I pressed the button so many times the MW offered to take mine into the office with her… and I let her
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Likewise, at two points they took mini muffin into the office, once when I was writhing in pain and couldn’t get up and the other when she wouldn’t stop crying and I hadn’t sleptI pressed the button so many times the MW offered to take mine into the office with her… and I let her
It’s just been such a rollercoaster couple of days. I feel so drained. I think I might call the mental health team tomorrow cos I don’t feel like I am coping right now and I’m worried it will get worse once baby comes. I just feel so messed aroundI'm so sorry, that must be so stressful after preparing for itI hope you can have a relaxing evening and enjoy being in comfortable surroundings before you have to go back
Calling to ask for extra support for your mental health sounds like a great idea, and maybe call your midwife too to discuss how you're feeling in case she can help advocate for you if things aren't going as you hoped? If it helps, I had emergency ankle surgery a few years ago and I kept getting bumped back because more urgent emergencies were coming in, and I didn't deal with that at all well at first! It's the expectation that leads to not coping, so if your midwife or other members of the maternity team can talk you through what might happen/what changes might have to occur it might help you feel like you've got some control backIt’s just been such a rollercoaster couple of days. I feel so drained. I think I might call the mental health team tomorrow cos I don’t feel like I am coping right now and I’m worried it will get worse once baby comes. I just feel so messed around
I was in a week alone with my first and the midwives took my LO away too for a feed in the office once every night. She needed top ups from formula and the midwife said she had a comfy chair in the office so off she went!! Seemed a bit weird to me at the time but equally I don't recall doing anything to stop her and having some shut eyeI pressed the button so many times the MW offered to take mine into the office with her… and I let her
Hi I was wondering if anyone can offer some advice or have been through similar. I had my booking appointment with the midwife yesterday and have been referred to social services because I have a 9 year old with my abusive ex. It’s slightly stressed me and my husband out as our relationship is completely different from what I went through with my son.
I remember saying “wait, really?!” And she said they were having a quiet night and could take her for me. This was 2018 when the couple in the bay next to us stayed another night in hospital because they were grateful for the amount of breastfeeding support they were getting - not sure the hospital would be able to oblige that one now given the amount of babies we are all pumping outI was in a week alone with my first and the midwives took my LO away too for a feed in the office once every night. She needed top ups from formula and the midwife said she had a comfy chair in the office so off she went!! Seemed a bit weird to me at the time but equally I don't recall doing anything to stop her and having some shut eye
Did the midwife realise that your husband isn't the same partner as your abusive ex? If so it may be that a referral is being made as a precaution to make sure you've got appropriate support around you, and to assess the risk of your ex if he still has any contact with you/your son. Most social services referrals are to assess risk and provide extra support/advice where needed, and often the referral will be closed if the social worker is satisfied with what's in place. Could you contact the midwife you saw yesterday and ask for more information about why you've been referred and what the next steps will be, to put your mind at ease a bit?
Thank you for your reply, she does! I don’t have any contact with my ex at all, my dad or my husband drop my son off to him. Anything I know about my ex now is because my son tells me.
She implied it’s because they have to do it because of previous involvement. I think being honest don’t help. Honestly it’s frustrating as a mother you get investigated etc but as a father you can get away with so much.
I’m hoping they will just close the referral my relationship now is completely different and my son is being brought up in a loving home the same will be for this baby.
I think a lot of referrals/consultations are made due to a-covering just to make sure that everything that could conceivably be picked up on has been followed through, but it's definitely exhausting to be on the receiving end of that! Hopefully social services will just call you for a chat and then be satisfied that you/your unborn baby aren't at any risk and then close you. I'm glad your situation now is so much better than what you went through when your last baby was born
Section rebooked for Monday, round two 
I’ll be 40+2 by then so who knows he might make an appearance on his own beforehand 
I’ll be 40+2 by then so who knows he might make an appearance on his own beforehand 
Has anyone had awful nausea/sickness in their first pregnancy and then gone on to have a second baby with no nausea/sickness and everything be ok? I'm 8 weeks with baby no.2 and have had no sickness but I was really sick with HG in my first pregnancy and was told there's a really high chance I'd have it in subsequent pregnancies.
I'm obviously over the moon I'm not ill but it's making me worried something might be wrong which sounds crazy. I have a private scan booked for tomorrow but just wondered if anyone had any experiences.
My symptoms are fatigue, sore boobs, spots everywhere, very occasional waves of nausea but it usually goes away after eating.
I'm obviously over the moon I'm not ill but it's making me worried something might be wrong which sounds crazy. I have a private scan booked for tomorrow but just wondered if anyone had any experiences.
My symptoms are fatigue, sore boobs, spots everywhere, very occasional waves of nausea but it usually goes away after eating.
Yes I had terrible nausea food aversions and sickness with my first. Sickness went at 20 weeks but nausea and aversions were all the way through. Second baby I had some food aversions and nausea only in the very early weeks but no sickness. Now have a healthy 3 month old boy.
Yes my pregnancy with my little boy was completely different to my first two which were girls. Like you I found it so worrying, I did have some sickness but nothing in comparison to HG and it was generally a smoother pregnancy. He’s 8 months old now
Did you have a girl in your first pregnancy by any chance? I had a daughter first and was so sick. We're not finding out the gender this time but I'm wondering if it might be a boy
I did. I meant to say that in my post.
Thank you, that's reassuring to know. My first pregnancy sounds really similar to yours the nausea/vomiting and food aversions were horrendous until 20 weeks then they got more manageable but still remained until the end. I feel so different this time around so will be interesting to see if I have a boy. Only 7 months to wait to find out
Not personal experience as I’m only on my first (HG) pregnancy, but one of my friends had A horrendous time with HG with her first pregnancy, but not with her second. She had some sickness, but nothing compared to HG. Boy first, girl second. I’m also having a boy and I’m still being sick at almost 34 weeks.Thank you, that's reassuring to know. My first pregnancy sounds really similar to yours the nausea/vomiting and food aversions were horrendous until 20 weeks then they got more manageable but still remained until the end. I feel so different this time around so will be interesting to see if I have a boy. Only 7 months to wait to find out
It's interesting isn't it. I definitely don't think HG is limited to one gender as some people are much more sick with boys than girls but I do think certain people react to hormones differently so may be sick with one gender and not the other, and some will be sick with both. I also had a friend that had HG all the way through her pregnancy with a boy. Strange how it works! I'm counting myself lucky for now as HG is hell. Hang in there
Not me personally but my friend was in and out of hospital with HG with her first (son) and was hardly sick with her second (daughter)!
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