Sending love and comfort your way @SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur x
New to Tattle Life? Click "Order Thread by Most Liked Posts" button below to get an idea of what the site is about:
Yes, the drinking. Please dont beat yourself up!! So many women carry on as normal without knowing they're pregnant. You are not to blame for this x
@SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur i am so sorry my lovely, so very sorry for what you are going through and your loss. Please take care of yourself, and let others help you, I’m sure nobody you know would have wanted you alone outside the hospital last night at such an awful time. Let them help you out.
Sending you love xx
Sending you love xx
Im so so sorry, and I'm heartbroken you were on your own. As a midwife I can categorically state it wasn't your fault. Drinking how you did would not have caused this. Sadly at times these things happen and nothing anyone does can prevent it. Please know you have all our love on this thread and we are here for you. Sending you an over the Internet hug xxxx
@SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur you have been on my mind all day and yesterday. Wish I could just come and give you a big hug 
I’ve got a few choice words about the hospital (I’m a nurse, I cannot stand hearing about poor care!!) but I will have my rant offline. I’m so sorry they left you outside and I’m sorry you’re in pain. That wasn’t fair or kind
Please be gentle with yourself - there was nothing you could have done and nothing you did to cause this. It is a very sad, hard fact of life that is so painful and so common. I know it’s easier said than done but please try not to point fingers at yourself
I agree with what the others have said - please try and find positives to focus on. I have a horrendous history - my son was a 35 weeker, my daughter was a crash c-section at 30 weeks and I was put to sleep, I then had a mc and our youngest after that was a 33 weeker.
I really struggled after my daughter and after my mc. But I loved being pregnant. I love my babies. Sure, I’d have loved beautiful home births with dolphins and fireworks and pizza and what have you but that wasn’t on the cards for us. My youngest’s birth was really empowering, I even got a shot in the pool thanks to my midwife. I’m a neonatal nurse and I have seen every side of a story and I still would tell people that they should be excited about their pregnancy.
I’ve got a few choice words about the hospital (I’m a nurse, I cannot stand hearing about poor care!!) but I will have my rant offline. I’m so sorry they left you outside and I’m sorry you’re in pain. That wasn’t fair or kind
Please be gentle with yourself - there was nothing you could have done and nothing you did to cause this. It is a very sad, hard fact of life that is so painful and so common. I know it’s easier said than done but please try not to point fingers at yourself
Sending you a big hug too
I agree with what the others have said - please try and find positives to focus on. I have a horrendous history - my son was a 35 weeker, my daughter was a crash c-section at 30 weeks and I was put to sleep, I then had a mc and our youngest after that was a 33 weeker.
I really struggled after my daughter and after my mc. But I loved being pregnant. I love my babies. Sure, I’d have loved beautiful home births with dolphins and fireworks and pizza and what have you but that wasn’t on the cards for us. My youngest’s birth was really empowering, I even got a shot in the pool thanks to my midwife. I’m a neonatal nurse and I have seen every side of a story and I still would tell people that they should be excited about their pregnancy.
Last edited:
@SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur i think im right in saying you're very young and very vulnerable right now. I hope you live with a supportive family or have good friends. Be sure to talk about what happened.
I am so sorry @SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur. Please be assured that nothing you did caused this to happen. I lost a baby at 10 weeks in January and I couldn’t understand why it had happened, but the fact is sometimes these tit things are just out of our control. Please have plenty of rest and look after yourself. We’re all here for you if you need to talk.
I want to send love to all the ladies on this thread, so many stories of loss and hard roads to motherhood, and so many who haven’t started the journey yet but are supporting others. X
This is what women supporting women looks like and it's beautiful.
I'm sending my love to all who have experienced heartache and loss and I urge you not to blame yourself. I've never been pregnant so I can imagine it's easier said than done but know you have support here if you don't feel like you have enough support around you xx
I'm so sorry to hear this. You must feel devastated right now but I really hope that you find the strength to deal with your loss. This year has added emotional strain to life in general so I hope that you have people you can reach out to about this, to help you process it as it must feel extremely overwhelming for you. Sending you so much love.
@SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur so sorry for you
@SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur i just wanted to send more love and hugs. It might not feel like it right now, but you are going to be OK. I hope you are being looked after, and I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you today @SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur xxx
Hey everyone, sorry been quiet on here but thank you for all the love and being so kind xx
No need to apologise! You look after yourself and surround yourself with as much love as possible. You only need to think of yourself right now xx
Take care lovely x
@SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur I'm so sorry for your loss and what you're going through. Please be kind to yourself over the coming days and weeks and please know there's nothing you did or didn't do that made this happen. Sending you much love
Ahhh thanks for thinking of me, I’m good thanks. I can’t lie and say I’m not absolutely terrified! My feelings seem to change on the hour and I find myself staring into thin air such a lot. I’m so happy and excited but then it’s also come with so many other emotions, I’m just totally overwhelmed and I feel like my mind isn’t my own. Iv been having a lot of nausea and going off food, and sleepless nights with worry- but I’m also very realistic with what happened to the lovely @SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur Iv been thinking about her a lot and almost mentally preparing for it to happen to myself. I don’t take it for granted and I know that there’s nothing I can do if it does. I feel abit in a limbo. But I’m very grateful that Iv managed to just get pregnant, I honestly didn't think it would ever happen to me. Xx