush
• Nursing bra x2
• Fluffy socks
• Cooling mist
• Lip balm
• Spritz for bits
• Big knickers
• Disposable knickers
• Bikini (if water birth)
• Dark Towel
• Peri bottle
• Button up Nighty x2
• Handheld fan
• Slides
• Pyjamas
• Dressing gown
• Skincare

Toiletries

• Deodorant
• Dry shampoo
• Face wipes
• Shower gel
• Toothbrush
• Water spray
• Toothpaste

For Baby

• Ready made milk
• Cardigan
• Going home outfit
• Cellular blanket
• Swaddle blanket
• Muslins
• 3x 0-1 month outfits
• 3x newborn outfits
• Cotton pads
• Wipes
• Nappy sacks
• Nappies
• Dummy

 

[Kaybethkay]

Had my gender scan earlier and it’s a boy! Although I’m not convinced it looks so much like the umbilical cord rather than boy parts

 

[ScoutFinch]

We don’t have a girls name or a boys name. With less than 3 weeks to go it’s getting a bit of a concern

 

[Hinchhater1442]

Exactly the same with me, had a failed induction with a long pointless labour then an emergency c section and the long posts of women effectively bragging that they got their natural intervention~free water birth like it was purely down to their own good decisions and not a heavy dose of good luck made me so mad. I’m still unsure what to do but not quite ready yet to give up the possibility of ever having a vaginal delivery and this might be our last baby (unsure about that also )

Yes same! My next would be my last and whilst I don’t want to give up the possibility of having a vaginal delivery, knowing that it comes down to pure luck feels scary as I’d hate to go through that again. I got as far as you could possibly get, pushed for 2 hours, and he still didn’t come out if there was a guarantee I’d 100% do it though!!

I've also been reading the PBC hypnobirthing book and as a first timer it's giving me false hope I think. I'd love for it to go smoothly but I highly doubt it so trying to stay realistic so that I don't get my hopes up and inevitably shattered.

My number 1 advice for anyone would be to go in with a very open mind. I had a text book pregnancy, did everything ‘right’, he was always in the correct positions etc. but when the time came it just wasn’t meant to be! I’m not mad about my caesarean, but I’m mad about how places like PBC make me feel about it when it was completely out of my control. And actually in the end the only part that was ‘positive’ for me was actually the c section

 

[LavaFlake]

10 weeks + 1 today!! I thught i would never make it this far. Still nervous. Got my NIPT today....did anyone buy a doppler and hear anything at 10 weeks?

Even if you're a midwife trained with a doppler it can be really hard to hear a heartbeat so it's recommended you don't as it may just cause more anxiety. Apparently it can be hard to distinguish baby's heartbeat to your own and even your own stomach noises.

I've got my 16 week midwife appointment today (despite being 17+3 lol) and they used to use a doppler to hear heartbeat at that but apparently a lot don't do it anymore even at 16 weeks because of the risks above. Oh well only 2 weeks til my next NHS scan

 

[kayefeluu20]

Happy to report after trekking to hospital yesterday, she is not shy about making herself known today. Woke me up with kicks from 5-7, and has bestowed upon me about 35 kicks/rolls since then. Making up for lost time

The midwives did say the heat could impact baby's movements, so perhaps something to bear in mind if you also notice reduced movements. It's 31° here today and I'm debating working from a bath full of ice.

 

[LilyRose1234]

also, if you’re having a December baby I’d very much avoid making solid plans until baby is here as you won’t really know how you’re feeling. A plan that seems great now, might be a terrible idea once you’re in the thick of it. Equally, everything much be much smoother than you’d imagine and you can go out or do things you weren’t expecting! Defo a year you have a great excuse to play it by ear